Stephanie - posted on 10/04/2011 ( 12 moms have responded )
General I don't do this but my husband and I are running out of options.
Let me start at the beginning, my husband and I have been together two and a half years and recently got married. We lived together for two years and we combined our families, he has two kids from a previous marriage and I have one child from a previous relationship (his father isn't in the picture and my husband plans to adopt). Just recently we changed their schools because of the moving around. I made sure they were enrolled before the school year even started so they wouldn't get behind.
Our oldest is a girl (in fourth grade) and although she has a few problems reading, this year she has got numerous detentions, caught copying other kids work, not doing homework, forging our signature on bad grades, and lying to us. We can't figure out why exactly this is going on. Our middle child is a boy in third grade and his behavior (although not good) hasn't changed much but he has been getting detentions, lying about homework and bad grades. He's always acted up in school and we can't figure out why they are acting like this. Is it the change in schools? Is it our recent next step in our relationship and the marriage causing them to act out?
When they get home from school everyday, they say school was great and they made a bunch of friends there so their words and actions are saying two different things. My husband and I can't figure out why. When we decipline them we ground them and take their toys. Nothing seems to work.
Our youngest (who is two) doesn't act any different with the marriage but he is two plus my husband has been around since he was about 5 months old or so. Is it me maybe? The two older ones see me as trying to take their biological mothers spot in their life?? I just don't know and I don't have anyone else to turn too.
Please any advice, ideas, or suggestions would be appricated.. Thank you