Is it wrong to not give a 1st birtday party?

Terrie - posted on 06/14/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )

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My daughter's 1st birthday is tomorrow (June 15) and we didn't make any plans for a 1st birthday party or anything. Is it wrong to not give a 1st birthday party?

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Divina - posted on 06/16/2010

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yes!! It is a great milestone for both you and your baby!!! Its all about memories A lot has happened her first year. Time to celebrate with family and friends if you wish, or alone!!! It doesn't have to be exactly on her day, but take time to celebrate, all you need is a little cake and a camera!

Christina - posted on 06/15/2010

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i went all out for my daughter's first birthday, typical first-time mom. however, i realized that it was for me, and she wouldn't remember. i was just so excited being a mom and getting to plan a birthday party for my own child for the first time. looking back, i'm so glad i did, i lost my daughter and now i have those memories and the knowledge that i maxed out the time i had with my daughter. i got to plan five wonderful birthday parties for my daughter and am very happy i took full advantage of those opportunities. with that said, i see nothing wrong with not having a bday party either. for me, it was what i personally wanted to do, i enjoyed it, and i knew it was primarily for me - my way of being a mom.

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We didn't celebrate her 1st birthday on her exact birthday....we did it on a day that all the family could get together. She's not going to remember if it's her birthday or anything so dont worry about that. I did however on her real birthday give her a cupcake and tell her it's her birthday but that was about it.

Ali - posted on 06/15/2010

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I don't think its wrong at all. but like most have said you will wish you had some kind of memories with her of this day. It can be just a normal day at home with her and you documenting it all. don't over do it just catch her doing somthin cute like playing with a flower or her hands in the cake batter or cookie dough. Or even a 1 little cup cake for her and watch her have fun with it. simple doesnt mean it's wrong. Simple is natural. Enjoy your day with her. :)

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No, of course it's not wrong! The kid won't remember anything andyou'll probably have a family celebration anyway!

Generally, I thing some parents spend too much money and make far too much fuss about an event that should be for families.

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Absolutely nothing wrong w/ not having a 'party', but I would definitely celebrate w/ a cake and a camera. :)

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I don't think there is anything wrong with not having a party, since your daughter won't care or remember. But even if all you do is buy a cake, let her mess it up, and put a party hat on her, it will be nice to have those memories. You might regret not having pics or memories of her 1st birthday

Lori - posted on 06/14/2010

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Are we talking about not celebrating the day at all ? Or are we talking about not having a big bash that a one yr old cant handle and will not remember?
If you have dinner, sing happy birthday with a cupcake and a candle - just you, your child and your partner - then you have a party !!
We have had 1st birthday parties for both my kids (5 and just turned 1) - just immediate family .... My sons birthday have been something special like the zoo and a picnic, a pirate dressup with 3 friends.... and last years 5th birthday a train ride and tour....
My daughters 1st was on April 30 and we had a barbeque with family, cake and ice cream and presents. She was in bed at 8pm which was late for her...
What do you want your childs first birthday to be????

Dana - posted on 06/14/2010

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It doesn't have to be on that day. Plan a small family dinner for this weekend and have cake then. I guess there isn't anything wrong with not giving one, but I think you will regret it later and miss having the pictures of tearing up the first birthday cake. I know when my daughter was in elementary school they did a project where they all brought in the pictures.

Alison - posted on 06/14/2010

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All you need is a cake and some photos. Gifts and guests are totally irrelevant.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/14/2010

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Ok..I am going to go against what everyone has said. I think it is terrible not to celebrate your childs first birthday. They may not remember it, but you will! They will also like to see pictures later in life. You carried that child for atleast 40 wks, and the day they were born is suppose to be memorable...should be celebrated in some sort of way. A little cake, some ice cream and just the immediate family is celebration enough. Sorry, but I honestly think that is a crappy thing not honoring the birth of your child.

Alicia - posted on 06/14/2010

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Its not wrong, but it may be something you end up regretting not doing. You don't have to do anything huge. Even if you and your husband just spend the day with your little on and make a special meal and dessert. I would at least recognize the day and honer you baby in some way.

Karen - posted on 06/14/2010

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just because there's no big party doesn't mean there won't be pictures...you can get the same "cake pictures" if there are 30 people there for a party, or just mom, dad and siblings....

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I think it would be terrible to not have photos of the 1st birthday. Just plan it for next week instead. My daughter's b-day is in May, but we waited until June to have a party, cause the weather...

Karen - posted on 06/14/2010

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not at all! we don't plan on having anything for my son's first birthday...just me and his dad with a little cake...i'm sure when we're up at grandma's the next weekend they will have a bbq with his great grands but other then that, no party :) enjoy the special milestone anyway you want...imo it's more special with just the family making memories anyways!

Joanna - posted on 06/14/2010

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as long as she has family around her who loves her, that's all that matters!

Kathy - posted on 06/14/2010

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You don't need to have a party. She isn't going to remember if you have a party or not. Make her a cake-strip her to her diaper-give her a piece-and take some pictures. That is what is the best part of a first birthday anyway. Your memories and that cake picture. Enjoy knowing you made the one year milestone and just have a good day together.

Jane - posted on 06/14/2010

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The kids don't remember it anyway. :) Bake a cake from a mix, put some candles on, take the pictures, voila 1st birthday celebration. :)

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Its all about the memories and pictures, first birthdays are pricesless, its not wrong but you will miss those photos and memories down the road.

Erin - posted on 06/14/2010

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IMO the first birthday is for the parents, grandparents, and friends. The child will not remember it. Is it wrong? No, but down the road you may feel bad that YOU don't have those memories. You could always just do a small party, maybe with you and a couple of friends/family just to have that memory. But if you decide not too, no big deal. Have fun whatever you decide!!

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