Is it possible to have fertility problems after having one child?

Catherine - posted on 07/06/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I have a 18 month old daughter and me and my husband decieded not to go on birth control after giving birth to her. We have a regular sex life and have been trying to get pregnant for over a year now. My periods are very irregular,I might have a period ever 3 months. I am really concerned because we always wanted to have a children close in age, and it doesnt look like that is going to happen. I am going to see a doctor to get a physical done, but I was wondering is it possible to not be able to conceive after having a child??

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Sarah - posted on 07/06/2009

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Yes, I had this problem as well. When my now 11 year old was 2 we wanted another child. I had not been on birth control either. But 6 mo prior to him turning 2 I had heart surgery (I was almost 24)The Doctors said it had nothing to do with having kids and I should been fine to concieve more.



Well, 6 years later still no baby. So much for wanting our kids to be close in age. I finally got into fertility and withina few months we were pregnant. My ovulation cycle was very off. I wasn't ovulating until 15 days after I was supposed to be. My advice to you is save the fertility money at this point and try regularly on your OFF ovulation times maybe this will help for you as well. get the physical and blood work up to make sure nothing is wrong tehre. If it all come back normal I would try with the mind frame that you don't ovulate on a regular cycle the Doctor tells you , you should be..



I finally had my 2nd son when my first son turned 8. And then when my 2nd son was 8 mo old, I miysteriously got pregnant on my own with my 3rd son............ I paid a small fortune for my 2nd son during fertility! And both of them were born after I turned 30!



You have to make the choice on what you're comfort level is.



Hope this helps you out!

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If you are having irregular cycles I would DEFINITELY be contacting your gyno! I would attribute your lack of fertility to the oddity in your cycle. Having a baby can be quite traumatic on your body, it changes is many ways, some of which will never go back! Birth is different for every woman and every body.

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Catherine - posted on 07/06/2009

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Thank You soo much .. I had spoken to a doctor a while ago telling them I wanted to get pregnant and she said .. oh well you got pregnant before so we know you can have children.,, But honestly when she told me that I was kinda pissed. I was thinking " well why the hell am I having such irregular periods,and when I get them they last up to 11 days with a heavy flow.It breaks my heart alot when I am holding my friends new born babies, because I feel like a failure as a woman. For months my husband felt like all I ever talked about was " I wonder if im pregnant this time" after not having a period for soo long.. but he see's the heartbreak in my eyes when it comes back neg and two months later ill get a period. Thank you for telling me your expsperiences, I dont feel so alone.

Carrie - posted on 07/06/2009

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yes, it is possible. you could very well have P.C.O.S (polycystic overy syndrom). It will cause youy to have irregular periods and if not treated, could lead to infertility. this is what I was diagnosed with years ago. It took the hubs and I 9 years to concieve our first child (she's now 2 and a half). I'm taking meds for it, but sometimes still don't get my periods months in a row (but, sometimes I do forget to take them, so I would say that that is my fault.). When you see your gyno, mention the possibilty of P.C.O.S. and see what he/she says.

Samantha - posted on 07/06/2009

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Catherine I feel your pain sister!! My husband and I tried to get pregnant for a year after we had already had our daughter too. It's funny because I have kinda the same problem with my periods too....I didn't have one for 17 months after I had my daughter!!! I know you said your going to the doc, but i wanted to let you know that the docter took a ton of tests for me and when they all came back saying I didn't have anything wrong with my productive system, she told me that I needed to gain about 5 pounds and my peiods would be regular....she wanted toput me on birth control to try and regulate them too (fortunately I don't believe in using birth control)...with in 3 months of that visit I was pregnant!! Catherine all I can say is that our children are miracles and God's first!! Don't stress yourself out about it...trust in the Lord and give your worries to Him, because He will bless you when He knows your ready!! If my son had come on OUR time my children would be 27 months apart, but he came on God's time and they are 32 months apart...and I LOVE IT!!! We have a girl first too and the older girls get the better mommy helpers they are :) Praying for you Catherine Be blessed!!!

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Secondary infertility is very common, especially if you state that your cycles are irregular. Are you monitoring your ovulation with a daily basal body temperature or test strips? Was it easy to conceive the first time around? Do you have any hormone or gynecological issues? Definately make an appointment with your doctor to discuss your concerns. There might also be underlying issues with your husband's sperm too. I might also recommend the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler. It's a great book that teaches all about a woman's fertility and reproductive cycles.

Libby - posted on 07/06/2009

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Yes it is possible to have fertility problems after conceiving. I conceived my first child after about 8 months of being off of the pill. The next time around I was having really weird cycles (long) and we figured out I had cysts on my ovaries (PCOS) which was keeping me from ovulating. I tried Clomid once to help me ovulate and got pregnant with our 2nd child after one try. With our 3rd we tried for a year and a half with fertility help (Clomid and HCG shots) and no luck! Then I had to have surgery and I lost a lot of weight and something threw my body into whack and we got pregnant after 2 years of trying and really just thinking it wasn't going to happen again. Now here's the kicker. After having our daughter who was stillborn in December I had one cycle and got pregnant again right away. Never in a million years did I think we could get pregnant like that. It just seemed so unlikely after 2 years of trying for our 3rd. But here I am, 24 weeks into my 4th pregnancy. So, I know very well how your body can play tricks on you after having even one baby!!

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If you are having irregular cycles I would DEFINITELY be contacting your gyno! I would attribute your lack of fertility to the oddity in your cycle. Having a baby can be quite traumatic on your body, it changes is many ways, some of which will never go back! Birth is different for every woman and every body.

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