Mean Teacher or am I overreacting?

Brenna - posted on 10/01/2009

I have a daughter with ADD ,You need to sit in on class ,I know it sounds like it wouldn't be effective .

STEPHANIE - posted on 10/01/2009

FIRST OF ALL, DONT EVER BACK DOWN FROM ANY TEACHER!!! I WOULD REPORT HER TO SCHOOL ADMINISTRATION, WRITE THE ORINCIPAL A NOTE KEEP A COPY FOR YOURSELF, I WENT THROUGH THIS WITH MY KIDS!!! TODAYS TEACHERS (RECENTLY NEW) MOST OF THEM ARE NOT OLD SCHOOL. GO AS FAR AS YOU CAN TO ANYONE THAT WILL LISTEN ANS STAY ON IT. I DID NOT EVEN FINISH READING YOUR POST BECAUSE I GOT MAD AT THE FACT THAT SHE SAID SHE WAS EMBARESS, SHE IS EMBARASS BECAUSE SHE DID NOT DO HER JOB SO SHE IS EMBARASS AT HERSELF. USE ALOT OF TATIC BE A WITCH WITHOUT HER KNOWING YOUR BEING A WITCH IF YOU GET MY DRIFT. I AM VERY SORRY THAT HAPPEN TO YOUR DAUGHTER I HAVE 2 DAUGHTERS. I GO ALL THE WAY AND GET IN TEACHERS FACES I DONT BACK DOWN TIL I HEAR WHAT I WANT AND GET MY WAY!!!

STEPHANIE - posted on 10/01/2009

Quoting Wendi:

Mean Teacher or am I overreacting?

My daughter is in third grade and I have been having a problem with a lot of the things her teacher is doing. For starters, she yells at the class all the time. She yelled at them because not enough parents brought in tissues (part of the school supplies), My daughter brought hers in (not that it really matters), but still got screamed at with the rest of the class. She has kept the whole class in from recess because a couple of kids didn't score well on test, she reads their test score out loud and makes comments on them (Valerie got a 50 on her test, she must not have been trying). She doesn't give clear directions for homework, then yells if they do it wrong. One night we were unclear, so I had her do more that I thought she was supposed to because we had missed stuff in the past. Savannah got yelled at and told "I might want to assign that another night and you've already done it! I have never heard of someone yelling because they did too much work! She told them on conference day that she was not going to put any of their work up because she was not going to embarass them and their parents by showing their work (how dare she tell my child I'm embarassed of her!).
When I went in for the conference (There was no work displayed for any of the kids) she was almost hateful when she talked about my child. She started the conversation with "She's not even trying!" and it went downhill from there. My daughter has ADD and the things she was discribing are very typical behavior for that (starring off into space, disorganization, not finishing things). I know it's frustrating, but my daughter is also one of the sweetest, most polite, most loving children (this is not just a mother talking, I'm getting this from every other teacher she has ever had). She seems to have a lot of anger towards Savannah.
Savannah loves her classmates, but she's afraid of her teacher. She is very sensitive and is very much a people-pleaser. I'm not real sure what, if anything, I should do. What do you think?

Lisa - posted on 10/01/2009

HI Wendi, I have a 12 year old boy, who has PDD and other learning disabilities, We have been thru this kind of thing twice now. The 1st time that we intially had problems was when he was in 2nd grade, the teacher was really mean. I noted everything down, and got an advocate to help me thru everything, and also when his IEP was up, we made sure that he was to get the best care. This started when we went to a dentist appt, and came back to school, and he refused to go into the school, he dropped, crying and screaming "NO, NO" Anyhow, I took him home, called the school psychologist, and decided that to meet with the teacher, principal, and school psycholigist. My son like your daughter is a very sweet child. I also volunteered for class helper, even though, I was only there a couple times a week, the teacher and principal new that I wasn't messing around. I also called the superintendent, and she reassured me that my son would get the best care. Well, it turned out that we rearanged his schedule to be with his special ed teacher more, that seemed to help. This past year in May, Matthew was in 6th grade, we had another teacher who made his days terrible, it made him so physically sick, that the doctors couldn't figure out what was wrong, turned out that he had come down with refux disease, this teacher made him so worked up it was making his stomach, turn, and he would cough for 5-6 hours straight. Then he would stop, he missed 1 month of school, well he started to get better, but then was really withdrawn. Then, his doctor put him on prozac to help him with coping. That still wasn't helping, I remember this teacher say to me at conferences

"I have high expectations of my students" that made me very frustrated, because all of his regular teachers said that he was a quiet, and very pleasant, and listens in class.

This special ed teacher always had something to say, she would email me daily, or call me. About my son's issues, my son is a people pleaser also, it makes them feel good, but this teacher ruined his self esteem, and made him feel like crap. When he came into the van one day crying, I had to go to the princeples office and find out what is going to be done, we had a homework issue, she pulled him into the hallway, and called him a liar, and just badgering him. The principle didn't give a flying fart. shortly after that incident, I received a phone call from the teacher, and they put Matthew into a seclusion room, locked him into a 5x8 room for 20 minutes. Only b/c he wouldn't take one sentance of notes in science class. The school regulations of the seclusion room are for kids who are a threat, to others, or themselves, and when the police are involved.

That was the last straw, I pulled him out of school, and was just going to try to homeschool him the rest of the school year, but called the other middle school that he was going to this year, and the school counselor said we can get him in here tommorrow. So we did! Happy clam with the school situation, but he has alot of anger issues with school teachers, and even here at home. Well, enough about my story,

my suggestions would be to see if there are other parents that have the same feelings.

Keep notes, and get email addresses, email the teacher if you need to clarify the homework, I also would sit down with the principl and the school psychologist, also call the school superinrendent. Don't be afraid to speak up, you are your daughters advocate , us as parents have to speak up when things are wrong. I actually am pursuing a lawsuit against matthew's old teacher from last year. What is a child learning in a clasroom if he/she is afraid of there teacher? They feel like there walking on eggshells. i am not sure where you are from, but call the Department of education, they will also direct you how to handle things.

For my son, we have a communication log that goes beteen me and the teacher, in case something happens, with h/w etc. Be as involved in the class as possible if you can. I am not sure if your daughter has a IEP or not, but if she does she may be intitled to services. This teacher obviosly has some issues, and she needs to be reprimanded, our kids are in school to learn, not to be afarid. Don't be afraid to speak your mind.

I hope this helps! I would see if you can change teachers too.Try have a good month of OCTober!

Lisa Stock

Karon - posted on 10/01/2009

I am a retired 4th grade teacher who has never experienced this kind of behavior. You need to document all the rude remarks and inappropriate behavior that this teacher is exhibiting. If you are friends with other parents, suggest that they too document any inappropriate happenings with their child. When enough evidence has been logged that it to the principle . If he/she will not address this matter then get on the agenda for the next board meeting. This teacher should be put on an improvement plan or dismissed, which sometimes isn't easy.

Cheryl - posted on 10/01/2009

I am with stevie. I am a Teachers' Aide, in special education. since she has ADD she should have an IEP. then she can get extra help. I have a son that has ADD I had him tested when he was in first grade and it continued until he graduated high school. he went on to school and specialized in fixing car, when he finished that he specialized in fixing 18-wheeler. two certified degrees. as far as the teacher she should not be teaching. Keep records and talk to other parents, if they feel the same way, go together. like Stevie said, the more parents, the less the teacher can say. Keep encourging Savannah and tell her that you are not embrassed by her whether she makes an A or an F, as long as she gave her best. that's all you want.

Jody - posted on 10/01/2009

Write out an outline of the events Savannah has described. Then add your observations. When having the conference with the principal use I statements ..I feel_____when__________because____________. This teacher's behavior is not okay . It is also your right to observe in the class. Good luck to you and your daughter.

Cindy - posted on 10/01/2009

Have you told the teacher how you feel and how it is effecting your child? She may not care but atleast you tried. I would then go to the administration. Get more parents involved. I can't believe your the only one having issues. If you don't advocate for your daughter who will?

Cindy - posted on 10/01/2009

Please, see if you can have your child moved to a different class!!! I went through this with my son in 5th grade! My child is a very sweet and intellegent child( in above grade level classes) He had a JERK for a teacher and was the same way...yelling all the time, insulting the children, he even walked around with a yard stick and hit the desks. He would give my child an"F" on papers and reports and hadn't even read them. We finally went to the principal. had all my son's papers recheck by her and they were all "A & B" papers. We finally had him move out of this class and into another class 6 weeks before school ended and it saved my son's health and well-being and saved this teachers job, because I wanted to go to the school board about him and have him fired. PLEASE DO EVERYTHING you have to for your child!!!!

Nancy - posted on 10/01/2009

I have been a teacher of young children for 20 years, if this teacher is the way it sounds, you should ask for a meeting with the teacher and the principal to discuss your concerns. No teacher should be yelling and screaming, belittling children or embarrissing them in front of the other children. Maybe you should contact some of the other children's parents to see if they have some of the same concerns. I love children and watching them grow and learn and it breaks my heart to hear that you child is afraid of her teacher, this is a person who should be making all children feel that they are in a secure and safe place and that they are valued. Please forgive me for going on and on.

Maria - posted on 09/30/2009

You are definately NOT overreacting! I have 2 sisters who are teachers (1 even teaches SPED) and they would NEVER be so mean to their students (I've assisted in the classes on occassion). Even if your child has ADD, she should not fear her teacher, respect, yes, fear, NO! I would talk to the principal and get her moved to another class room. Humiliation is not a teaching tool! She needs to be reported and taught a lesson herself. She may be having personal issues as well, but taking it out on her students is no way to deal.

Tina Marie - posted on 09/30/2009

I think a meeting with this teacher is not uncalled for, however, I think it should be between you, the teacher and her superior so there is no backlash towards your child after your meeting. I know nowadays children are expected to do a whole lot more than they ever had to back in the 50's 60's or even 70's, but she seems to be out of control. There should be discipline in school and there should be boundaries but school should also be a place to nurture, challenge and grow little minds and spirits. There are teachers that just seem to get this and really encourage young people and create a passion for learning that needs to be planted early for it to take root and grow. Sorry for the metaphores, but then there are some teachers who should not be teaching at all, maybe they missed their calling and should have been a drill seargent. My suggestion is to have an Adult, Civil, respectfully conversation but to include the principal and state your concerns regarding what is going on in the class. Maybe if you are available you could volunteer to be a room Mom and help the teacher out that way. Maybe the oversized classroom is just not giving here the time she needs with each child and it is making her loose her cool with the kids. I guess you need to give her the benefit of the doubt, but talking is the first step towards fixing what might be wrong. That's my 2 cents. I am the 52 year old mother of 3 grown children and 2 grandchildren and have faced the teachers and principles more than once, but again, in a respectful, adult way, never demeaning, never disrespectfully, never rude, or harsh. Offer your help with a gentle spirit and it will surprise you!

Tamara - posted on 09/30/2009

I am a teacher. You need to talk to that principal!!!!!! I am sure you are not the only parent upset. Nothing will change unless the right people know about it!!

Misty - posted on 09/30/2009

Trust your gut Mom...Always. The scenarios you've described within your Daughter's classroom and the comments you've quoted from her Teacher are altogether horrid. I don't think you really need anybody to confirm this for you. You already know without a doubt that this situation is truly wrong and potentially harmful for ALL Children...Especially cruel for Doll's like yours though with sensitive, special spirits. Soooo...Do something about it Mama! Get your arse up to that school ASAP and start talking...Talk to the Office Ladies. Talk to the Principal. Talk to the School Nurse Talk to the Lunch Lady. Pretty much, just talk to anybody that can stand you...But, most especially...Talk with EVERY Mother and/or concerned Parent you can get your grubby little paws on! Get the dirt on this Lady...Gain some insight...Get in that classroom and volunteer (every single day) (I would)...Just do whatever it takes to find out what the Hay is happening inside that classroom! Seriously, if this Teacher is truly as wretched as she sounds, you have an obligation to your Daughter to protect her from this woman and the unhealthy environment that she is exposing your child to all week long...hours and hours. Do something. You have to. I promise that you are not the only Mother who feels this way about Ms. Nightmare...Go out and find those other Mama's, band together, rally the troups and save your beautiful Children.

Jessica - posted on 09/30/2009

I would get in touch with the principle and let him/her know what this teacher is doing. This in my eyes is abuse! If that don't get you any where take it to the school board! Kids have enough problems trying to fit in and if a teacher (who is supposed to be someone they can go to if they need to) is treating kids this way she should NOT be a teacher any more. Maybe it's time for her to retire?

Susan - posted on 09/30/2009

Seriously....why do you even have a need to post this? Your daughter is being abused. You have the moral obligation to do something about it NOW. Have a backbone and go to the principal's office first thing in the morning. Tell him/her you expect an apology from the teacher to every student and parent in the class by noon. And then go park your butt at the district super intendent's office and ensure they put this woman in anger management courses asap. Finally, threaten (and follow through if you have to) to write a letter to your local newspaper about her behavior. You're the mom...grow up and be the responsible adult your daughter needs.

Holly - posted on 09/30/2009

The teacher is completely out of line. Someone needs to act on it before she truly has a negative effect on young impressionable children. I remember one nasty teacher that I had that I would love to run into as an adult so I could let her know she should not be allowed around children, let alone shaping their growing minds.

Amy - posted on 09/30/2009

first go to the school board about this teacher! Then go to every other classmates parents, then get your daughter out of that class. This woman has serious mental issues to yell at a bunch of little kids!!! She is lucky I'm not one of the parents when it comes to my kids I'm not above smacking the crap out of somebody. You have the right to protect your children you are in the USA!!!!

Lunette - posted on 09/30/2009

Go to the princpal NOW. Talk to them and the teacher. If this does not resolve it then have her taken out of the class. Don't let the teacher talk to your child or you in that way. She will get afraid to go to school then you will have a whole new problem your fist and only concern is your child not how the teacher feels. Get an appointment today.

Tiffany - posted on 09/30/2009

You could have a meeting with the teacher and principal to see why this is happening. I think that you and the other parents need to go to the principal. If the principal doesn't do anything, go to the school board. Your child shouldn't be afraid of her teacher.

Cosette - posted on 09/30/2009

No teacher should be screaming at children. 1. Ask other parents if their children are complaining also to make sure it's just not your child, if they do, get together and resolve this problem. Parents have the power when it comes to things like that. Teachers are to teach lessons, parents protect. 2. Request a conference with the teacher to discuss the issues. 3. Have the principal observe the teacher unexpectedly-unannounced and see if your fears are correct.

Gail - posted on 09/30/2009

OH my gosh April - I actually have had similar situations arise with my kids and their teachers when they were younger. I had meetings with the prinicipals, counselors & teachers and made it clear to them that this was unacceptable behavior. You might consider speaking to your principal about the reports you are getting from you daughter about the teacher and how it makes her feel.

Paige - posted on 09/30/2009

I don't think u are overreacting at all. You should really get her changed out of that class. Have you been to the principal? It sounds like that woman has NO BUSINESS teaching children. I could not imagine someone else yelling at my child. She would definately know where I stood with her behavior. I know u dont want to be hateful to the teacher because she would just take it out on your child. So, if it were my child I would have her removed from that class. I pray everything works our for you.

Denise - posted on 09/30/2009

You are not over-reacting. Document things, talk to parents, talk to the principal. Is there another grade 3 in the school that she can be switched to. If nothing improves in a short time, you need to go above the principal. What this teacher is doing sounds very damaging and will impact on kids in future grades. My son had a similar experience in grade 2, but the anger was only directed at the boys. Not just a few of them, but all of them. We did everything we thought possible, but should have pulled him out of the school. Next year at least 8 families pulled their children from that school, since the teacher was still there and the principal would not do anything. The trauma of that year is still with my son several years later. He went from a little boy who loved school and always put up his hand to a little boy who was fearful and tried to stay unnoticed at the back of the class as much as possible.

Pauline - posted on 09/30/2009

i know this may be well out of character but i would go in and smack her straight on the nose........how dare she single out any child in the class.....I WOULD ALSO DO IT ON PARENTS EVENING FOR EVERYONE TO SEE AND THEN SAY NOW YOU HAVE ISSUES WITH ME.....................

Becky - posted on 09/30/2009

As an educator and a mom of 3, I can tell you that this teacher is not acting appropriately. From what you say, she treats all of her students this way, so she is not singling your child out. Which doesn't make it any better. Has she been a teacher for a long time? If so she is probably burnt out and should find a job that better suits her. Take your concerns to her first, let her know that you think it is inappropriate to belittle students in front of one another. Have you spoken to other parents in the classroom? Try that route too. If you are uncomfortable talking directly to the teacher, take your concerns to the school principal. If that doesn't get you anywhere, call the superintendent. It is never okay for a teacher to point out a child's faults in front of the rest of the class or to belittle them. Unfortunatly it happens a lot more than it should. I know of a kindergarten teacher that told the rest of the class not to play with a child with special needs because she was stupid. . . If the school district does not attempt to resolve this issue call the state hotline and let them know how the teacher is treating the students.

Kate - posted on 09/30/2009

You are right, that is not a good teacher! I think that you should try to talk to other parents in your child's class. If you all feel the same way then set up a conference with the principal and maybe even the superintendent. Go with the group of parents with all of your complaints cleary written out. Make a journal of what this teacher is doing, make sure you get enough to show not just a bad week. (maybe another parent has already been doing this) Go together. They cant dismiss the complaints of mutliple parents. Good luck!

Mandi - posted on 09/30/2009

This is a horrible story of an over-worked teacher that desperately needs a perspective check!



If I was a parent of a child in her class, I would definately conference with the other students' parents to get their feedback, and if they have had similar experiences with this teacher, I would highly recommend switching the students to another class with a teacher whom has more experience and patience.



If that doesn't work, I would start a petition to get that teacher "some time off". No child should ever feel threatened or scared of their teacher. School should always be a safe place to encourage learning and success.

April - posted on 09/30/2009

I would try to find an opportunity to speak with other parents of children in her class foremost, see if they are getting the same feeling you are about the teacher that you are. And if so, I would definately be concerned and take it to the principal. Third grade curriculum is a huge leap from 2nd and adding stress to the student's learning process will not help. Good luck.

Wendy - posted on 09/30/2009

This is a teacher who needs to be reported to the Board of Education where you live. No child should ever be treated the way that this teacher is treating these children. See if you can speak with Parents of the other children in the class and All of you get together and log a complaint against this teacher, because it sounds like she should never have been a teacher to begin with

H.J - posted on 09/30/2009

I would definately nip this one straight away the teacher has to know that her behaviour is unacceptable. My brother in law is 11 and his principle told him that he would be better off dead so I know where you are coming from. We took that directly to the department of education. I think everyone else is right in saying go to the principle. This is definitely not a teacher you want teaching your child. Good luck

Heather - posted on 09/30/2009

Leaving your daughter's issues with ADD aside for the moment, this woman (I hesitate to use the term "teacher" here) is clearly in the wrong profession. As a former teacher for autistic and developmentally disabled children and a mother of an 8 year old and a 5 year old (both girls), I'm beyond apalled at what you've described here. Regardless of WHAT problems the students in a given classroom may have, there is absolutely NO call for them to be spoken to like that. The first thing you need to do is to talk to some of the other parents and find out if they have been getting similar stories from their kids. then, you need to schedule a meeting with the principal ... if other parents will come along, so much the better. If you don't get results, and this continues to be an issue, definitely request that she be placed in another classroom.



I must confess that I have never understood the practice of ridiculing a child in front of the whole class. It solves nothing and only serves to crush the child's self-esteem. I had a teacher do something like that to me once in fourth grade. Essentially, she insinuated to the entire class that I wasn't smart enough to be there, even though I was a straight A student (she was merely upset at me because I had grabbed the wrong book out of my desk three days in a row). I had never made a mistake like that before or since, just seemed to have a mental block about the textbook for some reason in those few days. In any case, she completely humiliated me in front of all my classmates, and then told me to go stand in the hallway until she could find my "new" classroom for me (she was apparently planning to demote me to a less challenging class). Luckily for me, my former 3rd grade teacher saw me crying hysterically in the hallway and intervened. I was eventually returned to class, but ... well, let's put it this way ... I was 9 when this happened. I am 37 years old now, and I remember it like it was yesterday. I remember how ashamed and embarrassed I was, and I remember how much I grew to hate that school after this happened. It didn't spoil my love of learning permanently, but it very well could have if it hadn't been a one-time incident. If that teacher had been allowed to persist in behaving so horribly, there's no telling how much damage she could have done to me or the other kids in my classroom.

Martha - posted on 09/29/2009

You have definately go to do something about this lady. It sounds to me like she does not like her chosen career. Like many of the others have said write stuff down and take it with information from other parents to the principle and if that does not work go to the school board, I would also go as a group. This woman has to be stopped.... The things she is doing are just wrong you do not criticize a child in front of their peers, or any of the many other thing she is doing it is just wrong and will only tear a child down instead of building them up which is what a teacher is supposed to do...

Victoria - posted on 09/29/2009

When I was in 3rd grade I had a teacher just like your daughters. I was held back because she said I was too stupid to advance. Well, I repeated 3rd grade with a different teacher and excelled thru the rest of my education. That is verbal and emotional abuse and she should have her teaching license revoked. I would definately keep a log of events, and request that other parents do the same, especially since she is doing it to the whole class. Then take it to the principal. If they don't take action against the teacher then you need to take it to the school board, and if nothing happens there go to the superintendant. Go as high as you need to in order to take care of this. That sort of treatment can be very detrimental to a child I should know. I struggled for many years thinking that no matter how well I did, it was never good enough. Now I know that it wasn't me, it was her that had the problem. I hope that you are able to find some resolution to this problem. And that it doesn't have a lasting impact on your child.

Alida - posted on 09/29/2009

Pull her out of that class! NOW! Don't have her go back to school until you can meet with the principal and have her put in another class. That's just ridiculous.

Karen - posted on 09/29/2009

In all of this I think it is important not to loose sight of your daughter. Make sure she knows your going to bat for her and that just because her teacher is an adult does not excuse her behavior. Do what you can to get her out of this witches control as soon as possible. Talk to the principal, the parent council, the school board and keep talking til the witch is dead.....figuratively speaking of course.

She doesn't deserve the privelidge of molding young minds and she doesn't appreciate the rewards of helping a youngster experience things for the first time. Shame on her.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

K

Jean - posted on 09/29/2009

Go to the school principal and tell him what's been going on, if this doesn't work, request that she be taken out of that class into another class, it's not to late. What happen's to your child now reflects on them in the future. Low self esteem, feeling like they are not good enough, trust me it happens. She only has you to back her up. Some teachers are bad, they want to drug your children so they don't have to deal with them. They shouldn't be teachers if they can't handle children a little rambucious.

Tricia - posted on 09/29/2009

log everything! go to as many school board meetings as possible! get together with other parents! BE PERSISTENT!!

Nicole - posted on 09/29/2009

I am a teacher myself and the things you have described are completely uncalled for. Have you talked to the teacher about your concerns? You are probably afraid she might yell at you! However, once you have talked to the teacher first, then, you can go to the principal. I know the principal would want to know if these things were going on. Also, you have rights under special education laws. Actually, I'm not sure now that I think about it that ADD would be covered under that, but definitely check into it.

Marlece - posted on 09/29/2009

If you can start going to the classroom at different times of the day so you can see for you self what's going on and take it from there

Catherine - posted on 09/29/2009

Oh, and you can insist on a classroom change, too.

Catherine - posted on 09/29/2009

She sounds like my daughter's grade 1 teacher, who was in full-blown menopause and was a freaking nightmare. She isolated my child as punishment for any transgressions, then kept her isolated because it was easier for her. She refused to help my daughter with work when she asked, and would accuse her of all kinds of crazy things. I went to the principal, but they were close friends, and she did nothing but, luckily, part way through the year we got a new principal and he was more receptive, but not before my daughter started talking about suicide. That's when I went to him and told him what she was doing to my daughter, and said that other parents were complaining about her, too, and threatened to go to the school board. My husband and I toyed with the idea of putting a mini-cam on my daughter somewhere so that we could get proof to play back. It was a sickening time for us, and I think it shaved a couple of years off my life. Still, two years later, we call her 'Mrs. Monster'.

Teresa - posted on 09/29/2009

You are not overreacting. I would ask for a conference with you, the teacher & school principal notate everything. Also bring to the school anything else that you have saying what a good student she has been in the past. Given the fact that it's the start of the year you need to make it clear that this can't go on like this for the rest of the school year. Why don't you try asking the teacher to send in writing to you daily what the homework assignments are and have a notebook go back and forth to you daily so it's clear to you as well. This way she can't come back with anything negative. If this doesn't resolve anything then take it to the school superintendent. There is a big difference between having fear of not doing something right at school and fearing school itself. Good luck with all of this.

April - posted on 09/29/2009

We had a kindergarten teacher like this. Yelling is not teaching It's not fair to label your daughter. Don't allow her to use that lanuage. Read The Spirited Child Book. Your daughter should never be afraid of her teahcer. It's okay to talk to the principal. Your right on with your feelings

Marie - posted on 09/29/2009

First, this teacher is abusive; plain and simple. She is also violating state and board of education laws. I would definitely report her to the principal. Before you go and talk to him, get some other parents to provide you with some stories of their own. I would not allow any of my kids be abused by a person that is supposed to be teaching her social skills. Ask yourself what she is learning by this role model. Do you really want your daughter acting the same way as this teacher? I agree with Candi, start a log.

Stacey - posted on 09/29/2009

Oh my goodness, you need to yell, jump up and down scream until someone listens to you. If the princpal doesnt listen to you go the the super. if he they doesnt listen go to the board.

My son had a teacher just like this one last year. he struggled all year was scared to death of the teacher to the point that he was having headaches and stomach problems by mid year. This women doesnt need to be a teacher. Contact your regional school board member. My son is in a new school this year, he loves it up before I am and ready to go. He comes home everyday talking about something he did in school. Last year his grades were lucky to be D's. This year he is doing wonderfully, As Bs and 2 Cs

He enjoys his new friends, no more headaches or stomach problems. If was crazy that one teacher that shouldnt have been a teacher had me thinking that my son needed to be medicated to make it through school. Def. do something to help your daughter get out of this situation.

Julia - posted on 09/29/2009

I live in England, and don't know the American System to well, but it seems that your daughters Teacher is a bully, and was more than likely bullied herself, in this instance she can be reminded that your taxes pay her wages, thats what our taxes go towards. Then keep a diary of all events, that have happened to your daughter. If the Teacher is not approachable by parents, you must go over her head and see the head Teacher armed with the diary of events to back up your complaint, does the head know of your daughters ADD? if so then the teacher should know too, Has she been informed of the typical behaviour of a child with ADD?. you have a powerful weapon, that being the press, bad publicity for a school will result in either a formal warning given to the Teacher, or dismisel, or she will have to have a co-ordinator bought into to class to observe her teaching methods. But please keep reassuring her ,that the teacher is not a representative of good teaching, Children follow by example, and if the children see your daughter being bullied by this teacher, then she will become a victim by her classmates eventually too. my very best wishes to you and yours. Julia

Colleen - posted on 09/29/2009

ok i only read a few sentences ... but you are definitely NOT over reacting ... i would go straight to the principal ... go right over her head and complain ... call everyday if you have to ... a person like that should NOT be teaching!

Karen - posted on 09/29/2009

what a horrible excuse for a teacher. she should be encouraging the kids all the time, whether they do good or bad. being possitive can be hard sometimes, but if she loved her job, it wouldn't be difficult. she needs to find a new profession! write a letter to the principal, put a web cam in the room, if she has nothing to hide, she should not mind being monitered!

Hue - posted on 09/29/2009

That's a horrible teacher. She shouldn't be a teacher. She is definitely a very, very mean teacher. She should have encouraged the children to do better and not embarrased them. Every child learns different. She needs to look at everything in a positive way. I think she needs to go back to college to learn how to be a teacher. She supposed to be a role model. Also, you should talk to her principal and put her in a different class. If all the parents feel the same as you, you should petition to get her expell. You don't want your child to not like going to school. I hope this help.