my 13 yr old daughter has accused me of chocking her to the department and family children services after me telling her that she can not sleep with her 17 yr old boyfriend what can i do?
Ariana - posted on 12/29/2012
I would explain to them the situation and get her into councelling, or better yet family councelling so she can work out with you why this all happened and hopefully better your relationship with her.
I would also go and talk to the boyfriend and tell him he's not to sleep with your daughter. You're going to scare him a whole lot more than your daughter, considering how he probably shouldn't even have a 13 year old gf.
If you have sorted your life out can you get more custody of her? Even if not full custody shared custody or more days a week so you can have more influence?
Sandra - posted on 12/28/2012
i had went through a ruff time after the death of my 7 week old son an i had been messing around with the wrong things an been around wrong people back in 06 my mom got custody of her. an my mom lets her 17 yr old bf to live with her an their is nothing i can do when i try to stand up an show her the right path i am always made out to be the wrong person in the situation. my daughter knows if im not around her grandmother will allow her to do what ever she wants because she lets her get away with everything.
Jodi - posted on 12/28/2012
"Jodi I think what she is saying is that the daughter accused her of doing this after Sandra told her she couldn't have a relationship with the 17 year old. "
Well, that's a bit hard to tell, because she has only really said it happened after the girl asked if she could sleep with her 17 year old boyfriend. So how is it that she has this 17 year old boyfriend in the first place? That's what I am wondering. The request to sleep with him didn't come out of nowhere.
Lacye - posted on 12/28/2012
Jodi I think what she is saying is that the daughter accused her of doing this after Sandra told her she couldn't have a relationship with the 17 year old.
You need to talk to your daughter about what could happen if it is proved she is lying. Jodi and Little Miss is right, your daughter could get into a lot of trouble for making false accusations against you.
Jodi - posted on 12/28/2012
Does your daughter understand that the implications of this is that not only may she be removed from your home, it is highly unlikely she will be placed where she will be able to see this boyfriend anyway? Has the department spoken to you about this yet? The truth will prevail. I am sure that if you explain the situation, once they have spoken to her again, they will see through the lies. They are trained professionals. I'll put money on it this sort of claim happens all the time from unruly teens.
Now, I DO have to ask how it is that she is allowed to have a 17 year old boyfriend......
~â¥Little Miss - posted on 12/28/2012
How do you know she did do that? Have you talked with them already and explained the situation?
These are trained professionals. If they do come to your home to start an investigation, they will see what kind of home she comes from. It is a total waste of resources that they may have to do an investigation for nothing. These people are so busy with serious family issues, that their time should not be wasted by a 13 year old girl crying wolf.
After all is said and done, or even now, I would get your daughter some counseling. I cannot help but think she is disturbed for making up such a lie to authorities knowing she could be taken away from you. Something is not right here.
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