Sandy - posted on 12/28/2008 ( 18 moms have responded )
Sandy - posted on 12/28/2008 ( 18 moms have responded )
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ReneÃ© - posted on 05/21/2012
My son did not talk or walk until he was 2 years old. Our pediatrician recomended Birth to Three, which is a program here in Connecticut that offers speech, physical, and occupational therapy for children ages "birth to three." They sent therapists to our home 3 times a week in the beginning, and then when my son reached the age of 3, because he still needed the help, (and still does) we were reffered to an intregrated preschool program. My son has just done his second year there, he will be 5 in august, and we cannot be more grateful to the program. He has come so far in his speech, his physical therapy, and his social interaction. I remember how frustrating it is not being able to get your child to express his needs. As hard as it is, be patient, children follow their own schedule. It took several months for my son to respond to his therapy. Give it time, I promise the early intervention is helping, your child will probably explode one day and never stop talking!!
Ask your pediatrician if he can recomend additional programs for your family. And hang in there, it will get easier!
Heather - posted on 01/07/2009
I would definately have is hearing evaluated if this has not already been done. I worked in a large pediatics practice for 4yrs and 9 times out of 10, they have hearing loss and need tubes. But to worry too much just yet, this is so common, I bet the child will be talking full sentences by 3...
Mari - posted on 01/07/2009
I'd recommend using Sign Language... many children are being taught sign language, and it is a wonderful way of letting children get their words across while they're trying to learn how to talk. You don't have to teach them entire sentences, just basic words.. like "more", "food", "drink" "sleep", "play", "please", "thank you".... that kinda thing.
Be patient! Every child develops at their own pace! :)
Sherri - posted on 01/03/2009
not sure if someone mentioned this yet but or if ur child is in a day care or playgroups or anything but i had a similair problem and she was in speech therapy her speech therapist reccomended that i enroll her in a nursery school or a playgroup so she now attends playgroup once a week and we go 2 times a week to a drop in center where there is other children and since we have done that her speech has improved to the point where she only sees her speech therapist/ patholigist once a month... they learn better from kids their own age its just and idea though
Ginny - posted on 01/03/2009
I just wanted to say that I'm in the same boat. Waiting on specialist's appt. I do know of kids that didn't talk and then had an explosion of words after 2. My son was talking and then stopped though :-( Hope it all works out...I'm sure it will.
Jennie - posted on 01/03/2009
My son had tons of ear infections when he was younger and we've been through the tubes and everything. Hes been in speech therapy for 3 years now, he could speak ( didnt start on time, which Im so completely noticing now that Ive had a 2nd child) but one thing I learned early on was to give them 2 choices...dont just say do you want a cookie?? but ask would you like a cookie or an apple. gives them the oppourtunity to repeat it, and you need to repeat it when they "ask" for it (usually by pointing...constant reinforcement) can do this for pretty much everything....drinks, clothing toys, activities....its not a huge life changing thing, but maybe just a spark to get things going. Good Luck!
Kiri - posted on 01/01/2009
im one of 5 children, and we had alot of interaction with older children and people. i was the only to speak before the age of 2, and the others all vary. a child will speak when its ready. my brother was 3 1/2 and had to have speach therapy, and with in 2 sessions he was speaking in full sentances. boys tend to be lazier than girls. i now have 2 children myself and lots of things can have a huge impact on when they decide to start. my son starting saying basic words at 16months, and 2 weeks later his sister was born and he stoppped trying to speak altogether. he's now 20 months and only says iggle piggle. if ur really concerned health visitors are really good at getting you speach therapy.
Stacey - posted on 12/31/2008
My husband didn’t speak till he was about 3 or 4. He had an older sister who would translate his baby talk to his mother. His sister was about 2 years older than him and was known as “little mama”. He did eventually speak. There were no serious long term problems. I was shocked when his family told me about his language delay. I didn’t think that children could fully recover from having such a serious delay. He didn’t even receive treatment. He took AP English in high school and graduated with honors. I, on the other hand, never experienced delay as a toddler but, was diagnosed with reading and math Learning disabilities as well as ADD. I am now working toward a Masters degree in School Psychology. My husband proof reads all of my papers. It goes to show that every person is an individual.
Midge - posted on 12/31/2008
My grandson (now 10) didn't speak until almost 5 but that's because his ears were waterlogged. Everytime he got sick, his ears were the first thing affected. He suffered terribly with ear infections. He had an operation (forget what it's called) he had tubes put in his ears to drain the water, at the end of one year, the tubes were removed, he can speak and hear perfectly. Not all children need this operation, but do speak to his/her pediatrician, it's vital.
Glendy - posted on 12/29/2008
time is great but i would chat to doctor and ask for help they have great speach and language therapists avaliable , pecs and other intervention works brilliantly if you can find motivation, children with favorite toys and requests for food will only work if your not so responsive to their needs holding back these items till given eye contact or symbol..
Natasha - posted on 12/29/2008
I was just talking to one of my friends about this very same thing. She had the same situation with her daughter. Take your child to the ENT doctor to be evaluated.
Sandy - posted on 12/29/2008
thanks for the responses!!! He is learning to sign, and is picking it up just fine! There is nothing wrong w/ his hearing, as he listens, understands and comprehends everything we are all saying. He actually is a better listener than my other children. Yes, he is the baby and last of 4 kids, so others say this may be a factor. He was recently evaluated by a speach thereapist, and she does not think he is ready for her, since he may not even have the mouth motor skills to talk yet. So she gave us some things to work on, such as using a straw. However, he does say Momma, so I know he will eventually talk!!! Just real fustrating!!!!!
Dawn - posted on 12/28/2008
No, seriously, it really good to teach sign language, cuz how would u know what your child wants? and u waited until your child to be over 3 years old, it gonna to be really hard on this child. ofc use your voice and sign at the same time so they can understand what you are saying. Im hard of hearing myself and i have two lil boys age 3 and 5 they are doing really well with their speech and their sign language. their first language was sign language. and now they are in preschool and they talk just fine. their teacher told me that they are doing really well and on time and everythings. doesnt need speech therapy, look at me im hard of hearing mean mostly deaf but hear a little and talk firmly. If you disagree the idea of sign language then your child are helpless... im sorry to say this but it is true. all children are different and i believe your child would be just fine when your child learn sign language and hearing your voice. your child will learn both things at the same time.
Mariann - posted on 12/28/2008
hi, my son is 4 almost 5 and he didnt start talking until he was almost 3. I disagree with the instruction of sign language. We started signing with my son when he was 6 months old and by the time he was a year he could sign all of his communications making it useless to use his words. Once we stopped signing, placed him in speech therapy and forced him to use his words his speech improved. I dont think signing was the total reason he didnt speak "on time" because he had some issues with articulation but it had a lot ot do with it. My son is still in speech and will be until he is 5. When I say "forcing" him to use his words, I mean I would not give him something he wanted unless he said the word or at least attempted to say the word. It was so hard at first but with time and commitment it helped a lot.I hope this helps some.
Dawn - posted on 12/28/2008
Hi, I want to share something about my husband, He's deaf and he didnt turn deaf until he was 6 years old. Don't let that scare you. He didnt talk until he was 5 years old cuz he learn a sign language first and all the teacher at school keep thinking he's deaf and need put him in deaf program but his mom told those teacher that he pretend to be deaf. Just be patience and while you are at it, teach your 2 yrs old a sign language and it is a lot easier to communicate and it would develop ur child's developments since its brain is still a "sponge" it aborsb a lot of things. Be patience and time will comes also get your child's hearing check :) Go to children's hospital and they do provide these type of test.
Melanie - posted on 12/28/2008
My daughter who's almost 2, doesn't talk either, we've asked our pediatrician about it and she said to be patient. One day you might wake up and she'll be talking in full sentences! We got her hearing and everything checked, so we know it's not that either. Also, we've been making her say things more, like if she wants a sippy or a snack and have her tell people "bye-bye," I think she's coming around. So yea', be patient and work with him/her is my advice.
Wendy - posted on 12/28/2008
Be patient, my son didn't say one word until he was three. He didn't even try to repeat anything we said (like my first son did). Once he did start talking he was talking in sentences! Now he is seven and is a little genius! I wouldn't panic yet, give him some time!
Laurie - posted on 12/28/2008
I'm guessing since you are in early intervention you have already had his hearing tested. Have the speech therapists suggested sign language or PEC's communication to help implement speech?
Our son did not talk until he was almost three yrs old. He was a projetile vomiter as an infant and toddler. We had his hearing tested and he had lost almost 80% of his hearing. This had to do with the amount of liquid in his ear canal. Once we had that removed and tubes placed in his ears he talked none stop. The early intervention and speech therapy also helped him.
Early intervention helps but it takes time. 6 months to you is forever but to them it is just the beginning. I hope everything works out for you and your child. I have been there and feel the pain!