My 3 year old is turning into a brat.... AHHHHH

Erinn - posted on 05/20/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My son Noah, 3, used to be the perfect child and NOW its like he's a devil child... whenever he doesn't get what he wants he screams and cries and throws a tantrum like i've never seen... it creates a whole lotta stress!! I try to talk to him about it, but once he's gone he's GONE and then ANYTHING my hubby and I say to him is a big huge NO.... I know i'm not the only one who's had to deal with this, but how have you dealt with this problem? I want my sweet boy back!

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Tera - posted on 10/24/2012

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My son is 2 he will be 3 next month. He has been acting crazy since he turned 1. If he doesnt like the certain sippy cup i want to give him he runs out of the room screaming and crying. If he doesnt get his way period he screams to the top of his lungs, spits, and it drives me crazy. I dont know what to do about it. Im a single mom and he is my first child. I work all day and when i pick him up as soon as he gets in the car he starts up. He wont eat dinner most of the time, he only wants to drink milk. Help! How do i discipline him without losing my temper and it being affective?

Selina - posted on 05/20/2009

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When my boys (ages 3 and 4) act out and I can't get them under control, I put them in time-out. It works great. It's better to not interact with them or give them any type of attention at all when they act like that. Just put him in time-out and completely ignore him until he is acting appropriately. Then tell why he was put in time-out, have him say he is sorry, and give him a big hug with lots of kisses.

Diane - posted on 05/27/2013

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Hello,
I Have a soon to be 4yr old grandson.. He is very naughty most of the time.. If he does not get his way or we try to reprimand him he just screams an tries to hit. Its gotten to be very hard, seeing as my husband an I are both in our 50s. we have him every other weekend.. I know theres a good boy inside there because he will say stuff like " Grammy my heart is happy" but 5 minutes later hes screaming an stomping hes feet. my daughter is a great mother but like a lot of 1st time moms she gives in when he wants something, thinking if I give it to him maybe he will stop crying. PLEASE HELP :) Besides a naughty 4 yr old I have a 20 yr ols son with Autism... Any advise would be awesome... Thanks from a concerned grandmother... I also told my daughter to join here..

Donna - posted on 05/20/2009

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Your sweet boy is asserting himself in a very negative way.How recently did he become a big brother? That is a factor. He is probably having some regression in the form of rebellion. You have to ignore the behavior till he realizes that this is not going to have you paying attention to him.The same goes with your husband. The more united you are the better and then he the will not play either one of you off of the other. The only time I would not ignore him is out in public and the best thing to do if this behavior starts is head for home. I had this with my second child and she had the "2's" till she was 4. The other way to help yourself is working on "his" time late in the day to giving him a ton of attention. A small baby will always get what they need. A toddler demands it! Especially if he had gone from being an only to having to have to share his time.
The other thing that may help. Depending on your working or not...and personal finances is preschool part of the day. Not childcare but activity orientated class with developed curriculum that has progression of tasks throughout the year. This will give him a sense that he is a big boy and behavior has to be good or the school will not tolerate him. Emphasize that he is a big boy and this is something special that he gets to do. You have to praise all the good things he does and more praise should slowly work its way to better behavior. You will learn when to pick your battles. And sometimes you will be criticized that you are not disciplining the child enough. Learning when to pick your battles!!!!!!! She got through all of this but for me it was not easy. I took a class so I could have me time and the tax deduction for childcare. If your income is way up there you would be excluded from the child care deduction but can take the Lifetime Learning credit...possibly. If you are at home you have to keep your sanity to help him keep his. Good Luck!

Brnshuga - posted on 05/20/2009

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Well i have a 13 yr old, 11 yr old, 10 yr old and a 9 yr old. And I have done time out and also spanking. I know that now a days everyone is against the spanking. But, I got spanked when I was a lil girl and I had to go to my mom and thank her for the spankings, cause it helped me to be who I am today. You have to incorporate all the above to be able to get your child attention. Because sooner or later they grow out of that one type of discipline and then what. You have to do what gets the child attention. Like my oldest daughter, I had to not spank her much... all I had to do was look at her a certain way or say something to her in a stern voice, and she would do what was expected of her. Now my son, it took time outs and spankings.. now that he is 11 I ground him and talk seriously to him about the consequences that he faces... so like I was saying, they grow out of certain disciplines, you have to find the one that suits them and you!

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Kelly - posted on 05/20/2009

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My son is almost 8 now but I learned that kids want to know that they matter and that you are proud of them and love them unconditionally. I would sit next to my boy when I'd tuck him in at night and tell him that he is such a sweet boy and that he made me happy. kids don't really understand " I love you" , but they understand " you make me happy and I love to be with you" even if he wasn't the sweetest that day he will try harder when he knows you think that way of him. Make sure to point out when he is being a good boy too! It also works with spouses : )

Brandi - posted on 05/20/2009

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I have 3 girls 15 7 and 6. With my 1st child when she didnt get her way she would bang her head on the floor. Freaked me out cause i was young told the dr. and he said let her continue. He had told me when a child throws a fit tantrum whatever they are asking for attention and they need to learn to ask for it and a better way. when they throw an all out fit you walk away and ignore it. It hurts but they will learn in time it is not acceptable. its not going to happen over night. good luck!!!!

Angelina - posted on 05/20/2009

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OMG! My oldest is 3 too and just like yours, he was the most perfect child until he turned 3. Time out works for us but u have to be consistant. I pay no attention to the tanturm. I noticed at first the more I did the worse he got. Now, believe it or not when he's done acting like a monster, he's comes to me and says he's done crying and he's sorry! He still attemps to try and get his way but all I have to do is warn him and he stops.

This is probably the best tip my mother gave me...NO false promises. Warn him one time...if you have to tell him again ...then it's time out time.

Kimberly - posted on 05/20/2009

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I feel you , I truley do , My son is unbareable at times as well . He is also 3 (will be 4 in July) But he is really good for my husband , SO what I try to do with him is keep him busy , include him in things that you think he may not be able to do , I think I relaized that he was just bored , I mean its still a work in progess but it has gotten better , I hope that helps Good LUCK :)

Selina - posted on 05/20/2009

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When my boys (ages 3 and 4) act out and I can't get them under control, I put them in time-out. It works great. It's better to not interact with them or give them any type of attention at all when they act like that. Just put him in time-out and completely ignore him until he is acting appropriately. Then tell why he was put in time-out, have him say he is sorry, and give him a big hug with lots of kisses.

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