Let it happen?????????????????????

Katie - posted on 04/30/2009

Let it happen.

My hubby loves to shop and wanted to take me with him to pick out the ring. I chose a modest 1ct sapphire with small diamond accents. He picked a 2.30ct oval sapphire with 1/2ct diamond accents, he wanted me to have the bigger ring! My mother is still depressed my ring is bigger!



It will be fun when it happens!

Jackie - posted on 04/29/2009

let it happen... in his words it means.. im not ready. he doesnt want to hurt you and tell you "no".. cause he wants it to be the right timing..and he wants to approach you when he is feeling ready too. if you nag it on, it will push him away. i hope everything works out for the best:)

Amie - posted on 04/29/2009

LOL there ya go! =) Have a great date and don't think about it. It'll be stress free and a much better time. If it does happen then too it'll be even better since it will be unexpected. =) The surprise is always the best part. My proposal was unconventional but still a surprise.
My hubby and I had talked about it and agreed we were ready to get married but left it at that. Then one night my hubby was lying with our son to get him to fall asleep and I went in to say good night. As I was walking out he goes oh by the way I got your ring. Having completely forgot what we had talked about a couple weeks before I go what ring? He goes your engagement ring! LOL! I about fainted I swear but I still walked around with a stupid grin on my face and started txting and calling my family and friends right away. haha. They all knew it was coming and so did I but the timing was priceless and it was still a surprise. =)

Georgie - posted on 04/29/2009

Thank you so much everyone for your advice! I feel a billion times better after reading your responses. And Amie your right i am very happy so i will enjoy that. Its in my blood to stress, i hate it but igotta live with it. I'll turn my stress to something else lol. I dont think that i could push him away with asking about it but just scare him off it for a while. But i am now just going to "Let it happen!!!" If it happens this weekend in my hot new dress it happens but if it doesnt it doesnt! Thank you again everyone!!!

Amie - posted on 04/29/2009

As your man has said.. Just let it happen! Put it out of your mind totally. Do not even let it be an option. While the other mom's may be right and he may be planning something you're going to make yourself sick wondering and waiting. Leave it alone! When the time is right and if it is meant to be it WILL happen. If you push to hard you're going to end up pushing him out of your life. You're obviously happy now just enjoy that and stop stressing.

Rach - posted on 04/29/2009

I think he is planning something :) My hubby always gets a lil smile on his face when he is planning something...just sit back and 'let it happen' :P

Francesca - posted on 04/29/2009

it sounds to me that he's planin something, as he was smilin thats a good sign. try not to say anything else to him about it. it will happen.

i went with my husband to choose my ring. but i would of been happy for him to have choose it x

Victoria - posted on 04/29/2009

Maybe he'll do it at the races when your in your hot new dress! ;-)

User - posted on 04/29/2009

Most of the responses here recommend backing off with the pressure, and I agree.

Just as a point of note - I worked in jewelry retail for 7 years - and I had very few women who came in absolutely HATING the ring that their guy selected - probably only 1 or 2. Most times, the guy gets it right! They study us and know us far better than we give them credit for! I wouldn't worry too much about the ring - 99% chance, he'll select something that you will love!

Clair - posted on 04/29/2009

it sounds very much to me like he wants to be the one to ask you...and not you asking him.the slight change in response is a good sign and you should take notice of this and back off about it.if he wants to marry you..he will ask you.there is no hurry after all. him picking your ring is what the man is meant to do..its tradition. and you saying yes means both of your are staritng the marriage not just him lol its a huge thing for a mna to ask for marriage..and i believe its one thing we should let men take the charge with..afterall...wen it comes to wedding plans we soon take over!lol so id say let him have the honour of choosong you a ring and asking you when hes ready :)

Jenny - posted on 04/29/2009

he could just b waitin till u think he'll never do it and then he mite do it.he probly dun want u 2 feel he only proposed coz u wanted him 2, but when he does he wants u 2 know its because he loves u and wants 2 spend the rest of his life with u, not because of wot ne1 else sez just out of pure love.-dunno if that makes sense 2 ne1 else.

and i wouldnt stress about the whole ring thing either, i had my heart set on a princess cut diamond but ben went out and choose the ring all by himself and i didnt get a princess cut but i wasnt at all disappointed i have a beautiful ring which my husband picked out all by himself, and i always stand by its not the ring that matters but the love between the 2 ppl coz thats wot will last when the diamonds loose thier shine.

hope that helps :)

Kelly - posted on 04/29/2009

Either what Janine said or maybe he already has a plan. Maybe an engagement ring on lay-by... If he was smiling when he said "Just let it happen" that sounds like a good sign. If he didn't intend to marry you he probably would have given you his usual response... It's hard to tell with guys, you can never be sure of what they're thinking. My husband & I picked my ring together before he proposed but told me he was going to wait a while to pop the question. As soon as we got home, he was down on one knee in the hallway asking me to marry him, they're strange creatures :)

Janine - posted on 04/29/2009

I would say he is just not ready yet, dont push as he may run the other way.