My 3 yr old son has limited vocabulary at this age - how do i interest him to talk more..hes more to e reserved side n refused to b friendly most times

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Ana - posted on 01/16/2009

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oh they also had us start a sentence and let him finish, which turned it into a game. We would start and say "I want ______" if i knew he was thirsty he would end with Juice! and of course I'd give him the juice. He realized that by speaking he could get what he wanted. Eventually I would say "I ______" he would have to complete the rest. Again, he just picked it up and started asking for EVERYTHING!!

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Mellie - posted on 01/26/2009

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Hi i know how it is my son was the same way,we played games sang and read to him he just didn't want to talk now he is six and wont stop talking lol every child is different he is advanced reading and math he is a bundle of energy and he was a slow talker and is got super friendly after he started pre-school so i say don't worry too much if your reall concerned talk to your doctor they can point you in the right direction :)

Lisha - posted on 01/26/2009

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sing a song that he likes and encourage him to finish the sentence and keep triying over and



over and eventually he will learn the whole song.



at bedtime or anytime reading is always good and ALWAYS ASK HIM what`s this?what`s that?



Make up stories with words that makes him laugh and silly faces too are very important.



give it a try and good luck!

Heather - posted on 01/17/2009

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Have you tried sign language? This will at least allow him to have communication to let you know what he wants. He should then be able to start putting words to signs. Sign language will not hinder him from talking if and when he is ready.

Jamie - posted on 01/17/2009

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My daughter was late talker, we got her in public school speech program at 3.  She's almost 6 now and is where she should be.  It was hard b/c she's tall and people expected more from her thinking she was older.  Listen to your instinct and try not to stress.  It's hard to know where to begin.  Good luck!

Gina - posted on 01/17/2009

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My sisters son did not really talk until he was about 31/2. He would talk with his hands mostly. The doctor did some tests and it ended up that he needed glasses. The eye doctor said he sees that a lot with late talkers, they can not see well or clear and it effects their speach....have his eyes checked.... cant hurt. My nephew did everything else normal so we never thought to check them on our own.

Ally - posted on 01/17/2009

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my daughter LOVES the "your baby can read" videos...it teaches them so much early language development and phonics. She is only ten months old and able to recognize some written words and respond by doing what the word says. it encourages the child to say the words out loud and then associates an action with that word. Im not sure what the long term benefits will be but it seems to be fun and educational!

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Read adult books, newspaper articles to him. Kids his age don't care yet what you are reading as long as you are reading to them. Read newspaper articles, The Chronicles of Narnia are good ones with lots of colorful vocabulary and nothing inappropriate. Also the V-Smile gaming system has lots of vocabulary building games that are great.

Priscilla - posted on 01/16/2009

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hi :) my 21 month doesnt stop talking lol,we just say the name of everything she has or touches,and she just copies, have with all 4, and we read to them each night, and the older 1s have their own reading time at bedtime too. but yeah ,just repeating things back, let them see ur mouth too,so they can try to copy :) hope helps a bit

Samantha - posted on 01/16/2009

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my 4 yr old daughter was like that i thought she some kind of a specil needs problem but got her checked out and she was just delayed in her speech so if ur worried u can speak 2 ur health visitor and see if u can see a speech therepist.Im having to take my youngest daughter to see a speech and language therepist coz she is not saying alot not as much as she should,so good look wf u take this option

Natasha - posted on 01/16/2009

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Hi, the best way for your child to talk more (though he is on his own path and will develop accordingly, all children are different), is to READ to him - read read read. And then ask questions - and have him re-tell the story. Hope that helps!

Ana - posted on 01/16/2009

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My son never used to speak but I knew he would understand because if I asked him where something was he would go to it or at least point. We did in the end get him some speech therapy and the first thing they told us to do was to say bye bye to everything. I know it sounds so strange but we'd say bye bye and name the object. He started to repeat and it kind of took off from there. It's also a matter of how much we allow our children to speak. We are so attentive and know exactly what they need that don't have to ask for it. So in a way they don't feel the need to communicate because we know our babies so well! lol..
We also were heavy on the praise when he would use his words. " I love the way you said APPLE" "I like when you use your words" it really helped to encourage a specific behavior.

Karima - posted on 01/16/2009

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Hello Mom I am a teacher of 3&4 yr olds and when I have students in my class with limited vocal abilities the first thing that I do is make sure that there aren't any hearing impairments, once it is determined that the hearing isn't a problem I am told by the mental health consultants that the best thing to do is not to push the child to talk. The best thing to do is to read constantly and continue to converse with him even if he doesn't respond, he will eventually talk as far as him not being friendly it is a possibility that may be his temperament

Tania - posted on 01/16/2009

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my young nephew was like this, hardly said a word and then in baby talk right up until he was 3 or 4.  His mum persisted withthe reading, the conversation, the favourite things - all that everyone has said above.  I went to see them last week and now there is not shutting him up.  Remember everyone develops at different rates, so as long as you have done your best - try not to stress :)  There will be LOTS more opportunities to stress in the future as a mum LOL

Tania - posted on 01/16/2009

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my young nephew was like this, hardly said a word and then in baby talk right up until he was 3 or 4.  His mum persisted withthe reading, the conversation, the favourite things - all that everyone has said above.  I went to see them last week and now there is not shutting him up.  Remember everyone develops at different rates, so as long as you have done your best - try not to stress :)  There will be LOTS more opportunities to stress in the future as a mum LOL

Angela - posted on 01/16/2009

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One of my sons is like this too, We took him to a speech pathologist who helped us (sort off) and through lots of direct play and hard work he now has started putting together multiple word sentences!! (YAY) Keep your chin up. If you are really concerned see a children's speech pathologist.

Thanya - posted on 01/16/2009

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Hello =)



I don't know much, but you could always ask your son's pediatrician. But a lot of the times I hear you can encourage them to talk more by asking him some light fun questions that give him the option of one worded answers to start with. Boy's tend to be a little more less talkative than girls from what i've seen. My daughter who is 2 is sort of like that with people. Kids are just shy and it takes time for them to be friendly with people they may not know or even with people they see often as well. In a way it's a bit of a good thing that they aren't too friendly right away. But I would say just keep encouraging him but "lightly". Some times if they feel like they "have" to do it they might close up even more. I hope this helps.



Happy New Year.

Mas - posted on 01/16/2009

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Thks for reply guys.. glad to learn frm the advices..



My husband does read a lot of books to him everyday n before bedtime, i would always have a short singing/counting/playing session wz him.. e thg bout him is, he does understand wat we say to him only dat he'll reply back in baby talk, which is nt supp to b e respond for dat age.. he passed his hearg test but..it just puzzle me n hubby on y he refused to talk wz abit more vocabs, he still speakg mostly in baby languages..its very sad n reali depressg although its not a disappointing thg for us.. its just dat others dat dont understand him will give him a weird look on his incapability to talk well at dat age of 3..



niways.. he was fine at the initial stage of his toddler years, said dad when his callg him, saying the word 'cat' n simple etc words. but stopped buildg his vocabs startg at e age 2yrs plus n we dont knw y he just stoppd talkg... its sad n we r tryg our best, we even enrolled him to a full day childcare centre in e hope of havg him to talk n express more when he starts mingling wz other kids..but hes still e same :(

Claire - posted on 01/16/2009

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dont stress they pick up on it! keep talking to him all the time even about small things he.ll start when he.s ready!!xx

Denise - posted on 01/16/2009

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Is therr something he like such as music or reading or anything that peaks his interest. you can start the activity he likes and ask him questions about what you are doing or the wh questions such as who ,what where whenpertaining to what you are doing with him. If you are reading him a book point to the pictures and label the this is a horseor house, or whatever same thing with other make him request the item instead of just assuming what he wants. I'm not saying that you do that assume I mean but learning from my son that is speech delayed I thought i was doing what i should and I wasn't. His speech teacher told me to get pictures of things he loves ands when he want s some thing have him point and say it make a game sort of out of it. He may be more willing to vocalize things and gain more vocabulary. My son for the first time said a complete sentence and when he started he couldn't even say mama and would bite him self in frustration because I could not understand what he wanted. He isn't friendly because he can not communicate with people the way he wants and will act out because of being frustrated. I don't know if this will help and it won't happen over night if you keep working with hhim he will amaze you in what he knows.

Terry Sorrentino - posted on 01/16/2009

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If you go to your Local School District  you can get help from them were they will test him and help him with his speech. My sister in law went through this with my nephew and it didn't cost anything. Good Luck!

Tania - posted on 01/16/2009

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Hi,  I have to say that my answer to many things is the same - do you read to your son?  It is vitally important that we read to our children.  Reading aloud to them shows them a variety of words, how they sound plus gives them valuable sharing time with us.  We can point to the pictures, discuss the story, make up extra parts to the story, draw extra pictures from the story.  Read and books can be the start for a lot of things. 



Your son may not speak a lot, but reading to him will surely help.  Also read books about the right things - choose books with characters that you want him to learn from.  I am not sure where you live, but am happy to suggest some.



Also, make sure you always talk with your son, even as you walk/drive/bus anywhere - discuss and comment on the things you see "oh look there's a sign that says STOP" etc etc

Tania - posted on 01/16/2009

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Hi,  I have to say that my answer to many things is the same - do you read to your son?  It is vitally important that we read to our children.  Reading aloud to them shows them a variety of words, how they sound plus gives them valuable sharing time with us.  We can point to the pictures, discuss the story, make up extra parts to the story, draw extra pictures from the story.  Read and books can be the start for a lot of things. 



Your son may not speak a lot, but reading to him will surely help.  Also read books about the right things - choose books with characters that you want him to learn from.  I am not sure where you live, but am happy to suggest some.



Also, make sure you always talk with your son, even as you walk/drive/bus anywhere - discuss and comment on the things you see "oh look there's a sign that says STOP" etc etc

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