My 2 year old daughter bites herself when she is mad, how do I get her to stop this behavior?
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Tara - posted on 01/19/2010
as long as she not breaking skin or biting chunks out of her arm try not to worry too much but as many others have said she is exspressing her anger in the only way her young mind can figure out after all she has been taught not to hit not to throw things etc its up to you to figure out another way for her to express anger example an anger pillow? something like a couch throw pillow size when she is mad sad whatever brings on the biting encourage her to bite the pillow instead
Katie - posted on 10/01/2010
My 20 month old daughter recently started biting herself and yelling "ow." I recently took her to the Dr. For a bad cough and it turned out she had an ear infection as well. Not too long after I started the antibiotics, the biting herself stopped. I guess she was trying to communicate that she was in pain, even though she was doing it when I would reprimand her for something.
She started doing this about a month ago. She mainly does it when i tell her to be nice to our dogs. The bite marks usually last about 12 to 24 hours sometimes, I think she really does hurt herself. I always rub it for her and tell her that its not ok to bite ourselfs. I have two older children and they never did this, this is new behavior for me. Thanks everyone for your adivse.
Jennifer - posted on 01/19/2010
My daughter is almost 3 and she started doing this same thing right after she turned two. I ignored it and she has since really calmed down with it since she is figuring out more words and can actually tell me what's wrong. Your little one will probably do the same thing. I also found it helped if I tried to give her the words and then reinforce the no biting rule.
Deanna - posted on 01/19/2010
If she is not seriously hurting herself, just ignore it. She may be using it to calm herself. I use to watch a child who did this.She got older and found better ways to calm herself. If she is verbal, try to help her find words to describe her feelings.
Adrienne - posted on 01/19/2010
My daughter does that, but she has autism--NOT TO SAY YOUR DAUGHTER DOES!! But for Aubrey, it is her way to calm herself down from a stressful situation (part of a sensory meltdown) which is different from a tantrum. If she shows premeditation before she does it, then it's just a type of tantrum & you can try ignoring it and hope it goes away on its own, or use whatever corrective measure works on her. Sometimes, I'll just get a confused look on my face & just ask, "Doesn't that hurt?" As long as she sees it's not getting a rise out of you, she'll probably quit--unless it is a stimming behavior, then you probably should investigate a little more into why she's doing that. It never hurts to cover all your bases.:)
LaRissa - posted on 01/19/2010
More than likely she is doing it because it shocks you and gets a rise out of you. If you ignore the biting she will likely stop because it no longer will be a source of entertainment.
If ignoring her doesn't stop the biting then when she bites herself, calmly get down to her level, look her in the eye and tell her biting is not ok and the next time she bites herself she will have to have a timeout (or whatever form of discipline you prefer). Whatever you choose to do you HAVE to be consistent and so does whoever is around her a lot (your parents, your significant other, you siblings or friends). Good luck!
PS - Just keep in mind there is hope and 2-4 years old are the most challenging years. Consistency, structure and rules (not too many, but enough she knows what her boundaries are) will help you immensely!
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