Little girl Modesty

Stina - posted on 07/26/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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A few weeks ago, my newly potty trained 2 1/2 year old was doing summersaults after church in the fellowship hall. Cute right? accept she was wearing a dress and therefore showing EVERYONE her panties. I stood her up and quietly explained she was showing everyone her panties- that they didn't need to or want see them. Then later I picked up some more leggings to pare under dresses. It leaves me wondering though- how do you teach modesty/privacy to such a young uninhibited child with not an ounce of self consciousness without making her feel ashamed?

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Holly - posted on 07/26/2009

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I tell my daughter that when ladies wear dresses they need to cross their legs or keep their knees together. My daughter likes to mimic adults and is very into being a "big girl" so this seems to work. I don't tell her that its bad to show her underwear, just that big girls and ladies don't show them.

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Arwen - posted on 07/26/2009

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I personally wouldn't try to start teaching modesty to one that young. It's a lot easier to get bloomers, shorts, or tights for under dresses, and wait till she's a little older and able to understand imho.

I think Holly had the right idea. You might try teaching her how to sit or move when wearing certain clothes. Still for that age...bloomers, shorts, and tights are good things.

Stina - posted on 07/26/2009

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Oh I know no one at church was offended... I just worry about her doing this everywhere. She loves her leggings wich help since she loves wearing dresses and its easier for me to wash dirt out than fret over play clothes/church clothes.

Thanks everyone for the input.

Natalie - posted on 07/26/2009

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I have 3 daughters and taught them from an early age to wear tights and sit like the big girls & mommys. As mothers we lead by example and use that to your advantage. Til this day, my daughter who is 13 still wears shorts under her skirts/dresses whenever she can. Good luck.

Bronwen - posted on 07/26/2009

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I think age two might be a little young for abstract concepts like modesty, and children under three don't really understand privacy either. But you can dress her in tights or explain to her that her Sunday dress isn't for somersaults (play clothes are for somersaults). That will hopefully curb the behavior, and when she's older you can teach her about modesty. And I'm sure your fellow church goers weren't offended at the sight of a two-year-old's panties.

Lesley - posted on 07/26/2009

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I agree with the other mum's. don't make a big fuss as you don't want her to think her body is bad. body image is learnt at a very young age. The ladylike angle can be connected to learning manners. All a bit complicated for such a young lady. maybe you have a budding gymnast. good luck.

Sarah - posted on 07/26/2009

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I taught my now 5yr old daughter modesty from a young age, I too ask her to wear tights under skirts and dresses, or if she was to wear a dress or skirt that when she sat down to put her arms in her lap. It is hard, but I really don't mind if she's playing and showing them, it's just when she's sitting really. But maybe just for the time being you can just put tights on her, and teach her when she gets a bit older. At least then you won't have to worry.

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