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Leaving 3 year old with family

L.T - posted on 01/08/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I was able to find a job in my career 5 hours away from home. Now I am having a problem. I work non traditional hours 6:30am till 7 in a hospital and they are two child care facilities my 3 year old would have to go to because 1 opens at 6 which i need and the other stays open late and he would go to school in between. I really don't want to but my parents have offered to let my son live with him and it would help me a lot but I am having a hard time trying to decide to let him go. It would beneficial and i would know that he is safe but I would miss him. My parents and sister thinks i am taking on too much as a single mom, paying 2 different childcare facilities, and just starting my career. What would you do?

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Lakota - posted on 01/08/2013

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Hon, find a job close by - even if it isn't in your career choice for right now. Something else will come up. You feel bad because that is your instincts trying to tell you that leaving your son isn't right. No job is worth that.

Ariana - posted on 01/08/2013

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Is it possible for you to find a mom who works where you do but the other shifts? So possibly you could try to childcare share where they watch your child during your hours and you watch their child during theirs? Just a suggestion. I would try to find different care or request different hours at your job if possible.

I would really try to figure out a different solution if possible. You need to do what's best for you and your child but try to look at ALL the options. You might regret the decision later, or the situation might chance. What happens if he lives with them and you want him back but they want to keep him? There are any number of things that could go wrong. He'll also probably be very upset to not be living with his Mom.

L.T - posted on 01/08/2013

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Thank you all I feel bad enough and my parents think I should let him stay with them until I get it together for at least 6 months but I am having a hard time with that

Lakota - posted on 01/08/2013

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I wouldn't do it. And you should be worried about leaving him with a stranger when you don't have to. You get one shot at being a good mom to your son. He needs his mother.

L.T - posted on 01/08/2013

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That's my problem after graduating it took almost a year be ause in health are everyone wants experience and my childcare options I found are no longer options and I work non traditional hours longer than the original childcare options 6 to 6 and after everything that is happening leaving my son with a stranger has me super worried.

Dove - posted on 01/08/2013

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I would not do it. I would find a job in a different career or a job close to home where maybe my parents could watch my son while I'm working during non school hours, but my child would live with me.

Lakota - posted on 01/08/2013

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I would think about how this is beneficial and who would it be beneficial for? You, yes. Your son, no. Why aren't you able to find something closer?

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