Charity - posted on 08/06/2012 ( 19 moms have responded )
So I have a wonderful mother in law that helps out and is generous. I am pretty lucky to have a great mother in law. Besides some annoying comments and suggestions about parenting that annoyed me in the past we have had a good relationship until she got a new boyfriend. She is divorced twice already and started dating this guy and soon after he moved in with her. After being together for just over a year or so and I only interacted with him a hand full of times he began to call himself "Grandpa" And it continued and I became very upset because just because you date Grandma does not make you grandpa!! I talked to her about how It made me uncomfortable and it was rude and brazen for him to continue calling himself grandpa especially without asking. I hinted and talked with him nicely and he continued to do it and finally I discussed how upset I was with my sister in law and although she did not share my ideas on boyfriend grandpa it stopped after that, I think they both got the point. My mother inlaw I believe was upset and hurt by it but I felt it so disrespectful that an almost stranger was calling himself grandpa to MY children and what happens when he is gone? I have to tell my kids. She has continued to act "weird" like you can sesnse something is wrong in the air when I am around her and I am hoping to talk to her and ask what is wrong and talk about it so we can maybe clear the air but I sense that it may not be that easy and that she is verry hurt that I don't "love " her boyfriend and want him to be "grandpa" yet. Anyone experienced this before? Any thoughts or advice?