Kids wearing their PJs out in public.

Aliska - posted on 08/24/2010 ( 53 moms have responded )

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What is it with parents who make their kids wear their PJs out in public? I'm not talking babies and toddlers here but school-aged kids. Is there a piece of legislation that I'm not aware of that says you are not allowed to put day clothes back on after an evening bath/shower? I see lots of older kids being dragged around the supermarket or out collecting siblings from evening activities in their PJs. I feel that this is really undignified for the child and also in winter it must be bloody cold as well. I've seen kids as old as 11 or 12 out with their parents in PJs and dressing gowns. I mean how long does it take to change into them when you get your kids home and really if they are that tired is it any big deal if they sleep in their clothes? I love to find out why parents do this to their kids.

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What makes you think the parents are making them? I have more important issues to fight w/ my kids than what they wear.....

Barbara - posted on 08/28/2010

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I raised my daughter the way I was raised. When you leave the house you represent yourself the family and you will represent in a respectful way. Have enough repsect for yourself to dress and act appropriately. If you do not have that respect for yourself you can not expect others to.

Until my child moved out at age 22, sorry no PJ's in public unless it was halloween or ER run. Some parents allow it simply because they do not want to be the parent or have time to be bothered with it, or are simply in to big of a hurry to stop and teach the child the right things to do (I think they call it "self expression" LOL) -- they allow the child to run the home. Then wonder what happens later on when the child doesn't respect them. You see it everywhere you go. And unfortunately it starts very young now.

Karen - posted on 08/24/2010

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My guess would be either the kids want to and the parents are fine with it, or the parents are thinking the kids might fall asleep on the way home and it'll be a lot easier if they're already in pj's. Does it really matter?

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What it comes to, is that these parents are not forcing them to wear PJ’s they are letting them. Seems like parents have replaced rules, morals and discipline with letting their kids do whatever they want. They would rather turn their heads and ignore the situation than to fix it. What they don’t know, is if they had slowly built these manners, rules, morals and discipline little by little easily on, they would not have the problems they have today. These same kids are rude and have no respect for others. My kids know the rules and they have chores.

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L Danielle - posted on 06/09/2014

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This is an old question, however, it is ridiculous. Who cares? How does this have to do with morals, respect, or discipline, and good lord, how does it make a child rude????, to wear pjs out in, gasp, public??? My children can wear whatever they choose to wear, it's a part of them being who they are! If they want to wear a tie dyed shirt and striped pants I don't care! They shouldn't be made to feel as if they should "conform" to society's standards or that they should actually care what others think! Self esteem is built from within, and your child should not be shamed for choosing to be who they are! Bigger battles my friend, bigger battles! Good God, we lost our 6 day old full term baby a few months ago to a fatal disease called Trisomy 13...what we wouldn't do to get her back, and trust me, we wouldn't care what she chose to WEAR.

Peri-Ann - posted on 06/07/2012

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Im not a mum but im a aurtie and a big sister to litte ones and sometimes its the easies way like i used to go to a swimming club nd most of the young swimmers used to put on there pjs wen they was done cos it was late nd it just made it easier,nd sometimes its there choice 11 nd 12 yr olds finde it funny to wear pjs in public been there done that! sometimes u just need to look a bit deeper no ofenses! hope your qreation has been awnsered! :)

Jenny - posted on 08/28/2010

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My friend lets her daughter wear her pj top to school due to the fact she doesn't want to fight with her in the morning to get dressed.

Sylvia - posted on 08/28/2010

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Maybe it was Pyjama Day at school? ;^)

If the kids don't mind it (or maybe it's the kids' idea! I certainly wouldn't waste time and energy arguing if DD decided she wanted to wear her jammies to the grocery store, as long as they covered her knees and elbows etc.), I'm not really sure what the problem is. At least they're wearing *something*, unlike some kids one sees around here whose parents let them go out in short shorts and minuscule tops with spaghetti straps ::shudder::

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I think equally wearing pj's in public w/ having no morals is a bit of a stretch. Simply because, as long as they are modestly covered, I chose not to fight what my children wear does not mean ANYTHING as far as how kind, honest, caring, etc... they are. Really? I think judging what a person WEARS and calling them lazy and immoral when you don't know anything else about them shows far less morals......

Brenda - posted on 08/28/2010

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I think that society has made for a lot of, out of the norm allowance. We as a society, tend to tolerate more then we did a few generations ago. With busy lifestyles parents have bigger issues to deal with then what their children are wearing when heading out the door. In my opinion as long as the clothing is clean and tidy, why not????????

Angela - posted on 08/28/2010

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I personally don't take my kids out in their pjs, but I think that it is every parent's right to take their children out in whatever they see fit, as long as the child is happy to go out in that...I think most of the times the children just want to stay in the pjs after a bath, and don't want to get dressed...its hard to reason with a child if they don't want to do something, and anyway who is it hurting, you? If you don't want to take your kids out in their pjs, don't...but don't judge others who do...

Angie - posted on 08/27/2010

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I see high school and adults out in their pajamas all the time. I think it's silly and just plain lazy. At 11 or 12 it shows the lazyness, not of the child, but of the parents because they're not willing to discipline their children. My gosh, teach them to care about themselves more than that!

Donna - posted on 08/27/2010

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My kids wear them on their own. I don't argue about it - there are too many other important thing. Believe me if I thought I could get away with it, I'd wear mine! Nothing is more comfy than a nice set of flannel pajama pants....

Kim - posted on 08/26/2010

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I honestly thought I was the only mom that thought doing that was wacko. Doesn't going out in jammies kind of defeat the purpose of going to bed in clean clothes? I know my kids always find a way to get grubby. I usually wait until right before bed to bathe and put on jammies. I totally agree that it is undignified to have to wear pj's in public just because your momma doesn't want to bother with you later. I dunno...just glad to see I am not the only one :)

Cassidy - posted on 08/26/2010

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I also feel like I have better things to waste my time arguing with 3 two year olds about...whether it be a ballet tu-tu, a Halloween costume, or a Dora nightgown, if that's what they wanna wear, as long as they have clothes on, I could care less.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/26/2010

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Have you ever thought that it's not the parents? My children would rather were there pj's then change back into clothes. And as long as it is not inappropriate there is nothing undignified about it. In fact some of the pj's I've seen the kids wearing has more clothing then what they were otherwise.

Natasha - posted on 08/26/2010

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some children might want to, or dont want to get dressed in everyday clothes. especially when they are not well. did you ever think of that maybe, or you might be right. some parents might be that lazzy and not bath and dress their children. thats what i call a sunday. but i dont drag my three out. we just hang around the house like it.

Elisabeth - posted on 08/26/2010

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With you on this one, I find it a bit dirty too. As soon as my kids wake up in the morning they are straight out of their pj's and into day clothes. And they don't go into it until after dinner and that is if we are not going anywhere. Then again I am pretty pedantic about how myself and my chidren look, always have nice clothes, shoes, brushed hair and teeth and clean faces. I don't make them where designer clothes or anything but you don't need to have the most expensive clothes to dress your child nicely. I find it so gross when a child is bear-foot, as well as it being dangerous.

I often see it when I pick someone up from the airport at 6;30pm, the kids will be running around, sitting on the groud and climbing on things in their pjs and they are going to climb into bed like that with god knows what on them. (Yes I know I'm being anal). But on the other had...each to their own. Sometimes I even see adults in their pj's at the supermarket, lazy much? 8-)

Sharon - posted on 08/26/2010

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I dont like seeing older kids in ther pj's. I have an 8 month old and after his breakfast he is straightout of his jammies and into his day clothes. He only gets his pjs back on one hes had a bath and hes reddy for bed :)

Gail - posted on 08/25/2010

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one of my pet hates, but where I work, I see the odd adult rock up in pj's, bare feet!

Abbie - posted on 08/25/2010

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I too don't see a problem with this. My son is a stickler when it comes to changing clothes. Once bath is done, jammies go one. Not that we usually ever go out anywhere after bath time, but if we would have to, his jammies would be on. As far as winter, what they are just in jammies no coats? I can't say from what you have seen, but as far as for us or my personal thought- really who cares. I guess I'd rather see little kids in jammies then teenagers walking around half naked.

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Well... like I said in an earlier post to someone else... Don't come to Hawaii. One of the leaders of our church used to (maybe still does.. not sure) lead worship barefooted. ;)

Tricia - posted on 08/25/2010

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I don;t mind sseeing kids in PJ's..... that is 10 years or less. I think it is ok.... it is the teenage girls and the 20 year old that go out in their PJ I object to... as well as adults & teens with no shoes.....

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I took my 2 year old to the store in his jammies this morning. He barely woke up before I had to leave (at 7:15) to get his sisters to school and we had to get milk before we came home.

Which is better? Letting a toddler get his sleep or worrying about whether or not I will be judged by some random stranger in the store for something that is absolutely NONE of their business....... ;)

Jennifer - posted on 08/25/2010

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I'm sorry but I disagree....I have four kids ages 2-8 and I have let my kids go out in their jammies. They want to especially the younger ones. But as a mom of 4 if we can have one step done for bedtime that is a big help. Don't pick on the kids in Jammies...they are just too cute : )

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Who cares!!! My 5 yr old has worn her pajamas out in public lots of times.. If we need to run to the store, or whatever, what difference does it make? I wouldn't take my kids out to a restaurant in jammies, but other than that it really isn't a big deal.

Alicia - posted on 08/25/2010

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Who cares? With everything else parents need to worry about now a days, that is such a minor thing! I think its terrible how kids younger and younger want to wear designer labels!! That sickens me more than seeing a kid in their pj's! Like my nephew said in junior high "Mom, could you stop buying me all these tshirts that say ABERCROMBIE all over them and just buy me some plain tshirts!" The parents create their label conscience children! Let them all wear PJ's!! I'm more worried about whether my children are clean, polite and respectful!

Tracy - posted on 08/25/2010

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It's not my choice for my kids, but those other kids aren't mine, so not my place to judge. They're dressed and shoes are on. Ok.
Now, I have had to go pick up my son from scouts with his father when it was nearly my girl's bedtime. I'll get her bathed and pj'ed up for bed, then go get him. She never getts out of the car though. I've even had both of them jammy up on the way home from a day trip out of town, that way they can crawl immediantly in bed.
Seems that there are bigger issues to concern oneself with than someone else's child's attire. Unless there are obvious signs of neglect/abuse, of course. But that would fall under the "more important issues" catagory

Schyla - posted on 08/25/2010

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Tacky or not it's nobody's business how or what someone elses kids were if you don't like then don't look. really there are many more important things you could be worried about. I don't like seeing a mother who is dressed and looks nice with kids with dirty faces and ratty hair yet I just simply look away the only person you have any say about is yourself and your children, if they don't mind then that's that.

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i have issues with parents taking there kids to out to the store bathing suits that is inappropriate. if its late i need to run to the store as long as my kid has nice clean appropriate pj's on she is coming out with me.. i think it is to cold in the winter but in florida parents bring there kids to the market in bathing suits and i dont think that is cool

Johnny - posted on 08/25/2010

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And don't most 11 and 12 year olds choose their own clothes. I'm guessing that those kids you see being dragged around the supermarket in the pajamas chose that for themselves.

Johnny - posted on 08/25/2010

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I'm really not sure why this happens. The boy across the street from us is always in pj's, but his sister is always properly dressed (she's younger) so I've assumed that it is probably because he wants to wear the pj's and his mother is wise enough to pick her battles. Kids are less concerned with abstract concepts like dignity and appropriate attire than most adults are, so when I see kids in their pj's, I usually figure that it was the child's choice. My daughter has yet to argue about what to wear, I so I still get to dress her up as I please, as long as she gets to wear her Canada jacket (yes, I know it's too hot for the summer, lol). But I am sure there will come a time when she wants to wear her pj's to the store, and even though I'd be embarrassed, I will allow it, because I think it is a really stupid thing to make a fuss over. The only time I've put my daughter in pj's to go out was if I was going to pick up my husband late from work and I was afraid that she'd fall asleep in the car. I wouldn't want to wake her to change her and then have to try to get her back to sleep again. Hmmm... I wonder how many people I saw were judging me for taking my child out in her pj's.

Lisa - posted on 08/24/2010

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If it's evening and u have to pick up one of you older kids from somewhere i don't see what the problem with it is. During the day maybe a different story. But than u also don't know why. Has the child got a mental disability? Has the child got an illness u are unaware of? You can't judge someone becaue u think it is tacky. Maybe ppl might look at you and think dis agree with stuff u do.

Paula - posted on 08/24/2010

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Got to argree with you I wouldnt put my children in Pjs for a public outing . We see children at the local bistro at 6pm in pjs and it just looks wrong in a busy public eating space. We need to be the teachers and example setters for children and it may seem trivial to some but that begins from birth and yes even teaching them what is and isnt appropriate clothing depending on environment. As for grown women wearing pjs in public thats just really wrong and no one wants to see that. Having pride in your appearance has nothing to do with money, class or background its just about common sense and self pride.

Aliska - posted on 08/24/2010

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I’m not talking about little kids, I know that they are happy going out wearing anything or nothing!
My kids are happy to spend entire weekends and school hols in their PJs but would always change to go out. They and their friends would feel totally humiliated if someone else they knew saw them in their PJs at the supermarket or any other public place.
With the kids that I see regularly out in PJs it seems that parents’ convenience is a higher priority than the dignity or comfort of the child. I see school-aged younger siblings regularly turn up at choir practice in PJs and have to hang around from 6:30 to 9:00 pm while they wait for their sister in the choir. The older sister even seems to be embarrassed as she’s often asked by the other kids why her younger sisters are dressed like that. I also think that on cold winter nights waiting around outside to collect siblings from activities, kids would have to be warmer and more comfortable in their warm winter clothes than PJs, dressing gown and bare ankles between PJ legs and slippers.
While I personally wouldn’t have taken my kids out in public in their night clothes when they were pre-schoolers, I can see why others might as you have to pick your battles with this age group and you don’t have energy for them all. School age kids can easily dress and undress themselves and get to a point where they are quite self-conscious (rightly or wrongly) about their appearance and what their peers think. This age group should be afforded a little respect and paraded in their night clothes in public.

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I know a lot of teens that wear pajamas as a fashion statement (and that's by their own choice). As for younger kids, if you anticipate that they will fall asleep in the car, you certainly don't want to wake them to put on pajamas. It's easier to take them straight to their bed. I'm just happy to see that the child has something on. I am more bothered by children with no shoes, no coat, or babies in a diaper and nothing else. I'm sure there are many children wearing pajamas because their day clothes are being washed and they don't own any additional ones!

Keshia - posted on 08/24/2010

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i agree with you so much I work at walmart and im like what as these people thinking even if the child wants to wear them I wouldnt never allow it my son just turned a year on the 5th and I would never allow him to dress like that I always make sure he looks good when we go out in public and I make sure he has shoes on and most of the time a hat too just to top off his outfit when I see a child or a adult in pjs all I can think is wow these people are so lazy they cant even put something together quick I understand if you dont have alot of money but Im sure you have something more than pjs it just looks trashy and not appropriate

Carol - posted on 08/24/2010

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Alot of kids and some adults lik to wear there pj out. I have done it and so does my little girl sometimes. It's not an all the time thing, Most of the time we are in clothing. But if people want to wear them out that's there business .

Nikki - posted on 08/24/2010

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My son is 14 months and we give him a bath every night right after dinner around 6-7 he usually doesnt go down til 9 sometimes we take the dog for an evening walk and we take our son to tire him out, Im not going to change him out of pjs to put on clothes to change him back into pjs, especially if we bring the stroller and he falls asleep in it. Im sure by 11 or 12 the child is making the choice to want to wear them, more so then the parent...... what does it matter, its night time, as long as they are dressed then really there is not much to complain about

Amanda - posted on 08/24/2010

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I hate to burst your little rant, but it isnt embarassing for a 11-12 year old out in their PJs its actually a fashion statement, most of them are making themselves. I am sure its the parents that are the embarassed ones (I know I am one of those parents). And why would ANY parent be changing a 11-12 year old??

Kelina - posted on 08/24/2010

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Lol Tara I totally agree! At least they are wearing something and if i remember, maybe it's not anymore but when i was in highschool it was the height of fashion to wear your pj's all day. Then again so was wearing your pants halfway down your butt which is still in fashion somehow. I figured the schools would have found a way to ban that by now lol. But like other moms have said it's a whole lot easier to have no battle or one battle than three! And if you're only going to be out in public for a few minutes whats the point? Because yes! It can be that difficult to change them into clothes and then back into their pj's! Especially with more kids.

Morgan - posted on 08/24/2010

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I dont mind seeing kids or preteens wearing jammies in public, BUT I hate seeing kids ANY age without shoes on
GROSS!!!!!!!!!!

Sarah - posted on 08/24/2010

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I actually kinda like seeing kids who have obviously dressed themselves- not so much the pj's thing, but the hawaiian shirt, necktie, bright orange swimsuit look that my nephew had when they camke to pick me up from the airport. The first thing he said to me was, "I dressed up to come see you!" LOL

Shannon - posted on 08/24/2010

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In the evening I don't see it being an issue. I can see wanting them ready to just crawl into bed if its going to be about that time when you get home. I know how hard it is to get my 2 yr old to change clothes when he is tired and just wants to go to bed and do not imagine it is any easier with a young school aged child. However, I did see a family whos kids were wearing PJs at the aquarium when I took my son in the spring and I felt that was a little uncalled for just because it was a family outing to an attaction. Heck I have worn my pj bottoms and tee shirt to the store, to run errands/pay bills, and in my younger yrs even to the bar I regularly hung out at one evening bc I had work the next morning and hadn't been planning on going in the first place.

Tara - posted on 08/24/2010

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I have to say it's likely the kids making the choice and if their parents don't mind then who cares? Is it really important?
I've seen some attire on pre teen girls that makes me wish they would wear their flannel pj pants and a t shirt instead.

Andrea - posted on 08/24/2010

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I see adults wearing their pj's out in public all the time. Now that's weird!

Renae - posted on 08/24/2010

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I remember being young enough to be allowed to wear my pjs out side of the house. My mother didn't like it at all (she doesn't go to the corner store unless fully dressed, hair done and makeup on). I thought it was great fun. Also if they fall asleep in the car they can be put straight to bed. And its easier if they are already ready for bed when mums have been rushing around having a late evening. I cant comment about my own baby, he is 17mo, but I dont have a problem with it when I see it.

Amy - posted on 08/24/2010

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My son is 4 if he got to choose he wouldn't wear clothes EVER! So if we need to run out and he wants to wear pjs I'm going to let him if it means I can get out of the house in less then 30 minutes. Also if I pick him up from my in-laws after work and I need to stop at the grocery store I'm not going to change him because I have to walk into the store for 2 minutes.

Karen - posted on 08/24/2010

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not trying to be rude but did you ever think it's not the parents, but at that age, the kids making the choice to wear their pj's out? my little cousin is always fighting to wear his pj's...no matter where they are going. to be honest, as long as they're wearing clothing of some type, fighting with my child is at the bottom of my list of battles that i'm going to waste my time on...and yes, if i can save a little time on a busy evening, then my son will be/is put into pj's before doing a run to the store...mind you he's not school aged, but i'm sure it's not going to change in the near future either.

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