Is nudity an appropriate punishment for my son?

Dommom - posted on 12/25/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I am a mother of 2 teenage girls and a younger son. And quite frankly he seems very unresponsive to nearly ANY punishment I give him. Sending him to his room, timeouts, spankings, groundings, taking away privileges, etc. I recently had an episode of some severe back talking following an outright defiance to obey me. I had tried all of the above mentioned things and the situation was such that I was in his room as he came in from a bath. His mouth started AGAIN when I asked him something simple and I had had enough. Before I knew it I had pushed him out of his room and YANKED off the towel he had on. I threw it in his room and locked the door so he couldn't get back in. Moms, let me tell you..talk about an IMMEDIATE attitude change. He was nervous, then angry and embarrassed for a while but after about 30-40 minutes, he came to me in the kitchen and apologized to me for his attitude and promised to do the things I asked him. Now I will say that during that time, it was a bit "empowering" to watch him squirm and sweat for a while. But when he realized that as far as he knew I was going to keep him naked all day, then miracles happen! Have any mothers here done anything like this or advocate it in any way? I seemed to have found something that actually works on him and would LOVE to know if any other moms out there have tried this or use it? Anyway, thanks for any advice.

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Angela - posted on 12/25/2012

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As Dove says, a book on boundaries would help.

Forced nudity is a bad punishment. I don't care if he needed a wake-up call, punishment or anything. When your method of discipline humiliates and encroaches on his dignity then it's not appropriate.

I doubt very much if this "discipline" actually worked. It's not like he's had a think about his own behaviour and suddenly realised your ways are the best ways. He has merely complied with you in order to regain his dignity as fast as possible. Discipline is supposed to teach something. All your son has learned is:

a) Not to trust you at all, since you have zero respect for his dignity.
b) Never to put himself in a position which enables you to expose his nakedness again.
c) To continue to be a thorn in your flesh (possibly with revenge in mind).
d) To take greater care to cover his tracks in his wrongdoing so he's less likely to get found out.

Great work, Mom!

Dove - posted on 12/25/2012

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If you continue to do this you will most likely set him up for a life long battle with self esteem and humiliation issues surrounding sex and nudity. Congratulations. @@

Jodi - posted on 12/25/2012

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Gina is a troll. And I honestly cannot believe that THIS is also a real question. No way. No mother would be sick enough to use nudity as a punishment in order to empower themselves. Farck.....

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Ashley - posted on 12/26/2012

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your sick! that is embaressing to the child, and that is how kids get molested and raped! this is NOT AT ALL ok! you should go to some parenting classes, and have your kids taken in the mean time.

Temi - posted on 12/25/2012

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Gina Bonnici you are a sick twisted female and i hope someone calls the appropriate authorities on you.

Evelyn - posted on 12/25/2012

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I am going to say it not ask it: WHAT WERE YOU THINKING!!! That is a big no-no. For the moment it did the job but do you think that is the answer to all your problems. There are other ways to get him to change his behavior. As the others above have stated, please use those options. Also, if you want to get his attention, have him write sentences that go with the situation.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/25/2012

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I have to agree with dove. This is setting him up for a lifelong fail.

Dommom - posted on 12/25/2012

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NO! No troll here. Just absolutely at wits end and happened to stumble on something that actually seemed to work for a change.

Dove - posted on 12/25/2012

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You need parenting help. I recommend taking a parenting class or pick up one of a million books on appropriate boundaries and consequences.... and read it.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/25/2012

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WOWZA! Using pure humiliation to "punish" your son. You should win mother of the year award. I am smelling a troll.

Oh and if you don't get my sarcastic tone, no. Nudity is not a good punishment.

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