Is it normal for my 5 year old daughter to pee her bed?

Amber - posted on 01/06/2010 ( 205 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 5 and still has accidents in her bed at night. I don't know what to do. She doesn't mean to, she just doesn't wake up. HELP!!

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Michelle - posted on 01/07/2010

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Try this...it's easy, free and it might work for you just as it did for us. Put some books or boards or something under the foot of the bed to raise the level just 2-3 inches. Supposedly it will shift the level in the bladder and trigger the feeling of needing to go. They do sleep VERY soundly when they are little- but maybe it will work for you.

Jackie - posted on 01/06/2010

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Oh and do NOT wake her to go. You aren't teaching her anything except that you will wake her when she has to go. She needs to learn to feel it in her sleep herself... not be trained on your timeline because her bladder doesn't follow your timeline.

Jackie - posted on 01/06/2010

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Perfectly normal up to the age of 13!! She is just sleeping too deeply to feel that she needs to pee. Try those bedtime undies/shorts they sell in the diaper section. Don't make big deal out of it and she won't either. You just have to wait it out and pay attention to any triggers. For example my 5 year old if he is overly tired, very stressed or has been away from home too long will wet the bed.

Evie - posted on 01/07/2010

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First of all do not pass your stress about the situation onto your child this will only exacerbate the underlying problem. Your daughter could be going through a number of stressful issues at the moment including going from kinda to reception may be being bullied at kinda, sibling rivalry, this could be a few of a majority of underlying problems causing mental angst for your daughter. However, your daughter is going into a extremely deep sleep and is not waking up when her bladder is sending signals to her brain. I would have her physically checked by your doctor to rule out health issues. I would advise you not to make her feel guilty about her having accidents and help her to get into the routine of voiding before she goes to bed avoid fizzy drinks before bed limit fluid intake at night and organize a wind down time before going to bed so she doesnt collapse exhausted into bed. Unfortunately bed wetting can occur right up until teens. Can I suggest you use stay dry pants at night and use a reward system for every night the pants stay dry. Hope this helps
Cheers
Evie (nurse)

Firebird - posted on 01/06/2010

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A lot of kids will still wet the bed on occasion until they're 10 years old or older. It's perfectly normal. Just put a rubber sheet underneath the regular one.

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Gina - posted on 01/13/2010

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yea same here wit my son hes 6 and he still pees the bed and my youngest is 3 he was doing really good at going pee on the potty but now it seems like he just got lazy and pees hes pants is this normal?

Kristin - posted on 01/13/2010

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One thing that I didn't see mentioned on here (although I wasn't able to read every post) is the link this may have to constipation. My daughters both (9 and 6 years) old deal with constipation and when they are not on regular fiber or MiraLAX they are prone to have accidents at night. My doctor told me this is very common with girls because when you are constipated it pushes on the bladder. Our doctor has put both of my daugthers on MiraLAX every day. This is something that is easy to diagnose if you start monitoring how often she is going.

Barbara - posted on 01/13/2010

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try and talk to her or let her talk to someone she's comfortable with because normally kids that age only wet their bed because they are intimidated/frightened of something or someone. she needs to open up about something bothering her. I talk through experience. Ta

Veronica - posted on 01/13/2010

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It is because their bladders are growing faster than the rest of their body!!!! My son still has bed wetting problems at 11 with girls it is easier just buy pull ups or good nights for the time being it will stop in time

Melanie - posted on 01/13/2010

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Yes, it is normal. Remember she is only 5. If she goes to bed at like 8, don't let her have anything to drink after like 7, a little drink of water before bed is okay but not like a cup of juice or anything, see if that helps, if not you may have to have her wear pullups at night until the accidents stop. My cousin who is 10 now was having accidents until she was like 7 so don't get to upset about it. Hope this helps :)



Melanie Fialkowski

Andrea - posted on 01/13/2010

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Yes it is normal for her to still pee the bed at this age. It means that she is just so sound asleep that she doesn't feel the urge. What I would do is take her to the toilet several times before you go to sleep and after supper restrict her fluid intake as much as possible. Do not get into a war with her but try and get as little as you can down her. What I did with my daughter was no drinks until she went to bed and then only a small glass of milk. I would tell her that she could have as much to drink in the morning as she wanted. Some mornings she wanted lots and others not so much.

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That's interesting. My lad still wears nightime pants at nearly 8 years. He has had problems doing his poohs for most of his years. not as bad as he used to be but it has always been a struggle trying to get him to have a pooh. i stopped making a fuss a little while ago after a series of trips to the docs and now at least he goes up to the toilet and 'has a go' on his own.

LaShonda - posted on 01/13/2010

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It's normal. I have 2 stepchildren that does it. You just have to wake her up two or 3 times a night and not let her drink after a certain hour. You can take her to the doctor and they have meds for it. Hopefully she will grow out of it. It takes years for that process. I mean years!!!!!

Cari - posted on 01/13/2010

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Is your child getting enough sleep? I have seen where a child is not made to go to bed early enough in the evening then has to get up early in the morning to go to daycare, school, etc. they get overtired and so when they do finally sleep they sleep so hard that they don't wake up to go to the bathroom. I'm going to assume you have tried some of the obvious such as limiting the amount they drink between supper and bedtime and also make them go to the bathroom before bed. I've also seen where some kids do just sleep harder and are older before they don't wet at night. Have you ever talked to your daughter's doctor to make sure there isn't something medically wrong. Hope this helps.

Donna - posted on 01/13/2010

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If is girl age 5 or a boy age 6 still pee the bed,and is doing good during the day then they should get a bed wet alarm. It will train her brain to week her up when she has to go at night. It really works. I used it on my son and he was trained in a few days after I got it. Good luck!

Donna - posted on 01/13/2010

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If is girl age 5 or a boy age 6 still pee the bed,and is doing good during the day then they should get a bed wet alarm. It will train her brain to week her up when she has to go at night. It really works. I used it on my son and he was trained in a few days after I got it. Good luck!

Donna - posted on 01/13/2010

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If is girl age 5 or a boy age 6 still pee the bed,and is doing good during the day then they should get a bed wet alarm. It will train her brain to week her up when she has to go at night. It really works. I used it on my son and he was trained in a few days after I got it. Good luck!

Donna - posted on 01/13/2010

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If is girl age 5 or a boy age 6 still pee the bed,and is doing good during the day then they should get a bed wet alarm. It will train her brain to week her up when she has to go at night. It really works. I used it on my son and he was trained in a few days after I got it. Good luck!

Donna - posted on 01/13/2010

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If is girl age 5 or a boy age 6 still pee the bed,and is doing good during the day then they should get a bed wet alarm. It will train her brain to week her up when she has to go at night. It really works. I used it on my son and he was trained in a few days after I got it. Good luck!

Heather - posted on 01/13/2010

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I just want to thank you for posting this and all the responses. I have a 5 year old son who on occasion does too. It's frustrating when he has a sleep over at his grandparents because we always have to have goodnights on hand. I want to break him of this habit but like you said Amber, he doesn't wake up to go or waits until it's too late and will wet his pants in the bathroom at night. I'm glad it's normal! Thank you everyone for easing my mind as well! :)

Mechelle - posted on 01/13/2010

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One of my kiddos was the same way. Of course she doesn't mean to, but she is probably just a very heavy sleeper and doesn't realize what's happening. We tried restricting liquids an hour before bedtime and waking her up during the night to go potty. This helped us have drier mornings and her to have more self confidence.

Ginger - posted on 01/13/2010

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It is normal for the most part, but it can also be a sign of the beginning of kidney disease. I would take her to the doctor and make sure that is not an underlying problem and if it is not, then I would check it off of my list of worries. Don't panic. If it is caught early, it can be fixed.

Ginger - posted on 01/13/2010

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It is normal for the most part, but it can also be a sign of the beginning of kidney disease. I would take her to the doctor and make sure that is not an underlying problem and if it is not, then I would check it off of my list of worries. Don't panic. If it is caught early, it can be fixed.

Heather - posted on 01/13/2010

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My 4yr old just started doing this, never had a problem before, but i save myself cleaning up by not allowing her to drink after a certain time & before I go to bed I get her up & take her to the bathroom myself to get whatever is left, she is partially asleep but she knows what is going on & goes right back to sleep afterwards. I'm not sure if the bed wetting had anything to do with her starting school, & nerves, but it just suddenly started. Hope this helps

Trudi - posted on 01/13/2010

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Yes, typically children may not gain complete control of their bladder until arounf age 7. The bladder is a muscle, and it it's a tricky thing to develop coordination of not only their legs, arms etc., but also the bladder. May I suggest in Walmart a complete mattress cover of a plastic like material that gives you complete protection of the mattress. Also, if you go to a Durable Medical Supply or Home Health Supply agency, purchase a cloth bed chuck, like what are used in hospitals. We nurses call them blue pads. They are large, all cloth and can be placed underneath her at bedtime to help cut down on bedding changes. Then, when she has the accident, all you have to wash hopefully is clothes and a chuck versus a whole bed change out.

Vicky - posted on 01/13/2010

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my son is 5 and we have the same problem. we put pull ups aon him so his bed doesn't get wet, and we stop giving him liquids (unless he's sick) about an hour before bedtime. try waking her up in the middle of the night. i know it'll be a pain, but it'll get her body used to getting up and it might help.

Nancy - posted on 01/13/2010

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Children potty train themselves..., my son was "trained" at two and hid in the corner at seven swearing he wasn't doing anything. Calm assertive is the way to go and yes they will grow out of it!

Ronda - posted on 01/13/2010

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Ohhh I am not alone in this whew! my daughter is 5 and she still wets the bed too. We cut her back on her drinking liquids a hour before bed time and we wake her before we go to bed and usually that works. I pray that it doesnt continue until she is a teen. Thank you for all the helpful advice everyone :)

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Amber, by any chance, does your daughter snore a lot or sound like she's gasping for air sometimes when she sleeps? Or is her breathing really loud at times when she's awake? My son was a chronic bedwetter, and it turns out that his tonsils were so swollen that he had just a small airway open. He sounded like Darth Vader during the day. At night, he would frequently stop breathing (called sleep apnea). When his brain was busy trying to make him breathe, waking him up to make him go to the bathroom was low-priority. At age 7, we had his tonsils taken out, and the bedwetting stopped immediately. Just something for you to consider.

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Amber, by any chance, does your daughter snore a lot or sound like she's gasping for air sometimes when she sleeps? Or is her breathing really loud at times when she's awake? My son was a chronic bedwetter, and it turns out that his tonsils were so swollen that he had just a small airway open. He sounded like Darth Vader during the day. At night, he would frequently stop breathing (called sleep apnea). When his brain was busy trying to make him breathe, waking him up to make him go to the bathroom was low-priority. At age 7, we had his tonsils taken out, and the bedwetting stopped immediately. Just something for you to consider.

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Definately normal. I was told that the bladder grows a little slower than the rest of the body. Good Nites work, and they make them look like underwear now.

Andrea - posted on 01/13/2010

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Some kids are really heavy sleepers. My daughter eventually required an alarm that sensed when she was starting to pee and helped wake her up. They are about $100 but we found it very helpful.

Wendi - posted on 01/13/2010

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Yes, my daughter did the same thing. I would limit liquids about an hour before bed and make sure she went to the bathroom. Even with these measures we still had an occasional accident. I think if it happens every night it's more of a problem than if it's on occasion. I'm also a pediatric chiropractor and noticed when I adjusted her hips regularly she had less accidents.

Tasha - posted on 01/13/2010

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My little brother had an issue with this and we realized he was afraid to get up to go to the toilet in the middle of the night so he'd just stay in and pee. Not only this but also the sound of the toilet flushing in the middle of the night scared him as well ( i guess it sounds a lot louder when the rest of the house is quiet.) Good luck :)

Mary Jean - posted on 01/13/2010

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As a mother of three and pediatric nurse, I can tell you this is normal. Use pull-ups, don't make her feel bad about it or even mention it too much. She will eventually grow out of it. Or when she's 6 or 7 you can try the bed alarm approach to help her wake up and go.

Geeta - posted on 01/13/2010

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sometimes this happens also due to the trauma child has gone through while delivery or any sort of accidents from the time she was born till now that also could be if she got scared of something. what I mean by delivery is that was she delivered normal if so thats ok but incase if it was forceps, c-section, vacum or any other way, also if you were in long labour.



these are some of the things which sometimes can affect due to fascial restrictions due to trauma of this kind

Julie - posted on 01/13/2010

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yes it's normal. My daughter was peeing at night and we ended up buying Goodnights nappies (diapers). We used to rebath her, strip the bed and clothing off and put clean ones on and i even put a plastic sheet on the bed to stop pee stains coming onto the bed but once we bought the Goodnights, she didn't like the feeling of being wet and although it took a little while, she stopped wetting the bed at night. good luck and hope it all goes well.

Ann - posted on 01/13/2010

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I have 10 year old son who still wet his bed especially when the night is cold...^_^ I am more worried than you but I have to get used to it and hope that my son will get over it LOL

Lucinda - posted on 01/13/2010

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Hi there! There are several ways to handle this. One can restrict the amount of fluids she takes in brfore bedtime,or even better,no fluids after seven in the evening.Plastic sheets can help too.If it still stays a problem,consider taking her to a urologist,to check that her bladder and kidneys work correctly,and that there is nothing physically wrong.After that,if it still persist,one must maybe see if something like being bullied,or having problems with siblings could be the cause! Good luck!

Lori - posted on 01/13/2010

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Yes, it's perfectly normal. My 15 year old had problems well into grade school. We discovered that she had sleep apnea and consequently had irregular sleep patterns... when she did sleep, it was so hard she wasn't ABLE to wake herself up. She eventually grew out of it, but limiting what she was allowed to drink after 7 helped tremendously.

Yolanda - posted on 01/13/2010

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Don't worry about it and don't make a scene about it. My son did it untill he was around the age of 10 years. We took him to the doctor and for a second opinion and both of them told us that my son was scared of the darkness. They prescribed us tablets that he can drink before he went to bed. After while the pee in the bed stopped. Ok he is still scared of the dark, but luckily there isn't the bedding that I have to change about 3 times a weke.

Jeannie - posted on 01/13/2010

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It is normal, but keep an eye on it, especially if she starts to get UTIs. I had that problem with my daughter and persued it further with her doctor who ran a bunch of test and found out that she has urinary reflux as well as the wall of her kidneys are thick enough. She is on an antibiotic daily, wears a watch to remind her to use the bathroom every two hours, and has to carry a water bottle with her where ever she goes.

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Sometimes childrens bodies grow faster than thier bladders & they don't recognize the "signals" during heavy sleep until it is too late & they've had the 'pee-pee' dream. Try not allowing a drink within the last hour of bedtime & to make sure she goes potty whether she thinks she needs to or not. My friend's daughter did this until she was 12 & all doctor's tests led to the same conclusion...her body grew faster than her bladder. buy a waterproof matress pad & the 'overnights' sleep diapers.

Dawn - posted on 01/13/2010

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It can be a normal thing for her try to cut any liquides after 6 and have her go to the bathroom right before bed maybe a pull up at bed time they have new ones for bigger kids if yuou are stricked with theses rules and it doesnt get better call the pediatrition

Dawn - posted on 01/13/2010

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It can be a normal thing for her try to cut any liquides after 6 and have her go to the bathroom right before bed maybe a pull up at bed time they have new ones for bigger kids if yuou are stricked with theses rules and it doesnt get better call the pediatrition

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OK, my son is 8 this may and he still wears night pants. You are not alone and thankfully neither am I. Apparently it is more normal than you realise.

Melissa - posted on 01/13/2010

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My eldest daughter didn't stop wetting the bed til last year and she is now 12, and my youngest girl was 5 when she stopped also about a year ago. I just found through winter putting them night pants helped with the washing and if they went to friends places to stay.

Deena - posted on 01/13/2010

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if it is a chronic problem, think of trying homeopathic medicines. visit the website--

www.homeopathy-dubai.com

Georgina - posted on 01/13/2010

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2 of my sons had problem 4 yrs tried lots of different things,but not really helped.

we were told dont make a big deal of it and just change bed when needed, some nights i was changing it 2 or 3 times. not good and shattering but stopped in end

1 was about 11 tho when eventually stopped

Brandy - posted on 01/12/2010

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My son was wetting the bed at 5 years old...I took him to his pediatrician. He told me that wetting the bed is hereditary and that if a parent wet the bed at a late age then usually their children will too. He also told me not to give my son anything to drink, other than a sip of water, after 6 in the evening, and that they will outgrow it. That some kids have this problem till they are ten or twelve. I tried really hard to make it not embarrassing for my son. The Dr. said if you made them feel bad about themselves it could prolong the problem. Hope all that helped ya some. God Bless:)

Peggy - posted on 01/12/2010

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My oldest boy wet the bed til he was about 9, 10 years old. He just didn't wake up to go. He is 18 now and has totally outgrown it. As nerve racking as it is, I say give it time. Until she out grows it, just take precautions with extra padding.

Cristi - posted on 01/12/2010

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My daughter did this till she was 11. Some kids just DO! I got her some of those Goodnights Undergarments and they made her feel more confident and less self- conscious. We restricted her caffeinated liquids after 5 pm and she eventually grew out of it. Have patience and it will stop. Try to make her feel like she isn't doing anything wrong. Self-confidence and mind control goes a long way for her.

Cindy - posted on 01/12/2010

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I do not know that it is or isn' normal however, do not yell at her it will only make things worse. I was 6 almost 7 when I stopped wetting the bed after my parents split up. My dad was very patient with me and got me up in the night and I still had accidents. My daughter is 6 now and does not wake up I have to get up often setting the alarm to avoid accidents....my other daughter never had a problem. Best of luck to you but stay patient with her everyone sleeps different she maybe rather sound and therefore does not realize the urge to go. Children have to grow up so fast as it is be patient it will come in time :)

Cindy - posted on 01/12/2010

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I do not know that it is or isn' normal however, do not yell at her it will only make things worse. I was 6 almost 7 when I stopped wetting the bed after my parents split up. My dad was very patient with me and got me up in the night and I still had accidents. My daughter is 6 now and does not wake up I have to get up often setting the alarm to avoid accidents....my other daughter never had a problem. Best of luck to you but stay patient with her everyone sleeps different she maybe rather sound and therefore does not realize the urge to go. Children have to grow up so fast as it is be patient it will come in time :)

Jean - posted on 01/12/2010

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My daughter wet the bed EVERY NIGHT for over 2 years after being completely toilet trained with no accidents in the day time. When she was 5, I talked with my pediatrician about the issue.



Following the recommendation of my pediatrician, I got an alarm for mychild that attached to her undies at night. It buzzed and beeped loud enough to wake her from her very deep sleep at the very slightest wetting. I was told that these alarms usually work after about 6-8 weeks of consistent use, but it took over 6 months using as directed (ie re-start the "training" after each accident) to get confident enough to skip the waterproof mattress pad.



But the great news -- it really did work! My daughter still gets up every night to use the toilet, but she wakes up on her own to go. We've had no night time accidents, and my daughter was thrilled to be able to stop sleeping in pull ups!



We used the Malem Bedwetting Alarm with vibration and tone. It's available on Amazon. I highly recommend it! (I wish such a thing had been available when I was a kid!)

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