Melissa - posted on 08/19/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )
FOR THOSE NON SPANKING PARENTS, does any one have suggestions to how to manage a very head strong 18 month old child? I try time outs in a spot where we sit together, just long enough to re affirm why we are sitting there, sometimes she gets angry and cries, other times she just sits like a good girl. I am a first time mother and her head strong ways leave me exasperated and tempted to spank, but I refuse to be my mother and know that there is a way around discipline even with the most stubborn child - SUGGESTIONS?
Sorry it's so long here goes:
My issues are not about her being home and touching stuff, my house is safety proofed and has been for a very long time. Her behaviors are around the way she responds to something she doesn't like, for example when I say 'No not now" when she asks for a Popsicle before dinner. ( I explain why I say No) and she throws a melt down fit and on most occasions she hits me, slaps me and attempts at such actions. My day care workers and I have been very involved and have been on top of this behavior with signs - Pictures, and sign language showing "STOP" yet once again she does this at times non stop and not with just me, with other people. It's behaviors that I know she understands is not acceptable, she is a very bright 18 month old and knows the difference between occasions that are 'good' and 'bad".
I hear other people use different methods, example - time out - 123 magic - and others have volunteered to tell me to slap her hand, which is silly, why tell her "BE GENTLE" by being a hypocrite and hitting her!?!
My biggest frustrations are the back to back to back melt downs and anger she gets over anything that doesn't go her way, sure this is normal, yet I need to figure out a style of discipline that works for us, and I need ideas. I have been feeling over whelmed by it, and am doing my best yet I could use creative idea's or methods from Mothers.
Thanks for your input guys - I should add that I have changed the word "NO" usage so much and I have been saying things like "Not now, after dinner, or later" things like that. It doesn't always work but it helps from triggering first impulse of melt down.