late talkers

Naveeda - posted on 12/12/2012 ( 28 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 3 year and 2 months.She is not talking all single words except 20words. She is improving but Im so worriied as she is too late to talk .

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Donna - posted on 12/13/2012

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Agree with the other moms. It won't hurt her to be tested. My son was also slow to speak and we had him evaluated at about 2 years. He was diagnosed with apraxia of speech and got a lot of help through speech therapists and programs available through the public school system. His speech is now blossoming and he is catching up in other areas as well. If there is a problem, the sooner you get started, the better the chances to help your child work through the challenges. Best of luck!

Stephanie - posted on 12/13/2012

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If you are truly concerned, I would suggest seeing an ENT. My son who is now 11 wasn't talking at the age of 3 1/2, we found out the reason he wasn't talking was he had a hearing impairment and was unable to hear or understand us. The dr explained that kids learn to talk by repeating what they hear. As he was unable to hear, it impacted his speech. After fixing his hearing impairment, he worked with a speech therapist and eventually started talking. At 11, you would never know he had a problem :-)

Mary - posted on 12/19/2012

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My youngest said her first word when she was 2. It was about the same time as your daughter that she started speaking in sentences. It turned out, as my daughter would just scream for attention, she was also acutely aware of everything around her. If she is not around others her own age and slightly older, she may need to be put into a more interactive situation with other children, where communication is facilitated.

For instance, if the daycare is crowded, she may feel comfortable not having to say anything ever. If she is always home with mom and no older or same age kids, same thing.

If your child is watching your every move though, I wouldn't be concerned. As it turned out, my late talker and screamer was very gifted. Now in third grade, the excels two grades above her math level and 4 grades above her reading level. You just never know!

Susan - posted on 12/13/2012

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If she's bilingual this could explain some of it but coming from an elementary teacher and a mom of a late talker and then a crazy vocabulary gifted 2nd child (both ends of the spectrum) you need to get her evaluated by a speech pathologist ASAP. This is a very easy process. 1. Call the closest elementary school to you. 2. Tell them you need to speak to whoever is in charge of setting up a speech and language evaluation for your 3 year old. (This is all free by the way and they are mandated to do it by law) 3. Get her evaluated, they will probably do a couple different things to rule out an anatomy issue or hearing issue. 4. Great news is she'll probably qualify for speech services and have an IEP (Individualized Education Plan) my daughter started going at 3 years old twice a week and in about a year she was up to age appropriate language! As a very wise and seasoned kindergarten teacher explained it to me if you don't take the initiative to do early speech therapy you are jeopardizing your almost ensuring your childs early school experience to be frustrating and tougher than it needs to be. If they can't communicate effectively it doesn't matter how bright they are they will either shut down and zone out (my daughters personality) or act out. So I know i'm coming across harsh but I had to go against many family members saying Oh she'll grow out of it she's fine when I knew (mommy's instinct) there was something just not right. The resources are there to use and when she gets the great 1 on 1 instruction a speech pathologist will give her (and tips for you at home) she'll most likely come out ahead of the pack ready to march on in to that kindergarten classroom shoulders back and a smile on her face! Good Luck!

Tamara - posted on 12/13/2012

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Ask your peditrician about the speech and preschool services in the area. Thats how I found out about ours. The one in our area in Michigan is called Early On and they do the IEP as others have mentioned. Its a great program. They have the class at one of the elementary schools. My son entered the program when he was 2 1/2 and started with 1/2hr group speech sessions weekly. Then at 3yrs old (now he's 4), he attends preschool 5 days a week, 1/2 days and is bussed to and from school. I was worried about the 5 days but he absolutely loves it and the bus is the best part. He is really making his goals now. I wish I would have known about the program for my oldest. He didn't speak until after he was 3. I sent him to a regular preschool which he really blossomed there and was speaking quite a bit within a few months. I think mainly because of the socializing with others his age. Only problem with that is he could have used the help with speech because like most children he pronounces alot of words incorrectly and stuggled in kindergarten when it came to writing because they want them to write the sounds that they hear. Imagine what that paper looked like.lol Anyways...kindergarten is not the fun singing and playtime we had. They learn how to read within the first few months. He now is on an IEP at his elementary school and doing much better in 1st grade. Whatever the problem if any, definately take the help if its offered. Good luck!

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Ebony - posted on 02/13/2013

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If your child is still using a pacifier that could be the reason. My two year old god-Daughter wasn't talking and her doctor suggested that we take the pacifier from her and now we can keep her quiet. Another suggestion is when talking to your child talk in the palm of her hand so that she can feel the vibration and put her hand up to her mouth so she can repeat . Do that a couple of times a day she'll get the hang of it. Good Luck.

Jeannie - posted on 12/19/2012

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Yes very similar to what I went thru with my son and was thru my public school district free of charge ( the therapy) occupational /speech therapy. It was so awesome and like yourself started seeing great results that now at 13 yrs.old he is one of the youngest in his class of 8th graders and yet so far advanced then most of them. I was just always worried early on if he would forever need therapy or be behind his class. So I'm so thankful for taking the time to check into it. It was such wonderful help! Just check your community for assistance in speech/occupational therapy.

Kristi - posted on 12/19/2012

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Hi, have you talked with your pediatrician about it? My son isn't talking much either. We got early intervention speech therapy and he's now in a preschool that focuses on developmental delays with an emphasis on speech and language. It's really done wonders for him - he's already improved SO much since he started in September. I'd try to get some speech therapy. The Child Find programs offer free evaluations and free therapy too. I blog about my son's speech delays at http://www.findingninee.com. Let me know if I can tell you anything about what they're doing for him that you think might help your daughter!

Maria - posted on 12/16/2012

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My son didn't speak until he was almost 3 and hasn't stopped since....however, he'd been seeing a speech therapist since age 2 and 2 different ones since 2 and a half...prior to that he'd just grunt and point and had his elaborate sign language..Get her evaluated by a speech therapist, a private one or maybe thru the school system; she may be too old for early intervention... and have you had her hearing checked? Good luck! And I hope she finds her words soon

Pamela - posted on 12/15/2012

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Each child is different. Parents teach the children to talk. How often do you teach her words? Do you put up little signs on the object so she can see the words? Do you point out the words to her all of the time? Do you read to her each night before she goes to bed, showing her the words and pictures?

All of these things help to reinforce language....but you must do your job too! The highest and best to you and your daughter!

Priscillia - posted on 12/15/2012

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My daughter went thru the same thing. it was very frustrating because she wanted to talk, but because she couldn't, she would have alot of temper tantrums. Then i read about diary intolerance causing speech delays, so i decided to give it a try & remove all diary from her diet. And what a difference it made! Even ECI was convinced it was the diary, after they saw the quick turnaround. In 3 months she was talking and by 6 months, I had a parrot with no off button! :)

Deirdre - posted on 12/14/2012

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My third child, a boy, was a late talker. I finally had his hearing tested & it was okay. He would "sing" but not talk. He did finally start & we discovered that he did things at his own pace. He is now 18 and is still like this. He would do things when he was ready and not before. No amount of coaxing, bribing, or anything made a difference. We got him a bicycle and he pushed it for an entire year before jumping on & riding it. He was hard to test, too, because he didn't seem to see the point in some of the tests. His first IQ test was low & we were a little worried. Turned out later that he didn't feel like answering most of the questions. He has now graduated from high school & is planning on going to a technical school.

Lydia - posted on 12/14/2012

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My oldest son was delayed and he ended up being in speech therapy from the time he was 3 years old until he was in 6th grade. I don't think it would hurt to have her checked out, for your own peace of mind. It's better to err on the side of caution, than not check and have something seriously wrong with her.

Penny - posted on 12/14/2012

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I am currently consulting a therapist about my 3 y.o., who seems to be very behind her friends. Although we are till trying to guage things, he mentioned in today's communication that you can tell a lot more about a child's level of development by the games the play/like, rather than how many words they speak. My daughter likes playing with the kids in the class below her (her sister's class) rather than her own friends, so I think I'm going to take this up with the local specialist, rather than just the speach therapist. Hopefully this helps :)

Pauline - posted on 12/14/2012

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Never too late! My son only started talking at 6! And now his making up for lost time :) But I would see a speech therapist about ideas to speed her up a bit :)

Natasha - posted on 12/13/2012

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Wow this takes me back ...My son Haydon 8 years old now,only started talking at 4....one should have his ears checked...But what I would say if I new any better I would not fret. I feel later talkers are deep thinkers an very bright.. Whith my experience of having two sons no childs development is the same.One thing about late talkers...moms an dad is they have verbal Diarrhea...so dont rush them if you had then to the ENT an they ok...Just wait till they ready♥

Vanessa - posted on 12/13/2012

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Sorry i assumed your child was a boy just cause most are males with speech problems.

Vanessa - posted on 12/13/2012

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There is a lot of great resources offered by the government for speech delays. Act fast and get the free help and watch in amazement how much your child's speech and confidence in himself improves. Do it now sooner than later. You want your child to have the best jump start for school as possible. My son is LOVING his early ed class and is getting so much attention its unbelievable. Good luck and don't stress too much about it. As long as you get him the help he needs and you stay involved and work along side his teachers and speech pathologists you and your so will do great :)

Daniela - posted on 12/13/2012

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I have a friend who was in same situation,and I have told her about TikeTalk,you should try to call them for more info ,it is free,my friend was very happy when she went there .Good luck

Tracy - posted on 12/13/2012

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Contact your local school district and have her tested if they would decide she is delayed she will be put on an IEP which mandates that she is to be accepted in preschool regardless of age and they are required to provide transportation. I have a 3 and a 4 year old that are both on IEPs and have been since they were about 18 months old. I am disabled and am a stay at home mom and my girls never went to daycare and were socially and developmentally delayed do to the lack of interaction with peers as in a daycare setting. My oldest one did not talk and still she has issues with her clarity of words but they are both attending the preschool through the local school district which they would not have been able to do until next year without being on the IEPs. At parent teacher's conferences both have already completed many of their goals on their IEPs and are both talking my leg off now although the oldest is still hard to understand she is getting there. Much better to get help now so they don't start out way behind their class when they start regular school.

Michelle - posted on 12/13/2012

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My son said 10-15 words at the most like "yes, no, please, thank you, mom, dad, car etc. until he was over two and a half years old. I knew his hearing and his attention were great and he took direction well so I did not worry. He was more interested in observing than talking until literally one day he politely asked..."Mommy, can I please have a jelly sandwich". I think he just did not want to speak until he had a full handle on it. He has always been impeccably polite and now an honor student. My mother in law thought there was always something wrong but I knew my child. Use your instinct. That's what mother's do best.

Robyn - posted on 12/13/2012

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I took my son to a speech therapist at about 2, and the first thing they do as standard is a hearing test. We found out he needed grommets for glue ear, so a hearing test might be good too. Grommets are such a quick procedure, only about 10 minutes long.

Jeannie - posted on 12/13/2012

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My Youngest son was still not saying a thing ( not even mama or dada) when was 3yrs.old. Since I had an older son already I kinda felt like I knew when his speech should be starting up. I agree not all of our kids will be the same, but to not be saying one single thing and still just pointing and grunting didn't seem normal delay. Our public school area does testing for free. They tested him at 3yrs. Of age and started him on a Speech therapy and some other therapy that I'm forgetting the name to right now. When he entered kindergarten thru 3rd grade they had him on an IEP ( individual education plan) set up so he can continue his therapy during school hours. He blossomed into such a bright boy! I was so worried he would be behind the rest of his class but I was so surprised that in 3rd grade a teacher saw something special in him and tested his IQ and he tested off the charts. He was put in all math and science classes above his level and now at 13 and in Middle school he is already doing AL math that Highschoolers are doing. He is a straight A student and never has a problem like I was so afraid he would. I am so grateful for the school program that they set up and offered to him and that as a parent I did not ignore the signs and at least had him tested. It's always good just to check and be sure when it comes to our kids and their health. If they say he's normal and on target then great but at least you tested him and put your mind at ease. Ps-always check with your public school district to see what they offer and how they can help you. They even provided transportation for my then 3yr.old. God Bless them everyday!!

Bobbi Jean - posted on 12/13/2012

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Do things with your child that engage her conversaton. One o fthe things that my kids liked to do when they were that age was get in the kitchen with play dough. There are some good recipes for the stuff on the web. Just googe homemade play dough.



You can ask her questions while you are making it, like what color she wants it to be. Later, you both can talk about what she is making. (Cover the table with plastic so the mess stays contained.)



Have her help you make cookies, place mats that guide her in how to set the table (you may have to use plastic dishes and glasses), make no bake cookies, and anything else you can think of.



Read to her a lot. Talk to her and ask questions about the pictures in the books.



Hope this helps.

Alecia - posted on 12/13/2012

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My youngest son who is now almost 6 didn't talk in full sentences until he was almost 4. I wasn't concerned because I could tell he was learning and was extremely smart. I just knew he didn't want to talk yet. He now picks up things quicker than my other 3. Don't gauge talking as a marker go by her learning processes and if she picks things up slowly or quickly. If other things seem to be delayed as well then I would be concerned.

Esther - posted on 12/13/2012

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Although very concerning for a parent, some kids just aren't ready to take that next step in speech. I would suggest taking her to a speech therapist though, to have her assessed. My third child was 'flagged' at 18 months and we put her in speech therapy (luckily free in Canada up until they are 5 years old), and now she's 10 and you never would guess she had been slower to talk. Now we have issues trying to get a word in edge-wise ;)

Danielle Kimberly - posted on 12/12/2012

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My best advice would be to talk to her a lot. Get her involved in what you are doing and explain to her what you are doing. Talk, Talk, Talk! But you could also see a speech specialist if you are that worried. I have a 5 month old whom I talk to all the time, since she was born. She makes a lot of sounds and babbles all the time. She can already say Hi and Dada.

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