kodey is 8mnths old n still doesnt sleep through nite. y wouldnt he b? how can i get him to?
Regina - posted on 11/27/2008
Thank you johanna Wright. Another book which is basicaly a mirror to your suggestion is The No Cry Sleep Solution.
My son had several sleep issues the worst included hitting ,scratching, head butting me the bed the wall the crib this all when I was with him trying to put him to sleep or back to sleep. He wouldn't even settle in my bed in my arms being ribbed and sang to. Anyway we tried everything even the cry it out method. I know people who it worked wonders for but it does not work for my son and tore my heart into pieces. No offense to those of you who like it. Every child and family is different.
The methods in these books take time, patience, and consistancy. but THEY WORK!!!
We started this approach at 19 months (thats when i discovered this book) By 20 months my son is finally sleeping through the night and if he does wake we run in say night night tuck his little covers tight and all of us settle back to our own beds to peacefully drift back to sleep.
Sorry so long if you want to know what we did our anything else please let me know. Good luck!
LET HIM CRY IT OUT! Give it three nights of him screaming and crying, and I will almost guarantee that he sleeps through the fourth night. You can do this as soon as a baby is 10 lbs AND has control of their neck (weight + developmental sign). My baby is 14 weeks old and has slept for 6-9 hours straight at night since 9 weeks - every night!
Beverley - posted on 11/24/2008
I have an 11 month old that still doesn't sleep through - she usually wakes up once throughout the night. I personally am just going to try and follow natures lead and hope when i stop breast feeding at twelve months she might sleep through. If your feeling pressured by people around you that he should be sleeping through, don't be, i know plenty of mums that soothed their bubs thorugh the night right up to two years of age. If the reason is because you have generally had enough then i would try the controlled crying technique - that is what my mother used for my brother and me when we were little and we were sleeping through by three months of age. Trust your instincts.
Laurie - posted on 11/24/2008
As others have mentioned, give a 10 minute rule. Don't go rush in there until 10 minutes have passed. When it's time and they are still crying go comfort them tuck them in...DO NOT pick them up to hold or snuggle them. You'll be looking for trouble if you do that. It's harder for you than for the child and needs to learn to sleep before they get much older and things get worse.
Valarie - posted on 11/24/2008
I agree with a routine. I have twin boys who have been sleeping through the night since 2 months. They get regular naps during the day so they aren't over-tired but their night routine was established when I brought them home from the NICU. A good heavy meal, breads and grains take awhile to digest and his tummy can work on it at night while he is sleeping. A bath and let him play, water gets everyone sleepy. Then pj's, lots of play for more tuckering, and a night bottle. Mix some oatmeal with his bottle, so again, he can digest while he's sleeping. He's used to eating every few hours during the day, so his tummy needs food at night. If he wakes up and wants to play, don't make eye contact, tuck him in, and let him cry. It isn't cruel - it is teaching him night is for sleeping and day is for playing. You'll both be happier for it and you'll be better able to take care of him when you're happier :) Good luck!
Carrie - posted on 11/24/2008
my little guy still doesn't sleep through consistently (18mo). I don't believe CIO is right for everyone and you have to choose what's right for you. also, keep in mind that developmental milestones will mess with his sleep, so if he's crawling recently, pulling up, etc that will lead to sleep disruption. I don't believe a baby that small can manipulate you either... sure, they learn that crying leads to mommy coming to get them, but isn't that a good thing - that he is able to communicate with his mom and have his needs met? I know it's tiring... co-sleeping is our solution, just try to do what's right for you.
Carrie - posted on 11/24/2008
Naps are a definite for kids.....and parents. The only thing that I can think of is letting him cry it out. It sucks to listen to your kid scream, but it really does work. It took a while for me to do it with my oldest and she didn't sleep through the night until she was three years old. I was determined not to let that happen with my second one and I didn't. She cried it out and slept through the night by 6 months old. Just let him cry it out. It usually takes two to three nights of this, but it really does work. I would try it over a weekend so that you can take turns getting up. Hope that helps you!
Brenda - posted on 11/24/2008
Liz...I didn't read all the post so sorry if this a repeat. I have a 10mo who isn't sttn either (((yawn))) Anyway what has helped us recently is a schedule. I've found that when he naps good during the day he actually sleeps better at night. I've recently read "The No Cry Sleep Solution" Here is a link to some of her sleep tips http://www.pantley.com/elizabeth/advice/...
Hang in there :O)
p.s. Sleep is for the weak...LOL ;o)
Susanne - posted on 11/24/2008
My son was sleeping through the night at 8 weeks and we haven't had any problems since. He is now 1 1/2 years old. A regular schedule is the best advice I can give. He goes to bed at 7:30pm, gets up at 6am and naps at 10am and 2 pm. To get him to start sleeping through the night I let him cry himself back to sleep if he woke up. There were times he cried for an hour, but if I went in he just got worse. It only takes a few nights of that, thank goodness!
Colleen - posted on 11/24/2008
I left mine to cry, you can tell if they need something or not by the cry. If she cried for what I felt was too long then I would go in. It actually worked out quite well cause now when she's up in the middle of the night I hear her playing with her toys, she is very happy. sometimes it feels mean but in the long run it is better for Both of you. My child is very independant and she wouldn't be if I ran to her every cry!
Tanya - posted on 11/24/2008
One of mine did that to me. He wanted a bottle but wouldn't even finish it. I started to put water in his bottle he'd get mad but I wouldn't offer anything else. Eventually he must have figured forget it then and started sleeping! Good luck.
Donna - posted on 11/24/2008
If you are up in the middle of the night keep it as dark and quiet as possible. Nighttime is boring. Daytime is fun mommy time. Keep the naps, you should sleep then too!
Is he teething? Maybe a pain killer before bed will help. Get the longest lasting type you can find.
In regards to 'your child knows you will come running if you cry' -- a baby significantly less than 18 months is far from a machiavellian manipulator. If they're crying, there's a reason. 'Cry it out' strategies, though beloved of folks since the early 1930s (when, by the way, the best medical opinions said that babies were too fragile to be picked up and should NEVER be touched, if you could help it!), are somewhere between neglect and torture, and lead to behavioral problems down the line, because they teach your child that no one will meet their needs, and that the world is cold, dangerous, and scary.
My son has been sleeping through the night since 3 months old....I read ALOT about sleeping through the night and I read that it is the development of the nervous system that determines sleeping through the night....However, I did try and follow the following list of things and I can only hope that it did help:
1. Routine is key....my son gets the same routine at bedtime, cereal with fruit around 7:30pm and a bottle between 8:30 and 9.
2. If it's bath night, he gets the bath between the cereal feeding and the bottle feeding.
3. He take 2 naps a day....9am for about 2 hours and again at 2/2:30pm for 2 hours...then he's only awake for about a total of 3-4 hours before bedtime so he's not quite overtired at that point.
4. At around 7 months I started the cry it out method because he could not soothe himself to sleep....it was nerve racking listening to him cry and I had to do this for about 3 weeks at every nap...... but he no longer screams when he sees me leave the room.
We did notice that he wakes through the night whenever he gets his vaccines....that seems to throw him off for about week.....
Hope these tips help!
Jacqueline - posted on 11/24/2008
I was told by my doctor that my son knows that I will come running once he starts to cry, so I need to let him cry it out a little or if you have to go into the room try not to pick him up, just try and get him back to sleep with him in the crib. I did that last night and it worked. Joey got up but a rubbed his back and he fell back to sleep and stayed in his bed till this morning. Good luck
Johanna - posted on 11/24/2008
The best book I've read about sleep problems is The Sleepeasy Solution. It helps you identify the specific reasons your child isn't sleeping and how to fix those things. My son would go in phases of sleeping and then not sleeping for various things like teething or major development changes or just transition in our lives. He's 13 months and now sleeping again since his molars are done coming in.
Barbara - posted on 11/24/2008
Madison is 10 months old and she is just about sleeping from 10 evening til 7 morning..We tried absolutly everything! She would just wake for bottles and seemed to need that comfort..We found that also doing the 10 minute cry helps because babies start knowing that we come as soon as they make a sound lol..So go in make sure hes ok then as long as its not high pitch screaming give him a soother or bottle or blanky and let him complain gentle crying for 10 minutes..That may help..Try that..
Kelly - posted on 11/24/2008
I actuall find if my kids don't nap during the day they are worse sleepers at night....they become over tired and ratty..... I use mostly structured naps during the day...ie.... put them down and wake them (gently by opening door and letting normal everyday noisewake them).... at a certain time....like 1 hr! Psition day sleeps evenly and make sure you follow solid night time routine.... dinner, bath, story, bed.If bubs wakes at night be consistant..... go to him...tell him shhhs hhhh andlye him down....(Be prepared for tears and tantrums!!).... but just continue..... unti he learns that night is for sleep and sleep only..... Babies need to learn how to sleep.... not all just do it..a nd at 8 months bad habits have formed..... so you will need to take a few days to break th bad habits.... but at 8 months you should be able to reprogram the night time sleep in about a week. Good luck!
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