My 4 year old wont sleep without me

Kathy - posted on 06/11/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I've been divorced since my daughter was just past 2 years old. We have a 50/50 custody agreement. I have constantly battled with getting her to sleep on her own in her own bed. She always cries or screams or tries to play I'm scared with me until I give in and sleep next to her until she falls asleep. Sometimes I am able to get to sleep on her own but at night she's crying for me where I go and lay with her until she falls back asleep. Lately it's been getting worse. Sometimes 3-4 times a night she calls out for me. I have even notice that after I sneak out of her bed After she falls asleep her reaching for me to see if I'm still there. I've talked to her father and he says she's not like that with him so I'm not sure what's going on. I feel so bad because even her daycare has noticed she's been sad. And they tell me she says its because she misses me. It makes me just want to snuggle her up. I really don't know what to do. Help please?

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Jeri - posted on 06/14/2013

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My oldest son was like that. At 4.5 now, we have broken the cycle, sort of. I am a stay at home, but he is constantly on on my hip and would end up in my bed. I started a rewards chart for the nights he consecutively slept in his bed all night by himself. He just got his big prize! If its just getting herself to put herself to sleep, I had that with my oldest son. I started by sitting next to his bed, and letting him go to sleep that way. Once he was adjusted to that, then I started taking small trips out of the room, like telling him I would be right back I had to go check something, etc and be gone for 2 min... then lengthened the time every few days, and within a month I could lay him down and he would be fine. I hope this helps!

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Praveer - posted on 06/12/2013

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hi... i have the same problem with 15 months daughter but sometimes i put her on bed,put quilt everywhere so that she don't feel alone and then put one used t-shirt near her so that she smell my odor even when am not there... sometime it works...

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