My 4 year old daughter wasn't invited to a fellow classmate's birthday party. But, alot of other kids in her class were. Is this normal?

Stacy - posted on 03/05/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My four year old daughter was not invited to a fellow classmate's birthday party. But, other kids in her class were invited. Should I be concerned about this?

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Jodi - posted on 03/06/2012

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It is normal. Not all kids get invited. If she is the only one who didn't get invited I would be concerned, but if others didn't get an invite, then don't be concerned. Unless, of course, this classmate is a close friend.

Sherri - posted on 03/05/2012

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No kids are not going to be friends with every single kid in the class. Therefore kids invite there friends in the class, just like you would in everyday life. My son has not been invited to some and invited to others. That is life.

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Tania - posted on 04/13/2013

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My son is 4 and has only been invited to a few birthday parties, not a lot. Then I have met mothers who attend a birthday party, sometimes two in one day every single week. I sometimes, feel as a parent, where are you meeting all these people and how can you even afford that, because I can't. I am already thinking about my sons fifth birthday and we don't have a lot of family. His birthday is in August. So far this year, he has not been invited to any birthday parties of kids in his class. I don't know any kids in his class, so the people that come are my friends and their kids my son's age. This year, I may have it very small and intimate, mainly because I don't know that many people. Yet, I don't know what others are doing that apparently have this huge network of people. Sometimes, I feel jealous. But, no I would not be concerned, such is life. That day, take your daughter out and do something else special with her.

Nicole - posted on 04/19/2012

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My daughter's almost 3 and in a preschool class of 16. Today one of the other moms asked me if my daughter was going to a classmate's bday party and it was the first I'd heard of it so I am assuming my daughter wasn't invited. I totally get that not every family invites the entire class to their child's bday party. But...I have been very upset by this. This is the first situation like this where my daughter's been "left out" and I know it's a part of life but I just had to get it off my chest with other moms who can relate (and either sympathize or tell me to just get over it).

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If ALL the other kids in the class were invited I'd have a problem w/ it. Otherwise, totally normal. My girls are in the 5th grade and have only ever been invited to a handful of class kid birthday parties even though they have many, many friends. Not an issue.

Bonnie - posted on 03/06/2012

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I wouldn't be concerned. It would get extremely expensive if the people hosting the party had to invite every child in the class. Not only that, but I wouldn't send my child to every single party if that were the case because it would get expensive for gifts.

Amy - posted on 03/05/2012

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Our school has a policy you can only send invites to the school if you are inviting the whole class. Otherwise you have to use the addresses and mail the invites home. Because we had to limit the number of kids but we made it clear he was not allowed to talk about his party at school.

Michelle - posted on 03/05/2012

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It's very normal unfortuately. Kids don't understand how their actions can hurt others.



The mother could have also put a number limit on it as well. Why not chat to the other Mum and find out?

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