My 2 year old has recently said on occasion that one of her teachers at school hits her. We

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Jessica - posted on 02/02/2009

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I am wondering if this a phase that 2 yr olds go threw, my little boy is 2 yrs and 2 months and it seems that he has the same ideas. He likes to tell me that he's mad because I hit him. The worst thing that has happened is he has had to sit in the corner for behaviors. I would continue to watch her behavior for any changes and also mention it to the "supervisor", watch for big changes (ex. is potty trained and doesn't have accidents and now all of a sudden is wetting self all the time at daycare.) I hope this helps and it is just what I would do it. Jessi

Betsy - posted on 02/02/2009

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Listen to your child!  Sit down and talk with your child.  Watch for changes in behavior or signs of distress, such as bed-wetting or a sudden reluctance to go to day care.  Parental vigilance and education of a child are the best weapons against child abuse.  Be actively involved in your child’s activities, friendships, and schoolwork.



Be a good listener.  Not all children react to abuse in the same way.  Children have different personalities, coping skills, and emotional resources.  Much also depends on the child’s relationship to the abuser, the severity of the abuse, how long the abuse lasted, the child’s age, and other factors.  Furthermore, if the abuse is exposed and a child receives loving adult support, damage can often be minimized.



The Bible says: "Anyone inexperienced puts faith in every word, but the shrewd one considers his steps."—Proverbs 14:15. It is a wise idea to investigate a problem before acting hastily. The Bible also says: "Do not have companionship with anyone given to anger"--- Proverbs 1:24  If you supect something is wrong you need to remove your child from the situation.  



Genevieve - posted on 02/02/2009

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As a care giver in the field I too think that it is very important that you:



1) believe your child, and let her know that no one is allowed to hit her and you are going to do all you can to make sure it does not happen again and



2) investigate - some caregivers believe that "tapping" or "slapping" a child who is hitting is a good way to discourage them from hitting, I personally believe positive discipline works so much better and any kind of hitting is hitting.    You might also want to talk the management and find out what thier policy on disciplin is or talk to the caregiver herself and see what her side of the story is, not that you take her word over your daughters, but if she admits she tapped the child, as a matter of discipline, you then will have to decide if this is o.k. with you, if not I would pull the child from that daycare.  If you get no where with the direct approach - most daycares or dayhomes have an open door policy - so pop in unexpected, or stay for an afternoon as an observer.  If the caregiver is hitting, It is not likely anything will happen to your child when you are there, but you will get an idea of how situations are handled by watching how the other children are being treated.  At very least you should be able to tell if the caregiver in question is having a hard time staying calm under stressful circumstances. 



3) go with your gut - if you feel your child is telling the truth and thier may be abuse happeningor  - pull her out of that situation a.s.a.p.  - don't wait to see it, abusers rarely show thier true colors when adults are around.



Good luck. 

Melissa - posted on 02/02/2009

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I would talk to other parents. Two year olds don't usually lie (cause I doubt they know what that is) but they do get confused and sometimes they do no know exactly what they are saying. I would look into it before jumping to any action like pulling your kid out or trying to get the teacher fired. But I wouldn't just ignore it either.

Hayley - posted on 02/02/2009

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i would be very wary of taking her back. i suggest you speak to the owner & manager of the place and also the department of children services and see if they can investigate it. nobody should be abusing your child. nobody has a right to place a hand on your child. the teacher should be repremanded and taught that just because of their own inability to discuss an incident with your child, doesn't mean they can take the frustration out on your child by hitting her, thinking that will discipline her. Surely others would be in the same situation, i suggest you talk to other parents too and find out whether their children have mentioned it. it will also give the other parents an opportunity to talk their children about being hit (and hitting)

Michelle - posted on 02/02/2009

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I say take her out and find a new place for her to go.  She is an innocent 2 year old, so there is not reason for her to lie.

Katie - posted on 02/02/2009

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My daughter stays at home with my dad and she does get spanked every now and then (as most 2 and a half year olds do.) She will tell us when she gets spanked, but sometimes she randomly tells us that my dad hits her. I know for a fact that he would never hit her and she LOVES him very much! She talks about EVERYTHING and I know that I have nothing to be concerned about. If she ever seemed scared of him or got upset then I would be concerned. Trust your instincts and if your child shows signs of being scared or upset about going to school, you may want to find another facility, if possible.

Jodie - posted on 02/02/2009

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My advice to you would be to tell whoever is in charge of the nursery your concerns and go from there. Best wishes

Cally - posted on 02/02/2009

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hey hun am anursery nurse an when i have been worken we use to have one little boy who use to tll his mum the same. as ur child been scared to go to school or quite upset if so then i would mention it to the nursery manager. but as we found the child who was in are nursery said the same and it turned out what had happened is a student and told her she couldnt do something and the child was quite up set bout nit so the child said the teacher hit her. it might be true but just keep monitoring her if it gets worse or upsets her goin to schol i would take it up with the manager. other wise if ur child seems happy and content then it might just be kids being kids hope have helped a little gud luck

Abegail - posted on 02/02/2009

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Oh my gosh!  Have you talke to your child about hitting?  Can she actually describe it if you asked what the teacher did exactly?  That's very serious and either you need to have a serious talk with your daughter about telling a fib or you need to have that teacher fired! 

Jennifer - posted on 02/02/2009

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Wow! You should talk to some other Parents and find out if their kids have said anything like that as well!

Cally - posted on 02/02/2009

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Quoting Cally:



Quoting Kristin:

My 2 year old has recently said on occasion that one of her teachers at school hits her. We






 





 

Cally - posted on 02/02/2009

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Quoting Kristin:

My 2 year old has recently said on occasion that one of her teachers at school hits her. We



 

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