Leave my baby in the car or not?

Sammy - posted on 10/19/2009 ( 124 moms have responded )

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Just wondering if you leave your baby in the car or take her/him with you when you go in to pay for petrol?

I have not yet filled up the car since having my daughter as my hubby has done it for me, just wondering what you all do?

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Jodi - posted on 10/20/2009

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I don't see an issue with it. My children are now a little older, but there have been times when I have run in and paid and left the kids in the car, even when they were younger. I just make sure the car is in full view, and it is locked and I have the keys. I can't lock the keys in the car (I have to use the remote to lock and unlock), my car has an immobiliser, so without significant effort, noone could steal the car anyway, and by the time they fiddled around with it, they would be caught, and my car also has heavy duty glass all round, so much harder to smash. I'd never have left them in the car if I couldn't see the car at all times.

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In the world we live in today I always take my little girl in with me.. No chances for her to come up missing

Cate - posted on 10/20/2009

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I leave my son in the car. Make sure the doors are locked and the baby is strapped in and keep an eye on the car. an older child may not be trusted to be left alone and may get out of the seat and open the door. if the line for paying is really long, take the baby in with you.

Melissa - posted on 10/20/2009

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My son's older now, but I would always leave him in the car. I always locked the doors though and never left the car running. I live in Buffalo, NY, so i'm sure you can imagine the weather here in the winter. Taking him in and out for only moments was so much stress on him. He hated getting in and out of the car. But I made sure I could always see full view of my car at all times. And it only took me a few moments to pay for gas and then I was out again.

Firebird - posted on 10/20/2009

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My ex's grandma left my daughter (who was 1 at the time) alone in the car to go get a pack of smokes. She was babysitting for us because my ex was at work and a friend took me shopping. I stood outside of that car for 10 minutes waiting for that woman to come out of the store and when she did I raised all manners of hell! I yelled and screamed at a 60 yr old woman that if I ever caught her leaving my daughter in a vehicle unattended again it would be the last time she saw her!

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Absolutly NOT!!! Never ever leave your kids in the car unattended. Its not only illegal, its dangerous even if its only for a second. I always take them with me even the older ones.

Also never send the kids to the car to get things for you, or hand the keys to your child. (I had to learn this lesson the hard way!)

I put my 3month old Ryan in his snuggili now that he's to heavy to carry around in the carrier, and that gives me two hands free.(one for the keys/wallet or money, one for the 3 yr olds hand

Tracey - posted on 10/21/2009

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I live in a small town but you never know who you can trust. I have always taken my kids in even for just quick trips when they were small. Now that they are all over 10, I'll only take them in if I'll be a while. I just think of it like this, all of us take our purses in, why not something more precious like our babies?!

Pat - posted on 10/21/2009

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Never leave your child in the car unattended. There are to many sick people walking the streets and it only takes a minute for you to regret it for the rest of your life.

Manda - posted on 10/21/2009

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I have NEVER left my child in the car. Safety issue. Too many people get their kids snatched that way. All someone needs is a couple of seconds and your baby would be gone.

Vicky - posted on 10/21/2009

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Never leave a child in a car..My oldest son is 38 and I didn't leave him in a car in the '70s.

Jennifer - posted on 10/21/2009

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you always take your kids in with you because for one it is against the law for two there has been times where people has stolen other people cars and there was children in the car! I will always take my son in with me!

Lori - posted on 10/21/2009

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With how the world is nowadays, I wouldn't even dream of it. If you could pay at the pump I would do that, If not, I would take the precious bundle of joy in with you. Better safe than sorry.

Sammy - posted on 10/21/2009

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As I said before, the reason why I asked is because I have seen mothers leave their kids in the car while running into pay for petrol. I do not think it is safe to leave a child in a car for whatever reason! I work in a gaol (jail) and believe me I know that there are sickos are out there!
Thank you to everyone that has responded =)

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i have never left the kids in the car ,not safe at all,you know kids are never still .i fright that they might do something and i know of instances were the handbrakke was released etc,i personally think that it is not safe

WENDY - posted on 10/21/2009

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it is a bit of a concern that you need to ask. your most precious possession could be gone in an instant..........

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I am a Police Officer and I NEVER leave my kids in the car, no matter how inconvenient it is. What if someone steals your car with them inside it?- at best they are going to dump the car with the kids in it- hopefully somewhere thry'll be found quickly; at worst God alone knows what they will do with your kids. What if there is an Armed Hold up in the store and you have left them locked in the car in the middle of summer/winter?- is the friendly criminal going to let you go get your kids? What if they get bored and start playing with the hand brake or some other dangerous situation? What is someone reports it to the Police?- yr going to get your kids taken away. What is a paedophile notices and takes them?- dont think it doesnt happen, kids get snatched like this all the time, these people watch for opportunities CONSTANTLY. Dont do it ladies.

Eleni - posted on 10/20/2009

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We got a credit card that we just use for gas, this way you pay at the pump always. NEVER leaving your kids alone. It just takes a second for something to happen and you would never be able to live with yourself.

Ann - posted on 10/20/2009

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If you are getting gas......can you use a CC and pay at teh pump? Then at least this question is a non issue. You would not be leaving the kid(s) in the car.

Renae - posted on 10/20/2009

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it doesn't matter if it's a small town or in the city. you should never leave your child in the car, even for a second.

my cousin was passing through a really small town in the northern territory (here in australia), and stopped in front of a small store and left her 3 kids in the car. because it's really hot in the nt, you can't leave the kids in the car without the ac running, so the car had to stay running and so was unlocked while she went in.

she was in the store 2 minutes and her eldest daughter came running in to let her mum know that a man had run away with her second daughter. i think she was 2 or 3 yrs at the time.

luckily, my cousin was able to run down this man as he had fallen over and she got her daughter back. but she has NEVER left her children in the car since. not even for petrol.

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I truly hope that if you are one of those parents who leave their kids in a locked car to run in and pay for gas, you will change your mind after reading all of the comments on this thread.

Val - posted on 10/20/2009

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BTW I forgot to mention in my response/post....Fpr the mom's that do leave their kiddos locked in the vehicles while they run inside....don't forget to take the weather into account, esp... in the summer. Drk color cars get soooo hot soooo fast. As a dispatcher (in the summer) 90% of the "child locked in vehicles" calls R us sending a medic for the person inside the vehicle due to the heat...

Hannah - posted on 10/20/2009

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There is no way I would ever leave my baby in the car. Always take your child with you.

Val - posted on 10/20/2009

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You all will have to forgive my verbose response, but in reading the responses from other moms I felt it was neccessary. Now I assumed you all are just wanting responses regarding 'lil ones being left in vehicles while running in to pay for gas?? Personally I would NEVER leave my child in the vehicle alone while @ a public place. Like most of the moms said it only takes a split second for something to happen. If someone really, REALLY wanted your child & they've had their eyes on you while you've been at the location then they will find a way to distract you in the store just long enough so they (or an accomplice) can get 2 your child and/or your vehicle. EVEN IF THE VEHICLE IS LOCKED!! Professionals know what they are doing & how 2 get what they want!!

Now on the second hand (which I will try to make much shorter) I am known to leave my 'lil one alone (in a LOCKED VEH) ONLY, and only for a very short period of time IN OUR OWN DRIVEWAY!!!! While I quickly run back into the house to get something that I forgot (& only if it's important, at that). If for some reason I think that running back into the house will be more than 1-2 mins I get my 'lil guy out of the carseat & take him in with me. I know this response/post is terribly long, but I have a lot of first hand experience with this particular type of situation, mostly weather related though. I'm a 911 dispatcher (police, medical, & fire); you wouldn't believe how many calls our department responds to...positive & negative outcomes. If you've taken the time to read this, I thank you & so do the children!

Shannon - posted on 10/20/2009

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My mom works at walmart, she was on break and sitting in her car. She seen this couple come out of walmart and walk by this van. All of a sudden the lady was on the phone with the police. She called them because there were 3 children 5 and under left in the van alone while the mother was in getting medicine from the pharmacy. The mother came out and the lady was all over her telling her she could have taken the kids or anyone else could have. The cops came and the mother was charged with neglection and leaving the children unattended. So it goes to show anyone could either be taking your kids or calling the cops on you for leaving them. Either way, it's always safer to have them right with you.

Elaine - posted on 10/20/2009

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Oops forgot to comment on why I quoted.

Sandi, thanks for telling the child almost taken from Disney World is an urban legend. Must appreciated. I really believed her!

Rebecca - posted on 10/20/2009

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I always pay at the pump so I don't have to leave the car. I would NEVER leave my children alone no matter what their ages. Too dangerous!!! If they are young someone may take them and you may not know, if they're older they could get out and get hit by a car or put the car in neutral, etc..etc... Keep your baby safe. They are precious and the irreplacable!

Elaine - posted on 10/20/2009

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Quoting Sandi:



Quoting Elaine:

I have never left my child, my nieces or nephews or a friend's child in the car alone. There is no reason for a child to be left behind. If you can not take your child or anyone's child with you where ever you go then you should not take the child and get a babysitter. Even if it is just for gas! All it takes is one split second and that is a very long time! The excuse it is too cold is not a good one. My child had asthma and I still took him in and out of a car. Put a scarf around the child's nose and mouth. It works very good!
A friend of a friend went to Disney World and her child wondered off and disappeared. The park did a fantastic job by immediately locking the gates. No one in and no one out. However, this child was taken into the ladies room, her hair cut and dyed and her clothes changed. They viewed all the cameras.Luckily the mother recognized her child's shoes. That is how they found her because they did not change her shoes. So another lesson to be learned is always know what your child is wearing, when a child is an infant always take his/her footprint it is like an older person's finger print and last but not least keep an up to date photo with the footprint and keep it where you will be able to find if you should ever need it. Look for beauty marks, freckles, etc that will help identify your child to you.
Nothing is more important than your child. not gas, food, water, medicine,etc.....NOTHING!!!!
Many people in this world can not have kids and would do anything to have one or hurt one.
So the next time you get out of the car and leave your child you are risking your child's life and yours because your life will never be the same!
So please keep your child with you at all times.





While I fully agree you should not leave your kids in the car- I couldn't help but chuckle - the story about Disney World is just another urban legend that has been going around the internet for years and years!  Trust me, if you have EVER been to Disney, there is no way a person could take a kid in a bathroom and dye her hair etc etc - waaay too many people.  HOWEVER - it is a good reminder to always keep your kids in reach.  Even now with my twins at 6 years old, I don't leave them in the car.  Here in the US we have "pay at the pump" where you don't have to go in - since you call it petrol, I'm assuming you don't live in the US.  I'm not sure if other countries have the same thing.  If you do, there's never an excuse to leave the kids in the car to go inside.





 

Maria - posted on 10/20/2009

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I always took my baby with me... only because I never felt right leaving any or both of them when I have to go in to pay. If I have to, I go to the ones that take the card right there and then so I kept an eye on them while I pumped gas. These days, I can't take any chances if I don't have to.

Renee - posted on 10/20/2009

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Never leave a child of any age in the car! It might take you a little longer to fuel up, but think about what could happen.

Jen - posted on 10/20/2009

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Personally, I would never leave my daughter in the car alone, anywhere, for any amount of time. To solve this issue, I always pay at the pump when I have her with me, that way I don't have to get her out of the car.

Lisa - posted on 10/20/2009

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Quoting Amy:

agreed dont leave you kid in the car all the time and in a crappy neighborhood dont even think about it i guess i live in a small town where we all know eachother



I just have to say this in response. I live in a very small town also where everyone knows everyone and all thier business. Just because people live in a small town does not make them good people. Go online and look where the pedifiles live in your small town! It is dangerous for many reasons not just the crazies. Imagine someone pulls into the gas station and hits your car with your baby in it and you can not get there to help. Locked your keys in the car on accident in 20 below weather. The possibilities are endless.

MAYTE - posted on 10/20/2009

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OH NO DONT LEAVE YOUR BABYS IN THE CAR...WHAT YOU SHOULD DO IS PAY WITH YOUR DEBIT CARD THATS WHAT I DO BUT WHEN I GET OFF THE TRUCK I LOCK THE TRUCK AND ONLY LEAVE THE WINDOW THATS NEAR ME OPEN...I HATE GOING INSIDE THE STATION IMAGINE ME I HAVE 4 KIDS UNDER 6

Lisa - posted on 10/20/2009

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I have always just takent he kids in with me and when they are little with these new fangeld car seats it's simple, you just need to pull out the seat and plop it back in. Now that the kids are getting bigger (4 & 9) going into the convienient store has gotten more expensive with a case of the gimmees, so I found that using my debit card is the best choice and it is so easy. It is against the law to leave your child in the car for thier safety.

Abbie - posted on 10/20/2009

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Pay at the pump is the best thing ever!! Because if you leave your child in the car alone, you are putting your child in danger! Its illegal. So NO I never leave him alone in the car!!!!!!

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nah, dont leave the baby.. tempting, if you think u'll be quick i know, but not a good idea.. like all the ladies said it only takes a sec for something bad to happen.. on more than one occassion i've been at a convenience store, and noticed mom leaving baby in car, running, went in to do a quick buy.. i've waited until she comes out, more for making sure nothing happened while she was in there.. and when she comes out i politely suggest that she doesnt do that b/c you cant trust anyone.. i mean i noticed she left the kid, luckily not one of the sickos, but people watch other people to make that quick error and take advantage of it unfortunatley

Amy - posted on 10/20/2009

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pay at the pump or take the time and tke your child out of the carseat into the store to pay... you should absolutly NEVER EVER leave your child in the car unattended. i usually pay at the pump, but someyimes i only have cash on me so ihave to take my daughter out of the carseat and take her in with me, even though it is only 20 or 30 feet or whatever. i know it takes extra time and can be frustrating, but as a parent, you gotta do what you gotta do, right??

Selesha - posted on 10/20/2009

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Its against the law in most states that you can't leave your child in the car. No matter what.. Most gas stations are mac card ready. So get a debit card.. With car jacking, child kidnapping why would you even risk leaving your child in the car, no matter what kind of neighborhood the gas station is in.. It takes 1 sec for your life to change.

Darlene - posted on 10/20/2009

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Never leave your child alone in the car. Try using a gas/debit/credit card at the pump.

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Dunno about other places of the world, but in the U.S. it is illegal to leave your child unattended in a car for any reason. Here in Tennessee, there have been several news reports of children left alone in a car over the past couple of years, a few of them ultimately ending with the child's death, all of them included the parents' arrest. It's just not worth it!

Anna - posted on 10/20/2009

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Quoting Suzanne:

I cannot believe what some people consider good parenting. A car alarm was blaring outside my home as I was on my way out. I was horrified to see a terrified little girl(about 7) cowering inside, covering her ears to block out the noise. She managed to get a window down a couple of inches(she was locked in) and asked me could I find her dad. He had left her to go and view a house!! She didnt know what house he was in or how much longer she was gonna be left. I asked"Does he have a mobile phone number i could call for you?" She picked his phone up off the dash"He's left it here". All the while we were being deafened by the alarm. I couldn't believe the stupidity of the man. I stayed with the poor girl until he re-appeared 25 MINUTES LATER!! You can guess what I said to him!!


Personally, I would have called the police...that is, after breaking a window to get her out.



I live in Minnesota too and even though it gets crazy cold here in the winter, I would never ever leave my child or the boy I nanny for in the car. So many of you have mentioned car theft and child abduction as reasons not to leave a child in the car and rationalize leaving them by locking the doors and rolling up the windows, but I worry more about someone accidently crashing into my car. You would never forgive yourself if something happened.

Laura - posted on 10/20/2009

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I always take my children in with me. I trust them, it's other people I don't trust. People say to me it's fine while you go pay for petrol. But I'm not willing to risk it.

I haven't got petrol by myself since I had my second child but I wouldn't think twice about unstrapping the baby sit and dragging it and my two year old in. It may add extra minutes onto my time and hold up people behind me but my babies come first!

Stina - posted on 10/20/2009

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If I need to fill my car up while I have the kids with me, I only go to places where I can pay at the pump and use my debit card w/o a fee. This way I don't have to run in for change. When I had one child, I took him out of the car EVERY time I went to pay for gas. There are too many stories of cars being stolen while a mom ran in to get something or pay for her gas. They can take the car- but not with my child inside.



Now, with three children, I generally try to fill up when it's just me in the car (coming home from work) But my DH is the one who fills it most often.



please: NEVER LEAVE YOUR CHILD IN A CAR ALONE it is soooo dangerous!

Amanda - posted on 10/20/2009

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I have left my son in the car to run in and pay for gas. I just make sure I take the keys, lock the door and keep a watch on the car while I'm inside.

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I cannot believe what some people consider good parenting. A car alarm was blaring outside my home as I was on my way out. I was horrified to see a terrified little girl(about 7) cowering inside, covering her ears to block out the noise. She managed to get a window down a couple of inches(she was locked in) and asked me could I find her dad. He had left her to go and view a house!! She didnt know what house he was in or how much longer she was gonna be left. I asked"Does he have a mobile phone number i could call for you?" She picked his phone up off the dash"He's left it here". All the while we were being deafened by the alarm. I couldn't believe the stupidity of the man. I stayed with the poor girl until he re-appeared 25 MINUTES LATER!! You can guess what I said to him!!

Katie - posted on 10/20/2009

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I would say take your children in. You never know what may happen & you can lower the risk of anything happening by taking them in with you. I will always take my child in because you never know what kind of people are around. But its a personal choice & what you think or how you feel.

Lisa - posted on 10/20/2009

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NO WAY! it only takes a moment for something to happen. either pay at the pump, or take the baby in with you. it takes a bit of extra time, but you would never forgive yourself if something happened.

Lyndsey - posted on 10/20/2009

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If I have my son with me I just pay at the pump! Technology is great these days! THen I don't have to worry about it, cuz you are right there by the car!

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