my 2 and a half year old hits me bites me throws toya at me and everything else imaginable.

Sam - posted on 06/08/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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she egnores every word i say and is just a horror. she does not do this to anyone other than me. she doesnt do it to her dad or nan. im the one who disiplines her not that im strict. she has a touch of green-eyed monster but is not that bad with her baby sister. she just tries feeding her toast which is normal lol. i dont know what to do with her anymore. please help and give me some advice to try

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Tangee - posted on 06/08/2009

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she's only doing what you let her do, and if you dont put a stop to it now it will only get worse. you have to be stern with you disiplining and steady dont punish her one day and do nothing the next he has to know who has the upper hand.

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this is a bad answer. I would have probably said the same thing a few years ago but now, I have a 2 and a half year old who, when he gets angry or frustrated, throws things, pulls my hair, hits me and any one else who is around. We don't tolerate it. We have consistently put him in time out, taken his toys away and even, at one point, tried the ignoring method and none of it works.

Dorothy - posted on 06/08/2009

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it may be that your 2 year old wants attention and bad attention is better then what she sees as non you might try telling here that you really want to have a fun mommy daughter day but until she stops hitting, bitting,ect. you cant and remmind her of the day it proble is the green eyed monster. 2year olds will be 2 year olds. but you do need to find some way to get a hold on it or you will be dealing with 2 of them doing it one child will learn from another. i hope this helps even just a little

Krissy - posted on 06/08/2009

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I agree with the momz and their opinions. Pretty all that works. From hard disciplining to light disciplining. Do what works best for u but be stern and consistent. Make sure there is not an audience of snickering,laughing or babying when she does do wrong it only worsens it for u. Show her love with hugs and kisses after u make her apologize for what she has done wrong after u've corrected her of course. This method shows what she will get if she is a good girl. But, if she does something NOT NICE stick to ur disciplining methods and remember stay CONSISTENT!

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There is a great book that you can order from Amazon.com called "Parenting with Love" by Glenn Latham (sp?). It is short and to the point and has helped me with all stages of parenting. He talks a lot about focusing on the positive and ignoring the negative. If you daughter is getting a strong response from doing these negative things, she will probably keep doing them to see the response. If you are able to stay calm and quietly correct her or put her in time-out calmly, they will probably go away. I would highly recommend this book to every parent. My husband and I have loved it.

Vicky - posted on 06/08/2009

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My two and half year old was doing the same thing. I got him to settle by being faster than him. If he picked up a toy in anger I snatched it off him and said NO very firmly and then sat him in front of the living room window and made him stay ther for 2 minutes. Like on supernanny the biting was stopped by biting back with both my children. The other main thing you have to do is make sure everyone else follows your rules to the letter. No laughing, talking or hugging until she has completed the whole process and given you a hug and said sorry. Took me 6 weeks of daily work but it was worth it, very tiring and you feel like quitting but thats the worse thing to do once you start stick to it and if someone else says anything tell them firmly to be quiet then talk to them later when all finished. Good luck you can do it! Positive thinking and everyone doing the same thing is essential !!!!!

Sam - posted on 06/08/2009

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i have always steadily punished her and tried telling her wrong from right. i have tried biting back and hitting back. hard enough to hurt but not enough to make her bleed ect. she cried but done it again so then so did i. that still didnt work she then just tried to hit me even more so this has never worked. she only gets away with what any 2 year old would get away with. i know alot of this is just typical 2 year old behaviour but she seems like a devils child. it doesnt matter what i do back to her she will just go at me more

Cassandra - posted on 06/08/2009

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She is getting a pay off somewhere. You will need to figure out what it is. Does she only do it to get your attention? Every kid is different so you need to discipline her with what motivates her, if she hates being alone, put her in timeout, if that doesn't work, take away toys or funtime with mom. If all else fails, some kids only learn by having it done unto them, so you may have to resort to biting her. Good luck.

Raylene - posted on 06/08/2009

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Hi sam,

you might not like what im about to say but ive tried this on my oldest who is now 12 and he gave me a black eye at one point with a book he through at me. and then it went on to biting other kids..so this is what I did, I took his arm and I bit him and hard...not cuting the skin but enough for him to feel that it hurt. he looked at me with a sad face and then cried. I said you see it hurts..dont do this to momma or the other kids. he said sorry and we hugged. i never had a problem since. he such a good kid now but with an attitude Im working on now....

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