My 17 month old son only says mama, dada, papa and oh-oh should he be saying more, my daughter at that age was I am worried he might have a speech delay should I be worried?

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Jenny - posted on 01/11/2009

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Children all develop at a different rate, girls also differ from boys and it depends on whether there are other children in the house. You shouldn;t worry he sounds fine to me.

Jenny - posted on 01/11/2009

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Children all develop at a different rate, girls also differ from boys and it depends on whether there are other children in the house. You shouldn;t worry he sounds fine to me.

Penny - posted on 01/10/2009

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I have been told that each additional children talks later then the one before because the older ones talk for them.  I have been wondering about my son he is 17.5 months and at this age my older son was saying "Nelly in water" he would want our dog in his swimming pool and he would say "mama bull Moooo", our little one though is very good at communicating what he wants he just doesn't say the words, because either his brother says it or we figure it out. Our younger one didn't go to daycare except for 6 weeks and our older son was in a home daycare situation with older kids who spoke very well...I think there are a lot of things that factor into it. If you are really worried ask your Doc at your 18 month appointment, start writing down what he does say and relay that to the Doc.



I don't know where you live but in MT, you can get your child a speech screening for free through the school district from ages newborn to school age. Also don't forget about finding out about early childhood screening, that can help you diagnose if there are delays. These are also done for ages newborn to kindegarten, so that early intervention can be started if needed.

Paulette - posted on 01/08/2009

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Hello, I agree with Kristen Balstad. You can check his progress on the link she provided. I have a son with speech delay. With my son his speech was fine till he had his 18 month shots and had a reaction, then his speech regressed. He said fewer words after and his behavior was different than before too. If your sons' speech has stayed steady I would not worry either. If he understands you and does what you are asking (most of the time) I would not worry.

Angela - posted on 01/08/2009

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My youngest son (youngest of 4) didn't talk until he was 3. I chalked it up to his next older sister (13 months older) talking *for* him. I finally took him to the doctor and he sent us to have his hearing tested and to be assessed for speech problems and I am glad that he did!! My son's hearing is fine and I knew that but he had a developmental apraxia, where the muscles in his throat would not let him announciate (sp?) his words. He has been in speech therapy since he was 3, he is now 7 and is still in speech therapy through his school. I wish I had acted on it sooner. I don't think that it a bad idea to have him checked out, even if you are the least bit concerned. A mother's intuition should never be questioned!

Hilaree - posted on 01/08/2009

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i agree with alot of the other moms.. my 16month old doesnt say many things more than your son..and i had his hearing checked, but more due to he didnt respond..but like a boy it seems to be selective..lol..

hearing tests came back perfect..but if its bothering you to much as your doctor..but i think hes right on track..

Angelique - posted on 01/07/2009

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My second son has done the same thing.  I hear it happens a lot to the second child, especially for boys.  It is probably nothing but a speech delay but I would talk with your doctor.  Your son can get an evaluation and if it is needed they can get speech therapy.  It is usually covered under insurance.  It doesn't mean that he has special needs.  It just helps him and you grow with the speech.  It helps a lot.

Pati - posted on 01/07/2009

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My daughter would not talk until age 2, and then it came out in sentences. I was very concerned and researched hearing and vocabulary conditions. Her great grandparents were deaf and her granny all on her dads side lost her hearing at a young age so I was concerned.  Then I watched a T. Berry Brazelton show and it addressed my concerns. They said that if you could talk to your child, have them respond, like tell them to move something or get something and they do it, then its not a hearing problem. If they were mumbling but not talking before age 2 ½ not to worry or spend a fortune on testing. Vocabulary is learned in 2 ways, one is audio and one was perception or something like that. Anyways, some kids will ramble on and on with no clue just speaking words with no meaning and some will wait till they understand how to use a word.  My kid was the later, she understood everything we said to her and could retrieve things when asked and follow simple commands, just did not want to use her words till she was ready.

Nichole - posted on 01/07/2009

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Maggie,



My 2nd son was the same way at 19 months.  We had him evaluated (free) through babynet.  His reception of speech was advanced and they gave me things to do at home to assist him.  He now speaks in short phrases at 22 months.  Also girls usually develop speech sooner than boys.

Lisa - posted on 01/07/2009

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Quoting Maggie:

My 17 month old son only says mama, dada, papa and oh-oh should he be saying more, my daughter at that age was I am worried he might have a speech delay should I be worried?



Your child is probably fine and just the product of being the second child behind a big talker, but if you have a concern, talk to your pediatrician, they should have been tracking the language at the well baby visits for 12,15 and again at 18 months.  At 18 months according to my pediatrician they should have a minimum of 20 words.  If they and you are concerned, ask about a referral for a speech evaluation and a hearing test.  It is better to find out that everything is fine than discover late that there is a problem.



I have 2 boys the first one was an early talker and super articulate, speaking at a couple of age levels ahead and having non of the age related speech impediments.



My second son, at 18 months had 3 words and one sentence.  We were reffered by our pediatrician for a speech and hearing eval.  The hearing was 100 percent.  He tested, for expressive and receptive language at a 9 month old level.  Cognitively, socially, physically he was on track or emerging on a 21 month old level.



It was sugessted that we start speech therapy right away, at least once a week for 50 minutes.



We found a program at a local university and started speech the next month.  We went to 25 sessions.



less than a year later he graduated from speech therapy and is on track or ahead for his age.  We have gone back for one evaluation so far to make sure that we are continuing to make progress and will go back once a year for a while.  It was a very positive experience and early intervention resolves issues much faster than if you work on them later.  I was involved in each session and learned how to be his speech coach at home, to adjust my way of speaking that was best for him, ways to play with toys to encourage speech and encourage and practice sounds that he could not articulate.



My MIL thought I was crazy and told me my husbands brother didn't talk til he was 3.  But now that she has seen the evolution of my sons speech she thinks I did the right thing.



One of my friends took her son for an evaluation b/c he was behind.  We had the same person for our children's evaluations, she was told, if he doesn't start speaking in 6 months, come back.  With in 6 months he was on track and they did not need to go back. 



best,



Lisa



 



 



 

Abigail - posted on 01/07/2009

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Hi Maggie. My son did not say his first word until 3 months before his 3rd birthday!! He is now 13 and his vocab is great. His teachers say he uses words that are in context that a lot of other kids would not know the meaning of. My daughter spoke earlier and apparantly girls develop their speech earlier than boys. Don't be too concerned but if you are, no harm in taking him to a speech therapist and see what they reckon. Hope this encourages you a little!!!! I remember what it was like with my son. It is a little scary at the time!!

Kristin - posted on 01/07/2009

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I think the most important thing that all of us Moms need to remember is that evey child is different. We say it but don't really apply it. And for me, it's not a comparison of my children to other people's children but I have a tendency to comare my two girls. You know, this one did this at yada-yada age but she's still not doing it- that kind of thing.



That said, here's my two-cents worth. You need to remember that in addition to having two individual children, you also have two different genders. Boys are typically slower to speak than girls. They've got other, more important things to do than impress you with their vocabulary. (Think about that statistic where women use 25,000 words a day whereas men only use a fraction of that) Boys often are more advanced when it comes to gross motor skills and such. What I've heard is that if your child is more than 6 months behind on a milestone, seek advice from your doctor or a specialist. I googled childhood milestones and found this site on communication development. http://www.pbs.org/wholechild/abc/commun... You said that he only says 4 words but I bet that if you really stopped and listened, that your son uses "words" that you maybe don't recognize. I have a 17 month old too and sometimes she "says" something that to me doesn't mean anything but it does to her.



Long story short: ask your doctor at your son's 18 month check-up. Other than that, I wouldn't worry! :)

Tina - posted on 01/07/2009

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No, do not worry. Girls do seem to speak sooner, or say more words than boys. Boys will roll, crawl, and walk before girls a lot of the time. Girls talk sooner. Only get concerned if his speech has not improved by the age of 24 months. Sometimes boys with alot of ear infections as infants take longer to speak because they can not hear the words properly. Good luck.Continue to talk to him or read aloud to him alot of the time.

Maggie - posted on 01/07/2009

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Thank you everyone for your input I do feel better knowing a lot of you went through the same thing, I did have his hearing checked a while ago, he was born with an outer and inner ear tag that had to be removed when he was 6 months old, to prevent ear blockage as he grew.  I do now he listens well because he does what I ask like put toys away or do you want something so I am not worried about that at all.  I will just let time take it's course!!! :)

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I know of children who say less and are older. Dont worry, They are all SOOO different! My son is 20 months and he doesnt stop talking but his friend thats the same age only says Momma. As a few said above, as long as he is communicating to you in some way then all's well. Best of Luck!

Janet - posted on 01/06/2009

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Thank you guys i have the same dilemma like maggie, i was kind of worried that my 18mths is taking time in talking but your assurance has made me relax

Jessica - posted on 01/06/2009

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My oldest didn't say any more than Mama and Dada at age 2. Still the pediatrician didn't think I needed to have him evaluated. I did anyway...through ECI (early childhood intervention) and I don't regret it. At the age of 2, he was only communicating on a 10 month old level according to the lady who did his initial evaluation. After about 6 months he wouldn't stop talking.

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I think you should take him and get his hearing checked my son was the same and unknown to us at the time, he was not talking due to massive amount of ear infections, he luckily had no hearing problems, however he had to go to speech therapy from age 2 8 months to 8 years of age.  It is always best to get it checked as sometimes if you leave things to late it can take a long time for them to get their speech correct, there are certain words etc that a child should be saying at this age, better to be safe than sorry.

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I think you should take him and get his hearing checked my son was the same and unknown to us at the time, he was not talking due to massive amount of ear infections, he luckily had no hearing problems, however he had to go to speech therapy from age 2 8 months to 8 years of age.  It is always best to get it checked as sometimes if you leave things to late it can take a long time for them to get their speech correct, there are certain words etc that a child should be saying at this age, better to be safe than sorry.

Silka - posted on 01/06/2009

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I agree with all of the other mom's. My youngest daughter is 16 months and I was worried about the same thing. Both of my older two were saying a lot more at her age, especially my oldest daughter (who is now 14). Haylee, the 16 month old, talks constantly but none of what she is saying is understandable right now except "Hidadum" when she see's her dad, "uhoh" when she drops something, occasionally a "ma!" when she wants something, "nananana" when we are eating bananas, and all dogs are either "madum" (our dog's name is maddie") or she will pant like a dog when she see's a picture of one. Other than that, she just chats away all day in baby babble. I think it is adorable, but I am anxiously awaiting those words to start flowing out of her. She definitely understands much more than she says right now and my husband thinks I am trying to make her grow up too fast by wanting her to talk already. I think we mom's just get worried when we read about the milestones and when the other babies in our lives might be doing things that ours aren't yet. My nephiew is 5 weeks younger than my daughter and I heard him clearly say the word "ball" the other day then pick up a ball, and I was immediately jealous and worried that the family was all thinking that Haylee should be saying words like that by now too, but then I had to put it out of my head as fast as I thought it because I know better and she will definitely speak in her own time, and as the mother of a teenage girl too, by the time they are teens you just want them to shut up already :)

Kim - posted on 01/06/2009

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My 7yr old didn't say a single word until she was well over the age of 2.  I was so worried about her.  My MIL worked for the early intervention program in my state and we even had her evaluated by a speech pathologist.  She grunted and pointed to indicate she wanted something. 



The speech pathologist told us she would talk when she was ready to.  She has an older sister, age 7 at the time, who talked *for* her.  She said it was called "second child syndrome" and was quite common that second children don't talk as early or as often as older siblings did.



I still see that speech pathologist at the hospital where I work and she'll ask me from time to time how Katie is doing.  She just laughs and gives me that "told you so" look when I describe this vivacious 7yr old who won't shut up now!!



Don't worry, he'll talk when he's ready!



Kim

Lashonda - posted on 01/06/2009

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i dont think that u should worry about this because girls develope faster than boys and some children catches on faster he will be fine and when he starts talking he will give u an ear full. lol

Emily - posted on 01/06/2009

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My son did not say a single, decipherable word unitl 22 months. He never even said Mama or Dada...it was all bable. I was really worried too, but my pediatrician said as long as he understood what I was saying and communicated in SOME way(like pointing or bringing me something he wanted), then he was fine. Well, my son is 3 1/2 now and cannot stop talking LOL:) Once he decided that he was ready, his vocabulary took off. He went from not saying any words to putting 3 or 4 words together in about two months. So, don't stress too much....he's a boy and they just aren't as verbal. If he's like my son, then he's taking it all in, storing it, and he'll let it out when he has decided that he's ready. Good luck!

Joanne - posted on 01/06/2009

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Maggie, don't worry. My younger brother was 3 before he started speaking. He would say things like "lay" which we knew meant yes. Then one morning he woke up and had a conversation, and I mean a full sentenced conversation, with my mother. Everyone was so shocked. Your son will start talking when he's ready.

Megan - posted on 01/06/2009

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Hi Maggie,

There is absolutley no need for you to worry. My son, Logan, would have been at the same stage when 17 months and I too became a little concerned. After researching & numerous conversations with friends, family & child carers I was told not to stress and that things would progress further in Logan's own time. Boy were they right. When he hit 2 it was like his vocabulary box was opened wide and now (at 32months) he is Mr Chatterbox. There are still words we cannot make out, which becomes frustrating for both Logan & us but this is mainly due to him trying to speak too fast due to excitement. Hope this puts you at ease. Read to him whenever possible and just talk alot as a family. He'll be talking off your ear before you know it!

Cheers, Megan :)

Teri - posted on 01/06/2009

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Hi Maggie,



Actually your daughter is right on track. They usually don't start really speaking more and clearer words until they are 24 + months. Around 32 months she will be talking really good with full sentences. So there's nothing to worry about.

Shantell - posted on 01/06/2009

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there is nothing to worry about all kids are all different i have the same problem were my daughter is very bright and talkative and my son which is younger talks but his speak is very distorted. i think he will talk when he's ready. i would start to worry if it doesn't improve by the age of 21/2. rest at ease i think that is normal.

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