my 17 month old bangs his head on things when he is mad. Is this normal?
Susan - posted on 10/24/2009
At 17 months this behaviour is a little difficult to analyse, however, please don't overlook it, and watch over the next six months or so. Don't give in to him to give him what he wants to stop it. My daughter exhibited this behaviour at this age and still was at 7 when diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome. I now attend a support group for this and it seems to be a common trait. Katherine is 12 next month and still does it! Hang in there - seeing a paediatrician never hurt - if there is an issue the earlier it is diagnosed the better
Aubrey - posted on 10/22/2009
My son did this around the same age and finally stopped before preschool. Unfortunately, but this is just my child, he still has an aggressive temper. He does not think before damaging things. Again, this is my child and could very well differ from anyone else's child. We have been working on ways for him to help control his anger. My son is almost 9 now and our working with him really seems to help. I wish you the best.
Trisha - posted on 10/22/2009
I actually have a 20 month old daughter that does that because she has her fathers temper and she does it whenever she gets really mad. She has even hit her nose a couple of times while doing it and that makes her stop real quick, but I just try to get her mind off of what made her mad.
Francina - posted on 10/22/2009
Welcome to boyland! ha ha ha.....I have the one and I really sometimes wonder about his braincells. About that time is when I stare at my husband and think D N A, ha ha. You don't want me to let you in on the future like...how smart it is for 10 year olds to play tag in an empty garage with the lights off at the neighbor's house. Oh yes, the fun yet to come. Ugh, first stitches!
Francina - posted on 10/22/2009
My son is now 11, but yes....when he was about that age, he would also do that. Of course, he would end up with this lovely black/purple/yellow/greenish bruise in the middle of his forehead. I'd die of embarrassment. I did ask his doctor at the time and he just laughed, said to try not to worry (yeah right, first child!). I would try to put a towel or something in front of his head to absorb some of the hit. Also of course, that would irritate him further most of the time. Just their way of dealing with whatever frustration they are facing. He is perfectly fine today....just a few grayer hairs for me I think, lol. It seemed to really be more prevalent when he was trying to learn something new, if that helps.
Toni - posted on 10/22/2009
Theres nothing wrong with him. All children are different some bite themselfes and others hit. It is just there way of expressing that they are upset and mad. I would try if you havent explaining that he is hurting himself when he does that. Or even moving him to the couch or sofa when he does it so he doesnt hurt himself. Try a soothing him when he gets upset like that. Try to snap him out of his tantrum by taking his mind off of why he is upset then when he is calm asking him why he was upset and go from there. I hope this is useful. Best of luck! I have a 5yr old that when he gets upset with himself he hits his head. I always tell him that thats gonna really hurt him and he shouldnt do it. So I hope you find a way for him to stop. I hope everything works out for you!
Shelley - posted on 10/22/2009
My little boy is 22 months old and has headed butted for past few months, especially when he gets annoyed, friends little boy is similiar age and he does it too. My little boy does it out of frustration and temper, its hard getting that type of behaviour to stop so its work in progress for me...
Casey - posted on 10/22/2009
I can't tell you if it is normal or not but I can tell you your not alone because my best friends little boy who is about the same age as your little man does exactly the same thing, even if she goes to the toilet and shuts the door he will stand there and bang his head on the door until she opens it and yes he too has left a mark on his head and even drawn blood, I think sometimes they just get so worked up that they don't even notice the pain, just try to stay calm when he does it, the calmer you are the calmer he will be.
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