is it ok to have my 17 month old daughter sleeping over relatives houses a couple times a month?

Tisha - posted on 06/02/2010

My children always stayed a few times a month with their granparents (I don't have any other relatives for them to stay with). As long as she isn't having anxiety I would say go for it!

Dawn - posted on 06/02/2010

my daughter is 12 months and i love for her to stay over with her grandparents - they would love that too but since she's still breastfed it isn't an option until we stop.

Melany - posted on 06/02/2010

All of my children have stayed with my in-laws (mother-in-law or sister-in-law) at least once before they were 1. I think you probably need a little bit of time being a single mom. If she seems to be doing well and not confused as to where she is going next, then I don't see a problem.

Laura - posted on 06/02/2010

I think it is great for kid to stay with their relatives, my daughter who is 2.5 yrs stayed for thé first Time with her grandmother for a week when she was 6mths old. She has a very close relationship with her grandmother and staying away from us has not made her insecure or confused, quite thé opposite.

Laura - posted on 06/02/2010

Thanks everyone!!

Nicole - posted on 06/02/2010

I think it's what you make of it. If you are uncomfortable with it then you should not. Maybe they could sleep at her house so that she always knows where her bed is and since you said relatives.



I never did it with my children my choice. My oldest just did it for the first time and she is 7 1/2 (at my mom's house). It was her choice. My five year old said he is not ready. I think you need to look at the situation and follow your gut. Good Luck.

Karen - posted on 06/02/2010

if you're comfortable with it and your daughter isn't having problems, then go for it! i started sleepovers with my son going to grandma's when he was four months old and he's never had a problem. lots of people will tell you no, but it's totally up to you! like i said before, if your daughter isn't minding it, then enjoy your time...everyone needs some "mommy time" now and then!

Jessi - posted on 06/02/2010

it may OR it may not. spending nights with her dad may help build her relationship with him if she spends most of her time with you. my son is 15mos & has only spent the night with a friend of mine once & that was b/c my parents were gone & i had to work very early on a sunday. i would say if it's not on a weekly basis (except with her dad) she wont be confused.

Jen - posted on 06/02/2010

a couple of time in a month is maybe abit too much for a toddler but if she well loved n is very close with evryone who cares for her she mite just see it as she special n has few homes it means more love for her

Maggie - posted on 06/02/2010

My son is 8 months old and he stays at his grandma's about once a month. I believe it actually gives them a sense of security and independence. It lets them know that mommy will return for them. It also gives you some time for yourself which actually can make you a better mom.

Sapphire - posted on 06/02/2010

Are you bouncing your daugher in and out of several different relative's homes, or one specific and stable relative? I personally don't see a problem with having your daughter spend time with relatives and a sleep-over on occassion. Are you making a regular habit though? A weekly basis-or just every now and then. I understand 100% that moms need a night to themselves, it's perfectly understandable. My son has sleepovers at my parents frequently, as they are also the secondary caretakers of my nephews. But if I were you, I would use one regular, consistent relative so that your daughter does not get confused. Over time, she will pick up on the instability of "Where am I sleeping next?"

Laura - posted on 06/02/2010

I am a single mom and my relatives will usually take my daughter overnight if i need a babysitter and she sometimes will stay at her dads overnight ... i'm just curious if all this sleeping out might confuse her or make her not feel stable?