My 16 year old son wants me to sign him out of school!

Tina - posted on 10/05/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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My 16 year old son wants me to sign him out of school so he can try and get his GED. He is supposed to be a sophomore this year but is actually only a second semester freshman in high school. He only passed the first semester of school last year and failed everything the second one. He has been diagnosed with ODD (oppositional defiant disorder) and refuses to do anything unless he wants to. He refuses to go to school and has been reported to the court system. Should I sign him out? I say no. He won't get his GED because he does not have enough education to pass it. And he won't go take the classes. He has an IEP at school so if the judge can somehow get him to go to at least an alternative school that would help him prepare for the GED. My parents say sign him out and save myself the legal trouble that I am bringing on. I say no way. They don't know him like I do. I am hoping for some input on what I should do!

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Toni - posted on 10/05/2009

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but if he seriously isnt into school, its not doing him any good...i didnt finish high school, i quit my senior year (due to circustances) but i got my ged and went on to college to get my degree...i even owned my own business, i have lucked out and am able to b a stay at home mom now but every circumstance is different...

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Amanda - posted on 10/05/2012

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Force his butt into the car, walk him into school and make him go. No one realizes how difficult it is to go further in life without a high school education. GED classes are no less annoying than high school. At least with high school you will not have the stigma attached that you couldn't handle "real" school.



I know it's difficult to get a 16 y/o to go to school, but FORCE him. YOU ARE his mother. You WILL get in trouble for truancy if you do not make him attend school.

Amanda - posted on 10/05/2012

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Force his butt into the car, walk him into school and make him go. No one realizes how difficult it is to go further in life without a high school education. GED classes are no less annoying than high school. At least with high school you will not have the stigma attached that you couldn't handle "real" school.



I know it's difficult to get a 16 y/o to go to school, but FORCE him. YOU ARE his mother. You WILL get in trouble for truancy if you do not make him attend school.

Tina - posted on 10/05/2009

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Don't sign him out of school, however do look and see if your school district has an alternative school that may fit his needs better. Or if the school district has any special programs that he should be in. You have to be his advocate and ask and keep asking until you get his needs met. If he is in therpy, maybe there is a day treatment program, that can meet both his edcational and emotional needs at the same time.

Stefanie - posted on 10/05/2009

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Sign him out. I have a brother with ODD. You forcing him into school will only make things worse. Let him learn the hard way.

Armintha(Angie) - posted on 10/05/2009

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I feel that when a teenager gets to the point where they have their mind set on rebelling, then it is going to be a battle. I say try to do what is best for the both of you. He may have a better chance at getting his GED if he can go to an alternative school or if he can sit one on one with a counselor or teacher. They will be able to prepare him with the skills that he needs to pass

Jessica - posted on 10/05/2009

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Personally I don't think you should sign him out. It is his decision (in a way) if he wants to go but until he is 18 you are in charge. I would recommend talking to his school guidance counselor and seeing if they have any ideas on what might make it easier for him. I know that I hated high school and actually skipped an entire year, which happened to be my last year then had to repeat it. The thing that got me through was talking to the counselor and figuring out that I could get my credits doing full day co-op, i was in school for half a day one day a week and the rest of the days I was working in a daycare (which is what i chose to do) If he has a hobby that could be applied through co-op such as building things or fixing them or if he likes kids, they always have openings at auto shops and schools for student helpers and that way you can get 4 credits and to him it will probably feel more like he's learning stuff he will use in the real world. But, that is just my opinion. : )

Teresa - posted on 10/05/2009

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No! Dont do it!! You are the mother, if he wants to drop out, he do it when he turns 18. Fight it!!! Hang in there!! Be strong and fight the system!! Go get him help for his ODD, that is what is wrong with him.

Rebecca - posted on 10/05/2009

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make him stay in school UNTIL he gets his GED. he can take a night class or a class on the weekends if they are offered . if he is that serious about not wanting to be in school he will do it

Lorelei - posted on 10/05/2009

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As someone who quit school I would say do not do it. I wish I could go back and stay in school. Its not a smart decision on his part. Tell him that he will not get anywhere with a GED I know this I have one. I missed the things that I wanted most but I felt that other things were more important. I know that if I stayed I would probably not be where I am now And I would not give my son or husband up for anything. He needs to understand that school is one of the most important things in life. With the truant officer depending on the state you live in it shouldn't be that big of a legal issue

Sophia - posted on 10/05/2009

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i say dont do it my mom took me out of school now im 26 still dont have my GED and i look back at it i missed out on a lot and you say he can do it he just doesnt want to i feel its better to handle things in the preasent then to hold them off for the future education is the key to start a future he might not like it now but it or job as mothers to make the right decisions for our children now and my brother had the same type of problems with the law but he still got his high school diploma from inside the juvinille detention center and now he has more opportunities then i do and makes more money than i do but all in all it is your decision and it the biggest of his life so good luck il pray for you

Steffany - posted on 10/05/2009

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i wanted my parents to do that when i was 16 but they wouldnt and i thank them for it.

Toni - posted on 10/05/2009

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thats a tough one...my sister did it for my nephew and hes now in the army doing great! i wish that was the story for all kids who decide not to finish an education, school certainly isnt for everyone but he needs to know that he needs some sort of trade if he doesnt have an education...is there anything that he is interested in that could help him in the future?

Laura - posted on 10/05/2009

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I would say no, don't sign him out of school. Would he be appropriate for a residential school? I know that sounds harsh but they may be able to get his behaviors under control and get him to finish his education. I'm sure it would be heartbreaking for you but it may really pay off in the end. Good luck!

Sharon - posted on 10/05/2009

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didn't you post a question like this before? You were waiting for the truant courts to bust him? He needs meds but won't take them?

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