My 3-week old baby is constantly crying

Amanda - posted on 11/15/2011 ( 167 moms have responded )

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My 3-week old baby girl is constantly crying while she's awake. I check to see if she's hungry and check her diaper, but even if its not one of those two things, she still cries. I walk around with her; cradling her and rocking her and sometimes that doesn't work either. Can anyone help?

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Amanda - posted on 11/18/2011

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Does her tummy feel hardened? Do you breast feed her? She could have a very sensitive belly. My daughter had this and she had to be giving mylicon with every feeding. If you are breast feeding, try to avoid anything spicy. If shes formula fed than you may want to consider switching formulas....one for sensitive bellies, and give her mylicon. Good luck!

Julie - posted on 11/18/2011

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colic??? juandice? are you breast feeding. My first child cried from birth to age one....you have my sympathy. Get a front back-bundle and just go about your day with the baby cuddled close.

Michelle - posted on 11/18/2011

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I would invest in a wrap and wear your baby as often as possible and co-sleep if it is convenient for you. These can really help for an assortment of reasons. If your child has digestion problems the motion of being worn can provide a lot of relief (much like pacing can bring relief to an adult suffering heartburn). You will be able to do this without feeling glued to the couch as a worn baby can come anywhere with you and your hands are free to do the things you need to do. Contact with your body will help regulate your baby's temperature and provide reassurance and security, ease their way into the world. It would be a massive shock to be inside a warm enclosed womb environment then suddenly plunged into the cold open world with none of the reassuring pulsing noises etc, that let baby know that they are part of mother. These are just a couple of suggestions that could be of gentle assistance and worth trying before you go down the path of medicalising the situation.
Good luck, it can be quite shocking how much a baby can cry and it does take a while to learn their cues and understand what a cry can mean (especially in the exhausted haze of early motherhood). You and baby will get there in time.

Beth - posted on 11/18/2011

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Take her to the doctor asap! That's definitely not normal, and it could literally be anything. Hope you've already taken her by now actually:-)

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I would consult your daughters pediatrician. She could have colic or she could suffer from acid reflux which would make her miserable all the time. Babies are known to be fussy but if she is crying ALL the time then that is a sign that something is wrong. Hope it all goes well for you.

Torri - posted on 11/18/2011

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I'm thinking thats a reflux issue! My daughter had severe reflux. She was up all day and night screaming. Turns out just a little medicine changed everything!

Ronda - posted on 11/18/2011

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DO NOT TAKE YOUR BABY TO A CHIROPRACTOR!!! Please! They do NOT have the same qualifications a regular doctor does!!

Stacy - posted on 11/18/2011

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Take her to the chiropractor, I'm not kidding my daughter was the same way and after an ajustment she was a new baby

Kira - posted on 11/18/2011

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Our baby was like this for the first year. It was so rough. We would take turns holding him trying to calm him. I agree with many here that you should start by seeing a doctor. We did that and got some suggestions on changing his formula etc. I was breastfeeding and he was allergic to something I was eating so I tried to change my diet. He continued to have diarrea and was still sick so we switched to a pre-digested formula Similac Alimentum. It helped a little but he continued to have his crying fits all the time. We determined he had acid reflux and we was put on prevacid which helped a litte. We also used Mylicon which are gas drops that eleviate some gas pains in babies. Those sometimes worked. Also tried Colic Calm. This was something that we used when he was completely inconsolable. It really did help to calm him. You would see the look of relief on his face after we gave it to him. Our pediatric gastro specialist at Children's Hospital actually recommended Colic Calm. He was the Dad of a baby with colic so he had tired everything as well. Our regular pediatrican was against any kind of homeopathic things but she had no children and had never had a screaming inconsolable baby to try to take care of!



Just be patient and try some of these things one at a time to see if they help. Also, is the crying literally all the time or is it certain times of the day? The bottom line is it seems like colic to me which is sort of a catchall term for kids that cry all the time like ours. It does usually go hand and hand with acid reflux. My son's colic started aroudn 3 weeks old too. Hang in there :) It gets better! My son started to get better after his 1st birthday. Best of luck!

Sarah - posted on 11/18/2011

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Check for milk allergy especially if you are using formula. My son cryed constantly during his waking moments until we switched to Nutramigen baby formula. Later we learned he was allergic to all dairy which is why he was so uncomfortable. It was like we were poisoning him. Once he was on formula his body could tolerate he became a happy well adjusted baby. If you are breast feeding, experiment by taking all dairy out of your own diet. Hang in there. Hope she feels better soon.

Anna - posted on 11/18/2011

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That's normal, just keep her close to you as much as possible. Try a baby carrier, it does wonders. I recommend reading The Happiest Baby on the Block by Dr. Havey Karp. In this book, Dr. Karp indicates that for the first 3 months of a baby's life, you should think of him as a fetus. He needs the same treatment as if he were still in the womb: warmth, rhythmic noice and movement, and a very tight environment (swaddling).

Kristen - posted on 11/18/2011

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Look into Priscilla Dunstan's 'baby Language. She describes the 5 different cries and what they mean (hunger, need to burp, lower gas, etc.) It goes a long way to helping your baby when you know where to start!

Emily - posted on 11/18/2011

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look into Doterra essential oils, they have soothing blends, or digestive blends to help with her gas, etc. It isn't cheap, but it is safe and very effective.



also a chiropractor, birthing is hard on the babies, and her spine may have a subluxation.

Irma - posted on 11/18/2011

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Hello, my daughter cryed also a lot at that age, most the hole day. After months we found out that she had allergic for cow milk and peanuts. So make shure if your child have pain or something healthproblem. good luck.

Anjeanett - posted on 11/18/2011

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My first was allergic to several proteins, so I had to change my diet to prevent it from being in my milk. The second one was very gassy and colicky. There are many suggestions for dealing with colic. Try them out and see what helps, and work with your doctor. Good luck

Hudaa - posted on 11/18/2011

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An old wives tale I know does help, where you wrap a fannel cloth around the babies stomach where her navel is. It makes them feel more secure some how. Also some babies like to be swaddled and there are some good swaddle blankets you can buy. I am sure you must be worried. Babies are very receptive to your emotions so try a homeopathic rescue remedy to keep you calm. Good luck! It gets better. I promise!

Bobbie - posted on 11/17/2011

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she has colic its like a stomach ache so try gas meds or ask you babies doctor what he or she recommends!

Girlie - posted on 11/17/2011

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Hi Amada, may be your baby suffered from gastritis or colic try to burp her and burp every every after feeding.

Jordan - posted on 11/17/2011

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Swaddle her if ur unfamiliar its the wrapping tech the used while she was in the hospital. Babies arnt used to frely move their bodies yet and there neverous system is still immature so when her arms and legs are moving round it acually is startalling her...imagine feeling out of control of your own body. Its sort of what she's going through. Also check out "the happiest baby on the block" book its a grea bok to help with these issues

Girlie - posted on 11/17/2011

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Hi Amanda, have a nice day! Your child might suffer from gastritis, try her to burp every after feeding.

Lindi - posted on 11/17/2011

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First always seek advice from your pediatrician. But, as a seasoned mom...are you breastfeeding? Are you formula feeding? Babies have a lot of issues with digestion as their little tummies have a hard time at first. It may be something you're eating (my daughter always got really bad gas when I ate broccoli, or chocolate). Pay attention to diet first. Another thing that most people do not realize is SUPER helpful is Probiotics (acidophilus). You can find baby acidophilus at your local health/vitamin store. Put some on the tip of your finger and have her suck it off. You can also add it to bottles or take some (adult kind) and if you're breastfeeding she'll get it that way too. That is OFTEN what causes stomach issues in babies - lack of good bacteria (I know bacteria seems scary...but this is the good stuff -acidophilus). Hope this helps...

Kerri - posted on 11/17/2011

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Mine little one was like that after weeks of trying to figure it out I found out she was allergic to milk. If you are breast feeding try cutting out all milk products (milk, cheese, yogurt etc) out of your diet and see if it makes a difference. If your bottle feeding I would try a different kind of formula.

Yvonne - posted on 11/17/2011

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my baby girl had reflux and cried all the time. the fix, it was as simple as adding rice cereal to her bottles (this helps the food keep weighed down in her stomach) and also she was on zantac, i believe it was. both of these treatments prescribed by her dr. and worked amazingly. this was her treatment from about 1 1/2 months until 10 months. she finally outgrew it because she was upright most of the time and eating more solid heavier food. try taking her to her dr and see what the dr. suggests. it's pretty common.

Kelly - posted on 11/17/2011

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My son used to scream all day long every day. Nothing soothed him and he barely slept. We tried so many different formulas, mylicon, gripe water, having him sleep at an incline, changed the type of bottles, nothing seemed to work. We finally figured out when he was 5 weeks that it was reflux. We tried zantac, prevacid, and prilosec... again nothing worked. Finally when he was 5 months his pediatrician put him on prescription formula, called Neocate. He was like a different baby.

Ana - posted on 11/17/2011

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We had the same experience and it turned out that our little baby girl had a hernia. We took her to her ped and they examined her and confirmed our suspicions. A very minor surgery was performed and she was good to go the same day. It's quite common in infants.

Caroline - posted on 11/17/2011

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I also took my son to a chiropractor which helped 2/3rds of the time. When he had a good adjustment, he was great, but when he had a not so good adjustment, he was worse than ever......worth a try if she does have reflux!

Caroline - posted on 11/17/2011

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If your baby really is crying constantly whilst awake, I would have to agree with some of the other mothers re potentially having reflux (or other illness that needs medical attention). In which case, I disagree with the mothers that say she just wants attention or cuddles. In my experience, and those of my friends, it is not normal for a child of any age to be crying constantly whilst awake. You need to see a doctor if you haven't done so already - suggest they look at reflux to start off with and then go from there. There are other symptoms associated with reflux (there are different kinds), so look it up on the internet if you're curious. My 5 wk old boy had reflux (stopped at 7 months), but I knew almost straight away that something wasn't right. By 3-4 weeks old, I knew something was wrong, and by 5 weeks he was diagnosed with reflux and put on reflux formula (he couldn't hold down breast milk - it was too light. Reflux formula is heavier, like cream, and is easier for them to keep down, even though they will still sick some up). Good luck. Would like to know how you're going with it.....

Katy - posted on 11/17/2011

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My second one cried alot for the first 3 months until we figured out that I was not making enough milk. She was such a good eater she emptied everytime. I couldn't even pump. Started giving her formula and cereal at 4 months and it got much better. Good luck! It will get better.

April - posted on 11/17/2011

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My son suffered like that until he was 6 mos. old...He had a gas issue in his tummy and had to take Mylacon drops to aleviate the gas....

Jennifer - posted on 11/17/2011

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Take her to the doctor to check ears as ear blockage r common in newborns and r very painful for them. Also try laying her on ground and grabbing both feet in your hands and circle her legs around as this helps get rid of wind and is a good distraction technique hope this helps.

Deanna - posted on 11/17/2011

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If the crying is constant I would seek help from a professional to rule out anything medical. They can help give you adivce on how to soothe her. Advice over the internet is fine, but seek professional help first to rule out anything that may need to be addressed immediately. Babies do cry, but not all the time unless there is something wrong.

Leovie - posted on 11/17/2011

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My son is also like that. At that time, I was a new mon and doesn't know that there such thing as colic babies. Consult a doctor on what to do.

Amber - posted on 11/17/2011

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might ask the Dr. if it she might have acid reflux. My son had terrible acid reflux and we didn't know why he was crying so much and eventually was not eating much. Once he was on medication it helped but he didn't outgrow it till he was 2 years old. most babies wil outgrow by the time they are 1 years old.Good Luck and hang in there and ask your Dr.

Connie - posted on 11/17/2011

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Do not lay her flat within 20 minutes of eating. Try putting pressure on her tummy, just a little, like holding her facing out away from you with your arm gently across her tummy. They helped my daughter. her tummy was as hard as a rock also. Also, I had to go to every hospital and doctor in the St. Louis area until I found the one that knew what it was. She didn't hardly eat, never slept, and cried constantly. I was told it was growing pains, there was nothing wrong with her and she was tested for everything from bladder to kidney to everything.

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Well, I have to say it is hard to guess without being there with you. It could be something as simple as the temperature of your home. Maybe try some music to help soothe her. My boys liked soft instrumentals.. Gas troubles usually makes their bellies rock hard, my #2 son wouldn't burp easily, I had to be more gentle.. It's not always as bad as it sounds, baby is still trying to adjust to 'life on the outside.' Fill every day with love, and it will work out..

Connie - posted on 11/17/2011

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Sounds like Acid Reflux. Liquid Zantac prescription and Mylanta to heal the inside that is already damaged. Took them 12 weeks to get me the right meds for my daughter. Once I gave it to her within 24 hours she was just fine and eating normal.Best of luck. Keep us posted.

Christy - posted on 11/17/2011

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MAYBE acid reflux? Check with her DR. Both mine had it and were put on meds and switched to a different formula (similac alimentum) The latter was for a protein allergy they both had and grew out of at about 6-8 months of age.

Geneviève - posted on 11/17/2011

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She might be constipated. My son cried for the first month constantly! I was at my wits end. I understand perfectly what you are going through. I ended up getting Kolik water at the phamacy. The price is a joke ($3.99) and the bottle lasted me almost two months. If you're not breastfeeding, you could slip it into her milk once a day. It worked for me. Just a suggestion.

Erinn - posted on 11/17/2011

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Make sure you swaddle her very tightly, you'd be surprised how comforted they are by it. I'd also suggest checking out "Happiest Baby on the Block." There's a book and a video. I'd suggest renting that video if you are the least bit skeptical, it's the most amazing thing ever watching Dr.Karp in action. My husband read the book, but I only watched the video and WOW. There are a lot of babies that people think have colic, but end up just being over stimulated. So I'd suggest renting that video and also bring it up to your child's doctor. If she's really does have something medically wrong then you need to know about it ASAP. It could be gas related too, they make drops you can give babies that relieve gas.

Alisha - posted on 11/17/2011

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My youngest cried all the time. I remember one night she cried for 7 straight hours. I took her to the doctor numerous times. They put her on acid reflux meds they changed her formula, but nothing worked. I took her to a chiropractor, didn't work. I would have taken her to a witch doctor if it would have helped! lol They never said it was collic but never gave me an explanation as to what else it could have been. It lasted well over a year and at 2 1/2 she still cries in her sleep most nights. I think it was just her personality (and still is). I feel for you knowing what you are going through. Hang in there and stay strong! Oh and she never wanted to be held or to cuddle. Very few times as a baby would she let me snuggle with her :( But now we're making up for lost cuddling time :)

Mary - posted on 11/17/2011

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Maybe try a chiropractor. I've read about baby's who cry and cry, and even have a hard time being content while nursing and as a last ditch effort the parents take the baby to a chiropractor and sure enough, the baby's spine and/or neck had been out of alignment. Within minutes the baby was content. Chiropractors go through 4 years of schooling beyond their bachelor's degree so they are reputable doctors and are trained well to find the problems of the spine and joints. If you are uncomfortable about a chiropractor, ask where he went to school and then research the school and ask if you can speak to some of his patients. He/she should understand your concern.
I don't know if you had a natural birth but if you did, the process can cause misalignment due to it being somewhat of a trauma to the infants body.

Jodie - posted on 11/17/2011

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Hi Amanda, some babies do cry more than others, but does she have any time where she is not crying? Does anything soothe her at all? WHen she is feeding is she distressed? many babies encounter a problem associated with an Immature gut around 2-3 wks of age and the docs often refer to it as colic ..a constant crying for more than 3 hrs a day- 3 days a wk or more for 3 wks or more ( this is one definition of a possibly colicky baby) If it is colic theres lots of practical answers you can find if you simply google it... if it is an acid reflux issue, then often position changes and medication help resolve it. Babies seem to grow out of these states of sadness after about 4-5mths of age... but there are always those who break the rules and do it differently. All I can suggest, is keep trying, get some supportive friends to come and share the rocking, pacing and patting etc with you. Get as much sleep as u can. Give your self time out whenever possible and watch the tension in your arms n body as babies always sense when youre tense and agitated, and they react the same way., Theres many suggestions offered above and Id recommend you have a go at the ones you feel comfortable doing... and see if that helps. BUt ultimately, if you are really concerned, find yourself a recommended paediatrician and get your baby checked out. Its hard trying to work out the why, and often we never get to know "why" they cry, we just learn that something can help...and we continue to do that something until we get a settled baby. God Blessya in this tough time. It soon will pass.

Kylie - posted on 11/17/2011

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your little one could have gas, and need to burp, or have reflux. pop her on your shoulder and walk around with her, make sure her tummy is firmly on your chest. if she needs to burp it'll probably come out, with a bit of follow up, so use a burp cloth! or if her ears seem red she may have an ear infection.

Lyndsey - posted on 11/16/2011

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My son was like that and we figured out he wanted to suck on something so a pacifier it was!!!!!

Kathleen - posted on 11/16/2011

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I can only tell you what worked for us. In order for any of us to get any sleep when my son was about that old was to swaddle him. We also finally got a baby sling. He would not sleep at all unless swaddle and we had to "prop" him up as well because of his reflux. We did have a pillow but we also used the boppy.

Adrienne - posted on 11/16/2011

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My daughter did the same thing when she was a newborn. It lasted till she was at least 2 months old. She did have reflux so check that with your doctor but lots of love is all I could really do. Be sure to take lots of naps when she does so you don't get cranky :)

Ivory - posted on 11/16/2011

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I just had a baby, she is 10 weeks. She is doing the same thing. I stopped nursing thinking it was something I was eating...didn't work. I tried gripe water, colic calm, chamollie tea, none of those have worked. I am trying soy formula instead of similac sensitive to see if she is lactose intolerant. Other than that she screams & we can hear her tummy & see that its distended. The doc put her on Zantac and Prevacid and that has not helped either. I hope the soy helps...its been pretty crazy.

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