Makeup?At what age do you allow your daughter to play with cosmetics?

Dawn - posted on 12/13/2010 ( 194 moms have responded )

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At what age do you allow your daughter to play with nail polish? My daughter is almost 4 years old and now wants me to paint her finger nails and toe nails to make them pretty. I personally don't paint my nails, but somehow she is now becoming interested in make too. It this too soon??? What do you think?

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Amy - posted on 12/20/2010

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I painted my daughter's toenails when she was about 2 just because it was the only way i'd get her to hold still to trim them! My daughter just turned 4 and had three flavored chapsticks and a light pink eyeshadow that I'd never used. We also give her a puff and some plain ole face powder. She used the powder like blush, eyeshadow and foundation. It's mostly just something fun for her to do. It could pave the way for an artist, you never know. :) Kids love colors. no harm in it at home. We just would never let her outside all decked an inch thick in makeup. lol

Patty - posted on 12/20/2010

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My parents had 5 girls and the rule was...12 yrs old to have ears peirced and shave legs...my mom took me to the Clinique counter at Dillars for my first makeup lessons after I started my period...memorable and made me feel like there were fun things to look forward to counter act the "weird" parts of becoming a woman :)

Keefesandra - posted on 12/20/2010

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I started to let my first daughter play with makeup at 4 but only in the house. She is 8 now and I just finally let her wear lip gloss outside of the house, but I did show her how to put it on correctly and she only wears clear lip gloss and nail polish. she gets mad at me but that's life she wants to wear shadow and lip stick and blush and I said no. I think it is a personal preference of when and how much you will let them play with and wear. Like my daughter 8yrs lip gloss and nail polish (clear) and that's all at 15 maybe blush and that is a big maybe lol.. 18 then she can wear little eyeshadow and lipstick.. I know I sound like a prude but I never got the chance for a mom to help with stuff like this she was never around. so I just want my girls to grow up right and to try and help and give the best guidance I can for them, and to be there for them. Anyways that's my thought on this

Angela - posted on 12/20/2010

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Oh wow - this is exactly my husband's and my concern at the moment. I've never really worn make-up apart from occasionally experimenting with eye shadow as a teenager, and my Mum never did either. Now my little girl's hit 2 1/2 she's obsessed with painting her face. It started, I think, with face paints at fayres, since when she uses paints, pens, everything she can get her hands on to paint her face. Then, the other week we found she'd used a pen to colour in an eyelid. I couldn't think where she'd got the idea from, then I remembered she'd been in the room during a make-up ad on the TV. Now I'm thinking that as well as Father Christmas giving her some face paints it might be a good idea for her to have some toddler make-up too. It's a bit galling, as neither my husband nor I am keen on make-up on children, feeling they grow up too fast. However, I consider that it's preferable to her damaging her skin with pens and paints. It's good to hear other people's ideas about playing with make-up indoors but not wearing it outside - I might use that as a rule myself.

It's also been interesting to hear people's views on nail varnish, as when I was in hospital a couple of weeks ago our friend with a daughter a year older than mine looked after our daughter while my husband visited me. When she came home he was shocked to find that the friend had had a nail painting session with her. He bit his tongue, as she'd been doing us a favour, but he was shocked at a 2-year-old having her nails painted. I wasn't so bothered, but it's good to find that it's quite common.

Tomeka - posted on 12/20/2010

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I have always allowed my daughters to play with my make-up. I washed them off when we were done. Never seemed like an issue as I understood that they were playing dress up and it allowed them to feel like mommy. My make-up is for sensitive skin and there is polish for toddlers. However, you have to do what you feel is best.

Geneva - posted on 12/20/2010

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Age 4 is the age when they start to like polish. They are learning colors and clashes of color on fingers and toes tickle them. As a mom of two girls and one on the way it's always fun to let them be creative and express themselves in a fun way....as for make up I think its too early, just explain her that she has to save some things until she is an older girl... it works especially with a smile. GL

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Nail polish my 11 yrs old, Makeup I sell Avon only 14 yrs very lite. Skin break out she know she need to remove at night. Mark new Break out is working great on her. little blush. Less is more!

Tisha - posted on 12/20/2010

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My daughter is 9 and she used to love to play dress up and let me paint her nails and loved being my little princess all the time. She was about 4 when we started doing that stuff. Great memories and fantastic pictures:) Now that she's getting older, she's not into it like she used to be (accept for Halloween). She still lets me paint her nails and do her hair but we said bye bye princess dress a couple years ago and now painting her nails is a pain (she now notices the little mistakes you make while painting her nails). I say go for it and enjoy every moment because it doesn't last forever and they grow up fast. Also, a little lipstick & maybe eyeshadow won't hurt. Have fun:) Try to remember how you were when you were her age. LOL!! I remember that I loved walking around in my moms high heels:) Hope this helps and try to cherish every moment now, while you can ♥3

Sandee - posted on 12/20/2010

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My daughter is now 11 and she's been playing "dress up" with nail poilsh and cosmetics since she was about 4 or 5. That's what it is...just play for them. So long as you use non-toxic polish its ok. In hindsight, I think it was also the colors that attacted her to the polish. They all eventually grow out of it.

Fenella - posted on 12/20/2010

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My daughter has just turned 12, and I have for many years felt that there is no harm in her playing with make up - hopefully that way, when it became a big thing or the "in thing" to do among her peers, it is not that appealing to overdo it and it seems to have worked! She only seems to apply makeup these days for special outings.

Hanna - posted on 12/19/2010

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I dont have a daughter but my youngest sister is 12 years old and my mother just started letting her wear make up last year, I mean of course my mother would ask at her birthday parties if I could do her hair and some light make up that was all well and fine but she wasn't allowed to leave the house with it on.

Gina - posted on 12/19/2010

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I have 3 girls. I let them play with makeup at whatever age they were interested in it. No eyeliner or mascara until about 7th grade though. I did not let them leave the house all made up but it was fun for them to play and learn at home. I am happy to say that my oldest daughter does wear makeup on a regular basis but in moderation. she likes using lip gloss eye shadow, liner and mascara. She don't look like a clown. I think the practicing helped to teach her that a little is enough.

Carol - posted on 12/19/2010

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No it's not too soon... as long is as you make it a mother daughter thing. Don't allow her to do it herself, but I'm figuring you figured that part out on your own. I allowed my daughter to paint nails and fingers.. I choose colors that were soft.. light pinks.. or really neon bright colors that are just fun for little girls and makes them giggle. The real fun part is watching her paint her daddies feet. He just shakes his head.. and chuckles. It's a good time to bond with her, and letting her paint her daddies toes.. With help mind you.. allows him to join in the bonding experience too.

Marla - posted on 12/19/2010

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I think it all depends on your attitude about it. I have 2 daughters (11 and 14). They played with play make up when they were little, though I don't think it was until they were about 6 or 7. Nail polish was never a big deal, though I only allowed light colors until recently. My 14-yr-old still chooses not to wear make-up, partially because I have been diligent in expressing to both my girls how beautiful they are without it. My 11 yr-old will probably start using an eyebrow pencil around 12 or 13 because she is very blond and you can't see them. As others have said, though, be sure to wash it off yourself, because you don't want her skin to develop a rash. This really is a very personal choice. They have their own personalities, but it's up to us parents to get them on the right track with priorities. Good luck!

Shannon - posted on 12/19/2010

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My daughter is only 20 months and Ive been painting her toenails and fingernails for a few months now. She loves it. I want her to be girly. Although I probably wont let her wear makeup until she's 13 or so.

Anthea - posted on 12/19/2010

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My daughter is also almost 4 and her and her sister love to put make-up on. It is usually all over their faces and they look hilarious, but they have so much fun putting it on and it all comes off in the bath. They both like having their toenails painted - no harm in that at all. I have two older boys and I don't wear make-up or paint my nails, so this is a wonderful novelty for me as well. They put make-up on me and it is a great bonding session for us all!

Tonja - posted on 12/19/2010

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I let her play with my make up and she puts it on me. The only thing I think she should be banned from until as late as possible is eyeliner and base. Oh and hair products and shaving lol. Those all have side effects if started to early or in excess.

Tonja - posted on 12/19/2010

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My daughter had her first pedicure on Mother's day when she was five. She gets one or two a year but only with pastels. In between, she could really care less about painting them unless it's something her and her friends do for boredom. Before that, she used the barbie sheer nail polish, but again, it isnt habitual and even if it were, I dont see that grooming your nails would have a side effect if done properly.

Beca - posted on 12/19/2010

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i reckon go with the flo... it's pretty harmless and can be a fun exercise to do together where you connect. I don't paint my toe nails either though... I do wear make up and so my two-year-old lovvves watching me do that and putting a touch on herself - I try to make sure that most of my cosmetics are as natural as possible and just keep things simple - hope this helps :)

April - posted on 12/19/2010

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Both of my girls played with make-up since they were about 2. I buy the play make-up for toddlers. My youngest is 5 and the make-up comes off before leaving the house. I think that playing dress up with make-up helped alot with my oldest (16yrs.) when she became a teen. She knew exactly how to use it and didn't apply it too heavily. It's mostly just a personal choice.

Elizabeth - posted on 12/18/2010

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My daughter is 2 - LOVES having her nails painted. So we do it. Why not! I try and keep it to her toes. I also let her have lipstick (okay - it';s just Chapstick but she loves it)

User - posted on 12/18/2010

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I have a five year old and her cousin paints her fingernails/toenails, but now she is in Kindergarten and her school doesn't allow it! I think makeup at that age is pretty harmless, but can only play in the house. If she has to go outside for any reason, she has to wash her face! Don't know if it's helpful, just my theory!!

Elise - posted on 12/18/2010

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A little nail polish or lip gloss at that age is perfectly normal. My kindergartener came home asking for "real"make up like her friends at school, which alarmed me a bit until I found out it was nail polish and lip balms. You might start thinking about where you want to draw the lines on the other stuff though, because it won't be too long...

Jessie - posted on 12/18/2010

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I have three girls ages 4, 7, and 10. They started wanting to play with makeup around 4. We would have a pretend spa day and I let them put it on me and I would put it on them. They know that they are not allowed to wear it when we leave the house and they only seem to do it when they play dress up. I always do the nail polish though, and I purchased really light colors just for them. They are so active that it wears off with very quickly. I have to say that my oldest is not even into it anymore, she no longer likes the way it feels.

Susan - posted on 12/18/2010

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My daughter is now 3yo, she likes to have her nails painted, but we haven't hit the make-up thing yet as I don't wear it. I don't see nail polish as being a problem, but make-up, I wouldn't let my daughter go out in public with it on.

Marilyn - posted on 12/18/2010

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She is only playing at makeup. Let her experiment at home. As long as it is just for fun and not to keep up with others, there is no harm. Make up for littlies is only appropriate for dance recitals, halloween etc. Lots of little girls have their fingernail and toenails painted for fun.Let them do it their way rather than make it serious as we oldies need our makeup.Our rule was no make up outside of the house until they were aged 14-15 and it was seriously restricted as they are not dolls

Diana - posted on 12/18/2010

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My daughter loved to play dress up --- but took it off when leaving the house. but when she was 12 years old I let her wear lip gloss, she painted her nails and toe nails. to be worn outside the home now.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/18/2010

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I started painting my daughter's finger and toe nails at about 4. I don't know how she got interested in it because like the post starter I don't really wear make up in general because my job kind of discourages it. But I do tend to wear nail polish for the heck of it.

Kim - posted on 12/18/2010

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My daughter is 5 and we've been painting her nails for at least two years. I'm not big into doing it to my own nails, but she likes it. She does it herself at times, which can be a bit messy. That and lip balms....I don't see any harm in it.

Maria - posted on 12/18/2010

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i dont think its too young, my little one is 8 and i started with clear for a few months then went to color. I also have 5 sisters, 2 of them are under 6 and get their nails done too.

Samantha - posted on 12/18/2010

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MARIA: cheers for having my back hun opinions upset some people just want my little gilr even though she is big to stay young for as young as she can for as long as she can not a bad thing i feel. Had my oldest at 18 information I will give out and always have so she is wise and make up now is left up to her now she is 14 she isnt big on it anyway x

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SANDRA: r u serious lil girls at ur daughters school are already wearing make up?! i do not believe thats insane. lil girls are growing too fast.

SAMANTHA: thanks i get a little too upset when people put other people down for just saying what they do. But thats cool ur a dermatologist!!!

Endang - posted on 12/18/2010

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I love to dress up and put make up every time I am out of the house and sometimes nail polish when I have special occasion and I have a daughter she loves to do things like me even she's only 3 years old and she wants to put nail polish when she goes to kindi sometimes and I just let it be.Sometimes she wears my lip gloss when we out for special occasion. I think that's part of being in the gilrls world.

Carmen - posted on 12/18/2010

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my daughter just turned 3 and we have been using nail polish for a few months

Samantha - posted on 12/18/2010

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Hi my daughter is 14 and I let her start wearing just a little eyes make up for prom etc not for everyday use x

Sandra - posted on 12/18/2010

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My daughter is 11 and she has worn toe nail polish since she was little. She loved to have her toe nails painted when she wore flip flops. But, we are not to the make up stage and I'm trying to figure out what age is ok for her to begin wearing eye shadow? There are a lot of girls at her school who already wear a lot of make up but I was considering alowing her to wear eye shadow. Anybody with older girls, when did you allow them to wear make up?

Samantha - posted on 12/18/2010

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WOW erm deep cleansing breaths people. What I put is just my opinion as Maria stated. Is this a bad time to point out I am a dermatologist and that is why I didnt allow my daughter make up till she was older lots of things have agents in them that age the skin even perfume contains it I just thought someone asked an opinion and the more and more varied they had the easier and more informed they would be to form their own point of view. I have brought up 5 children and am 36 while we are all pointing out ages though I really dont think age is wisdom think it more experience and that no one know everything and being different and having that different opinion is what makes us all interesting. xx

Kathey - posted on 12/18/2010

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I have 2 daughters 2 stepdaughters, 5 granddaughters, 8 step granddaughter, and 2 step great granddaughter. 4 is a great age to introduce a little girl to manis and pedis. I loved to paint them now the older girls love to paint the younger it's so cute. Make up is a different story. Don't believe in it till they are at least 14 and then only lip gloss and blush. 14 to 15 is the about the age to start the grooming. That's just my opinion. We do alot of things together. The most fun is manis and pedis and Build A Bear. Hope it helps. God bless you.

Anitra - posted on 12/18/2010

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I personally don't think a 4 year old should be wearing make up. To play dress up in I understand but other than that no. Painting the nails thing for me is another story. Painting a child's nails dosent make them appear any younger or older so I say go for it. I would wait till she hit 12-13 before allowing real make up. And still at that age a little makeup goes along way. Best of wishes.

NJ - posted on 12/18/2010

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Nail polish is the one thing that I never considered to be make-up. Once they were old enough not to spill it or get it all over themselves, it was okay with me. I remember my aunties painting my fingernails with clear polish when I was four years old and very attracted to nail polish. (It was a phase I soon passed out of, but revisited as I grew older. I did not like the feeling of my nails being coated so they could not breathe.) My daughter was not allowed to wear Make-up until she was 14 or 15. But lip gloss (the nearly nude shades) was okay from the time she was little, if she wanted to wear it. She went in for the good-smelling lip balms (some of them are tasty, too, for licking). She is now in her teens and uses a very light hand with make-up, mostly to cover break-outs. (Unfortunately, all of the girls use a heavy hand with mascara and eye liner.) But all of that was off limits until she was 15.

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And how old are?? cuz u actin like a child thank u very much. u need advice from someone thats for sure

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Um have u even read any of the other ones?? most moms say the same thing chill out already woman

Jenny - posted on 12/18/2010

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my daughter is three and i let her play make up and i paint her nails at home i personally love spending time doing these things i think it's a bonding curve something they will remember

Ruth - posted on 12/18/2010

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All little girls like to "pretend" with make-up and polish. Get a soft pink color and paint her nails. If you wear make-up, put a little eye shadow, blush, and lip gloss on, with the explanation that she can wear this at home, but that until she is...14, 16, whatever your boundaries are for make-up, she may not wear it outside the home. They do love that "princess" look...

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