My 2 1/2 year old has started crying hysterically when I have to leave for work. Any suggestions to calm her down, yet still get me out the door on time?

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Preoccupy!! the answer to many questions. Before you leave, sit her down, color, build legos, tell her you love her, give her a kiss and hug.... then sneak out. If she starts crying once she notices your gone... your not there to see it, your not heartbroken. After a week, she should stop crying when she notices your gone.

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Sheridan - posted on 10/22/2008

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I haven't got that problem, my son is waving to me before i have even left, but when i first started going to work, i was given a little bit of advice if it did occur. buy a doll and ask her to look after it while you go to work, like being a big brother/sister, get the baby sitter to do things like a bath or dress or pretend to feed and when you get home you can talk about what she did with their baby and thank her for looking after it all day and say what a big help they were to mummy, hope it helps.

Marquel - posted on 10/22/2008

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I work in child care and this is very common and normal. It is far worse on you then it is on them. Just keep smiling, say I love you and go. It's the job of the care taker to deal with it. If she wasn't stopping you would know. If the problem was with the care taker she would be crying about it long before you were walking out the door. Kids are smart and they figure out your buttons quick. It should pass in a couple weeks if you just keep smiling.

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I read on babycenter.com that if you sit down with the sitter and talk for a few minutes like you would a friend, that your baby will feel more comfortable about being left there without you. It's worth a try.

Kell - posted on 10/21/2008

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My almost-two-year-old has starting crying when I even leave the room. I don't have any advice, but it's good to know that it's more to do with their age than anything else.

Michelle - posted on 10/21/2008

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As well as making it a non-event, here's 2 things you might consider. Try changing up your going to work routine...she probably notices much earlier than when you are heading out the door and starts to work herself up. Also, try leaving for short periods of time when not going to work gradually lengthening the time you are away to rebuild her trust. You may have already done this before going to work the first time but she might need reassurance.

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Preoccupy!!! the answer to many problems. Before you leave, sit her down and color, build legos..etc. Tell her you love her, give her a kiss and hug, then sneak out. If she cries once she notices you gone... your not there to see it, not heartbroken. After a week... she will be used to it, and will stop crying.

Michelle - posted on 10/21/2008

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As well as making it a non-event, for a few days when you are not going to work try leaving for short periods of time gradually lengthening it out to how long you are normally gone for work. You might have already done this once but you might need to try it again to rebuild her trust that you will return.

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Sit down with her before you go... give her an activity, legos, coloring... tell her you love her, give her a kiss and hug, but don't say your leaving. Then when she is preoccupied, walk away, and your home free. If she cries when she finds out your gone... you won't know, and your heart won't break. After about a week... she will be used to it and probably won't cry anymore. After having 3 kids... preoccupying them is a solution for many things.

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I know it is hard, but you just have to stick with it.. she will learn that her crying will not keep you there, so it will become useless.



now, on the other hand, is she being treated okay there??? That is always something to be aware of.

Melissa - posted on 10/21/2008

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From what I understand roughly 10-15 min. I do try that, but my heart breaks. She is actually sobbing.

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How long does she keep crying after you are gone?? If not very long, you just need to give her a hug, tell her you will see her after work, tell her you love her and leave. If you draw it out, it will only get worse. Make you leaving a "non-event".

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