My 3 year old holds poo's in for 6 days.

Cathryn - posted on 02/17/2009 ( 34 moms have responded )

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My 3 year old son holds his poo's in for up to 6 days as he doesn't want to sit on the toilet and push. We have tried praise/ rewards and now on peadiatric movicol to try and make it harder for him to hold it in, any other suggestions?

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Michele - posted on 02/18/2009

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My three year old does the exact same thing.   By the time she is ready to let go of the poop it is a giant rock.  I have to give her a gentle laxative at least once a week..  I am also a preschool teacher of 16 years and have learned that when children hold their poop it is just part of their developmental stage.  Still stinks, though!!!!!  It has something to do with them being in control?!  I dunno.

Jessie - posted on 02/18/2009

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I have had an incredibly difficult time with my now 4 1/2 year old son. I have tried more things than I can count and just last week he went on the potty for the first time. There were lots of things that helped, new laxative (miralax and mineral oil), new Doctor who talked to him about it but the real reason it happened is he was ready, he was ready to face what had been an incredible fear for him. We regressed some but he is back on the potty. I really don't get it at all but for him at least and my ped suggested he is not alone, that he had/has such a huge fear that he just wouldn't let himself. Good luck, I know how hard it is. Just try to help him tell you why he is afraid so maybe he can work through it.

Michele - posted on 02/18/2009

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My three year old does the exact same thing.   By the time she is ready to let go of the poop it is a giant rock.  I have to give her a gentle laxative at least once a week..  I am also a preschool teacher of 16 years and have learned that when children hold their poop it is just part of their developmental stage.  Still stinks, though!!!!!  It has something to do with them being in control?!  I dunno.

Cathryn - posted on 02/18/2009

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tHANKS ALL IT IS SO GOOD TO KNOW WE ARE NOT THE ONLY ONES GOING THROUGH IT, HE HAS BOUGHT ME TO TEARS TODAY WITH FRUSTRATION AS DON'T WANT TO GET CROSS WITH HIM BUT HE WON'T LISTEN TO REASON EITHER. hE DID FINALLY GO WHEN HE COULD HOLD IT IN ANY LONGER BUT i AM SURE I WILL BE IN THIS SAME SITUATION IN 6 DAYS TIME. X

Michele - posted on 02/18/2009

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My three year old does the exact same thing.   By the time she is ready to let go of the poop it is a giant rock.  I have to give her a gentle laxative at least once a week..  I am also a preschool teacher of 16 years and have learned that when children hold their poop it is just part of their developmental stage.  Still stinks, though!!!!!  It has something to do with them being in control?!  I dunno.

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Mbbah - posted on 04/28/2014

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I was worried about my son who has not gone to stool for five days now. He started by going to stool after two days instead of three days as usual. i am sure its because i potty training him and tried to make him sit on the toilet. he would poo in pampers but not on potty. he is fine and playing enough. he had enough orrange but yet nothing.

Cindy - posted on 02/18/2009

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Introduce more fiber in his diet.  Let him wear a disposible underwear, don't make a big deal about it.  Fill him with juice, fruit, veggies.  Avod meat, and rice.  He is only 3.  I promise you, he will go on the potty.  Your biggest concern should be,  the great time betweeen bowel movements.

Kelly - posted on 02/18/2009

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To some young children going poop on the potty is harder to catch onto, but eventually it happens, its more difficult then just peeing. For certain kid's they can actually have a fear/phoebia of the specific act of letting a bowel movement pass, keep encouraging the use of the potty but don't make it stressful and make sure he has the right diet that constipation isnt an issue because kids often relate discomfort with fear of something! Kid's learn best with routine so make it a daily activity, make it as enjoyable as possible!, When it's time he will go, good luck!

Michele - posted on 02/18/2009

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My three year old does the exact same thing.   By the time she is ready to let go of the poop it is a giant rock.  I have to give her a gentle laxative at least once a week..  I am also a preschool teacher of 16 years and have learned that when children hold their poop it is just part of their developmental stage.  Still stinks, though!!!!!  It has something to do with them being in control?!  I dunno.

Jessica - posted on 02/18/2009

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That use to happen to my daughter as well and I use to give her Miralax. You are right it does work wonders. Now she goes noramally without being scared to the bathroom.

Laurie - posted on 02/18/2009

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We too have used Miralax even before you could get it over the counter. We used to just mix it in with milk or juice. You do have to use it for a few days for it take effect but is completely safe for little ones. My daughter also has this same problem and still does at almost 6 years old. We thought once she saw how easy it was to go if you went daily she would come around but so far its a work in progress! Good luck to you!

Kristine - posted on 02/18/2009

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my soon to be 3 year old does the same thing. when he turned 2, the pediatrician recommended mirilax and it has worked wonders!! it's a clear powder that you can put in any beverage...i give him 1/2 cap full every other day!

Jennifer - posted on 02/18/2009

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My three year old had the same problem.  It was so bad that when he would finally poop, he would bleed.  After seeing the doctor about it, she recommended using some Miralax, a gentle laxative.  You can get it over the counter at CVS, Walgreens or Walmart.  We used 2 TBS. a day in his juice and are now down to 1 TBS.  It worked well... he didnt have stomach cramps from it and his poop was soft but not runny (not to get to graphic).  Good luck... I know how stressful it can be!

Cathryn - posted on 02/17/2009

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Quoting Susan:



This condition can develop into a condition called encopresis and can cause the child to become chronically consitipated. Being under a doctor's care is good because this condition is both enotional and physical.






Jamlax is a safe stool softener to use on a daily basis so it will make it much easier for the child to go.






 I have him on peadiatric movicol which I put in his juice, and he eats lots of fruit every day it is just frustrating as I am a nurse and know what constipation can do.



 





 

Cathryn - posted on 02/17/2009

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Thank you for all the advice, I will definately try some of the suggestions. x

Cathryn - posted on 02/17/2009

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Yes he has been toilet trained for a year but has only just stopped having a nappy on for poo's as he starts school in september so we wanted to get himm fully trained by the summer.

Lynda - posted on 02/17/2009

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An afterthought: There's a book called 'Beating the naughty poos" or some such.. it helped him quite a bit to read that..

Lynda - posted on 02/17/2009

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My 10 year old has always had this problem. He's ADHD and just won't take a break from whatever he's into at the moment to respond to his bowel's signals.. we tried everything, including Movical Half.. (which I hated to do!)... after a trip to hospital when he tried to pass a stool so big he couldn't shift it and got seriously distressed.. I made up a 'poo chart'.. he got 1 dollar for every poo he did.. and got to put a sticker on the chart.. my boy's as material as they come and this corrected his holding habit pretty quick! After a couple of months his interest in the chart faded but by then his bowel had adjusted back to a normal size and sensitivity and he just carried on going.. I still have to shell out a dollar now and then when he remembers but I'm getting across the "I think you've grown out of this now big boy!" all the best with it.. but whatever you do don't ignore it - impaction can do serious damage!!

Debbie - posted on 02/17/2009

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Hi My son was the same...he didnt have a problem having a motion..he just didnt want to. He used to be that bad that he would vomit, so I told him that it's the poo coming back up. We used to have to sit and cuddle him on the toilet ( gently hold him down) and he would go. ( mind you this was very smelly as this thing had boiled up in there for a week at times) Then we graduated to holding hands then sitting in doorway then at the end of the hall.



He is now 8 going 9 and we still have issues. Sometimes he is great and will go daily then other times he just reverts back to holding on. I dont know what to tell you I tried the suppositries and I couldnt do it. I just make sure he has plenty of water and fibre in his diet. I figure this is just who he is...he never likes anyones toilet but his own, when he was small he used to say that other ppls toilet stink and would only wee in them, was very embarssassing at friends houses.





Anyway hope you find a solution that works for you!!!!

Jane - posted on 02/17/2009

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My daughter had a hard time with bowel movements .... It got so bad that we had to use enemas for her ( not a pretty site....very stressful) It wasn't until a doctor told us to use mineral oil for her ( a spoonful or two a day kept things regular and holding it was no longer an option) This is a very natural way to help your child and you can not over dose her/him.... once we started the mineral oil things progressed quickly and within a 5 day period her bowels began to move much more quickly. Also a Hot bath will help "promote" bowels to empty on their own....sounds crazy but it really does work nicely.

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This condition can develop into a condition called encopresis and can cause the child to become chronically consitipated. Being under a doctor's care is good because this condition is both enotional and physical.



Jamlax is a safe stool softener to use on a daily basis so it will make it much easier for the child to go.



 

Christina - posted on 02/17/2009

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Quoting Amber:



My daughter was the same way. She held it in for nearly a week. Would scream when she had to go but refused to go. We tried putting her back in diapers and it still didn't work. Finally the doctor suggested a minor laxative which would make her go whether she wanted to or not.  We also started rewarding with a few m & m's every time she went in the potty and made a big deal of it. After a few weeks she was back on the ball and hasn't had a problem since. I also told her the potty was hungry and needed her poop.





thats friggin hysterical!!   the poty needs her poo....LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!

Brandy - posted on 02/17/2009

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try a postive reinforcement i am now trying a marble in a jar each time he goes on the potty if he goes on hiimself we take a marble out and when the jar is full we will get him a favorit toy

Lynn - posted on 02/17/2009

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My son went through the same thing.What he was eating was making it worse. The doctor put him on miralax it helps soften the poop so it will come out better.At 2 he had a colonoscopy.See if that helps.

Lynn - posted on 02/17/2009

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Quoting Cathryn:

My 3 year old holds poo's in for 6 days.

My 3 year old son holds his poo's in for up to 6 days as he doesn't want to sit on the toilet and push. We have tried praise/ rewards and now on peadiatric movicol to try and make it harder for him to hold it in, any other suggestions?


 

Mandy - posted on 02/17/2009

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My 3 yr old used to do the same thing. The pediatrician. told us to use a 1/2 cap full of Miralax and it has worked wonders!! She now knows when she has to go poop and runs to the bathroom. She used to hide behind furniture or run in a corner and hold it in. Miralax has been my miracle!! Just know that once you start there will be days that they can't hold it in and may have accidents. As long as you keep putting the Miralax in 8oz of juice or some flavored drink you won't experience the problem anymore.

Valerie - posted on 02/17/2009

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My 8 year old son has had problems since potty training (at age 3).  His gastro doc recommended Miralax.  It is over the counter, I actually get it at Walmart and there are usually coupons in my Sunday paper!  Its a mild laxative that comes in a very fine powder.  He doesn't even know when he's taking it.  I mix it in what ever he is drinking, even water!!  My son is a very picky eater and has a very sensitive sense of smell.  If he even thought there was something in his drink he wouldn't touch it.  He has no idea!!  It has really helped.  I also called the school nurse and made arrangements that if he has to go in school he could go and use her bathroom.  Up until then he would only poop at home or at Grandma's.  When he finally confessed as to why, it was because the boy's bathroom at school is "yucky".  The school nurse agreed!!  Good luck to you!

Karen - posted on 02/17/2009

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My son was the same when he was younger.  We used to sit him on the toilet and read to him!  It seemed to relax him.  We also gave him syrup of fig and that seemed to hlep.  It is quite stressful for the parents as you know they must be in pain but he got over it eventually.



 

Amber - posted on 02/17/2009

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My daughter was the same way. She held it in for nearly a week. Would scream when she had to go but refused to go. We tried putting her back in diapers and it still didn't work. Finally the doctor suggested a minor laxative which would make her go whether she wanted to or not.  We also started rewarding with a few m & m's every time she went in the potty and made a big deal of it. After a few weeks she was back on the ball and hasn't had a problem since. I also told her the potty was hungry and needed her poop.

Lisa - posted on 02/17/2009

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My daughter still has problems at age 6. It really is about no pressuring the child and making sure they feel comfortable in their surrounding to go.

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I had the same problem.  I was tired of him insisting on a pull up and one day wouldn't give him one and he held it for five days.  Not a good idea.  His Dr. told me to hand over the pull up and he would decide to go poo on the toilet on his own.  So that is what I did.  And he deciced to go in his pull up forever!  Okay he's only three and a half.  But it seemed like forever.  I finally handed over the pull up one day when he asked and told him he had to change it himself if he went in it;  Or he could go on the potty and I would help him.  I realized to him going on the potty was not only scary but an inconvieniece.  So I made going in the pull up more inconvenient for him.  I also told him he could go to a special place to eat if he went on the potty.  He fought hard for two hours (he really had to go this time), but he did go on the potty.  It worked finally.  Good luck.

Leah - posted on 02/17/2009

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Hello, it must be quite stressful knowing that you know whats best for your child. i don't know if this will help but a couple of friends of mine, potty trained there children at 3 years old and they would not go a poo on the toilet but they would in a nappy, did you potty train your child a 3 years old cause alot of children have the same problam but it might be worth trying to see if you put a nappy on when you know if he wants to go or looks bloated it might help for now. hope it helps, leah

Nicola - posted on 02/17/2009

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my son was the same took alot of coaxing just to get him to sit on the toilet at first! i made a silly game out of it with him - this is gonna sound weird and i apologise now (things we do for our kids) i let him see me havign a poo obviously not seeing everything but so he could see it didnt hurt mummy so it wouldnt hurt him laughed at silly noises and generally tried to put him at ease x x good luck !

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