My 3 year old still uses a binki.

Amanda - posted on 05/14/2009 ( 63 moms have responded )

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She is will throw fits for hours if we don't give it to her for bed and in the car. Any idea's of how to break the habbit???

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Amanda - posted on 05/20/2009

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So we counted down the day's until the "binki fairy" would come. She was very excited over her new gift and all day didn't think about the binki. The first night, she started to cry but I gave her the gift that was left in exchange for the binki. The second night, she asked for it. I told her they were gone and that was that. Tonight she didn't even ask for it. WOOT WOOT!!! Again thank you to everyone for helping me on this. I'm happy to say she is binki free and not upset about it at all.

Anna - posted on 05/19/2009

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hey my oldest was 4 1/2 before i could get rid of that thing..it was easter and we told her she had to give her binki to easter bunny before he would leave her candy..it worked..but she still remembers it now at 16 and still talks about it...

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Karen - posted on 05/17/2011

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Take it away and don't look back. She's a big girl and honestly she had it way too long. Be truthful, it was really for you than him to cope with keeping your sanity. It's not helping her in any way and it is very bad for the develpment of her teeth and the upper palet of her mouth. You can do this.... I took my son's away at 11 months.

Salena - posted on 05/22/2009

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The funniest thing I've heard was A friend of mine who cut a tiny peice off of her son's binkii every other day till it was gone. She said it worked. I can imagine how funny it must have been to see him trying to suck on it after a few days.

Salena - posted on 05/22/2009

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It's her security. Don't take it away. You can restrict it to bedtime and naptime use. eventually she will grow out of it. My 2 year old sucks her thumb I wish we could take that away. lol. I wouldn't worry too much about it. My son had his till he went to preschool. I told him that big kids don't have passies (Binkiis) so he stopped.

Lindsey - posted on 05/22/2009

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hi amanda a big red ribbon and tie it to the christmas tree for santa he brought a special present for the binky exchange! or with my son the peter pan and tinkerbell came and took his for the lost boys they left his very own peter pan outfit in exchange for his that tink makes a mess though thier was glitter all over the floor !! good luck x

Crystal - posted on 05/21/2009

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I read some of the others replys and tried cutting the tip of the nipple off the binkie.(my daughter is 2 will be 3 in Oct) I done this Tuesday morning after she woke up and when she asked for it at nap time I handed it to her and after she stuck it in her mouth she spit it out and said it was broke. she was fine she didnt really get to take her nap bc we had to leave. Well she had asked for it in the car and I reminded her that it broke. And she didnt ask for it again. I was exspecting a HUGE fight come bedtime but she NEVER asked for it. I was shocked! She really has only asked for it maybe twice since Tuesday and I just kept reminding her that it broke. It worked! Way better than I was expecting. Thanks for the help

Elisa - posted on 05/20/2009

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My 2.5 yo still uses his binki at night and sometimes in the car. Last night I said, "let's say goodbye to binki." His reply, no...I'm not ready. My ped said not to worry about it...it is not hurting him and there are so many other more important issues with being a parent. Your dentist might disagree but eventually the binki will be forgotten.

Christine - posted on 05/19/2009

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Our daughter was about 3 when we decided it was time for the binky to go. She was only using it at home, to go to sleep at night. She did not use it during the day, even when she went down for her nap. So one night after dinner and a bath, we collected all the binkys in the house and put them in a gift bag and put them out on the front step. I explained to Sophie the Binky Fairy would come and take the binkys for all the "babies" that needed them and to thank her for her kindness would leave a special "gift" in return. So the next morning after she got dressed I took her to see what the binky fairy had left for her, it was a Cinderella wand. She loved it. She went to bed with the wand for the next couple of nights but quickly forgot about the binkys and the wand. YAHOO!

Rosemarie - posted on 05/19/2009

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Quoting Alyssa:

Why try to break her? Just give it to her. Orthodontia is cheaper then therapy.



Why because it is ridiculous to see a child who is 3 and older with a binki in their mouth.....they have to give it up...sooner the better!!!!!!!  they get over it...the longer you wait, the worse it will be....i am a therapist so i think it can be done in a healthy way.....

Rosemarie - posted on 05/19/2009

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Hi, My daughter was obessed with the binki...i think i bought about 10 of them...well anyway at the age of 3...she was down to 2, and I told her that i wasnt going to buy anymore....so she lost one and then only had one left....so i told her again "when you lose that one thats it no more...and she said all you have to do is go buy another one...LOL but i said noway...not anymore you are getting to big now....so hold onto that one cause thats it...and a few months later she lost it...and she cried for a little bit but she got over it...i told her big girls dont need that...so they might get upset at first but dont worry, they do get over it....just keep them occupied with other things.....Good Luck.....

Carol - posted on 05/19/2009

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I take care of kids and I have this one CUTIE Shelby that will be four at the end of December she just recently quit taking hers. We have a picture on our fridge of her with two in her mouth.

The other kids weren't mean but tried to get her not to take it. One day she just quit.

I was utterly surprised. The more that you make a big deal over it the worse it usually ends up.

Carla - posted on 05/19/2009

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hi amanda. my daughter is now 10 years old and all i can say is if she wants her binky, who cares. how many 10 year olds do you see walking around with a binky in her mouth? if she wants it let her have it, trust me there are so many more things that are more important than worrying if your child is going to be some sort of freak of nature because she still wants a binky. just keep being the loving, and caring mom that you are. she'll give it up when shes ready! and don't worry about what other people think, shes your baby!!

Carissa - posted on 05/18/2009

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I used to do daycare and I had a mom whose 3 year old was still using the binki and everyday I would take it as soon as he came in the door. I told him that everyone needed to see that great smile of his and listen to all the awesome things he has to say so we can't do that when the binki was in the way. I told his mom and eventually she stayed strong and did the same thing. The key is...don't give in!!! Be strong, they'll forget.

Kathrine - posted on 05/18/2009

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that's funny, my son always wants to have a spare in his hand too, I tohught he was the only one!

Heather - posted on 05/18/2009

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Binki Farie. She come in the night and take all the binkis and leaves special gifts in return. Saw it on Super nanny and it worked. Prepare her first thought. Tell her that she is a big girl. She is using it as a sucurity so you may want to find something else like a blanket, stuffed toy, etc. to take over that sucurity. You can also cut the rubber part off. That works well also. Good luck :)

Staci - posted on 05/18/2009

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My almost 3 yr old still asks for one once in awhile but i gradually took it away then when he was not so needy for we had a "little ceremony" you could call it and gave it to the new babies that needed them more and gave him something in place of it

Janette - posted on 05/18/2009

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My son was just over2 when his actually started to break, and he noticed it first. We took it away, told him it was broken, and went bye bye and he's been OK ever since. Your daughter should be old enough to understand that things break and get throw away, so hopefully that will work and she will accept it. Goodluck!!

Holley - posted on 05/18/2009

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I say let her have it. She'll give it up on her own one of these days. Until then, she will feel happy and safe with it...and you'll have less of a headache. So what if she needs braces when she is older. She may have needed them with or without the binki.

Amanda - posted on 05/17/2009

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Thank you to everyone for helping me out. I'm actually taking bits and pieces from what people have said and doing what I think will work best for my daughter. I'm sure she will do fine. Thanks again!!!

Melanie - posted on 05/17/2009

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When I was potty training my son at 2-2 1/2 he still had a binkie. When he went did not go poop in the potty we would cut up a binkie. Well after 4-5 binkies later he was potty trained and binkie free. He did cry for it but as long as you can deal with that for a short time the end results will be better. I have a 18th month old that still uses a binkie and am going to start preparing him now! Hope this helps a little and best of luck to you.

Bobbie Jo - posted on 05/17/2009

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I HAVE NO IDEA!!! My 5 year old is still on the binki. she has no problem with her teeth yet, no cavities, and she does not take it to school with her. It is more towards

night time, before bed. I guess it is a sense of security as well, she also has a woobie.

If were out for a long period of time ,she will need it later on in the day too.

Donna - posted on 05/17/2009

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Quoting Erinn:

My son is 3 years old also and we're really no where near being able to take his paci away.... he's had the same kind of paci since the day he was born and it seriously seems like its part of his body. He's the same way as your daughter, if he loses it for even a second, he'll throw a HUGE tantrum until he gets it back! I guess in my opinion, I don't see anything wrong with it (for now anyways!) We'll have to get rid of it eventually, but right now I won't let him bring it in public with us, only at home. I'm really not looking forward to the day when it has to take a hike! I really should be watching your post and reading the responses you get, we obviously could use some help too... good luck!!


If he is fine with not using it in public, just plan to go visiting your friends all day for a few days and if he does well with that, I guys he is more ready than you were aware of. And it will be time for you to say By By Binky.



Hope this helps.

Michala - posted on 05/17/2009

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my daughter had a dummy untill she was 5 and we talked about giving ti up but she wasn't sure so i surgested giving it to father christmas for another child who needed it more my daughter was quite happy to help another child, she didn't really miss it & got use to not having it.

M - posted on 05/17/2009

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My daughter was 3 yrs old when I told her we had to give her binki or bobo to the babies that couldn't afford one. She asked why and I told her some mom's and dad's didn't have money to buy a binki and so the first night was rough,2nd nite was better, but by day 3 she forgot about.

Debra - posted on 05/17/2009

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I don't really think its a problem,Idoubt she will walk down the isle with heer binky in her mouth, she'll stop using it when she doesn't need it anymore.

Yolonda - posted on 05/17/2009

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You have gotten some really good advice from some wonderful mom's...I hope you use it. My son is 2 1/2 (the youngest of 5 and the last) and has been off of the Binky since Sunday night (1 week). I was dreading it but it was not as bad as I thought it would be. It really was more to soothe me than him. I am a student so I told my husband that I would not take it away until summer break which started a little over a week ago. The first night was the hardest he cried for a while but I let him cry himself to sleep and made sure he had his favorite blanket and animals. He still asks for it when he's tired and I tell him "your a big boy now, you don't need that." Then I give him his blanket and animals and he is off to sleep. Replacements work! Telling your child what is going on works! Especially at 2 or 3. The tantrums are only tests of how far can I push mommy! Kids are more resilient than we are!!!! Your child will not need therapy over the binky being taken away but may need therapy if you let her keep it and she is made fun of for being a baby or having bad teeth etc... Think about what is best for her in the long run and hunker down and do it. You will thank yourself later and so will she.

Danielle - posted on 05/17/2009

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My son will be three in July and we just threw all the binkies away last week. He chewed wholes in one of them and I told them they were no good. Then I pulled a train (his favorite) out of his closet and told him that it was his special blanket. We know have to remember to keep the blanket with us at all times. The crying for the binkies has almost stopped. I just keep reminding him that the other ones were yucky and now he has his special blanket.

Brandy - posted on 05/17/2009

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my daughter still has hers only at bed time. the dr. told me it was a security thing. but dont let it go on for a long time.

Amanda - posted on 05/16/2009

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Quoting Erinn:

My son is 3 years old also and we're really no where near being able to take his paci away.... he's had the same kind of paci since the day he was born and it seriously seems like its part of his body. He's the same way as your daughter, if he loses it for even a second, he'll throw a HUGE tantrum until he gets it back! I guess in my opinion, I don't see anything wrong with it (for now anyways!) We'll have to get rid of it eventually, but right now I won't let him bring it in public with us, only at home. I'm really not looking forward to the day when it has to take a hike! I really should be watching your post and reading the responses you get, we obviously could use some help too... good luck!!



Actually there is something wrong with pacifire use for this long. It can cause serious speach delays, increase in ear infections, dental problems. it can lead to social developmental issues as well as thumb sucking.



Pediatricians recomend tossing the passie by the age of 6 months. the younger you toss it the easier it is to break the habit.

Amanda - posted on 05/16/2009

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Quoting Erinn:

My son is 3 years old also and we're really no where near being able to take his paci away.... he's had the same kind of paci since the day he was born and it seriously seems like its part of his body. He's the same way as your daughter, if he loses it for even a second, he'll throw a HUGE tantrum until he gets it back! I guess in my opinion, I don't see anything wrong with it (for now anyways!) We'll have to get rid of it eventually, but right now I won't let him bring it in public with us, only at home. I'm really not looking forward to the day when it has to take a hike! I really should be watching your post and reading the responses you get, we obviously could use some help too... good luck!!



Actually there is something wrong with pacifire use for this long. It can cause serious speach delays, increase in ear infections, dental problems. it can lead to social developmental issues as well as thumb sucking.



Pediatricians recomend tossing the passie by the age of 6 months. the younger you toss it the easier it is to break the habit.

Amanda - posted on 05/16/2009

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Just toss it and she will have to get over it. A soother is like a bottle do you really want her to have one at 3.

you could involve her in the process by letting her exchange them for a big girl toy.

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another me3thod I just thought of is puncture a hole in the tip of all her paci's...they will deflate when she tries to suck them, and the taste will also become bitter...



I've also heard for thumb suckers that dipping the finger in nail polish remover is a great trick...tastes really bad! U could try that with the binkie?!

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Throw them all out and say "they are all gone...we lost them" and let her look in all the usual spot of where they might be! 3 year old do have some reasoning... haha

Chelsey - posted on 05/16/2009

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I had the same problem with my son Mason. He always had to have one in his mouth and carry a spare in his hand even. He was almost 3 and half when we finally got the nuk "binki" away. We ended up just taking it away cold turkey because nothing else worked. It was a hard first two days and I almost gave in and gave it back because he would cry for it, but by day three it wasn't an issue anymore and we've been nuk free ever since! Good Luck!

Kim - posted on 05/16/2009

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I know you probably got enough reply's but I thought I would tell you how my daughter got rid of her's. She was able to have it in bed only and when she woke up she had to put it on her bed it couldn't come out to breakfast. :) Then when my niece was born my daughter was 3 1/2 and we said you know Emma really needs a binky do you think you can give her yours. She'll really like it. We made a special trip over there she handed it to my niece she had this scared look on her face but she still did it. We just praised her for helping Emma and that was the end of it. The first night was rough not that she got up or even cried I could just tell she didn't sleep good. I remember her asking about it that first night but I just reminded her that Emma had it now and she'll take good care of it. Good luck!!!

Helen - posted on 05/16/2009

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i like the idea of cutting them and saying it broke. dummies past the age of 2 can seriously effect speech and language development and after a few weeks they won't even miss it.

Carol - posted on 05/16/2009

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Who's in charge? Treat her like a little girl, not a baby. Talk to here about her pretty teeth and how her binki will make them crooked. I told my boys binki's were for bed time only and each morning we made a point to put in a special spot in the bed, ready for the night, She will eventially give it up.

Rose - posted on 05/15/2009

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With my daughter, we had a time at it, took it away gave it back over and over. My children are 16 months apart and she didn't get that Bubby was a baby and she was a big girl. I finally ended up taking all the "Bye Byes" that I found and threw all but one away. I cut the end off the remaining one, told her it was broke, but I continued giving it to her at bed time and on car rides. She eventually after about three days stopped wanting it and I kept asking her if she wanted it until she got mad at me and said its broke, put it in the trash. So I had her throw it away, so she knew it was gone. She was a little over 2. With my son I just took it away, let him cry it out and didn't give it back. He gave it up a lot easier then she did. He was about 20 months. The only advise I have is once you get it DO NOT give it back, each time it is harder on you and the child. I learned that the hard was. I do agree with the its a control thing, just remember who is the Mom and stick to whatever you decide. If you let her have control now you will have problem in the future. The Binky battle will bleed over into other stuff like not picking up, not listening, or displaying undesirable behavior when she doesn't get her way. (Speaking from experience here, I am having to take control back and it is not fun for anyone involved.)

Chanell - posted on 05/15/2009

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Tell her that she is a big girl then have her throw it away. Tell that they are for babies and if she wants to use it then tell her that you will put pampers on her again and that she cant do "Big Girl" activities.

Erinn - posted on 05/15/2009

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My son is 3 years old also and we're really no where near being able to take his paci away.... he's had the same kind of paci since the day he was born and it seriously seems like its part of his body. He's the same way as your daughter, if he loses it for even a second, he'll throw a HUGE tantrum until he gets it back! I guess in my opinion, I don't see anything wrong with it (for now anyways!) We'll have to get rid of it eventually, but right now I won't let him bring it in public with us, only at home. I'm really not looking forward to the day when it has to take a hike! I really should be watching your post and reading the responses you get, we obviously could use some help too... good luck!!

Melissa - posted on 05/14/2009

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She is 3. Take it away and throw it out, she will get over it. She will cry for a few nights, I'm sure she and you will both live.

Donna - posted on 05/14/2009

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With my daughter, we went camping when she was 17 months old and she threw her binki in the camp fire and never ask for it again. My son on the other hand was a little harder. We finally cut the tip off and let him throw it in the trash. It just depends on if your child is ready to give it up or not and finding a fun and unique way for your child to get rid of it.

Ginger - posted on 05/14/2009

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My sister-in-law had the same problem with her daughet when she was about this same age. Her Dr. told her to throw out all but one binki and start trimming the end of the last binki a little bit every day or two until eventually there is nothing for her to suck on. It worked like a charm. Actaully my neice threw it away herself when there wasn't anything left to cuk on!! Good Luck!!!!!!!

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Your Little girl will not need therapy from not having her Binky, however orthodontia runs about 3-5 thousand dollars these days. It is very tough to know you child wants something and you have control to give it to her. That's what Moms do, right? Using a pacifier will not only cause her teeth to come in crooked, but it will distort her facial/bone structure as well. Yes it all can be corrected with orthodontic appliances and braces, but it will make the time she has to deal with braces a lot longer. (I work for a dentist and an Orthodontist) Wearing some of the required appliances is very difficult for some children. Try as other Mothers have said to find something else she likes, or the fairy idea may work as well. I told my son (now 13) who LOVED watching the trash trucks come by that the trash man took it. Needless to say as many little boys want to grow up to be trash men.... Mine what to be a pilot...lol! Good luck with it, I'm sure you will make the best choice for your daughter!

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My son was 3 when we got rid of his. We told him that when Santa came, he would leave him presents, but as he was now a big boy Santa would take the dummy (binki) back to the North Pole with him. He actually stopped using it before Christmas that year as it broke and we had to put it in the bin, but I let him put it in the bin himself. He asked for it for a couple of nights, but luckily we had no major tears or tantrums.

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Quoting Amanda:

My 3 year old still uses a binki.

She is will throw fits for hours if we don't give it to her for bed and in the car. Any idea's of how to break the habbit???



mydaughter was 5 yrs old before i got her off hers,we told her a few before christmas that on christmas eve when we leave santa his cookies and milk then we leave her binki for him aswell!!!when she asked for it we told her that santa has got them for his reindeers now!!!she has not had one for 5 months now!!!

Jo - posted on 05/14/2009

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sorry misread the age. try the same thing at bed time with a special blanket, pillow,
jammies what ever will work. but i do suggest over come one thing at a time. being 3
you can reason better. if the temper tantrum goes on there is time out usually 1 min. per year. you may just have to stop and think what may work for her. maybe for every hour she doesn't use it polish a nail if the tantrum starts up you can alway use the polish remover.

Jo - posted on 05/14/2009

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does she only want it at bed or in the car? throwing a fit for over an hour at that age to
me is more temper and control than anything else. at least in my opinion, but she is still young, my daughter was 2 years old before i even tried taking it away just in the mornings and she could have it at naptime. in the car maybe take her to the store and let her pick our a special car only toy or book. Keep reminding her that when your in the car seat you get your special fun toy you picked out, but you can not have your binky, if you get the binky no toy. start in small steps she's only just over a year. good luck

Katy - posted on 05/14/2009

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My son was almost 3 till I finally got him to kick the habit. We had a "big boy day". Told him that if he wanted to be a big boy he had to throw them away (which he did). He also got to pick a treat at the store and got to choose where we went for the day. Kept informing him all day that only big boys get to choose activities, treats ect. He actually did surprisingly well until bedtime. He completely broke down. For the first time, I let him sleep with me with any toy/stuft animal he wanted. it took him about an hour to actually fall asleep. Next day he asked for it twice. I reminded him yet again that they were all gone because he was a big boy now. That night, he fell asleep with any issues. I think that it was harder for me. Seeing my child upset was hard. But I think the only way it works is if I keep my ground......and try to make it fun for your child.

Sarah - posted on 05/14/2009

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You just have to bite the biscuit and let her cry it out for a day or two. Maybe you can have her symbolically throw them in the garbage and then remind her when she asks later that they aren't there. She'll probably cry for a while the first nite, then less the second and even less the third. Probably she'll be over the binki in 3-4 days.

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