My 31/2 year old is having constant bad dreams every night. She now will fight going to sleep in fear of her bad dreams. Does anyone have any idea of how to calm her and help get over this?
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Tori - posted on 03/26/2012
My daughter has had awful nightmares lately. She wakes up screaming "get out of this house" and even "I want to go home" I don't know what to do she will not sleep in her own bed..if she is on the couch she is fine or in my before she is fine. It worries me. She had not had nightmares in a very long time until she stayed at her dads for 5 days. How do I fix this so she can sleep soundly again??
Holly - posted on 02/24/2009
When my children were this age they also has bad dream issues. My MIL came up with this idea which worked great for us. She decorated a container of canned air (the kind you use to blow dust out of your computer keyboard, ect.) with the child's name and "Bad Dream Spray". They would take this to bed with them and whenever they were scared they would spray a little and the bad dreams would go away. They are 8 and almost 5 and still have the original spray bottle. Good luck, I know it's tough on both of you!
Peggy - posted on 02/24/2009
My little granddaughter was having bad dreams...and her parents had tried all the things mentioned already. I ended up buying her one of those bed tents...the kind that set up like a fitted mattress sheet....anyway, it really seemed to help...she feels much more secure inside her tent bed...has all of her "buddy" stuffed animals....She is a little older than 3 1/2...but it might be something to try. The tent was a little expensive..but since it did help...I am glad I "sprung" for it.
Just a Gramma
Karin - posted on 02/23/2009
My son has had nightmares literally since the day he was born. Night terrors of waking up screaming. He averaged 4 hours sleep a day/night for the first months of his life, because I think he was terrified of going to sleep. We had a toddler sleeping in our room until he was 3.
When he was 3, we started to talk about what makes us happy right before bed. We call it "Happy Thoughts". This is a whole family affair in the family room right before bed, and everyone has a chance to tell their happy thoughts. We found that this leads to discussions of fears and happiness. There can be some pretty heavy things that a 3 year old can put on their shoulders!
Anyways, right after happy thoughts, we pray over our family, and ask for God's protection over our minds and bodies as we sleep through the night. If we fail to do happy thoughts for any reason, my son either will remind us, or he has nightmares. It's awful. Beyond that, we have made sure that he has his own really cool flashlight, a place for water next to his bed, the light on in his closet and the bathroom is across the hall from his room (with a night light).
Kid's who have spent the night have adopted this practice in their homes as well, and I hear that they also are having less problems with nightmares. I think their minds are at ease, and they go to sleep excited about the good stuff in their lives. :D
Good luck! Each kiddo is different, but I surely do hope you find something for your baby girl.
Lori - posted on 02/23/2009
I bought my a daughter a dream catcher, and told her that this would catch all of her bad dreams and she wouldn't have anymore, and it helped her. They say the mind doesn't know whats real or not real. The mind believes what you tell it :)
Michelle - posted on 02/23/2009
Thanks you guys for your replies. We are still having the problems no matter how much we pray or read nice bedtime stories or talk about happy things after she wakes from the bad dreams. They seem to always be about witches....have stop her watching anything scary. Am at witts ends as she can cry for hours....my husband does not want her coming into our bed as he thinks this is creating a habbit....
Thanks for all your advice.
Paula - posted on 02/19/2009
When my 4 year old has bad dreams we talk about nice things (santa, sledging, going to the park,painting). He is also sleeping on my pillow at the moment, I told him that I have nice dreams so if he has my pillow he will have nice dreams too. It seems to work and I think my smell is comforting as well.
Rachele - posted on 02/19/2009
I noticed my son's nightmares are more prevelant when he is over tired at night. I make sure the kids get to bed at a decent hour and we pray every night for good dreams. It seemed to really help him because it puts positive thoughts in his bed before he slips off to sleep.
Stephanie - posted on 02/19/2009
When my kids were scared of monsters, I filled a spray bottle with water and labled it "monster-be gone" and sprayed it around the room to "get rid of monsters." It worked immediately. You could try it and call it something related to getting rid of bad dreams. Hope this helps.