Must haves and waste of money?

Melissa - posted on 03/04/2012 ( 23 moms have responded )

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I have 3 months before the baby comes and although we have all of our big ticket items I am trying to figure out what we really need and what is a waste of money. ALL advice is appreciated as I have no idea on any of this. Thank you

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Bonnie - posted on 03/06/2012

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Melissa, we started using the Excersaucer at around 4 months. You can start a tad bit earlier if your baby is holding their own head up well on their own.

Krista - posted on 03/05/2012

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Rarely, but only if it was a food that he didn't enjoy, which wound up just sitting in the freezer. After freezing the food in the ice cube trays, I'd empty them into a good, heavy, Ziploc bag, squeeze as much of the air out as possible, and then zip it up and mark the date. For the most part, it would stay fine and dandy. And it was CRAZY convenient, I could grab a cube of chicken, grab a cube of squash, throw them in a bowl, nuke for 45 seconds, stir, let cool a bit, and we were off to the races.

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Melissa - posted on 03/05/2012

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Krista did your baby food ever become freezer burnt? I saw at babies r us they have this plastic container that holds 6 different servings with lids to freeze. Wasn't sure how well that worked.

Bonnie at what age did you start using the exersaucer?

Bonnie - posted on 03/05/2012

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Swing, excersaucer, and Fisher Price vibrating chair/rocker are life savers. Swing and vibrating chair always provide a way to help calm baby down and a lot of the time put them to sleep. The excersaucer is always good to provide baby with something to do (usually used starting at around 3-4 months.

Krista - posted on 03/05/2012

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One thing that I found was a waste of money was a high chair. When he was teeny tiny, I just fed him in my arms or in his bouncy seat. And when he was able to sit up on his own, we just switched him to a booster seat with a belt and a tray. The booster seat was great, because we could take it with us if we went to the grandparents' for supper. But that high chair? I think I used it 5 times, and it was a pain in the ass to clean and took up SO much space. So my advice would be to skip it.



A swing is great for settling a fussy baby, but don't let your baby get in the habit of napping only in the swing, because it's one heck of a hard habit to break once they outgrow the swing.



Lanisoh is a must if you're breastfeeding.



And I didn't bother with a baby-food maker. I just bought a proper food processor. That way I could make big batches of baby food, spoon them into ice cube trays, freeze them, and presto! Enough food for a month!



I don't know if you've bought your car seat yet, but doctors are now recommending keeping children rear-facing until they're 2. So get one that allows you to rear-face until at least 40 lbs. Some only go to 25lbs, so if you have a chunky baby, you may wind up having to turn them around earlier than you'd like.

Melissa - posted on 03/05/2012

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I don't believe in co-sleeping, and I will breastfeed but not exclusively so I will pump and store for DH to be able to feed and bond and for the occasional outing we may have and baby is with grandma. I am totally not a minimalist and I would freak out and panic if I did not have to much stuff. I live in a high maintenance world and I'm sure my child will be the same way :)

Lydia - posted on 03/05/2012

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If you have a car seat, clothing and diapers&changing mat than you are set!

(crazy minimalist minimum! I did have more, but I reduced in my mind to the things you really can't do without)



Everything else really is optional and depends on your parenting style. If you co-sleep, you'll need no crib. If you want to carry your baby lots its great to get a good baby carrier and maybe you don't even need a stroller at all. (I found that buying a baby carrier that suits you is really only possible once the baby is there). you don't need toys for a new born, you'll probably get more than enough anyways through gifts, and for the first year most kids love to explore tupperware etc. If you plan to breastfeed you need no bottles, even no back-up... I mean if really it shouldn't work out you can get everything you need within hours... so your baby won't die. It's just a huge waste of money if you bought it just in case and never need it. changing table is optional, diaper bag too, I never used mine... such a waste of money. Always used my regular purse just threw in the few items for the baby. You can bath a baby in the sink or bath together in the big bath. (I don't mean here to tell that all those things are the way to do it, I am just illustrating that so much depends on how you do things... )



Really for a newborn you need not so much stuff especially if you breastfeed and co-sleep, it's the baby item companies telling you you need all that bouncers and swings and slings and mats and toys and whatever. What I found helpful really is, if you have the basic stuff you really need for your parenting style than wait until you have the baby and then if you in real life busy with your little bub, and you think that a certain item would be really useful to have than go out and get it. I bought a few things that I ended up giving away as gifts or selling and it wasn't even that much worth money wise but still I thought, man should've just waited until we had the baby and see if we really need it.

Stifler's - posted on 03/05/2012

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Oh and I found an iPod dock alarm clock useful to blare acdc when my first wouldn't settle

Stifler's - posted on 03/05/2012

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Must haves...



Bassinet if you want the baby in your room, cot, pram/layback stroller that goes to lying down, car seat if you have a car, swing chair or bouncenet, play mat, rattles, singlets, onesies, long suits if it's cold, blankets, mattress protectors, sheets, nappies, wipes, powder, hair brush, washers for the bath (wash cloths, flannels), bumbo or high chair, stick mixer or food processor for when they start eating solids, plastic spoons, bottles, sippy cups, bottle brush and steriliser. I use my change table all the time for both kids, it's in my dining room. So classy.

Amy - posted on 03/04/2012

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I couldn't live without my bouncy vibrating seat, went through two with both kids. My changing table was at the top of my lower dresser, still use it with my 2 year old. Love my glider chair, couldn't live without my breastpump, both my kids had blankets made for them by my mom and at 2 and 6 they still have them and use them every night.



Things we had that we never used, pack n play, and the swing both my kids hated it, neither of them liked the bassinet either. We also bought the bedding sets for each and never used either of them.

Sherri - posted on 03/04/2012

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Must haves



Crib

Swing

Car seat

head support for car seat

Bouncy seat

Walker

Porta Crib

Baby Tub



Onesies

receiving blankets

bottles

pacifiers

breast pump

bedding

towels

face cloths

lotion

baby bath

baby powder

diaper rash ointment

diapers

wipes

brush/comb

baby clippers

baby thermometer

breast pads

nursing bras

Michelle - posted on 03/04/2012

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I had the fisher price vibrating chair for my daughter and it was a life saver as I would set it up in its non rocking mode and put it in whatever room I was working in and she would have naps in it while I worked or cooked. I had one with my son as well and it was the only thing that would sooth him

Tam - posted on 03/04/2012

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I'm in the middle of gearing up for twins, and aside from the big items like the stroller, carseats, and cribs, I'm concentrating on just a few things:



Onsies

Diapers

Wipes

Breast pads (I'm gonna try the monumental task of breastfeeding twins.)

Buttpaste



These are the things that seemed to be the most in-demand with my other kids.

Elfrieda - posted on 03/04/2012

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Oh, yeah, a playpen. We finally got one after our son turned one and it made naps away from home so much easier.



But you don't need that or baby food yet! If you want to make your own baby food, get a baby food grinder and just make it on the spot. I loved my handheld grinder, it was tiny and fit into the diaper bag easily.

Kay - posted on 03/04/2012

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I liked the white noise maker--it was a life saver for getting my older son to sleep past five in the morning. I never tried make your own baby food, but I have heard it is less expensive...



We had a ton of stuff for my older son. With my younger son, we pared down to a few basics:



* Cradle (it went by our bed for the first few months, which was great because I was nursing)

* Swing (younger son actually hated it, but my older son loved his)

* Boppy/nursing pillow

* Breast pump (I was returning to work)

* Crib and changing table (my mother bought these, or we probably wouldn't have gotten a changing table)

* Baby bathtub



Our only splurge this time around was on the Fisher Price Newborn Rock n Play Sleeper. My younger son had terrible reflux and it seemed to put him at just the right angle. He actually slept in it more than the cradle for the first few weeks. We also bought the Moby Wrap, but he was so big when he was born, I was always scared to use it. I gave it to a friend though and she loves it, uses it daily.



We did not do a diaper genie this time--they develop a smell over time anyway, and we had to throw out my older son's by the time he was two...the only thing that worked was scrubbing it with baking soda, and I finally got tired of doing it.



** I forgot to add a pack n play before. He uses this when we travel and at his Nanny's house, where he stays while I work.

Melissa - posted on 03/04/2012

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We bought the baby dreams furniture that converts to a toddler/day bed and then a full size bed. We figured we might as well invest into it now and not have to buy it all later.

What about a white noise maker? Make your own baby food?

we have decided to try gDiapers and see what we think about those. EEEEK its just all so scary and so much stuff out there. I feel like I have a baby store in my house right now and yet feel like I am not prepared LOL

Jodi - posted on 03/04/2012

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Much more practical :) But who knows, everyone is different - you might use it a lot. I would just never have used one, but I know people who wouldn't have been without theirs.



And when it comes time, I also didn't do the toddler bed thing, I just bought a standard size single that was lower than usual and had a bed rail on it. That way, they can be in it for much longer. My daughter is still in hers (and will be for a while) and she is nearly 7.

Elfrieda - posted on 03/04/2012

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I liked the change table. (I put a pad on top of a dresser, so it's not a waste of furniture) Sometimes when you're so tired it is too overwhelming to get down on the floor and then get up again.



I would suggest just going with what you have for now, and then get things as you need them. (but only if you have someone to go shopping with or for you, or mailorder them)



I didn't get a diaper genie or wipes warmer or anything like that. I had a baby bathtub, carseat, stroller, bassinet, nursing pillow, and a sling. (4 months later I got a high chair, crib, glider, change table, and 4 months after that cloth diapers)



I wish I had had a glider sooner, and I think a swing and one of those playsets that have a blanket and some swinging toys over the baby as it lies there would have been good, too.

Melissa - posted on 03/04/2012

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Thanks Jodi. I am glad our changer turns over to make just a small dresser :) someone else said they never used it either. I thought it would be helpful in the middle of the night in her room.......what a bummer :(

Jodi - posted on 03/04/2012

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I didn't bother with a change table - I just had a mat on the floor with my kids.

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