Is it ok to have a baby shower for your second kid?

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Allison - posted on 07/02/2009

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I never had a shower for my first and my boys are 13 months apart so I already had everything , so my mom and My sister in law through me a dinner and diapers shower, where people could either bring a frozen dinner than my husband and I could just heat up after we had our son or a package of diapers because we all know how fast babies go through diapers that was really all we needed. believe me after our son was born those dinners came in quite handy.

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Andrea - posted on 07/04/2009

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Thanks for all your comments. My daughter will be 3 in October and I'm due in January. I gave away all of her baby clothes, her car seat...... pretty much everything except for her crib and stroller. My side of the family thinks that it's inappropriate to have a baby shower for your second child. My husbands side of the family doesn't have a problem with it, and some of my friends are saying that I should have one. I guess it just depends on if anyone wants to throw me one. On top of everything, we decided that we're not going to find out the sex of the baby. We want it to be a surprise!

Sheena - posted on 07/02/2009

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I had one, but my two children are 11years apart in age. And opposite sexes. I had nothing left from my first. My cousin has a 3yr old and a newborn (yesterday). She still had everything she needed, just all boy clothes and just had a girl the 2nd time. My family threw her a "sprinkle" instead of a "shower." Just so she could get girly stuff. Each child should be recognized. Even if you have a welcoming party after their arrival.

Pb - posted on 07/02/2009

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I don't think it matters! Someone(relative) is always going to offer or surprise you with a second babyshower. Baby carriers, swings, cribs, toys all change from year to year. Sometimes they are even recalled, so I think a second shower is appropriate to keep the baby safe.

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Quoting Kate:

I don't think you should EXPECT a shower for your second (or subsequent) babies, but if someone wants to throw you one, that's fine. I had about three for my first baby but none for my second. Some friends/families just love to throw showers all the time and some don't. But if people WANT to there's nothing wrong with it.



I agree with Kate completely! Don't count on having one, but if you have people that are wanting to throw one for you, go fot it! I had a HUGE one for my first child (he was the first grandchild on both sides of the family), and when I was pregnant with my second, the girls at work threw one for me. I say, if someone's offering to give you free stuff for your baby, whether it's your first or your fifth, take it!

Heather - posted on 07/02/2009

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As long as you're not the one planning/hosting, there's no law or rule that says you can't. A lot of moms get rid of their baby stuff or don't have stuff for the opposite sex. Baby stuff is expensive and it's really nice of friends and family willing to help out. Whoever is against it need not come.

Natasha - posted on 07/02/2009

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Quoting Andrea:

Is it ok to have a baby shower for your second kid?




of course it is, its still another one of your babies

Pamela - posted on 07/02/2009

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I think it is ok these days, it didn't used to be. Especially since back in the day kids were born so close together that you still had all your old stuff, but now there are years between (mine were 8 1/2 years apart) and things do not last as long as they used to. I think it is perfectly acceptable and is becoming more of the norm.

Piper - posted on 07/02/2009

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I did...and most of my friends that have had a second have as well. I know that I didn't keep everything I had from one to the next...and I am sure that a lot of people are the same.

Naya - posted on 07/02/2009

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Yes and I had showers for both my kids. I have run into some people that say all you need is one shower. But I beleive that with each shower you are celebrating the gift of the life you have created. Each life is different as a human being. The pregnancy is sometimes even different. Why is it fair that you one celebrate one and not all? It not because we are greedy and want people to buy things. It's a welcoming tradition that should be passed from generation to generation. It's an act of love :)

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i think it's okay especially if your family is on board with the idea. I am for my second one which is on the way. I met my hubby when my daughter was 7 months old. I wasn't planning on having a shower for my 2nd kid but his side of the family and my co-workers are demanding that I have one and I don't mind. They are fun! =o)

Camille - posted on 07/02/2009

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Not only that but you don't tend to save everything that you had with your first. Car seats expire and there are a lot of things you cannot buy second hand. I know everyone I know who has had more than 1 child has had a baby shower for each consecutive baby.

Kate - posted on 07/02/2009

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I don't think you should EXPECT a shower for your second (or subsequent) babies, but if someone wants to throw you one, that's fine. I had about three for my first baby but none for my second. Some friends/families just love to throw showers all the time and some don't. But if people WANT to there's nothing wrong with it.

Justine - posted on 07/02/2009

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Of course, i think every new babie deserves to have some new things:) i have 2 kids and had one for each of them too.

Julia - posted on 07/02/2009

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It's perfectly fine! Anyone expecting a baby deserves a little shower to brighten up their day.

Cynthia - posted on 07/02/2009

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YES!!! It is okay. It is a special time and it should be celebrated and what a good way to celebrate with family and friends! You should definately have a baby shower, even with the second child. Enjoy!

Raina - posted on 07/02/2009

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I had a baby shower for each of my kids ( i have 3) . Both my husband and i have huge, supporting families that LOVE babies and love to help out. Some people have a second baby shower when they are having a baby of the opposite sex from the first or if there is a large gap in between the ages. But I think a second shower is ok.

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