Its so hard to wait, i plan on trying for another baby in 6 months when my sons 8 months help!!

Jasmine - posted on 10/27/2009 ( 73 moms have responded )

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My son is turning 2 months on wed, and i already really want to become pregnant again so that my children are close together i decided to wait tell he is 8 months so that is 6 months away, but i think about it constantly, i don't know what to do, it makes me sad that i have to wait. Has anyone else felt this way and what have you done about it?

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Misty - posted on 10/29/2009

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Wait until he is atleast a year old. With this beng your first you do not know all the good moments that are going to come and you are going to miss if you are pregnant. Or even if you have complacations with your pregnancy then the baby is not going to beable to form a bond with you. A babies first year is the most inportant. That is the time that the baby forms their bond with their parents and learn to walk and talk and all the other stuff. Do you really want your baby to mess out on being a baby because you were to selfish to wait to have another. I am sorry to put that so bluntly but it is the truth.

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Why would you constantly be thinking about having another baby and not giving ur undivided attention to your 2 month old! When my son was that young it never even crossed my mind about having another because it was all about him. Its a bit selfish if you ask me. and 2 kids thats young means double the trouble

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hey there, i had two boys a year apart. i suggest you try and wait it out. i look back and both my boys did without so much needed attention from me because the other needed something at the same time. babies and toddlers dont understand why mommy cant hold them or rock them or why they cant just be alone with mom...it causes tention and attention seeking behavior having them so close. I thought it was going to be great and they would love a playmate so young...not such the case. its kind of sad when i look back at their babyhood. They deserved so much more one on one attention. Im no therapist so ask around...may work out great for you-just sharing another view to it.

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I'm with Sharon. I think you need some help. My guess is you just miss being pregnant, maybe you even have some PPD or something. You seem more interested in popping out babies than raising them. I think you need to take a step back and rethink what is motivating you and what a responsibility it is to have a child.

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i wish people could stay positive to people on here when in need of help!! that is what us moms are on here for not to be critized for speaking our minds and trying to turn to someone we think are our friends or mentors!!! we are all adults on here and it is time to act it so please be curtious of what you say to people and think before you speak some moms need guidance in deicion making and look to you moms for help and that is what we look for not to be critized!!!

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Lisa - posted on 11/01/2009

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You need to let your body heal. Give yourself time to be a parent to the first child. I got pregnante with my son when my daughter was six months old, no I did not plan it that way, but it was VERY difficult to handle and take care of them. Children are expensive. One in diapers is bad, two is worse, with economy today it is tougher then when I had mine.. good luck think twice

Donna - posted on 11/01/2009

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as a mother of two who are 11 months apart, many women have commented on ur first child losing your attention they deserve as they are only babies and yes when my second came along my first did lose some of my attention, however i did make sure that my partner gave my first child just the same amount of attention i use to give her, and now i have a one year old and a 23 month old (who is nearly two) i feel i give them now equal amount of attention. As you have to think what do mother's do when they have twins triplets etc... they have the same problem with giving both children attention in that situation you cant comment that its unfair on the babies, it isnt that much different to a parent who has two close together, apart from you have one more mobile than the other. the troubles i found is they are at different stages of development there needs are different, but to be honest in the long run my first child will not remember a time when my second wasnt there so to her this is normal, u dont have the trouble of a jealous child, as they do just accept, at such a young age another baby. also my first child brings my second child on development wise so quickly and they play with each other and they enjoy each other company. i think if you have the support behind u with a partner and family, you can do it. when my second was first born until i got her into routine can be hard and its helpful if your partner who helps with the needs of your first child. but routine helps, i already had my first child in a good routine so my second just slot into the routine, which has helped, and when my second child sleeping i give my attention to my first child and vise versa. dont get me wrong at times it is hard like when one is ill for example can be really hard, there has been moments where im like i cant cope anymore but u get on with it as you have two babies that need you (thats just my hormones). all im trying to say is it is hard to give both attention at times but there are ways round it, with support from partners and family u can do it as women with twins have just the same problems with who needs the attention more, but dont be put off if u want a child now then go for it i say, the only way i would say to leave it from my experience is letting ur hormones settle first as mine can be all over the place, but i had no problems with pregnancy or labour so my body has healed quickly, if you have physical or emotional problems at the moment i would say give yourself time to recover before putting your body through that again.

Bridget - posted on 10/30/2009

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I don't want to be as harsh as some of the other people on here, but I will post about my experience. For me, my post-partum hormones made me a little nutty - at worst borderline unstable! I didn't have PPD, but I had some serious mood swings and trouble focusing and making reliable decisions. I cannot imagine making a decision about something so important while I was under such hormonal mood swings in addition to the incredible sleep deprivation and adjustment to our new life. At about 4 months (reliably sleeping through the night), I started to emerge from "the fog" and think clearly again!! I do want another baby, I miss being pregnant, but I am enjoying our daughter so much now (13 months old) that I don't think I'm ready yet. I actually want the next child to be a sibling for her - more than I just want another baby for myself.

I love my daughter so much, but to be honest, at first it was a little rough adjusting. I jokingly compare being pregnant to being engaged - everyone is excited for you, you get to plan, register, shop, have parties thrown for you, you are the center of attention, people throw fits over you to the point that you start to buy into it and enjoy it. The anticipation is awesome, you can't wait for the day to come, etc. But it is so easy to get caught up in all that fun stuff that when the reality finally arrives, it is like a big hangover. You suddenly wake up and you're married and the parties are over - you're no longer a bride, you're a wife. You wake up, you leave the hospital, and suddenly you are responsible for a whole other (very needy!) person! And after a while, you really start to crave that feeling of excitement and anticipation again in contrast to the daily drudge of diapers, feedings, cryings that are the first few months. To be honest, I really want to be pregnant again, even though my pregnancy had some complications near the end, because it is such a joyful and exciting time, the feeling of anything being possible, what will the baby look like, what will he/she be like in personality, etc. But I know that I am not ready to have another baby in the house, which lets face it is the end result of that wonderful anticipation known as pregnancy!

Again, for all you judging people who are telling this woman to "get help" - I love my daughter very much, but let's be real here as moms who are tired and worked and hormonal! It is TOUGH work in addition to all the good things.

So bottom line, don't give up on having as many kids and you want, as close together as you want them. Just make sure that your decisions are for the right reasons and you are prepared for all the work that 2 kids brings - close together or not, it's still a lot of work. Don't let hormones or loneliness or sleep deprivation or any other reason cloud your judgement and have you rush into things. Good luck to you and enjoy your son. Before you know it, he'll be turning 1 and then you will think "where did that whole year go?"

Reeta - posted on 10/30/2009

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I had troubles to get pregnant at first time, so we din`t use any protection after my first child birth. We didnt get any sterss about pregnancy and I was pregnant after one year (I was surprised that that happened so soon). It`s not sure that you get pregnant or when you get pregnant. But I have say to you, that baby can be difficult later (teething, nigtmears etc.). So you meybe get second thoughts in some point.

Now I am happy that second child is coming. If you are helthly, baby comes when is his/hers time!

Firebird - posted on 10/30/2009

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Enjoy your baby while you can, they grow so fast! Other reasons for waiting: Many doctors advise giving your body 2 years to heal after a pregnancy, you'll still be really tired from the first baby, diapers are bloody expensive! I can't imagine having to change 2 sets of diapers at once, and also if you do get pregnant again when your child is 8 months old, you'll have to be really careful since babies and small children do tend to kick and if he kicks your stomach he could really hurt the new baby. There are a lot of things to think about.... not just wanting a new baby. When my daughter was born I decided to not have another one until she was out of diapers.

Sharyn - posted on 10/29/2009

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i wanted another one as soon as i had my lil girl but i soon realised that i'm glad we waiting because i am exhausted from her energy and middle of the night waking up .... and also you need time with your husband .... you know "lovers time" .....

Michelle - posted on 10/29/2009

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I would for sure enjoy your little one for a few more months.....I have a 2 yr old precious girl and a 9 month old handsome boy....they are 17months apart to the day....I have 2 in diaper...I will tell you it is hard at times...but I love it....We buy diaper alot but would not trade it for anything....My oldest was 8months when I found out I was preggo with my 2nd...My oldest love her "bubba"...They play together alot and she is a awesome helper!!!!....It is yall decision....Good Luck and congrats on your little one

Miriam - posted on 10/29/2009

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i think you should wait.

babies need a lot of attention, which i'm sure you have discovered, i have a 31/2 year old and an 8 mon old and sometime i don't have all the time i would like to have for my 3 1/2 year old. so imagine having them a couple of months a part. its going to be difficult, you should enjoy the time you have with your baby now, you'd be suprise how many things you may miss if you pregnant or have another infant to look after. in the end it is you choice, you will do what makes you and your husband happy. good luck

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I felt the same way we started trying again when my daughter was 5 months old thinking would take awhile again and well it happened first try but i couldnt be more happy! i'm excited that they will be 15 months apart i dont see anything wrong with that, i only see the positive. Do whats best for you you only know what that is

Tiah - posted on 10/29/2009

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uhm, id wait at least a year.. depends on how quick you convieved the last time..

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Your body is still healing from your pervious pregnancy and birth, and your hormones aren't back to normal yet. Focus your attention on taking care of the 2 month old and at least wait the 6 months. Personally, I can't imagine having another right now, and my son is 6 months old. He's doing so much fun stuff, but he's also a lot of work-and I'm in no hurry to multiply that. If I have another, I plan for this one to be out of diapers first.



I'm with the ladies who say you probably just miss being pregnant-and that alone is not enough reason to have a baby. Have you thought about all angles of this-physical, mental, emotional, financial-and how your partner feels about it?

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wow-just read some of your replies..not sure i am ever going to post a concern on here now that i have read them. i think it very sweet that you love your baby so much that you want to do it again..i dont think people mean harm by there suggestions of "get help" like there is something wrong with you. i am sure you are emotional and those suggestions just aren't helpful. Take it all in AND out...there is some good advice-we all just have a different way of sharing it, none right or wrong, just different. ENJOY that baby!

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i fell pregnant with my daughter when my son was 10 months old. i really have to say it is REALLY hard work. i am reliably told that in another 6 months ( my daughter is 9 months now) that it will get easier and i will be pleased with my decision, but right now i have to say i would not adviswe anyone to go this close. i feel guily that my son is really just a baby and does not get the attention he deserves, and guilty that my daughter does not get the attention my son had at her age. All together i know its hard to wait, but i think waiting til your 1st is at least 18 months before falling preganant again is better. just my opinion!!

Tina - posted on 10/29/2009

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I would wait give the baby you have now the love he needs then when his 1 and 1/2 think about it you don't want them to close in ages you will go crazy

Deanne - posted on 10/29/2009

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As a mom of 4 who are very close in age (I had 4 kids in 5 years) there are pros and cons to having them that close in age. My kids get a long really well, they all play together constantly. But, it was really hard on my husband and I in the beginning with so many little ones, I had 3 in diapers at once! That can be very stressful and tiring. There were days when I thought I couldn't do it...they all needed my attention and had needs that needed to be met constantly. But now I have 2 in school, and 2 at home, it does get easier...they are the best of friends and I don't have any regrets...just prepare yourself for no sleep, and constant busy! Good luck and email me if you have questions!! If I were you, I'd wait until your son is at least one...but that's just my opinion :)

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Having children close in age is wonderful! My first 3 are all with in the time frame you are thinking of. GO FOR IT!!! Naps and diapers all at once the first 2 potty trained together. There are many blessings to having them close in age.

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I would say wait. Your son and unconcieved child will (figuratively) thank you for it. I'm not saying that it can't be done, and I know quite a few women who have had children close together, as close together as 10 months apart (literally, the baby was born, 2 weeks later, she was pregnant again) and they all say the same thing IT WAS VERY VERY HARD and they WISH they had waited even just a year, to be able to give BOTH their children MORE undivided attention.



Whatever you choose, make sure you have A LOT of support and people around you to help, because if you get pregnant when your son is only 8 months old, you are GOING to need help for A LONG TIME. Please, at the very least, promise us that you will always ask for help when you need it, you may be a good mom but every good mom knows that asking for help is the best decision a good mom can make.

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I have felt that way since my son was born and he is now 2 years old. So I will tell you what I did. Think of it this way if you can answer yes to all of these questions them start trying other wise I would wait until you can answer them YES!!! Can you afford diapers for both kids? Do you want to be potty training them both at the same time, or one of them while taking care of the other? Can you afford the food and everything eles you might need for two kids right now? Do you have to pay for daycare, can you? That what i did and i waited until my son was 2. Now we still can't do some of those things but we might have to because i might already be pregnant. I know you might miss the belly and the way it made you feel, but think about how it might make your baby feel or his dad, and do whats best if you still want to after ready thing then GO FOR IT DON"T LET NO ONE HOLD YOU BACK!!!

Briar - posted on 10/28/2009

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My goodness...SLOWDOWN... some might say its hormones...But seriously i agree with all of the above..We all love our babies...were all so in love with them..Its that cluckyness that gets in the way. tho the reality is something quite different..

Dont wish his babyhood away in the murge of feelings because you want another 1.

take your time, enjoy the one you have.....because having more than 1 baby is ALOT of HARD work!! And its tru, you do miss out on lil things the individually do just bacause your so busy with both of the all the time! whats now Fun, turns into WORK!!

Kylie - posted on 10/28/2009

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I felt exactly the same way. I was brestfeeding at the time, and was told it was really hard to great pregnant whlie feeding, and I wasn't ready to give that up, so I feed until 6 months, and we decided to give my body a break for a few months, and started trying when my son was 8 months. We are still trying 3 months later. But I'm glad we waited, because now I think I'll be able to potty train my son before my next one is born, and they will be less then 2 years apart, which is what I really wanted.

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Just throwing in here my brother and I are 11 months apart. Currently we are the same age because my birthday is in October and his is in November. We worked together for awhile when we were younger. It confused people that we were the same age. With that said.... Give yourself time to heal and enjoy your new baby for awhile.

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It's true that its is up to you, but there are a LOT of angles to consider before making that decision. I have often heard that a woman's body needs time to heal from pregnancy and delivery before going through another pregnancy. Our bodies go through so much, not just in shape or size, but hormonally and emotionally. It takes some time to get everything back to normal again! It's not forever, and you already know you can get pregnant and carry a child to term, so you know you can do it again. ;-)

I had a rough first pregnancy. I started having pre-term contractions at around 18-20weeks, which led to early effacement and dilation, which all equaled about 4 months of bedrest. We were planning on having more kids eventually, but were SHOCKED when I was pregnant again 10 months after the first one! We had hoped that the early contraction thing was just a fluke the first time, but unfortunately it is all happening again. With this pregnancy, the contractions even started a little earlier - I was feeling them by 16 weeks, effacement had started, and I have been on modified bedrest ever since.

If you were to have a perfectly normal second pregnancy, with NO complications, you might be ok to have them so close together. But, trust me, if you end up with any issue that requires limiting your activity level, it will be TOUGH. My son is 17months now (getting close to 18mos), and I have to avoid picking him up, can't take walks with him or dance around the room (he loves to dance), he can't climb on me and if he sits on my lap too long I can feel the contractions start up. There is NO grocery shopping, NO doing housework, NO standing at the counter cooking dinner, NO taking my little dude to the zoo, NO playing outside, etc., etc. When I feel the contractions start sometimes I can stop and lay down (if #1 is napping), but it kills me that sometimes I simply don't have that option. I was blessed that he was an early walker - if I still had to carry him everywhere, things would be a LOT harder! I want to do the best thing for our little girl, but that often means giving up quality time and experiences with my son, which breaks my heart.

I love both of my children very very much, and I would never give up my daughter's presence in our lives. But, if I could have waited another year before getting pregnant again, I definitely would have! Wait a little longer - it's totally worth it!

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A friend of mine had babies close together and she is having such a hard time raising 2 little ones. Babies are great but you need to enjoy your little one now. Just think if you have another one than you can't devote as much time to your first born. It is your decision but I know if I was in your shoes I would wait and enjoy everything I could with my little one.

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Hello I have had six children all about 2 years a part. If I were you I would enjoy this little one for the time being. when he turns a year old I would think about more. remember theres still alot more to do with this little one like watching him roll over and sit up and crawl and walk. when he walks think about having another. Focus on the little things for right. You always have pletty of time to have another child.

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Hiya Jasmine,

You are getting some awesome advice from ladies who have obviously been in your shoes or who have some great experience.

I know how you feel. My little boy is 6.5 months, and he has been the easiest baby ( touch wood ), and I had such a fantastic pregnancy, that I am still on a high from being such a lucky mum!

My husband and I have decided though, to not start again until he is at least 1. Mostly due to our ages as we aren't getting any younger, but then by the time our 2nd angel comes around, hopefully they will be 2 years apart.

Give it just a little more time I think. Focus all your love and energy on your gorgeous baby now, so that both your angels will get the attention they deserve!!

Good luck and all the best xx

Kristie - posted on 10/28/2009

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Jasmine,

I never felt like you do but my sons are only 15 months apart. Boy do I have my hands full. My 1 year old is very active now he is in to everything. I have to try to keep track of him so he does not get into anything while I feed and change my little one. This can be very overwhelming at times. It also makes it hard to give each one individual attention like you want to. This can also make you feel like all you are is a mom. Their will be no time for you to take a break and breathe like you have now. I am not tell you not to do this because having children is the greatest gift. All I am saying is if you are going to do this just be prepared. Enjoy what you have for a while their is always more time for another child.

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Are you breast feeding? I ask this because I found that when I weaned my first son at 7-8 months I got this unbelievably strong urge to have another. My first period returned and then we conceived the next ovulation. There is an 18 month gap and I thought that was too close as at 18 months they are still babies. I've seen friends with a 2 year gap and the first child was less demanding and more helpful than my boy at 18 months.

Again as I weaned this time around when my son turned 12 months, my body got back into it's cycle and I was due for my first period and I had another huge urge to have another. I even put my facebook status that I wanted to go another time - friends thought I was insane. But we discussed the option and decided not now. Let's enjoy the two we have and see how we feel when they are ready for school. The feeling only lasted a week and now I look back and laugh at how passionate I was - wow how the female body is created to procreate again and again! So the desire is not your fault!

For me I found that two babies means - two nappies, different types of meals/bottles/formula when you're out, vast milestone gaps, then 12 months later you'll have two toddlers both throwing tantrums and running a muck - just because that's what toddlers do.

Good luck and keep us posted!

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It takes a year for your body to completely heal from giving birth so I would recommend waiting until your bundle of joy is a year old. However, you know what is best for your body and what you can handle so if you feel you are ready then go for it.

You said you want to wait until your newest bundle of joy is 8-months old so go on the pill for 5-months knowing that in when you come off your goal is to get pregnant.

Good luck!

Donna - posted on 10/28/2009

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When i went to see my doctor after my second for the pill she said she encourages people to have as many children as they want to have, but you should also allow time for your body to heal and your hormones to settle down. My friend has 4 children, 6,4,2 and 7 weeks old, and she copes really well she says waiting after a year to fall pregnant is the best.

Michelle - posted on 10/27/2009

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Okay some of these posts are crazy. I got pregnant with my daughter when my son was 9 months old (not planned but still a blessing). I am enjoying it. It can be hard and it can be crazy, but kids are. I don't regret it and I don't think I'm crazy. Both of my children get the attention they need. Nobody's left out. It's not selfish to want another baby. Neither of your children will suffer. If you want to go for it. You may feel differently by time you get there. But if you still do I say go for it. In the mean time enjoy your new little guy!

Sharon - posted on 10/27/2009

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Some of the posts on here are just plain mean! Fair enough Jasmine is asking for opinions but come on - at the end of the day if she has another baby - she's the one that will be caring for it, not us.

Whatever happened to, 'if you cant say something nice dont say anything at all'?

As for telling her she needs help, thats just nasty - some women just love being pregnant and once the baby is born miss that pregnant feeling. Does that mean they need help? Dont think so.

Good luck to you honey whatever you decide.

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you have been blessed to have a good pregnancy and newborn.. ultimatly if you're looking for advice or others stories you are trying to think about it.. my boys are 13 mos apart.. pg with 2 when the first was 3 mos.. neither of mine were planned lol.. but my husband and i decided that we could handle what God gave us, he knows whats best.. you're not crazy first of all.. you may want to take a lil more time to get usd to baby and body healing.. I got pg with 2nd after second period came back and i was bf the first.. and yes i was tired.. the first few months having both together was hard at times, my husband also travels a lot for work.. but i do just fine the boys love each other a lot.. it worked out very well for our family thank God like i said..so its u and ur husbands choice.. if your body is feeling great and you want them this close then i say go for it.. i'm constantly getting either complimented on my children.. but i also get the latter as far as how close they are in age and this and that.. when i do i just say well i must be a damn good mother to have gotten doubly blessed in a short time span.. so hey follow your heart and your husbands if its how you want it then do it. oh and btw, i have a wonderful relationship with my 2 yr old, he loves mommy no matter what

Cheyenne - posted on 10/27/2009

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You really need to discuss this with your doctor. It's very rough on the body to get pregnant again that soon after having a child full-term or otherwise. It's not unusual for new mothers to decide that they want to get pregnant again immediately. Part of the desire is from post-partum, part is from the jubilance that comes with being a new mother, and part is the desire to have their children grow up close due to the proximity in age.

Take a step back, talk to your husband, and your doctor. You have a lot of time to think about this even if you do move forward with your plan, you should not rush a decision that affects you, your husband, your new child, and your unborn child.

My children are 3 years apart and extremely close with one another, to the point that you would almost wonder if they were twins. You don't always have to have them 9 months apart for your children to grow up close :)

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Seriously?? Why would you want to? Do you realize how hard that is on your body? Also on the baby, you are carrying. YOu don't have your mineral reserves and things back up.



Also like the other moms have stated; its hard when they are so close, there is little area for a breat. I personally didn't have #2 close to #1, but have a few close friends that did. After watching them, there is NO way I would do it that way. For a few reasons Baby #1 gets left out on things because #2 needs Mommy. Baby #1 doesn't get the full attenetion of mommy. As I said earlier very hard on Mommy's body.



I also think its some what selfish! really you can't wait til baby is a year? And also what if you don't get pregnant right away? or you have problems? Are you going to dwell on that and not give baby #1 your full attention?

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I think you should avoid all negative comments, especially the first one, comments like that are very unhelpful and damn right rude to comment on your sanity.She knows nothing about you. My son is 7 months old and we are going to try again in the new year. If u feel your body is ready and you feel you can cope with two babies under two then that is your choice. I felt exactly the same when my son was a few months old but i personally decided to watch him grow and do all the wonderful things babies do. Give it another 6-8 weeks and you will be occupied with all the new things your little one is doing. All the best whatever you decide.

Havala - posted on 10/27/2009

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hi...i accidentally got pregnant when my son was 4 months my pregnancy was really hard on my body i became very anemic and was always exhausted it was really hard for me to be the best mom to my son luckily i have a wonderful husband that was always there to help. my babies are 13 months apart my son is 16 months and my daughter is now 3 months the first 2 months were very challenging. my son had to get used to almost all my attention on the new baby and he is a real mommas boy also it really is like having 2 babies at the same time he was still getting weaned off bottles and waking sometimes during the night. my son adjusted to the change very well but not all babies do. now looking back i dont regret having them close together because i think about the future and how it will be so much nicer that there close in age. i think that waiting till he is 8 months old to get pregnant is a good idea they will be 18 months apart and i think thats way better than 13 months. it wont be as hard because he will be much more independant by that time the little one is born. i love that i had them close together it isnt easy now but in the long run it's really worth it.

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if its what you really want then why not?! its hard work but soo worth it! my youngest 2 are 4 & 5 now and although at first it was alot of hard work and sleepless nights there is a light at the end of the "tunnel"!! its twice as rewarding and i found it alot easier than having 1 then waiting for the next (my eldest is 9!) there birthdays are in july and august and they are the very best of friends and also the worst of enimies!!!! ultimatly it is your choice but i dont see any harm in it!!!! good luck xx

Colleen - posted on 10/27/2009

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i think sometimes postpartum the desire is stronger. i have 2,and they are 19mos apart.i would have spaced them farther apart, but my clock was ticking. it is really hard! i have friends with a bigger age gap and it is alot easier.

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I did it, and i have got through it, i had my first 29th november 2007 and when she was 2 months old i fell pregnant again wasnt planned i must admit, and my second came 12th november 2008, nearly a year on i wouldnt change it, they are so close, it nice they have each other to play with. Believe me through it can be hard at times, there are more things to worry about when there is two of them, when my second was first born it was very hard, but im starting to see the benefits of having them close together as now they are playing with each other and its great. I think you should do what you want to do, i found it really easy carrying my first child and my labour was fine, so i healed really quickly so my second pregnancy was fine as well no problems and labour was fine. i am having a break now lol but in the future as i have two girls i would like to try for a boy but 3 or 4 years down the line.

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I understand wanting to have your kids close together, but it's really better to wait at least a few more months. It's better for your health and your next baby's health to wait. Your body needs time to recover, and the earlier you get pregnant, the more likely it is for your next baby to be premature. It won't be the be-all in your decision on when you have another, but it is something you should consider.

More importantly, enjoy your son while he's still a baby! Slow down and concentrate on this baby. He has a lot of growing to do, and it will go by faster than you realize. My baby just turned 2, and we're still debating when to try to give him a younger sibling.



If you really feel like this is an all-consuming obsession, and it's preventing you from enjoying your son, you should consider talking to your doctor, or even your son's doctor. They may be able to help.

Beth - posted on 10/27/2009

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I know exactly how you feel because I feel that way now. My little one is 9 mo. now, but my husband and I have been trying to get pregnant with our second one for 4 months now. My brother and I was 5 yrs apart, so I was determined to have my kids closer. In my opinion getting pregnant right now with your son being 2 mo. is a little close. My husband and his brother is a year apart, and my mother-in-law said it was very difficult having two boys so close together. But, ultimately, it is your decision. If you feel that are ready and your husband agrees, then go for it. But, make sure your husband agrees with the whole thing. My husband never wanted me to go on birth control, but I did anyway. Baby fever really didn't hit me hard again until my daughter was 4 or 5 mo. It is hard to fit the urge, but if you are ready to handle two babies in diapers then good luck. Also, remember every pregnancy is different, so just because your first was good/bad doesn't mean the next one will be the same. Good luck with your decision.

Dawn - posted on 10/27/2009

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One of the most amazing things a person can experience is being pgI felt the same exact way after I had my first child. I have four children 14,12,7 and 5. My older two are 22 months apart and my younger two are 18 months apart with a 5 1/2 year gap between the sets. My oldest son (7) was only 9 months when I got pg with my youngest. The hardest part about having them close in age was money. Because you have two in diapers at the same time and that is very costly. (KUDOS to all the moms out there that have 2 or more at a time.) I loved being pg so much. I still go through "baby blues". I would definately wait till your son is at least 8 to 9 months But if you feel you are ready for another one then go for it. The only person that knows for sure if you can handle it is you.

Isobel - posted on 10/27/2009

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Think about this seriously...having them close together has its positives and its negatives. My daughter was 10 months when I got pregnant with my second.

The first year having both of them was BRUTAL! One wasn't sleeping because he was a newborn, the other because she was teething. Breastfeeding and bottles of milk for the older one, diapers for both...breastfeeding one while the other is learning to climb...it's a wonder I survived to be honest.

Now, though, it's an entirely different story. They are able to play together, entertain each other, they "get" each other on a level that I have never experienced.

good luck with your choice...by the way, I just think you miss being pregnant.

Jamie - posted on 10/27/2009

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Quoting Kerri:

your crazyto have them that close



I don't think so. It helps that I was in my 30 when I had them. I think I waited so long before having them that I knew that's what I wanted. I am really glad i did.

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Quoting Kerri:

your crazyto have them that close



I don't think so. It helps that I was in my 30 when I had them. I think I waited so long before having them that I knew that's what I wanted. I am really glad i did.

Tabitha - posted on 10/27/2009

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I found out that I was pregnant again when my children were 6 years and the baby was 8 months old. Then I found out I was having twins. My children are now 8, 3, and the twins almost 2. My 3 youngest are so close. We wasn't planning to get pregnant at that time, and I wish that it would have happened the way we had planned. We wanted to be able to tell everyone Thanksgiving or Christmas that we were expecting. The twins were born 3 days after Thanksgiving. I would not recomend having your children so close. I have had several complications from having the children so close together. I have also had a hard time loosing the baby weight and stomach because my body didn't have time to go back to normal between the pregnancies. Hope this helps, but remeber that it is your choice to make. As long as you and your husband are happy with the choices that you make I say do what you want.

Jamie - posted on 10/27/2009

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If it helps. My boys are 13 months apart. You figure that the baby will be born 9 months after you get pregnant. My boys are now 12 and 13 and are the best of friends and worst of enemies. If you want it, go for it, you will be glad you did. You will be busy the first 3 or 4 years, but it does get easier. Good luck

Sunni - posted on 10/27/2009

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This is a reply to Sharon Grey this is not how you should speak to anyone especially a new mom. please think before you post this was not a nice way to talk to her.

Jessica - posted on 10/27/2009

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We waited until our oldest was 6 months before trying for the second one. It took us until she was 9 months to get pregnant. I love that they are close together but it was alot of work! I would talk to your doctor about having one so soon, I think that it would be better to wait a few more months.

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