My 15 year old son...

Adrienne - posted on 07/26/2010 ( 26 moms have responded )

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my 15 yr old son is acting like he wants everything handed to him because he doesn't feel like doing it himself. he wants his money which he doesn't see it. his money goes to his pills and other kids.

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Adrienne - posted on 08/23/2010

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he is going for a job next year or so. that he is going to be paid. i want to send him to air cadets maybe. his grades in high school r ok. but could get better. he does have a counsellor at school only. he did have 3 of them. yes my son and i go to church but they wont help me and my husband for counselling so y would they help him for counselling? yes he takes pills for his hyperness and so he can go bathroom when he has a full bladder.

Jenn - posted on 08/20/2010

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OK, so was he just complaining to you that he doesn't get any money then? Sorry, just trying to understand, you're speaking in broken sentences so I'm trying to piece it together. I agree that at his age he should be helping out around the house, and he should also be able to have some money in his pocket for whatever. It's a good way for kids to learn how to be responsible with their money, and to see that nothing is free, and to appreciate what they have a little bit better.

Adrienne - posted on 08/20/2010

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i dont have his money his dad does, ya but his money he doesnt see any but thats part of my sons fault too. but ya my son should get a bit of money for helping out in the house. that he has to do all chores. i dont think washing the floors or walls.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/19/2010

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Maybe a job? Or military school?? He needs to learn responsibilty. How are his grades? Pills? Maybe he needs counsling? Do you belong to a church because they can help with counsling.

Jenn - posted on 08/19/2010

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So, if he doesn't live with you, why do you have his money? I'm confused. His disability cheques should be going to him or his Dad (legal guardian). And if he's on ritalin, that's not for bed wetting, that's for ADD, ADHD or narcolepsy.

Adrienne - posted on 08/19/2010

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no im not a legal guardian only my ex is. no my son doesnt lve on his own. he is with his dad and 5 other kids.

Adrienne - posted on 08/19/2010

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he is on pills like they r redilin. he has to take two in the morning and two at night.

Adrienne - posted on 08/19/2010

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ya i know i have problems. i have lots! lol. ya thats what ppl have said about its a disaster waiting to explode. my ex wont got for help. we tried that. i have a counsellor for everything. ya its all on my sons dad on how his life is changed. but he thinks there is nothing wrong with him. no im not giving my son a whole lump sum of money or his dad for anything. im only in canada. where would i find simallar programs for my son and me. i just hate it when my son pees his bed still but i thought at one time there was something wrong with his private towards his mind. if u know what i mean.

Wendy - posted on 08/17/2010

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Whoa...you do have problems...This sounds like a disaster waiting to blow up and I think you all need professional help to sort it all out. If the situation isn't working out at his father's because of all of the other children, I can understand his frustration, but on the other hand...you're not going to hand over a large sum of money to a 15 year old!!! There are family service mediators who can help in the U.S. but from the spelling of cheque, I'm thinking you are from Canada or another country. Hopefully there are similar programs where you live. The stress can't be good for his bed wetting either! Good luck and God bless!

Stifler's - posted on 08/17/2010

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Ohhh. Things make sense now. One of my nieces was on those pills they are good. Do you have joint custody?

Adrienne - posted on 08/17/2010

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my son doesnt live with me he lives with his dad.the other kids r with his dad with another g/f that she has 3 kids and my ex has 3 but not with me. its only one. the money goes to my ex and other 5 kids which it should only go to my son and maybe 2 of my sons sisters. thats it no one else. right? and for bed wetting i dont remember what other options i have used but i remember that i had to pull him out of bed when he was little just to go to the bathroom.

Stifler's - posted on 08/17/2010

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More info is needed here. At 15 and disabled are you his legal guardian? If so, you CAN tell him what to do.

Lyn - posted on 08/17/2010

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I gave my kids pocket money and altough I wasn't paying them to do jobs around the house they still have their set chores. My oldest has a job so I don't give her money but she is still expected to contribute

Iridescent - posted on 08/16/2010

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If he's disabled and receiving SSI, and is 15 years old, his medication costs are covered 100% in the US (and in most other countries as well). So why would he have to pay for them? He is legally a child, and not supposed to pay for his own medication, food, clothing or shelter. Plus being disabled, having to do so is considered theft from a vulnerable child. SSI Disability is supposed to go to support his needs, not be his madness money, and receipts are required to prove that is being done by whoever his payee is. An audit can occur at any time to prove this. This really just simply sounds messed up.

Jenn - posted on 08/16/2010

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So he doesn't live with you? I'm confused. If it's his disability cheque and he doesn't live with you, why do you have anything to do with it? If he does live with you, then I understand paying for his medication or whatever, but what about the other kids? Are these your kids? Why does the money go to them? As for the bedwetting, it's not weird, it's a problem that is fairly common. What sort of pills is he taking for it? Have you ever tried other options? I was a bed wetter as a child (until I was about 13) and what finally worked for me was an alarm that went off when it got wet.

Adrienne - posted on 08/16/2010

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my son takes pills for his bed wetting that he still does at 15 years old. i know that its weird. but i cant fix it.

Bo Lynn - posted on 08/15/2010

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How is a 15 year old on disability get a place by himself? My 19 year old sister isn't even on her own because she's so impaired?

Adrienne - posted on 08/15/2010

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his money is own diability cheque i think. my son has 5 other kids living with him. which i dont think it should happen.

JuLeah - posted on 07/26/2010

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At 15, in my opinion, a kid ought to be working some to earn their own spending money. They ought to be donating their time to some cause that needs them. They need to understand this world needs their special talents, their skills, their passion to repair the damage past generations have caused. We all need to pitch in.

Through these actions he will learn that things are not handed to him and in fact, some really need his helping hand.

Kids this age need to understand their value and they can not do that at the mall or skate park. They need to give of themselves to learn about the power they have.

If you son needs medication, get it for him. If he is on drugs, you have bigger problems. Good luck

Kathy - posted on 07/26/2010

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Sounds pretty normal to me. My daughter is almost 15 and has the same attitude. With her father laid-off and the whole extensions with unemployment, getting her to understand just how strapped we are paying monthly bills and groceries is, is a hair pulling nightmare. We don't have the extra money anymore to just hand over when she wants to go do something with friends. Yes before she could do 4 or 5 chores and get a twenty. Now there is no twenty. Any extra she has to make by babysitting jobs. When she is 16, she will have a part-time job if she is going to have her own car. Reality is a harsh thing and this age is when they start learning it. Up to us parents to teach them that responsibility that they will need in just a few short years-you earn what you want, you don't just get it. Good luck!

Iridescent - posted on 07/26/2010

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That makes so sense. A 15 year old that wants money can earn it legally. A 15 year old also shouldn't have to buy their own medications, and if it's drugs you are referring to with "pills" the kid needs rehab.

Jodi - posted on 07/26/2010

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I'm with Sherron, I am not sure what you mean by "his money"..... And pills? What do you mean by pills? Other kids?

I think you need to explain a little more for people to be able to help :)

S - posted on 07/26/2010

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I'm not really sure what you're saying. What do you mean when you say your son wants his money? What money, does he have a job or does he feel that you should be giving him money?

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