Is it ok to have your baby sleep in bed with you?

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Tamara - posted on 07/19/2009

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Done safely, like any other activity with your child, it is a wonderful thing that brings close bonding between parent and child. Cosleeping in multiple forms is common the world over. I've coslept with my daughter for 21 months now. We're working on transitioning her from bedsharing to roomsharing and than into her own room. Neither my husband nor I has ever rolled over on her. She has not been injured or "spoiled" or some other calamitous event that you may thing occurs with this practice.

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* Infants should sleep on their backs on firm, clean surfaces, in the absence of smoke, under light, comfortable blanketing, and their heads should never be covered.
* The bed should not have any stuffed animals or pillows around the infant and an infant should never be placed to sleep on top of a pillow.
* Infants should never sleep on couches or sofas, with or without adults, because they can slip down into the crevice or get wedged against the back of a couch. They also should not sleep on beanbags or waterbeds.
* Avoid crevices between mattress and wall or mattress and side rail. Avoid side rails, headboards and footboards that have slats that could entrap your baby's head.
* Infants 1 year old or younger should not sleep with other children.
* Parents on sedatives, medications, drugs or who have consumed alcohol or those who are excessively unable to arouse because of sleep disorders should not co-sleep on the same surface with the infant. This is also true if your partner has or takes no responsibility for the baby.
* Mothers with excessively long hair should tie it up to prevent infant entanglement around the infant's neck.
* Extremely obese persons, who may not feel where exactly or how close their infant is, may wish to have the infant sleep alongside but on a different surface.
* Avoid putting your bed near curtains or blinds that have dangling strings that could strangle your baby.

Kayla - posted on 07/19/2009

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i didnt do this either. the child will get used to sleeping with you and you will have to brake that habit later on down the road.. it is also very hard to brake the older they get. my nephew is 8 and still has some trouble with it. but my daughter slept in a bassinet then in her crib and my husband and i never have to wonder if we will roll on her or other worries like that.

Dijana - posted on 10/09/2012

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Yes! I was wrong when I listened to everybody recommending not to cosleep. For 9 months neither my daughter nor I had a decent sleep, because she wanted to be closer to me. Only when I took her to bed with me she started sleeping better and so did I. Cosleeping worked for us and it is not selfish. Selfish is if you put your baby in the crib and she/he cries for you and I wish I did it from the very beginning.

Regardless what I or everybody says, DO WHAT WORKS FOR BOTH OF YOU, because every baby is different.

Katie - posted on 07/23/2009

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I always liked what Dr. Sears had to say about that I use his website for a lot of things. Check it out at Askdrsears.com...and then decide for yourself.... every mom is different.

Sally - posted on 10/09/2012

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If you or any one else in the bed have consumed consciousness altering substances, no. If there will be other small children in the bed, maybe. The modern western bed can be a falling and smothering hazard, but those are both easy to fix.

If you do it safely, snuggled up to mom is the way babies were biologically designed to sleep. When used to facilitate nursing, bed sharing can lower your SIDS risk 50%. (There's a reason it was originally called crib death and most of the preventive measures are actually easier if baby is in bed with mom.) It also means you don't have to wake up to feed your baby and your baby doesn't need to cry to get your attention. That means more sleep and less stress for both of you.

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Maria - posted on 10/13/2012

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I had a co-sleeper and let my babies sleep in bed with me. The co-sleeper never really worked. Once the baby fell asleep in bed with me or while nursing, as soon as I moved them they would wake. The only time the co-sleep worked was when I was supplementing my new baby with pumped breast milk because he couldn't latch. As soon as he started latching and fell asleep breast feeding he wanted to be near the comfort and warmth of his mommy. That is where babies belong. Don't drink alcohol while co-sleeping.

Deborah - posted on 10/09/2012

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NO! How many sufficated babies do you need to hear about on the news? Put the baby in the crib/craddle! Too may adults roll over onto their child and kill them every year....DO NOT SLEEP WITH AN INFANT! Don't be that selfish!

Eve - posted on 10/09/2012

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Amanda more babies die from cot death/SIDs than when people follow the safe cosleeping guidelines. The only deaths I'm aware of when babies have been sleeping in bed with the parents/caregivers has been when they HAVEN'T observed those rules.

Eve - posted on 10/09/2012

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As long as you observe safe cosleeping guidelines then it's perfectly fine. My son has either slept in a sidecar or in bed with us and has been completely in bed with us since before he turned 1, he's independent but loves night time cuddles and sleeps much better in with us and will still happily nap in a cot or in a sling on my back whenever he needs to during the day.

Erica - posted on 10/05/2012

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i co slept with my daughter till 6 months we had the basinette next to our bed i breastfed also i had no pillows on bed and a thin sheet from my waist down i am a light sleeper and wake up at a drop of a dime i am a non smoker and non drinker thats when it is a problem when the women smoke and drink and roll on baby shes 18 months now and the first day we put her in the crib at 6 months she slept thru the night i will do it again with my next to

Amber - posted on 08/11/2009

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I let our baby sleep with us, but by month 3 I was over it, but my husband didn't want to put him in his own crib yet.... 6 months later I finally had to put my foot down. It was really hard on Jack and it took him a while to get used to sleeping by himself. Not to mention he was use to eating whenever he wanted because while co-sleeping I would breastfeed him in my sleep. So that added another issue to him sleeping in his own crib. Don't get me wrong, I loved having Jack sleep with us especially in the begining, but in the long run it was not a good move.

Amanda - posted on 08/08/2009

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I don't think it is safe for you to let babies sleep in bed with you. I'm always worried something would happen like the horror stories.

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I think it's ok providing you don't do it under the influence or you are a smoker. If you are either of the above, don't do it because you will sleep more deeply and this could be dangerous.

Trina - posted on 08/08/2009

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Good article to read:

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/T10220...



I have seven children and have coslept with them all. I've never had much trouble getting them out of my bed. The longest I've had one insistent on sleeping with me was two years. And he usually started the night in his own bed after 18 mos. My husband and I do not move around much in our sleep and I am a light sleeper and dh is extremely sensitive to touch in his sleep so we've never worried about smothering the babies.



It is not for everyone, but it is safe.

Lyndal - posted on 08/08/2009

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My little girl is half West African, I am Australian, and we live in the traditional family environment. Here parents sleep with their children and as they grow older the children all sleep together. It makes for close families and in a place where extended families all live together, and when it's hot we all sleep outside, where you sleep and next to who is never an issue. As for rolling over on your baby I think to be too concerned about it, and therefore not do it, is a sad thing for your child to miss out on the affection and warmth given by a parent. A mother has instincts about her child and this means that she may not wake to a loud truck going past but will awake to her own childs cries and she knows one childs cries from another. (It's been scientifically proven! :) I agree with all the mothers who have said 'do what feels right for you' but don't over analyse the western perspective and the way motherhood can become such a precise, hyper-whatever occupation. Just relax and enjoy your child and give them all the warmth and love you have.

Annick - posted on 08/08/2009

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Hi Samantha its ok to sleep with your baby but the problem comes when they are older and you cant get them out your bed its not easy then. The idea of cuddling your baby next to you is great and when its winter you dont feel like getting out of bed to get to baby. I would say keep baby out of your bed for future heartache. Take care

Patty - posted on 08/08/2009

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it might seem like a good idea now but, he/she might get used to you being there all the time and it will be alot harder to get them to sleep on their own again.

i did it when ever we would travel, or at home for my peace of mind, i knew that he was always safe with me, well, he is now 4 soon to be 5 and refuses to go to bed on his own.

(i would probably have to tie him to the bed to get him to stay there)

try the basinet or crib in the same room for just a few nights.

oh by the way, i my husband and i haven't been in the same bed together since my son was 6 months old!!!

Renae - posted on 08/08/2009

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Please do not do this! I have a friend who's baby was rolled over on and suffocated and a friend who's baby died of SIDS due to naping on an over soft comforter on moms bed..... its just not safe.

Helen - posted on 08/08/2009

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This post is in response to those who deride the fact of infant death do to suffocation in a co-sleeping environment. My foster mother works for the Mo stat dept. that keeps track of all child deaths. She has seen the infant mortality rate climb ever since the craze for co-sleeping started. No it won't always happen, but don't you dare be sarcastic about the fact that it does!

Jenny - posted on 08/08/2009

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oh and in case your thinking and what about sex just do it everywhere else in the house instead!

Jenny - posted on 08/08/2009

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p.s i agree with the post above mine as i have kicked my partner out of the bed and have a king size bed so plently of room for both of us

Jenny - posted on 08/08/2009

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yes it is and im currently doing so with my baby.The latest reserch in uk shows actually its very safe and is promoted by midwives/health visitors you just need to follow a few guidelines such as must not be drunk or high,no pillows for baby and a light duvet or blanket etc.

Brittany - posted on 08/07/2009

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I let my 3 month old sleep with me. I have no problem with it, however I am a very light sleeper and I do not roll in my sleep. I am always aware of her next to me. Although our bed is king size so there is adequate room for her on the bed. It's really what you feel is the best decision for you

Christie - posted on 08/07/2009

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We made the mistake of having our son sleep with us. He has been in our bed for 14 months now. We finally broke down and decided to put him in his own bed because it's just not a fun experience sleeping with our kid--getting kicked, slapped, his tossing and turning, etc--not a very restful experience. We knew from past experiences that he was going to cry, scream, and throw up because that's what he did before, but we decided we were gonna make him stay no matter what--of course cleaning him up as we went. After 3 hours of crying, screaming, throwing up once he finally fell asleep. The next night he cried 20 minutes and went to sleep, the next it took 5 minutes of whining, and the next no tears at all. If we'd known it'd be this easy we would've done it sooner. Best advice is to never put them in your bed to begin with. Our next baby will be that way for sure. Also, don't get trapped into holding the baby's hand or standing next to the bed to comfort him because he will expect you to stay. You just have to put them down and go.

Katie - posted on 08/07/2009

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I agree that a baby smoothering and dying is never a laughing matter. It is very sad and sick that someone would be humored. I love having my kiddo in bed with me. He slept in his crib or swing in our room until he was 9 months or so. I didn't feel comfortable putting him in our bed until he got a little older and could turn over and crawl. I think it's fine as long as you are careful. I feel safer when he is right next to me. He is 16 months old now and I love when he wakes up and sleeps in our bed.

Sarah - posted on 08/07/2009

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Lisa, I find it very pathetic that you have no statistics to back up what you say. I KNOW from personal experience that it can and does happen. I am sharing this experience with the other people here. Even if it is a small risk, it IS a risk. It is awefully sad and cruel that you would laugh at the misfortune that this lady experienced. For the rest of her life, she will know that her baby DIED because she chose to bedshare. Her baby is DEAD. If you had any heart in your body, you would choose to take that information, process it, and realize that perhaps that the sorrow she and her family will experience for the rest of their lives may have been prevented by making the choice to not bedshare.



Having said that, I am a huge fan of cosleeping, having the baby in the same room with the parents, preferably in a bassinet at the bedside. I am against bedsharing, sleeping in the same bed with the infant. You state that you can "safely" bedshare - well that's a matter of opinion and not fact. You're not supposed to bedshare if you are overweight, a smoker, under the influence of medications or drugs or alcohol, or extremely tired. What new mom doesn't struggle with her post-baby weight, isn't tired from lack of sleep, or perhaps even on medications to treat post - delivery or perhaps c-section pain.



I highly suggest that before you choose to bedshare, you speak with your physician or health care provider, do the research (from a reliable source) and find out the pros and cons, risks and benefits of co-sleeping, bedsharing, and separate sleeping. Once you have all that information, make and informed decision you feel is safest for your family. Children are a precious gift and cannot be replaced once lost.

Kamilla - posted on 08/07/2009

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I'm a light sleeper so I never worry about suffocating my son. He sleeps in his crib next to my bed & if he wakes up crying I'll pull him into bed with me for an hour or till he falls back to sleep. I love sleeping next to him, it's the only cuddle time I get bc when he's awake he's constantly going! I say if you feel ok about it, then it's fine.

Ashley - posted on 08/07/2009

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I have 2 boys, my oldest is a little over 3, and my youngest is 5 1/2 months. My oldest I let sleep w/ me and I regret it! He will NOT go to sleep without me. He falls asleep in my bed and I go lay him down in his bed, and he wakes up in the middle of the night, and runs to my room! Now my 5 month old, I put him to sleep in his crib, but something when I'm exhausted I fall asleep w/ him on accident. I'm trying really hard to break my oldest of sleeping with me, and I don't even want to start my youngest with it! It's a hard chain to break!

Leila - posted on 08/07/2009

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I'm all about co-sleeper cribs. I have four kids, two boys and two girls. Both the boys slept in bed with us because I was nursing them and it was hard to get up and take them out of their crib at night, nurse them and then put them back, especially with my type of baby who wants to nurse all night and are very heavy.

Both of my boys had a very difficult time moving to their own bed when they got older and it was a real struggle for them.

With both our girls though, we used a co-sleeper crib and I still was able to nurse them and sleep by them, but they very much had their own bed. As they got older and were weaned I just put the side on their bed and moved it further and further away. It was very easy getting my daughter to move to another room after that and we're hoping for the same with baby. It looks promising.

Tiffany - posted on 08/07/2009

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I use to think it was okay but not anymore, not for us anyways. My 4 year old daughter shared our bed with us & everything was fine, we all loved it. Then came along our son whom is now 5 months old. I so wanted him to sleep with me because it is a natural thing and very comforting but after the first few months between our bed & his he did just that. Ended up between our bed & his. His pack n play bassinet is parked beside our bed and I had put a stiff pillow in between both to make sure he wouldn't go anywhere if he rolled overl(very bad judgement on my part). I woke up to a muffled cry & in a panic found him wedged between my mattress & the pillow & his bed. If I wasn't such a light sleeper I would have never heard him & he could have suffocated. Thank God that didn't happen as I would have never forgiven myself. Now I always put him in his own bed. I am not against cosleeping at all but if you are going to do it make sure it is done safely.

Christina - posted on 08/07/2009

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This is a sore subject with our family, but to help you understand better why its NEVER ok to let a baby sleep in bed with you...I will explain what happen to my brother.



Four years ago my brother and his girlfriend had a baby boy Steven. To make a long and very painful story short....he and his girlfriend often slept with the baby in their bed until one night my brother rolled over on the baby and yes as you can guess the baby passed on he was 52 days old when we had to lay the baby to rest. Even more painful is the permanent and constant visual reminder burnt in their minds of the damage that was done to the baby while they slept. You can't imagine and I can't even try to explain to you the sight, the emotions and the guilt that was felt when my brother and girlfriend woke up the next morning. My nephew would of been 4yrs old July 31, 2009. It is NEVER a good idea to sleep with a baby!!!!!

Linda - posted on 08/07/2009

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No. It may be the easier thing to do now but later when you want them to sleep in their own bed you will have a very hard time. Not to mention that you are probably not getting the best sleep that you need when the little one is in bed with you. They need to learn to soothe themselves to sleep. It takes time but they do get there. Just be persistant and on a schedule.

Cassie - posted on 08/07/2009

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My son has been sleeping in bed with me since he was first born and he is now 14 months. I dont have no risks of rolling over him or anything. But its ur decision cause it dont work out for everyone.

Ana - posted on 08/05/2009

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Hi I dont think its a good idea to let your baby sleep with you.I had a hard time getting my dauter to sleep in her own room.She slept with us in till she was 4 and I had a hard time putting her in her bed so I would not let the baby sleep with you.

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Sleeping with my children seems like the most natural thing in the world. My eldest daughter is 5 she sleeps on a camp bed next to ours, thats a recent thing as she was having sleep problems and its much better now, my 3 yr old has his own room but often comes into our bed for a short while in the night till we take him back, my 17month old has always slept in our bed, I love it and will miss him when he moves to his own bed soon. I would never have considered co sleeping but my health visitor recommended it. she said if all precautions are followed it is safer than leavinv a baby in their own room, she said babies can forget to breath and this can cause cot death, but in bed with you there is stimulation all the time and thats not likely to happen. Of course I do it safely, and its scary the first few weeks. Its an individual choice. To me they are tiny for such a small time, and its lovely to be close to them

Minnie - posted on 08/05/2009

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Posted by Sarah Klauzer



"I had a baby on our floor that died because he was smothered by his mother's breast."



Every bit of me wants to laugh out loud, but since the subject of your post is a somber one, I just want to say- there has not been a single documented case of an infant dying as a result of a SAFE cosleeping situation.



Smothered by his mother's breast indeed....those dangerous boobies! They're killers, you know!!



I think it was in a 1986 Bond film where a guy was crushed to death between a woman's breasts.

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Sleeping with my children seems like the most natural thing in the world. My eldest daughter is 5 she sleeps on a camp bed next to ours, thats a recent thing as she was having sleep problems and its much better now, my 3 yr old has his own room but often comes into our bed for a short while in the night till we take him back, my 17month old has always slept in our bed, I love it and will miss him when he moves to his own bed soon. I would never have considered co sleeping but my health visitor recommended it. she said if all precautions are followed it is safer than leavinv a baby in their own room, she said babies can forget to breath and this can cause cot death, but in bed with you there is stimulation all the time and thats not likely to happen. Of course I do it safely, and its scary the first few weeks. Its an individual choice. To me they are tiny for such a small time, and its lovely to be close to them

Sarah - posted on 08/03/2009

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I'm a pediatric nurse, and I can say from experience that no, it is not safe. I had a baby on our floor that died because he was smothered by his mother's breast. Please rethink this option and get a cosleeper or bassinet instead. No one ever thinks it will happen to them.

Jessica - posted on 08/03/2009

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My husband and I have co-slept with our daughter since she was born she will be 2 in November and It has maid night time feeding easier and i was able to get a good night sleep. It depends on you and what you are comfortable with.

Debbie - posted on 08/03/2009

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co sleepers work great! Its very hard to sleep well for fear of rolling on them. Also its very hard to get them to sleep in their own bed when they are older so i wouldn't recommend it but some children sleep longer and better when in your bed so i guess its up to the situation.

Amanda - posted on 08/03/2009

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our 3 1/2 month old has slept with us from the beginning because he didn't like his bassinet. he sleeps through the night most nights and is a very good baby. it's not for everyone but i believe that it has brought us closer together and we have such a great bond. I nurse to it's an added plus when he's hungry. i recommend going to www.askdrsears.com and read up on co-sleeping. it makes a lot of sense after reading it.

Karen - posted on 08/03/2009

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we av dun with all three of our girls. wen i became a mum for the first time i started to sleep lighter anyway and would know where the baby was all the time. ive used pillows to make a little nest for her. the only problem we had was that one of the girls stayed in our bed for nearly two years !! till we set up her little bed in our bedroom. dont sweat it.x

Tracy - posted on 08/03/2009

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Yes. We let our daughter sleep with us. We got this co-sleeper kind of thing that we could put between us on the bed, and it has hard edges around it, so we couldn't roll onto her, and it would keep her in it. Although, once she started to get big for it, she would inch her way out of it gradually, which is when we decided to move her to her bassinette.

Jennifer - posted on 08/03/2009

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my son who is 9 now slept with me till he was 6 months and i never had a problem putting him in his crib at nap time or at 6 months when he had finally stopped with his colic!! my daughter is 3 months and she has also slept with us. when i brought her home from the hospital she refused to sleep in her bassinet. the only place she would sleep is her swing, well a 1000 batteries later we got a boppy ( a half moon) shaped pillow and she loves is. we have a huge king sized bed so i sleep on one side and he sleeps on the other and she is in her own little boppy world in the middle. if we did not have this big bed with all the room i would not have done it, and as for eventually braking her of sleeping with us - hopefully its as easy as my son lol. but good luck and only do what you feel is right

Sarah - posted on 08/02/2009

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I wouldn't for a few reasons one cos its dangerous for the baby nd you dont get a proper nites sleep cos ur on edge all nite. Plus its very hard wen they get older to get them into there own cot or bed and u need your own space wen u have been with them all day you need some adult time. Its so temptin at times i have been tempted so many times but i'm so glad i didn;t my daughter slept thro from 3mths and shes 4yrs now an sleeps 7-7 in her own bed. Good luck hunxxx

Llewena - posted on 08/02/2009

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My daughter was born 3 months early. She came home 4 weeks preterm date. She was just 2kgs. I wanted her to feel as close to being in the womb as possible so each night I lay her on my chest. She slept there for the first few months. If she wasn't sleeping there I stressed because she would not sleep in the cradle on her back, only on her stomach, no matter how sleepy she was she would wake up if put on her back. It made night feeds easier too having her with me. I did not worry about rolling on her.



She is now 15 months or 12 months corrected age. She sleeps with us on and off. My husband sometimes sleeps in our back room on the spare bed with her during the week.



Our bedtime routine works well - story, lullaby's, lights out and cuddle then into bed and I walk out of the room asap. She will cry for about 30 secs. If I don't walk out of the room she will cry until I do, it's easier to walk out quickly.



I work during the week and cannot sleep if she is in the bed and I need my sleep to do my job. I do like having her with me in bed so I spoil myself on Friday and Saturday nights.



The nights Sarah wants someone to sleep with her are slowly decreasing and will eventually cease. So I don't have a problem having our daughter sleep with us for a little while longer. She's not going to be this little for much longer.

Suzanne - posted on 07/29/2009

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Hey Samantha,

There is nothing inherently wrong with sleeping with your children, this practice is the norm in many cultures. Practically speaking, there are pros and cons that you may experience with either choice.

The most positive result your child may experience is in infancy. Of course, it goes without saying that you need to be very careful with newborns, there have been cases of children dying when parents roll over on them in their sleep. But there are ways of preventing this, and a few great products made now just for the purpose of safe co-sleeping with an infant.

With that said, infants tend to sleep better, and feel more secure next to Mom at night. In a way, our culture is a bit extreme in the way that we tend to feel it necessary to create an immediate environment of separateness from our newborns, this is not as common in other cultures.

The only negative aspect that I have experienced (I have 2 children) is that it may take kids longer to learn how to self-sooth. So getting them in to their own beds later on, may be a challenge. But I know families that don't really experience this. Their children seem to transition effortlessly into their own beds.

My first daughter slept with me until she was about 5 yrs., and on occasion after that. As she got older, and began to develop her own natural sense of autonomy, the transition flowed pretty naturally. With my youngest, I was determined to get her in to her own space from the get go, but as it turned out, she had a terrible time with colic early on. My obstetrician advised me to allow her to sleep with me. I was also getting pressured by her Dad, so I relented. Her sleeping did improve immediately however, and it truly did seem as if; she just needed to be with her Mom.

Basically I've found (in my experience) that, if you bring your newborn in to your bed with you, they become accustom to sleeping with you. You may? have a more difficult time putting them down for naps, without laying down with them until they fall asleep. When they awake (we tend to arouse from sleep often throughout the night) they may not drift off again as easily as a child who has learned to self-sooth alone. This was the reason that I had originally wanted to introduce my second child to her own bed earlier.

It simply would have been easier for me. Also, it is easier to have intimate space with your spouse, that may be another factor to consider.

That being said, it is really a personal choice. Children will grow up very well adjusted either way! Children who sleep with their parents for a time, will inevitably learn how to self-sooth just fine. It simply may take them longer.

Hope this helps, and good luck to you.

Suzanne - posted on 07/29/2009

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Hey Samantha,

There is nothing inherently wrong with sleeping with your children, this practice is the norm in many cultures. Practically speaking, there are pros and cons that you may experience with either choice.

The most positive result your child may experience is in infancy. Of course, it goes without saying that you need to be very careful with newborns, there have been cases of children dying when parents roll over on them in their sleep. But there are ways of preventing this, and a few great products made now just for the purpose of safe co-sleeping with an infant.

With that said, infants tend to sleep better, and feel more secure next to Mom at night. In a way, our culture is a bit extreme in the way that we tend to feel it necessary to create an immediate environment of separateness from our newborns, this is not as common in other cultures.

The only negative aspect that I have experienced (I have 2 children) is that it may take kids longer to learn how to self-sooth. So getting them in to their own beds later on, may be a challenge. But I know families that don't really experience this. Their children seem to transition effortlessly into their own beds.

My first daughter slept with me until she was about 5 yrs., and on occasion after that. As she got older, and began to develop her own natural sense of autonomy, the transition flowed pretty naturally. With my youngest, I was determined to get her in to her own space from the get go, but as it turned out, she had a terrible time with colic early on. My obstetrician advised me to allow her to sleep with me. I was also getting pressured by her Dad, so I relented. Her sleeping did improve immediately however, and it truly did seem as if; she just needed to be with her Mom.

Basically I've found (in my experience) that, if you bring your newborn in to your bed with you, they become accustom to sleeping with you. You may? have a more difficult time putting them down for naps, without laying down with them until they fall asleep. When they awake (we tend to arouse from sleep often throughout the night) they may not drift off again as easily as a child who has learned to self-sooth alone. This was the reason that I had originally wanted to introduce my second child to her own bed earlier.

It simply would have been easier for me. Also, it is easier to have intimate space with your spouse, that may be another factor to consider.

That being said, it is really a personal choice. Children will grow up very well adjusted either way! Children who sleep with their parents for a time, will inevitably learn how to self-sooth just fine. It simply may take them longer.

Hope this helps, and good luck to you.

Liz - posted on 07/28/2009

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with my first i always slept with him he was always in my arms! then time to move him in his own bed at about 10 months it was easy for him but it was hard for me and now my second she is in her own bed since birth sometimes she will sleep with me but not often..

Vicky - posted on 07/28/2009

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It is NEVER ok to have your baby sleep with you. It is a careless and dangerous thing to do. Plus the baby needs to get used to her own room and bed. If you are a worried mother, the best thing for you AND your baby is to have a small craddle in your bedroom !

Maria - posted on 07/28/2009

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I PERSONALLY FIND NOTHING WRONG WITH IT. I FELT MORE SECURE WHEN MY YOUNGEST WOULD SLEEP WITH ME HE DOES NOT ANYMORE BECAUSE NOW HE IS EVERYWHERE WHEN HE SLEEPS. BUT IT WAS NICE TO HAVE HIM NEXT TO ME

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I don't think this is a good idea. A guy I worked with was sleeping with his daughter (an infant) and rolled on her. He didn't realize until he woke up and she had passed. He never really recovered from it. Most people don't recommend it.

Anne - posted on 07/28/2009

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If you feel the need to have your baby sleep in the same bed as you when they are infants, i think this is fine. I wouldn't recommend having them sleep with you longer than 6 months. Children need structure and routine as early as an infant. They need to know that there is a place for the child to sleep. I followed this rule when I had my two children and I never had a problem with them wanting to sleep with me. Now that they are 11 and 9, they often like camping out in moms room which is okay on certain occasions.

Amber - posted on 07/28/2009

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i dont think so...if you want an expert opinion, ask your pediatritian...my guess is, they'll tell you the same. we considered it, even bought one of those little sleepers to make it "safer" for our little one. i still didnt feel it was enough. there are too many what ifs and not to mention, do you really want to condition your child that they're most comfortable sleeping with mom and dad? you may not feel like it right now but eventually you will want that "alone" time with your hubby...why not condition the baby that sleeping alone in THEIR bed is the most comfortable thing?

Lori - posted on 07/28/2009

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IMHO, co sleeping is what is done in the majority of the world outside of puritanical western countries. and it is something that I found to be enduring, bonding and sweet. My son, now 12 is extremely independent, and I believe part of his independence can be attributed to his having co slept and feeling very secure as an infant and toddler.... :) It is a personal choice, but definitely not something to be 'judged' or 'feared'.

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