Sammi - posted on 11/25/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )
My daughter and I moved to Colorado in 2008 when she was nine for 13 months. Unfortunately we had to move back to Missouri. I didn't know anyone there, except my Uncle who we stayed with. I took her out of the regular public school and drove her 20 min. to a Charter School. The economy had just crashed and I couldn't find work in between my 20 minute commute 4x's a day. She had homework every night, and didn't make friends to hang out with, as everyone came to the school from different areas. Now three years later, I have decided to go back at the end of this school year. Which will mean her starting high school with no one she knows. The main reason I am moving back is for my health. I have been sick literally since the morning I woke up here. And for other personal reasons. Not to mention the weather there is so much nicer. Here the humidity is so high, from spring to fall I hate to even go outside. The scenery there is beautiful as well, and so many things to go do. My concern is my daughter adjusting. She doesn't want to go, although she knows she has no choice. I've sat down with her and explained everything to her yet she is still unhappy. My hope is that once she is in school and makes friends, she will become ok with the move, and when she sees me, her mom, healthier physically and emotionally she will be bettter, as well. I have been told I'm being selfish and I need to sacrafice for my child, however how do I stay here and stay miserable. If i'm miserable obviously she will be too. I need to know am I doing the right thing. I believe I am. I just need some input. Especially about moving her when she is starting high school. By the way she only has two friends and one of them, her parents won't allow them to hang out anymore. So basically it's not like she is leaving a ton of friends behind, although I do know the two she has mean the world to her. I have offered to let her come back for the summers and see her friends.(just the one now I suppose) I really feel this move is what is best however it kills me to see her so upset about it. Feedback from people who are in or have been in would be really appreciated as you can relate. Feedback from anyone would be appreciated as well. Thank you.