Makeup?At what age do you allow your daughter to play with cosmetics?

Dawn - posted on 12/13/2010 ( 194 moms have responded )

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At what age do you allow your daughter to play with nail polish? My daughter is almost 4 years old and now wants me to paint her finger nails and toe nails to make them pretty. I personally don't paint my nails, but somehow she is now becoming interested in make too. It this too soon??? What do you think?

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WHOA!!! who the hell is freakin out??! u need to calm down i already i would let my daughter wear make up as well for fun and what not! RELAX they asked a question people are answering

Audrey - posted on 12/18/2010

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I don't think makeup is all about correcting...I think it can be used to enhance your natural beauty. And I agree...children are just gorgeous the way they are. Playing with mom's makeup is kind of like putting on a tutu or a crown...girly and fun. Teaching your kids that God made them in His image and that He loves them is the most important. I don't ever want my little girl to think she has to cover up to be beautiful...just wear makeup as an accessory to her already gorgeous face!

Amanda - posted on 12/18/2010

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It's not like I let her wear the make up outside! It's just for fun, it's not a big deal at all!

Samantha - posted on 12/18/2010

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Make up is used to correct imperfections children dont have them they are all stunning xx

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yep thats true at 15 i could wear watever make up but i usually just wanted eye stuff never used foundation or anything until college i think and i have exceptional skin never had acne problems never had skin problems and still dont my mom likes to take all the credit haha and i do thank her!!

Audrey - posted on 12/18/2010

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My little one is 4 and a half and she has been inerested in makeup (and everything else girly) since quite a young age. She wants to be like her mommy. I have been letting her put a little lipgloss (burts bees natural) on since she was a bit over 3 and now she puts the lightest shade of pale eyeshadow on for fun once in a while. Super light shade of vanilla. I use mineral makeup so I am not worried about the ingredients in the makeup being harmful to her. I also let her paint her nails and toenails with "Piggy Paint", an all natural waterbased nailpolish.

Girls are so fun. Hope you have fun dressing up together!

Samantha - posted on 12/18/2010

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my daughter started wearing it last year when she was 13 i am a very open minded mum but its a slippery slide from nail varnish to make hunny and the earlier they start the worse their skin is when they get older she will thank you for it later xx

Michelle - posted on 12/18/2010

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I think nail polish is okay. I let my three & a half year old daughter wear it. But as far as make up, not until she is at least in her teens anyway. But I have years before having to make that decision.

Kelly - posted on 12/18/2010

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My daughter is 8. Make up is absolutely only for play and must be washed off when we leave the house. We do manucures and I let her wear polish out and let her pick the colors. I feel that letting her make some choices now about her look will avoid bigger battles later on and me personally, I am all for self expression. I want her to know she is beautiful and smart no matter what is on her face or nails and even when she grow up, make up is still play really.

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of course its not bad!!! to each their own. i just pretty much go by how my parents raised me but who knows i may change it up a bit!! my baby is only gonna be 5 months so i got time haha

Ashley - posted on 12/18/2010

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My daughter is 4 and I don't let her wear makeup yet, nor has she asked. But I do paint her nails everytime I cut them. I use regular nail polish, it's not like she's going to eat it, she's old enough. I also paint them festive colors, like red and green for christmas or black and orange for Halloween. I let her go to school like that, is that bad?? I didn't think anything of it.

Amanda - posted on 12/18/2010

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I use make up and nail polish all the time, so personally I think it is fine. My daughter puts her fingers in her mouth so we dont let her have polish on her nails, just on her toe nails. And every now and then, I let her put on make up with me, she loves it. Plus it's like a bonding thing. It all depends on how you feel about it! :)

Linda - posted on 12/18/2010

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My daughter is 10, and a tomboy, but loves nail polish, body spray, and lip gloss. Go figure, other than that she's into sports, and wears boys clothes! lol I think its all part of finding themselves. Anyway, a few years ago she started wanting to "play" with makeup. I allow lip gloss, flavored chapstick, body spray, and nail polish - clear or light pink on the fingernails, and any color on the toes. but that's it...

Andrea - posted on 12/18/2010

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My daughter is 8 and I only let her wear nail polish for special occasions. She wears lip balm and it has a very light tint. She knows she's not allowed to do more than that until she's older and she's not fussed about it. She gets to be a little girly and doesn't grow up too fast - I think it's a good balance for us.

Amber - posted on 12/18/2010

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Not at all. My daughter is three and she started wanting to have her fingernails painted when she was two. It's natural with most little girls I know. On top of being something that will really excite her and make her happy, it's also a good time for bonding and talking :)

Erin - posted on 12/18/2010

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My 3 year old and I do "Mommy and Annie makeup time." I use it as quality time for us. It's something she enjoys and has a great time. I make sure to let her know that the make up and nail polish don't make her pretty. That she is beautiful all on her own. I pretend to put make up on the brushes but she thinks its really there. I do faint eyeshadow that you can't even see and I bought her her own nail polish set. So I get the deep reds and more intense colors while she gets fun and bright color like pink and light purple. I have three children, 3 1/2, 2 and 10 months. I try to do things with each of them so they have independent quality time with me and then we have our family time. My husband works all the time so doesn't get as much time with our kids as we would like but we try to do one on one quality time with him as well. Make it fun and have a good time with it. Let her do it and have it be your time with her. It will help make her feel special and be sure to reassure her that she's beautiful without the makeup and nail polish!

Tawni - posted on 12/18/2010

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As long as you let your daughter know that make up is fun and that she is Beautiful without it (I always tell my 5 year old that she looks pretty with make up, but when she is not wearing it I tell her she is Beautiful). Keep it real and make rules for it...we paint fingers and toes (just like mommy or friends) but we do not go out with make up on and it is for dress up/play time only. Good luck!

Kristen - posted on 12/18/2010

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I would say Nail Polish is okay. But like neutral girly colors. Girls sometimes like to be girls.. Makeup.. Uhmm. I mean they make those Barbie makeup kits and things. So I guess its just based off your own home rules and opinions.

Praveena - posted on 12/18/2010

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My daughter is 3yrs old and she is very much interested in putting nail polish. I polish her toe nails.Personally i am against use of cosmetics for kids as we all know that lot of chemicals are used. Its better not to buy all these stuffs, when the kid grows up you gently advice her of the pros and cons of makeup.

Cecily - posted on 12/18/2010

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Nail polish & lip gloss (Bonnie Bells types) maybe 6 or 7 in tasteful colors. Eye makeup not until she is 14 or 15 still tasteful. 16 she can "glam" it up a little more.

Michelle - posted on 12/18/2010

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I can't speak for every one, but I thought it was cute when my daughter at the tender age of 5 then (11 now) would go in my room and put on my high heels and play in my make up and come out looking a hot mess (lol) and of course I would wash it off when she was finished.. It's what little girls do, let her have fun at home. As for the nail polish on her toes and hands, as long as it's a pretty pale pink or cotton candy pink I don't see any harm with it.

Samantha - posted on 12/18/2010

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I was never allowed to wear any makeup as a child or even as a teenager until I got away from my parents. I dont see anything wrong with letting a little girl play with makeups though, as long as you tell her that she looks prettier without the fake stuff on her and of course use to non toxic stuff made for children.

Valerie - posted on 12/18/2010

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I personally do not think she is too young to have her nails painted just as long as she can keep her fingers out of her mouth. As far as the make-up issue...when my daughter was that age, she was given some play make-up specifically made for little girls. It was just for play and even at ten I do not allow her to leave the house with any make-up on her face, except for a little lip gloss. I think girls are trying to grow up too fast these days. I still do not know when I will allow her to wear make-up but I do believe she is still way too young.

Danna - posted on 12/18/2010

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my girls were around 12 but I would have waited, my husband is middle-eastern and he did not want them to grow up. They were sneaking to school and using their friends stuff, my girls are dark haired and eyed their friends were mostly blondes. The colors were not really theirs.... We went to the make-up department and all the colors tried and set up for them. Nothing fancy, but not overdone either.

Brittani - posted on 12/18/2010

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I remember my mom going out and buying me my own ply make-up and nail polish. Yu have to be careful thats its not some cheap brand that is going to irritate her skin. But there is actually make-up for little girls and nail polish that doesn't give off those fumes that us women use everyday. It's more of like a glue base, it comes off easily but isn't hazordous to your childs health. I would check toy-r-us and see if they have anything lik that for ages 4-6.

Michelle - posted on 12/18/2010

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play make up is ok but as they start going thru purburty and their bodies start to change it can can problems my daughter is about to turn 12 in january and so is not allowed to wear make up at all plus i want her to know that she is beautiful with out all that crap on her face you shouls see some of the kids at her school her age wearing more make up then i do for pictures whcich is the only time i put it on. i have nothing againts wearing it but i don't want my daughter being lead to believe that you can only be pretty if you put make up on. that start years ago and to many of us fell for it. no really lets their true sevles shine any more. and i think that is what is important. but when she is 16 or so if she want so wear then that will be her chose but i will still control how much she wear because i don't want her looking like a hoochie.

Chelsea - posted on 12/18/2010

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I have 2 girls and they both started wanting polish around 18 mon. (but I do my nails). My currently 2 year old LOVES to play with my makeup too. I don't have a problem with playing "dress up" with make up but it is just that....dress up. I don't allow them to wear it to serious occasions-parties, church, etc.

Kristin - posted on 12/18/2010

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I really don't know what age you should start letting a child wear make-up. As for my little girl I think age 16 may be a good age to let her just strt with a little not a lot . Maybe starting out with a little lip stick something like that. I guess. I guess I would have to wait until I cross that bridge with her, she is lonly 7 at the moment.

Danna - posted on 12/18/2010

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It is okay for the kids to be interested make-up, the older they get the more "hands on " you need to be. Even little boys like nail polish. They outgrow it. When I worked for the cosmetic companies we taught little girls as young as 6 to take care of their skin and when they were 11 or 12 we taught them minimal make-up to keep it all even. Some of the girls never used make-up, only skin care.

Julieann - posted on 12/18/2010

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Earrings I am very careful with, ears can get torn. My 12yo wears only studs except on dress up occasions like going to ao play. Then little dangles or hoops... really little. She has started to chose her own rules now like nothing she would have to take out for pe class. I agree to her rules, and am glad to.

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ELIZABETH: oh man i remmeber that being an issue when i was younger!!! i went to school and all the girls were um lets say "more mature" than me haha and of course i wanted to fit in and i wanted hoops!! my parents said no and i was sooo mad!! but i understand in part because before that i was never interested and also it just doesnt look right!! so at 11 i would say start off with hoops but little ones. and then when u feel comfortable slowly start goin up a size and up and then when she is old enoough u let her call ( most of ) the shots when it comes to the hoops. so if its 11.5 u go up a size or 12 its up to u. u let her kno that u respect that she wants hoops but the you will control the sizing of it. or take her to the store and see what hoops she is interested in then u go with what u feel is best.

Elizabeth - posted on 12/18/2010

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Playing dress up at home is great fun. My daughter is 11 and we have our issues with wearing makeup out now. I let her have lip gloss (not too much) and nails in light colors out but thats it. She does her makeup better then me. I let her put mine on, and she is my fashion consultant.

Now lets talk about earrings!!!! Big hoops??? I say no, but all the other girls are wearing them???

Cary - posted on 12/18/2010

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My daughter turns 5 on Monday and loves painting her nails (and mine) and sometimes puts make up on when I put mine on. I think it's kind of a bonding experience for us both. Very nice. Just very light colored non-toxic makeup. I've never been fussy with her or my two much older sons (11 & 17). I think if I put a stop to it, she would try and sneak it and that's never good. Boundaries are good, but too drastic is never good. I have friends who've been really strict with their daughters with makeup, hair and getting their ears pierced. Now that they are in high school, the girls have totally rebelled and sneak and hide and it's really sad.

Marjean - posted on 12/18/2010

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I have an adopted daughter who is also 4 and she loves to play with makeup, We go to get our hair and nails done it is a lot of fun for us.

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But you kno what i have a littke cousin she is 7 now and when i go see her i do her full on make up!! i love it and she has soo much fun and its cool that its our thing when i c her i bring her a new polish too. and when she was 5/6 i also did full on make up i dont get to see her often so its cool!! but she knows its not for everyday and that ts our thing. her mom does paint her nails. so prob with my daughter every now and then ill do it but just for home and just for fun!!

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Im a cosmetologist and i cant wait to bond with my daughter like that. at four if my daughter asks me then nailpolish will be the only thing and of course only light colors and when we go somewhere she will take it off when she gets older like 6/7 and she starts school she will only be able to do it on the weekends as far as face make up she gets to wear lipgloss when she's 13 ( i would have to approve the colors) at 14 her first eyeliner and then at 15 once she has her Quince ( coming of age ceremony) she will have full access to cosmetics. i only hope that she will let me do her make up cuz i would love to!!! but yea thats how my parents did it with me and i thought it was great!! so hopefully it will go the same way!!! have fun with everything if its innocent and you guys are having fun then go for it!! great mommy and daughter bonding time!!

Tammy - posted on 12/18/2010

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No, playing with and wearing are two different things. It’s a good thing to feel like a princess. Make it a play time between you and her; you will be playing dress up. And then you can teach her your believes about make up so when she is 11 or 12 and other girls are wearing some funny things your daughter will come home and talk to you (this was a good feeling for me. )

Julie - posted on 12/18/2010

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I'm a very conservative mother but I let my daughters have nail polish at a much younger age. They love it and when they got old enough they would do my toenails too. For us it was just a fun, bonding time.
Makeup is another story. They were allowed to play with play makeup in the house ony and it had to be washed off before leaving the house. I don't like seeing young girls with their faces made up, and don't like the message it sends to others. A case in point, one time my kids and their friend put on play makeup before going out to McDonalds. I didn't know they had done it until just before we left and decided to let them just go out with it on, that one time. Wouldn't you know, that was the day we actually ran into a pedophile at McDonalds who actually hit on my child's friend and made a point of mentioning her makeup. I intervened and got the staff at the restaurant involved and the guy left. We later found his picture on the local predator website.
My oldest daughter is now 15 and is allowed to wear makeup. I let her start with just lip gloss when she was 12 and then added mascara when she was in 8th grade so that she could get some practice with it and learn how to properly apply makeup before she got to high school. There are still some days when I think she is wearing too much eye makeup and will have her remove some before going to school though.
I don't think 4 years old is too soon for her to be interested in this stuff. To a 4 year old, this is just dress up and it looks pretty and grown up. I also don't think it's too young to let her wear nail polish. Little girls do all the time. I do think it's too young to let her wear it outside the house though. Experimental play with grown up things is normal and no different than her playing with a toy kitchen or her baby dolls. Just limit the makeup to inside or out in the yard and wash it off before going anywhere.

Denise - posted on 12/18/2010

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I agree Moji!!! I don't want my 9 year old looking like she's 15!! This subjects her to many things and people that I am not wanting her to be subjected to! My daughter knows that we just keep the makeup at home for play. She is still content with being a little girl and for that I am very grateful!

Moji - posted on 12/18/2010

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it is a matter of personal choice and what you as her mum are comfortable with. A lot of people believe make up makes you look pretty, but it also makes a young person appear older too. being aware of what is play and what is real and where to draw the lines is quite important for kids. I think if you will polish her nails, she needs to know why you are doing it and what she ia able to do. I would tend to agree with Francesca and allowing our children to be children and not mini adults, but it is up to you really and you should be clear with yourself and your daughter as to what is okay for her to do and at what age and also, what it implies. All the best!

Stacy - posted on 12/18/2010

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My daughter is 6 and I have been painting her nails since she was about 3 yrs. old.She now paints them herself when she wants to.I do not see the harm in letting them do this.They are just being little girls.She also has her own little girl makeup to experiment and play with.Again,i see no harm in this either.Occasionally when I am putting my own makeup on she will ask me if I can put some on her and as long as we are staying home I do it.I don't see anything wrong with little girls wanting to play around with makeup and nail polish.They are just being little girls.

Denise - posted on 12/18/2010

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I think that light nail polish is absolutely fine. I never wore red or any other darker colors on my daughter when she was that little. My daughter is 9 now, and in the 4th grade. You'd be surprised at how many of the girls in her class go to school with eyeshadow covering their whole eyelid, and mascara!! Wow. Playing around with makeup at home, as in "dress up" is one thing, however, I do not allow my daughter to wear it out in public. She's an innocent little girl, and I want to keep her that way as long as possible!!

Kristin - posted on 12/18/2010

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My daughter occasionally is allowed to wear nail polish. She just turned 7 in October and I've put it on her (at her request) from time to time since she was about 5. She has two older sisters (16 and 18 now) that loved to dress her up and she loved the attention! There are safe alternatives to adult nail polishes for little girls in the stores. My only concern was the chemicals in the polishes and her putting her fingers in her mouth. If you are really still not feeling it- perhaps just grab a package of the little nail decal stickers. The would just peel off and to my knowledge, what kid doesn't LOVE sticking stickers all over! =)

Niki - posted on 12/18/2010

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Nails are no big deal...I paint my 2 year olds nails. I don't really paint my nails either...but its not like she is wearing lipstick and blush, etc. Nail polish is harmless I think.

Vera - posted on 12/18/2010

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I have 2 daughters age 10 & 7.... they both now paint thier own nails but i started painting them when they were just babies.... the only thing you really need to seriously consider is if you do paint her nails what kind of nail polish you use. Reserach them & make sure none of them have any toxins that could hurt hurt her if she chewed off the polish.....

Amy - posted on 12/18/2010

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I have a 5 year old girl,and I paint her nails, just light colors, nothing like red. And as for make up, I don't think she needs it until, maybe the age of 13. My 5 year old is the "girly girl" type. She loves the pretty clothes, the hair and make up. To let her have her "girliness" I got her some of the spray in sparkles for her hair, I paint her fingernails and toenails, and every once in awhile she can play in my make up and put it on me to see what it is and what not. But until she starts to get pimples, I don't see the point of her wearing make up.

Andrea - posted on 12/18/2010

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Emilia is 3 and into nail polish and lip balm. I have nail polish in the house but dont put it on and dont wear lip balm its there in my basket!! So I dont know where this has come from? I let her put some balm on but thats it, little girl growing up too quick for me!!

Kelly - posted on 12/18/2010

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my daughter is the same age i dont allow any makeup at all not till she is 16 it makes her look to old and it is horrible thats my opinion

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