mothers are favoured by the courts? Think again.

Denikka - posted on 01/13/2013

I'm going to totally agree with the other ladies here.
As for the SSN thing, in Canada it's a SIN-Social Insurance Number. But same basic thing as the SSN in the states as far as I'm aware.

Evelyn - posted on 01/13/2013

I have to agree. Now maybe back in the 1700's men got the children as women did not have as many or no rights. But now adays, in the USA as far as I know, custody is granted either 50/50, or full to one or the other with generous visitation unless one parent or the other is proven to be unfit.

Dove - posted on 01/13/2013

Oh, but that's when it's the most fun. ;) lol

Hope you're ok!!

Shawnn - posted on 01/13/2013

Me too, Dove, I do try to give them the benefit of the doubt, but...

Then, too, my mental state sucks today, so I probably shouldn't even be here...

Dove - posted on 01/13/2013

That's what I thought, but I keep 'trying' to give the op the benefit of the doubt.... at least a little on some level cuz I can't imagine any judge taking a newborn away from his/her mother. Heck, my friend is fostering to adopt a little boy and DHS didn't take the baby brother away when he was born even though the whole family tested positive for drugs at the birth. :(

Shawnn - posted on 01/13/2013

considering that the US is the only country that I know of that has SSN's...I'm sure that all other countries have some sort of identification that is similar, though...at least my Canadian friends have told me that they have something similar...but that's heresay, don't quote me!

Dove - posted on 01/13/2013

I wonder what country the op lives in. I could imagine something like that possibly happening in one of those countries that think women are lower class than the men.... but I don't think those other countries HAVE social security numbers, so... doubtful.

Firebird - posted on 01/13/2013

That all depends on where you live. That would never fly in most places in this world, unless abuse could be factually proven.

Shawnn - posted on 01/13/2013

Yep, lacye's got a point...Advising illegal actions isn't very, well...advisable!

The quickest way to change that "never been in jail" status to "my new address is cellblock C" is to kidnap your kids away and try to illegally change their names, ssn's, and leave the country.

Lacye - posted on 01/13/2013

If a newborn infant is taken away from their mother at that young of age, there is something wrong in that picture. It is extremely rare for a child that age to be taken away unless it can be proven that the child's life is in danger. No judge is going to do that.

As for advising women to just run off with their kids and change their names, you should be ashamed of yourself. Not only is that illegal, but it is immoral as well. To steal a child away from their father is not fair to the child.

Dove - posted on 01/13/2013

Actually, I 'believe' that most courts these days automatically go with 50/50 custody unless there is a really good reason not to do that.

MOST judges don't go for the he said/she said nonsense, but look at the facts.... and they know how important it is for a newborn to be with his/her mother most of the time..... If you only have an hour a week with your newborn... either the judge had a very good, legitimate reason for it... or you got a really bad judge and your lawyer should seek to have your case heard by someone else.

Shawnn - posted on 01/13/2013

Your ex would have had to have factual evidence in order to have a newborn removed completely from your custody.

You would have had to provide the same evidence to move against him.

If there has been a proven reason that the infant would be in danger, only then is the infant removed. No one, again, I say NO ONE will arbitrarily remove a newborn from the custody of the mother without that proof.

So, I agree with Jodi and Michelle...Welcome back from la la land...

Michelle - posted on 01/13/2013

I agree with Jodi. None of what you have said makes sense.

Newborns do not get taken away from their mothers without a very good reason e.g. drug abuse.

The other party also needs evidence, not just saying what has happened.

Jodi - posted on 01/13/2013

They don't just take one week old babies from their mothers and never allow visitation based on someone's word for it. What evidence did he present?