is it normal during pregnancy for yout feelings to change toward your partner?

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Karin - posted on 10/03/2012

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Post a reply!i dont even want to look at him ewwwww and the thought of him parenting eww i am terrorized by what seems to be hate sex i imaagine enticeing him capturing and leaving him gagged blinfolded and bound upside down with fireccrackers btween toes and in two certain orfices does the abused have to abuse help i want out

Summer - posted on 01/19/2010

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I was so disgusted by my husband even hostile!!! I did not know what was going on. People would tell me it was just the hormones, but I felt it so extreme that how could it be just hormones. My husband could not get anywhere near me and had to sleep in the extra bedroom. My doc told me I had an extreme case, but that it was normal. As soon as I delivered... about 6 hours later, it all went away, and I loved him just as I had before and that has not changed. Guess it was just all the hormones :)

Tamara - posted on 01/23/2010

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thanx guys thats helped heaps, i guess my hormones are just being crazy little critters atm and messing wih my head. um andrea, i feeel as though i don't feel as strongly toward him as i did, and and barely attracted to him, the thought of sex sickens me and althou i get turned on i can't be touched. it's driving me crazy.

Toni - posted on 01/19/2010

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so normal! and they go back and forth even after baby is born. your body dont know if its coming or going. much less if it likes, loves, or can stand anyone. i would be all happy and my husband would walk through the door and i was mad for no reason. but now my little one is 9 mos and i love him so much and you will too! dont worry.

Leanna - posted on 01/19/2010

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oh yeah this is so normal am 14 weeks.with my second child and my moods with this one are terrible but he understands and just walks away from me now,i hated him with my first pregnancy its all part off your body changeing.some get worse why others mellow if it gets any worse id talk to your partner just so they know how your feeling

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Hanna - posted on 01/19/2010

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It's normal to go a little haywire. During 2nd preg I locked my hubby out of the house untill he came home with a cheeseburger & a packet of salt & vinegar chips! Poor guy. At the time I could have sworn I was the sane one but looking back I was a little out of control. There were days where I couldn't stand the sight of him but 6 months after bub no 2, things are getting back on track. If you are feeling overwhelmed please speak to someone -your doc, midwives, even a chat to a good friend can help. I used to balk when someone would say this to me and think i'm not depressed but you'd be suprised how common it is and how many new mothers battle it out by themselves.

Stacey - posted on 01/19/2010

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I agree with the responders so far. It is hormones. Though consider it this way also. Some find a pregnant woman to be very sexy. So it's possible that your partner is finding you ever more attractive and as such may be coming on to you for that sexual relationship, more than you are used to. It's not a bad thing mind you. Don't be too hard on yourself angel, there is nothing wrong. What is important is that you communicate with your partner about your feelings. Congratulations.

Julie - posted on 01/19/2010

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totally normal you have no much to think about you cant take the thought of someone else wanting or needing something from you

Corrie - posted on 01/19/2010

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Absolutely normal, and most definitely your hormones (they are seriously responsible for sooo much!) I am currently pregnant with baby #7, and while my partner is the best man a woman could find, I am truly blessed- pregnant me would beg to differ. But that too is something that will eventually ease off or change once your hormones adjust following baby's birth. Each of us women are unique & its about finding what works for you & your partner during pregnancy & following birth,as things change. Good Luck x

Angela - posted on 01/19/2010

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my feelings for my hubby never changed. yes he annoyed me more often but then i realized i was very bitchy lol sometimes i just want to cuddle and sometimes i cant even stand the thought of someone touching me. if your partner is understanding enough to realize thats what pregnancy does to you there shouldnt be any problems:]

Melanie - posted on 01/19/2010

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Hell, yea! My poor hubbie! This last pregnancy was my 3rd and I think my mood was worse than ever. I hated being pregnant, so hot and tired. My mood only changed a few weeks after giving birth. Some put it down to hormones, so it may be an issue of just riding it out. However, have a talk to your partner and sort out your roles before you have the baby, cos there will be little time for debating once it's born! Romance may have to take back seat for a while as you become focused on raising your child. It could be a number of years until the two of you get back to 'normal'. Ah, but what is 'normal' once you have kids!

Augusta - posted on 01/19/2010

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Yes Tamara it is very normal..... cause your hormones are different, you tend to be very moody often and most of the time you not yourself, so don't blame yourself too much cause you not doing it on purpose plus soon everything will return back to normal again, let your partner read the preg magazines...he'll get a clearer picture...Good luck!!

Simone - posted on 01/19/2010

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Yes it is normal but not everyone goes through these feelings guess its just like your sex drive while pregnant you either want it all the time or you cant stand the thought of it. lol silly hormones everything will go back to normal soon. just bare with it all

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