My 2 month old is still not sleeping through the night. Any suggestions?

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Yael - posted on 12/24/2008

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Seriously, I am so tired of parents buying into that whole myth of babies sleeping through the night. First, 2 months is way way too early to expect a baby to sleep through the night. There are a few babies out there who are great sleepers and their parents help perpetuate that myth and make normal parents of normal babies feel completely inadequate because their baby doesn't sleep through the night by a certain age. Different babies have different needs at different stages. Our son (who is now 2 and still wakes up at night sometimes) slept great (9-12 hours nights) from 3.5 months until 8 months. At around 8 months some bad teething started happening that ruined everything. He got used to waking up at night and never really stopped since. It was for a different reason at every phase since then. It was either teething or him being sick or us going away on vacation and his scheduled getting messed up. There is always something. So even if your baby is a great sleeper some of the time, he might not always be. Of course I wish a great sleeper on all parents. One less tired parent in this world could bring a lot of good into the world, but that's not the reality for most parents and most babies. Maybe when you stop stressing out about your son needing to sleep through the night like other people say, it will actually happen. Of course there are things you can do to help like darken the room and a white noise machine and all kinds of things like that, but they might help on some nights and not on others. Babies are not machines that do what we expect them to do at any given moment. They need love and caring and definitely need a routine. What they don't need to the crying it out because even if it is successful, once the child gets sick, teethes or you all go on vacation, you'll have to start all over again...

Lynn - posted on 12/23/2008

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The book no cry sleep solution is a really good book it has been really helpful for me.

User - posted on 12/23/2008

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The best thing you can do is understand the needs of your baby at different stages. Most babies are not sleeping through the night at that age. Have patience, and put the "crying it out" idea out of your head until at least 6 months. I personally never did it at any age. My kids were bad sleepers, but they are great now, and I am glad I did not go that route.

Oh, but my most important piece of advice: Stop folding baby clothes. Just throw them all in a drawer. Then, take that time you would have spent folding and RELAX. Those little onesies are far too small to wrinkle!! :)

Courtney - posted on 12/11/2008

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they will grow out of it at some point but other then that you can just let him/her cry through it if you really want to and then they will stop after awhile

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Amanda - posted on 11/26/2013

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Babies' Magic tea from secretsoftea.com is the answer to every mom that can't get her baby to sleep through the night

Amy - posted on 12/24/2008

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My son's who were bottle-fed slept through the night by 2 months, but my 2 month old daughter who is breast-fed will only go 5-6 hours between feedings.

Jennifer - posted on 12/23/2008

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I would second the No Cry Sleep Solution.
All kids are different. I see some mom's recommending to cry it out or feed solids. I don't believe either of these options are the best for your baby's health - mental or physical. But you are the mom, and you have to do what you feel is best for your baby and what feels right.
My son is almost 2 and doesn't sleep through. You may also have to adjust your expectations a bit.

Laurie - posted on 12/14/2008

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I have six children, and they all slept through the night well before a year, but only one slept through the night by two months (and she nursed every hour and a half all day). I'm not sure how often she feeds during the day, but you can try moving her feedings closer together during the day so that she's getting the food she needs during regular waking hours. You might even need to wake her to feed her during the day. (My three month old preemie twins eat every two and a half hour during the day, and they sleep from 10pm to 4:30am at night.) Also, try to start entertaining her for a while after meals to get a good waking period in the morning, afternoon, and evening. Shorter naps and longer waking periods will be easier and easier as she matures developmentally.... I've always noticed that mine become much easier to engage and keep awake about the time they start smiling and cooing. If you are really desperate for sleep, you might try offering a bottle of formula before bed or adding a little rice cereal to pumped breastmilk. The usual recommendation is not to offer cereal before 4 to 6 months, but pediatricians will often start babies on it earlier if weight gain or reflux are problems... might be worth talking to your doctor about anyway. Good luck... and try to cherish the midnight hours; they will be gone before you know it!

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just remember it is only a little bit longer & she will sleep much better. With our littlest one, she was about 3 mo. old & she started sleeping 5-6 hrs. at a time. Some things that may help are to get a relaxing night time routine- Johnson & Johnson have a wonderful bath & lotion that tend to help relax them, cuddle time in a quiet place, etc. We either ran a small fan in her room or a cool mist humidifier; now she likes to listen to baby einstein bach & other classical music or a celtic lullaby. Sleep when you can & try not to get stressed. This time really does pass by quickly. Best of wishes!

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I have a 3 month old. We put her in her own room, stuck to a consistent schedule and we started feeding her rice cereal with a feeder bottle all around 1 1/2 months old. She sleeps all night. We give her a bath between 7:30 and 8:00pm, then she eats her 2 ozs of the rice cereal, then she drinks 2 ozs of formula. Then we take her back into her dark bedroom and swaddle her up good and she sleeps til 6:45 - 7:30am! It is different with all babies I know. But she just couldn't get full enough to sleep so we started the cereal and it worked miracles. Hope this helps!

Kim - posted on 12/14/2008

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Well, I posted earlier about music to play for you little girl. It does help trust me. I did forget to tell you that my twins didn't sleep through the night till about 5 mos except for one of them. They are now 7 and one of the twins still wakes up at night and sleeps in our bed. What a mistake we made with her, we now think it is a habit of hers but she also has acid reflux and has had that since she was born. Now our youngest was sleeping through the night at about 3 weeks. I know that sounds like a dream come true but it was a blessing. She was our best baby only cried when she was hungry or tired. She would also lay in her crib at night and day before going to sleep and after she woke up totally content so we would always check up on her to make sure she was ok. Enjoy your baby while she is young and cherish every moment. I miss the infant stage but there is no more children for us.

Leanne - posted on 12/13/2008

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I have found with my boy that the better he naps during the day, the better he would sleep at night because he wasnt overtired. Im not saying let her sleep all day, but have some good naps, babies need a lot of sleep. My son is 6 months and still doesnt sleep through the night without 2 feedings. Just try to sleep when she sleeps during the day so you arent too exhaused to deal with it during the night. Good luck!

Candice - posted on 12/12/2008

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A great book - "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Dr. Weisbluth. 2 months is a bit young to expect them to sleep through the night. At 9 months you can let them cry it out. I usually waited until then and a couple nights of crying and it was over. Easy as pie... but read this book... FABULOUS!!! Solves problems. My husband thinks I'm a miracle worker because I put our babies down at 6-6:30 PM and they sleep for 12 hours (with feeding until 9 months) then straight through until 6-6:30 AM. Awesome!

Carolyn - posted on 12/12/2008

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Oh yeah, crying it out is a bad idea for any kid under a year. You increase the chance of SIDS letting a kid that young cry it out. A little crying after you've diapered and feed them, and while you are comforting them is fine. But you shouldn't leave them to cry on their own.

Carolyn - posted on 12/12/2008

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We all hear stories about the kid that slept through the night at two weeks but even two months is pretty young to sleep through the night. I think most start somewhere around a year. My 7 yo didn't start until she was 3 and my 4 yo still gets up every night. When my kids were small (like 3-4 months) and waking up every two hours I dreaded hearing people say my four yo still gets up. It changes as they get older. For one I don't have any middle of the night diaper changes. More importantly, unless they are ill or had a bad dream, by about two they go right back to sleep. Most nights I don't even know my son got up and crawled into bed with us until the morning. Especially with my second I used to enjoy the midnight nursing. It was just the two of us, quite and peaceful.

Jacinthe - posted on 12/12/2008

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she*** sorry, I hadn't read all comments to the point you said she was a girl :) I'm just used to boys.

Jacinthe - posted on 12/12/2008

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Do not let a 2 mos old cry until they stop! Babies under 6 mos must be fed with milk if they wake up for it. If your 2 mos old baby asks for milk during the night, it's because he needs it to grow. Letting him cry until he stops (which he won't) is only going to make him hungry. After 6 mos, though, if they still wake up at night, you can give them water to try and discourage them from waking up, and you can start telling them that no, night is for sleep, and start letting them cry themselves back to sleep... but not until then!

My first son slept through the night at 3 mos, and my second one slept about 6 hours in a row at 6 weeks. They were both fed at the bottle by then (I've heard it might take longer if they're being breastfed, because a mother's milk is digested more easily, and they get hungry faster), so it might have helped. My second baby is almost 3 mos old now and he sleeps from 9pm to almost 7 in the morning. I've found that the best way to give them the habit of sleeping at night is to make sure they make a difference between night and day : let them sleep in broad daylight, wake them up at regular hours to feed them (usually every 4 hours for a 2 mos old), try to keep them awake as long as possible by putting them on a blanket on the floor and staying with them, singing songs and shaking toys, so that they understand that the day isn't for sleeping. Then, every night at 10pm, I wake him up and give him a bottle, even if it's only been 2 or 3 hours since the last one, and even if he doesn't drink it all. It usually knocks him out and I put him to bed. I started that when he was 1 month old, and he slowly stretched his night and now sleeps 8 hours. It's not guaranteed to work, every baby is different, and feeding them, until they're 6 mos old, is more important than our sleep :-)

Brigitte - posted on 12/12/2008

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Thanks Mommies for all of your suggestions. I have a healthy and happy girl and I need to cherish all these moments with her - even though we are half asleep! :-)

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Most don't sleep through the night until about 4 months when you can start feeding them some Rice Cereal. When your little one is that old try some rice cereal right before bed (thats what we did) and she started sleeping through the night within days of starting that.

Kim - posted on 12/11/2008

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Keep on a schedule, but also what we did (we have twins, and a younger child) is we played baby bach from the einstein series. To this day they miss their music if I don't play it at night. They actually sleep better. This is something I had read and it is suppose to help with brain development.

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My son is four months old and has been sleeping through the night since he was 5 weeks old (about 5-6 hours). He is a relaxed and good sleeper, though. However, at 13 weeks we started sleep training him and he sleeps 10-11 hours at night (every night). Sleep training is hard and the key is consistancy, but it REALLY WORKS! Our source is a book called "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child." It is a great book and explains so much. Check out the chapter labeled Months One to Four and it should help. Our son will occasionally wake up in the night, like all babies do sometimes, but I just go into his room and console/sooth him and then walk out. As long as I know he is not hurt or hungry then it's ok. My son is also breastfeeding still, so he makes up for missed meals at night, during the day. Good Luck with your 2 month old!

Ruth - posted on 12/11/2008

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I have 4 children, and none of them slept through the night that young. They were usually 6 or 7 mo. old before they did. I know it's rough getting up thru the night, but enjoy her while she's little, they grow way too fast!

Pricilla - posted on 12/11/2008

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Well, i think the baby is confused with night and day, i think you need make the room more darker, try not to have lights sing to him and give him o her food if need and try to sleep the baby, try making a rutin, the Johnson's lotion and bodywash are proved that will her baby sleep, i brought for may 1year old son and it's good, try this and tell me how it it go, good luck, Pricilla from, Puerto Rico..

Sara - posted on 12/11/2008

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I think that it is a bit much to expect a 2 month old to sleep through the night, especially if they are breast fed. Realistically, it is based on weight, once 11-12 # is reached, they should be able to do 8 hours without feeding. Some suggestions; white noise, night light, swaddling, swaddling, swaddling. Check out the book "Happiest baby on the block" by dr. Karp. It is short, with a quick help section.

Melony - posted on 12/11/2008

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my daughter never slept throuw the night , until she was off the bottle. that probly doesn't help but they do grow out of it

So - posted on 12/11/2008

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I would say to keep her schedule consistent and put her down to bed the same time every night. Every child is different and she may just need a little more time. Also make sure she is well fed before bedtime so she doesn't wake up hungry. It is okay for her to cry for about 5-10 minutes, but if she continues for longer, it is best to check in on her.

Jenny - posted on 12/11/2008

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My son didn't start sleeping through the night until he was about 3 or 3 1/2 mos old. A lot of it is going to just depend on what your baby wants to do. I keep our baby on a schedule around bedtime and he seems to know now that once we put his jammies on, it's time for bed and he starts to settle down. Then he has his bottle and he goes to bed. He's 5 months old now and goes to sleep in his own bed as well. My friend had a baby that didn't sleep through the night until he was almost 6 months old, though, so like I said a lot of it just depends on what the baby wants to do!

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