is it ok to hold back a twin academically
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Margie - posted on 01/19/2010
The twins are 9 years old. I decided to hold them both back in the 2nd grade. Justin (mr. Intellectual) was not pleased with it but he was borderline. So i just explained to him that repeating the 2nd grade would give him the advantage to be the smartest kid in his class because he already did that work. Jared (mr.jock) is doing so much better this time around!
Sharon - posted on 01/18/2010
I work with a set of triplets where two of them were held back a grade. The girl of the triplets was held back in kinder, the middle boy was held back in third grade and the oldest of them is doing great in fourth grade. They all support each other and do not take the being held back as a step back in the wrong direction. Each one looks at it differently. Depending on how old they are you may want to sit down with the one about to be held back and explain his/her situation to him/her. That way they are aware at what is ahead of them and you can work together to come up with solutions.
Good Day! - posted on 01/17/2010
Hey Margie, I was a teacher before SAHM. How old are the twins? If they are preschool or kindergarten hold them back together. The older they get the more being held back will negativly affect them. Doing it while young will not hurt them, even the intellectual one. It will just give them another year to grow and develop socially. If they are older, that is tough. I would hate to think of what would happend to the self esteem of the one held back while the other one moved on. Could you provide tutoring for the struggling twin so he can move to the next grade?
Carolee - posted on 01/17/2010
If the one is really struggling, then I would talk to him about it if possible. Let them help you make the decision... but don't let them make it for you. It's better for the child who is struggling to stay back and actually learn than to just have them advance a grade without the knowledge that he'll need to complete that next step in education.