My 12 yr old doesn't like that im dating:(

Trina - posted on 12/31/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Don't get me wrong i have a wonderful daughter,but she's been really scaring me lately wit her mean behavior,and it's only at night,she throws her phone and other things to the wallin her room, when i have company,and of course it bothers meand i ask her why she does this and she says she dont know she cant control it o_O..

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/31/2012

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Well, you ignoring it is not going to help it blow over. Communicate with your kids. She is acting out for a reason, and by your last post you seem to be in a bit of denial about it. She is throwing a tantrum that is typically reserved for toddlers. This will only get worse if you do not deal with it head on. Cause what is gonna happen next? She may start acting out in school.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/31/2012

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Well, you are sneaking your dates over after she is asleep. That is problem number one. You are not including her. Also, if it is not a very serious relationship, and I mean SERIOUS, there is no need for you to be having people over, or meeting her. Talk to her. She is not a toddler. She is almost a teenager, and deserves to be talked to like a person, once you are ready to let her know and meet this person.

Lakota - posted on 12/31/2012

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That is great that it is serious. Good for you!!! She's jealous. Maybe you could involve your girls with this person you are involved with - have this person over for dinner with your girls, all of you go out and do something together, etc. Maybe that will help.

Lakota - posted on 12/31/2012

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Nothing wrong with you dating, but, why does she have to know about it unless you are in a serious, talking about marriage relationship? She is obviously not ok with you having company and feels jealous and ignored.

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Dove - posted on 12/31/2012

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Ignoring the reason behind a 12 year old's 'tantrums' will not help them blow over. Open, honest communication with her about what is going on and how she is feeling about it would be better. I get the 'I don't know' stuff... and it might very well be true. She may NOT consciously know why she is so upset about it. Sometimes when my kids and I are 'fighting'... we write to each other. It can help get stuff out with no yelling or arguing. ;)

Trina - posted on 12/31/2012

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She have met him, i just think she's jealous, i spend time wit my gurls, and i always stress to them that NO ONE comes before them at all, this shall blow over i have faith, thanks btw..

Trina - posted on 12/31/2012

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Y thank u!!!;)
i have thought about that, i just dont want her to embarass me, she already keeps a unit on her face when he do come around, but i may just have to consider that,Thanks Ma

Trina - posted on 12/31/2012

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im sure of that, sometimes i keep company when she suppose to be sleeping and getting rest for school ...its serious,i havent had anyone around my girls and house like this before..sometimes i think is it time for me to be dating???

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