is there anyone who got pregant as a teen , love to hear from u

Tina - posted on 02/19/2010

I was married at 16 and had my son at 17. There were braces on my teeth when he was born. I thought I knew it all. How righteous we think we are. Within a year and a half the marriage was over and my son and I started our journey together.



His father didn't take having a child seriously. $15.00 a week child support was too much for him. My son sat on the front step soooo many times waiting for his father to pick him up for the weekend only to be disappointed once again when he didn't even take the time to show or call. My parents were such a great support and comfort.

Many, many years have past...my son is now a father. His father turned his back on him when he "came out" so he no longer speaks to my son or has any contact whatsoever. If you aren't ready to love and accept whatever your child's sexuality might turn out to be...don't have children.

My son is the father that he always wanted. His parenting skills are incredible. He is always present when he is with my grandson who is now a teenager. He asks all the hard questions that need to be asked. I can't say life has been easy but I love my son so much. To put a little perspective...I'm going to turn 60 this year. Don't let life pass you by...love every minute of it. If you aren't getting older...you are dead! But I'll never grow up my heart is still young and taking in life one minute at a time!

Sherrie - posted on 02/19/2010

sorry, my last post was a response to Tabitha

Holly - posted on 02/19/2010

I was pregnant with my oldest daughter when I was a senior in high school. I make sure to talk openly with my kids about this sort of thing and stress the importance of education and career before children. It also helps that I tell my girls, I don't want to be a grandmother for another 20 years or so! :)

Sherrie - posted on 02/19/2010

great advice from a child with a very young mother.



I must disagree though that age will affect the way you raise your child if you are not ready yourself to accept it and grow into the responsibilities you have created.



Being a young mom myself and attending a school for young mothers (thank goodness for those) I have seen some mothers who were still more interested in the parties etc. than their children, but yes, the majority of them accept the role and turn out to be amazing morthers.

Jessica - posted on 02/19/2010

i was 18 when i got pregnant and a 19 yr old mother and wife. hated being a wife, loved being a mom.

Sherrie - posted on 02/19/2010

great advice from a child with a very young mother.



I must disagree though that age will affect the way you raise your child if you are not ready yourself to accept it and grow into the responsibilities you have created.



Being a young mom myself and attending a school for young mothers (thank goodness for those) I have seen some mothers who were still more interested in the parties etc. than their children, but yes, the majority of them accept the role and turn out to be amazing morthers.

Heather - posted on 02/19/2010

I got pregnant when I was 15, I am nowa 25 and have 2 more children. I think the hardest part of being a teen mother was the struggle to do the best thing for my son, working two jobs and finishing High School.

Michelle - posted on 02/19/2010

Hey...name is MIchelle. I am 31 years old and I got pregnant with my first child in High School. Let me know if you want to chat.

Sherrie - posted on 02/19/2010

Hi cheryl, Your story is amazing. It is nice to hear that relationships that survive despite all the curves life throws at you. You are right, the kids are WAY less mature now, and if I were to be a teen mom now, I am not sure if it would work out the same way. Sorry about the loos of your husband, you are so young still. Take care!

Kate - posted on 02/19/2010

Sure....many women got pregnant as teen-agers. I was 16. My son was born when I was 17. I was a good, nay great Mom! My son is now married to a wonderful woman and I am the proud, beloved grandmother to three beautiful boys.



:-) Life is what you make of it, unless you give your control away.

CHANTEL - posted on 02/19/2010

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH U. I GOT PREGNANT AT 16 AND HAD MY BOY AT 17. ALSO DIDNT HAVE THE OPPERTUNITY TO DO MY MATRIC. GEE GIRLS OUT THERE!!! ITS NOT EASY HEY!!

Simone - posted on 02/19/2010

My daughter was pregnant at 16. Normally a responsible girl, she didn't confirm her pregnancy until she was 4 months along. At 37 weeks, two days after a check up, he stopped moving and it was discovered that the umbilical cord had looped into a knot. Though not originally wanted, at this point my grandson had a name, all the goodies a baby could need, and a large, loving family. If you think raising a child is hard as a teenager, never try burying one. Today my daughter is 22, and in three weeks will marry the boy (man?) with whom she became pregnant almost 6 years ago. They've assured us that they'll finish their educations before more children...we'll see.

Janet - posted on 02/19/2010

got pregnant at 17 now I'm 47 so yes my children are grown now is there a specific question or comparison that my help you

Jenny - posted on 02/19/2010

what would you like to know. I had my oldest at 17, my son at 18 and my baby at 19 and now they are 18, 19 & 20. email me or on here. blackmanjen_13@hotmail.com. I would love to answer any questions for you.

SHARON - posted on 02/19/2010

I got pregent at 17 had her at 17. Wow what an eye opener. It only took me one child birth to say that is all for me. It was very hard and sobering and eye opening. It was not easy I had one year of school left with only a few classes to take and had to quit and raise a child. I don't understand why all these young girls WANT to get pregant it is so much harder these days to raise a child I wish they would just wait and live their lives a little bit. My daughter is 25 now.

Melissa - posted on 02/19/2010

I had my first child at 16. She is now 16.

Debby - posted on 02/19/2010

Yes, twice. First as a senior in HS, then married at 18, second child at 19. I certainly do not recommend it.

Danielle - posted on 02/19/2010

Hello. I got pregnant with my eldest son 2 months before my 18th bday. He's now 12 and my youngest is 13 months. How about you?

Jayme - posted on 02/19/2010

I was 19 when I got pregnant, but I was married. Had my baby 15 days before I was 20.



I am a mother of a pregnant teen. It is very difficult for us mothers to have a child who is having a baby as a teen. My daughter now is 19. She did get pregnant as a teen. She was 15, turned 16 had her baby. She still finished school. I was angry with her but I stood by her side 100%.



Teenagers are forced to grow up after they have had a child. But, that is their choice. If you play adult games, then you have the consequences that comes along with it.



People shouldn't judge, but we are all human. That's what we do, in some sort of way. Not only is the teen judged but the parents of that teen are too. It's not the parent's fault that their teen made that choice. I have always had an open communication with my daughter about sex. She knew the consequences when she did what she did. Some people have said to me, it's my fault that she got pregnant. At first, I believed them.



For the people that judge us parents of a teen parents. Don't judge until you've been through what we've been through.



I love my grandson with all my heart. I did from day one. Some wait til their teen has a baby, then decide to be in their teen's life. I was and always will be in her life.

Gail - posted on 02/19/2010

Hi, I got pregnant a month before my 18th birthday, my son is now 15 years old. I did it alone as his father wasn't around much when we were together, always out with his friends, even though he was 3 years older than me! We broke up when my son was just under 3 years old, he has not bothered with him over the last 12 years. From the age of 8 to 13yrs he saw him one a year on his birthday, even though he moved down the road, and then if he saw him in the street or local shop he would blank him, nice, anyway he didn't turn up for my sons 14th birthday and hasn't been on his 15th either. Yet we still have to see him in the street!!

I love my son to bits and we have a really close bond due to all we've been through together, yes I missed out on a lot of things but I wouldn't have it any other way, he has made me a better person, and made me so proud. I now feel so excited for him watching him going through his life and the experiences that he will be able to go through.

I also have a 4 year old and a 2 year old, so i've been a young mum and an older mum xxxx

Sarah - posted on 02/18/2010

When I was 15 I got pregnant. I had a little girl the month before my 16 birthday. I placed her with a family and it has been 23 years since I have seen her. It may have been one of the hardest things I have ever had to do in my life, but I think that it was the right decision for me.

I have hard times, especially around her birthday, which by the way is the day after her brothers, but they say, what doesnt kill us will make us stronger.

I know that I am a stronger person for having gone through all of it. I don't regret it for one minute. It may sound like I am heartless, but I'm not. I'm unselfish for having done what I did.

JAN - posted on 02/18/2010

I got pregnant as a teen. I had 3 children 16 months apart by the time I was 19 years old! I now have a 4th child born when I was 25. I divorced when my youngest was 1 year old. I am now 34 and the single mother of 3 teenagers and a 9 year old. All 4 children have ADHD. I feel like Im going crazy most days. Parenting is by far the hardest thing I've ever done. I cant say I regret having them. I think I would have just waited till I was older and more mature.

Janet - posted on 02/18/2010

I too got pregnant and had my first child when I was 17. I was on a path down hell's street.... definitely going no where good! When I got pregnant, I realized that I was responsible for another life and tried to take better care of myself. Didn't always, but I tried. We struggled together for 10 years alone together. There was no "dad" in the picture. I had my Grandma and couldn't have made it without her! I married my 1st love (he was not the father) when she was about 10 and they chose to take vows of their own together (he accepted her as his daughter and she as her father). Truely precious! I would like to tell you it was easy, but I gave up a lot to be a young mother and I can't say I was necessarily good at it. But, I prayed each day and asked God for guidance as to how to get this precious being He had entrusted to me (and saved MY life with) to adulthood. She is now 24 years old, married to a wonderful man, and going to college. (!!!!) All I can say is, I didn't plan it, didn't want it, didn't really do good at it. But God worked it together for good anyway. I got my GED (nope, didn't make it back to high school), no prom, bombed college, and dated bums. There are better choices to make - and if you are already pregnant, or had your child, there are better choices to make to get you and your child to a better life than I had. I fought and was rebellious for years before I realized how right the people were around me and how much I did need to depend on others. Independance is way over rated! But if others are helping you, do your part by making better choices so they can see the return on their investment in you and your child. We made it. It wasn't easy. But, it was certainly easier than the path I was choosing at the time! I call her my "lifesaver". She's beautiful and wonderful! A true delight for me to be blessed with!

Jennifer - posted on 02/18/2010

I was 15 when my daughter was born. She is now 19, graduated from high school, in college and doing better than I would have expected. Very proud of my little girl.

Mary - posted on 02/18/2010

My first baby was born when I was 19 years old. My husband and I were still in college at the time. The fact that we were totally broke turned out to be a blessing because it forced us to work together to make it all work. It was very hard at times but totally wonderful too. 41 years later we are still in love with a wonderful family. You can make it work.

Wendy - posted on 02/18/2010

I was 15 when I got pregnant with my son. And I had him when I was 16. The ironic part is, I asked my mother to put me on BC but she said it would give me permission to have sex.....ok, well I was obviously going to do it one way or another, with or without her "permission".



Now I am 34 and my oldest son is 18 years old, I also have 3 younger kids also and their ages are 9 yrs - boy, 5 yrs - a girl and a 3 yr old - girl. My boyfriend at the time and now my husband have been together for 20 years this June, married for 13 years this May.

Fanessa - posted on 02/18/2010

I got pregnant when I was 15 for my first child he was born when I was 16, He is now 11 and i'm 27 we have a pretty good relationship. It was very hard at frist! I attended a alternative school where I could take my son with me that was a great experience. I also worked part time and thanks to my mother I did still get to do some of the teenage stuff.I would never change anything I think the whole thing was a good experience for me and my son he's an all A honor roll student. Although I'm not promoting teenage pregnancy I just want teens to know it's not always a bad thing as long as you have a lot of positive support!!

Michelle - posted on 02/18/2010

I got pregnant at 16. What would you like to know??

Holly - posted on 02/18/2010

I got pregnant at 16 and had my daughter (Samantha) when I was 17. I am 31 now and she is going to be 14 in less than two weeks. She changed my life and kept me grounded. I may have had to work extra hard to make something of myself without a college education but it was all worth the hard work. I know that even if she doesn't say it that often she knows how much i sacrificed for her.

Sunna - posted on 02/18/2010

i was 17 when I got pregnant with my daughter, she was born one month before my 18th birthday. Now i am 28 and have my daughter who's 10 yrs now and my to sons, 5 and almost 2 years old.

Mommy feeling is the best feeling ever :))

Ashley - posted on 02/18/2010

I got pregnant at 17, and had my son three months before I turned 18. My situation was not the best in the world. I was at a party at my house and I got tired, so I went to bed. When I woke up I was being raped by 5 guys, but then later found out it was 7. I ended up pregnant with my now 8 year old son. I have had one of the men tested but I can't find any of the other men to get them tested.

Laurie - posted on 02/18/2010

I was 18 when my first child was born, he is now 32 years old

Steph - posted on 02/18/2010

im 17

i dont live with my parents

i live in a rented unit

i have a 3 weeks 2 days daughter that was planned and

im happily in a steady relationship

which i hope soon that will go up to the next stage

Robby - posted on 02/18/2010

i was a teen mom, had my first at 18 and still in school, then had my second at 21 and my third at 30 and i must say it was easier when i was younger lol. it was harder, having to grow up that fast but the Lord put woman in my life that helped me like my step mom who i love so much and a woman Sandy Ranes who i call mom. and my first probally saved my life, as i was parting hard and i turned my life around when i found out i was pregnant. it was easier because i had more energy lol. i do not recommend any teen getting pregnant and i teach my kids to wait till they are married. it was not easy being a SINGLE teen mom. i had to work all the time to support my kids and didn't get to see them much. i am very close to my kids and i love it

Shannon - posted on 02/18/2010

Hi Kanthi, I had my first baby when I was 14 yrs, (got out of the hospital after having him the day I turned 15) He has noe just got his licence! Oh I feel old! He is the light of my life and the best thing that ever happened too me

Ginger - posted on 02/18/2010

I had my first son at age 19...that isn't the youngest of teenagers, but I still was. I feel that I was a very good mom, but not so good at the relationship that led me to being the mom and as a result he suffered. I wasn't as able to address some of his needs because I was so busy taking care of the relationship with his father. This wasn't so much due to the fact that I was a teen, but rather the fact of getting into a relationship quickly, getting pregnant quickly thereafter and raising a son in that environment. Any other questions that you have? I would be happy to answer them.

Kimberly - posted on 02/18/2010

I was pregnant at 16 a mother at 17 and it was so hard being a mom at such a young age. Now my son is turning 17 and guess what "the cycle continues", he is going to be a dad and now I am going to be a grandma at 34. My grandson is due 1 day after my birthday in March 2010. I wish him the best of luck. I love my children and wouldn't change nothing about them, but I would of waited till I was in my late twenties.

Gina - posted on 02/18/2010

I got pregnant when I was 16 and had him a week after turning 17, I stayed in high school and graduated, but then starting working directly afterwards since I was a single mom. He is now 18 and has grown into a very gentle and intelligent man. I can't say every bit of the time was exciting and fun but it has definately been intresting and a life learning lesson, because one thing all my children (4 in total now) here don't make me a grandma until you have finished playing in life, because being a MOM is totally rewarding but you do have to put your life on hold for those 18 years.

Nikki - posted on 02/18/2010

i got pregnant has a teen and my daughter is now 17 it has it ups and downs

Nichole - posted on 02/18/2010

yes i was 15 and it was bloody hard i was a state ward and had a lot of family problems but after 17yrs i can say my daughter broke history and is still at school has a job and still has her real daddy and to my glee the hard work does pay off..

Koral - posted on 02/18/2010

i am 18 now nearly 19 in march i fell pregnant when i was 16 had my daughter when i was still 16 then fell pregnant again at 17 and had my son at 17 i am very happy and so are my two lil children yes its hard i would change it for the world but sum time i think i wish i waited but i guess things happen for a reason

Kelly - posted on 02/18/2010

I was 17 and now am 31 with a dramaqueen 14 year old BOY! I thought girls were supposed to be bad!! Gotta love it!!

CHANTEL - posted on 02/18/2010

ITS 4 ME AND U AS A MOM THAT MAKES THE DIFFERENCE IN UR CHILD`S LIFE. WITH GOD NEXT 2 U AND ME, THE WORLD CAN FALL APART IT WOUNT MENT ANYTHING 2 ME 4 MY CHILDREN IS MY WORLD -AMEN-

Lynnee' - posted on 02/18/2010

I got pregnant as a teen and had the baby. It was hard at first, but you become a responsible person and mature faster. I was determined to do for my child and not my parents. I am 34 now and have had two more child and nothing has changed I am still determined to do my best.

CHANTEL - posted on 02/18/2010

KEEP THE FIRE ALIVE, U GO GIRL!!

Stacey-Marie - posted on 02/18/2010

I was 19 when i got pregnant, i was married and we were actively trying, i was 20 when our daughter was born, she is now 5 and we have been married 7 years in july.

CHANTEL - posted on 02/18/2010

NO WAY, THATS AWESOME!! U CAN DANCE WITH THEN KUIER WITH THEM LISTEN THEIR TIPE OFF MUSIC AND THE BEST OFF ALL, U CAN B A "PAL" 4 THEM. ENJOY EVERY MOMENT WITH THEM!!

Nerissa - posted on 02/18/2010

I had my daughter at 17years old and in December she turned 20 years old.........geez that makes me feel old now. :-)

CHANTEL - posted on 02/17/2010

U KNOW WHAT GIRL. THAT IS SO COOL. U STOOD UP, DID SOMETHING 4 URSELF. CONGRATS AND KEEP UR CHIN UP.

CHANTEL - posted on 02/17/2010

YES, BUT PEOPLE MUST NOT JUDGE. SOMETIMES US GIRLS GOT IN SITUATIONS WHERE WE WERE THE "VICTIMS"..........