my 6 month old throws the worst tantrums any suggestions??

Tasha - posted on 01/27/2012 ( 45 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 6 months old and wil be 7 months in 1 1/2 weeks and throws the worst tantrums. If she is not getting her way she will pull my hair, pinch me, throw her bottle at me, or even bite me with her one tooth...it drives me up the wall. I know I cant spank a 6 month old so I just give her what she wants. I've let her cry before and she threw herself off her bed, stratched her face up or pull her hair. I know when she's sleepy that's when it's the worst. I'm not sure what else to do because I never thought a baby would throw a fit this bad...does anyone have any ideas??

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Kate CP - posted on 01/27/2012

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She's not throwing a tantrum she can't communicate with you! She can't talk, can't understand speech...SHE'S A BABY. She's probably screaming and crying because she's over tired or hungry. She's not manipulating you SHE'S A BABY. SHE CAN'T COMMUNICATE WITH YOU EXCEPT BY CRYING!!!!



Put her to sleep BEFORE she starts getting tired. Start a nightly routine and she'll fall into it. For my son it's a bath, then a little bit of play time in his room with me. Then he nurses and cuddles with me until he falls asleep. It was hard going at first because I was trying to put him to bed too late and he was over tired. Doing it BEFORE he gets sleepy is the key.

Krista - posted on 01/27/2012

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The fact that anybody would think that a 6-month-old baby, who has barely gotten beyond the stage of pure animal need, is capable of some sort of Machiavellian manipulation...



The mind boggles.



They're babies. When you play peek-a-boo, they think that you've ACTUALLY disappeared. They are most certainly not capable of conscious manipulation.

Kate CP - posted on 01/27/2012

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Babies are VERY smart but that doesn't make them manipulative. A SIX MONTH OLD CAN'T TALK!!! How else do you expect them to communicate their unhappiness or agitation? It's not like she's going to sit up and say "Mother, I am very put out that you would take away the toy I was playing with. I would like it back, please." No, you take a toy from a baby and they'll start to cry because that's all they can do. You put a baby in a crib when they don't want to be in the crib AND THEY WILL CRY. That DOES NOT mean they are throwing a temper tantrum. It's means they are trying to tell you something and CAN'T.

Amie - posted on 01/27/2012

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Sounds like a normal 6 month old to me. They can't communicate by talking to you so they have to communicate other ways.



I have to say I'm bothered by her being on a bed though. Why is she not in a crib? or a playpen if you're a co-sleepr when you're not with her?



Setting boundaries with the hair pulling, pinching, biting,etc. is key though. Do not be upset by it, it's normal for babies to explore and this is part of it. When she does just say "No, that's owie" then stop her from doing it. When (there's no if, she will repeat - babies take a long time to learn these things, it's all new to them and they are trying to explore and learn their environment and people around them) she repeats, you repeat and put her down. If you can't handle the crying, put her in a safe place and take a mommy time out.



Again, this is all normal baby behavior. There's no manipulation going on. Infants are not capabe of manipulation. They barely have control over their bodies, their emotions, etc. They certainly don't have the cognitive awareness needed to be manipulative.

Karla - posted on 01/27/2012

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Tasha,



I'm tending toward Kate's advice; especially about watching for cues that your daughter is getting tired or hungry. It's very easy to miss these cues and once your baby is overly tired and/or hungry she can have uncontrollable fits.



What ever you do, stay calm. If you find yourself getting frantic then put her in a safe place and go to another room and take a few deep breaths to calm yourself



Check whether she needs a diaper change, and see if she's hungry. (she may even be going through a growth spurt that could be effecting her mood and hunger levels.)



Make sure she doesn't have a temperature - if she has an earache or some such pain it could be effecting her mood.



She may have gas, so take the time to burp her.



You may be able to distract her with songs, or games (peek a boo is a favorite - we also did "pony girl" bouncing on the knee), blowing raspberries, etc.



If she's tired then snuggle down for a nap... perhaps rubbing her back and singing to help calm her down.



-I have found the singing and humming helps babies and children calm down a lot. I even do it for other kids in the store... yes I'm the crazy lady singing "you are my sunshine" in the middle of Walmart.



Or, put on some music and dance with her, or let her watch you dance... babies find this very interesting and fun. (I learned that my second would get motion sick, so she was never a big fan of dancing when she was a baby - she loved it when on her own two feet though!)



With movement you could gently rock or bounce her as well.



She might be too hot or too cold. Check the back of her neck and if it's very hot/sweaty then she may be over dressed.



Give her a bath.



If she isn't hungry she may still need to suck, so try a pacifier. Also she my be having teething pain and chewing toys or a pacifier might help her with that as well. Also if she is teething you may want to talk to her doctor about giving her a baby dose of pain reliever - whatever the Dr. recommends.



Some babies just need a quiet spot, and need your attention. You could try turning off everything (TV, radio, cell phone, and take her away from crowded areas) to give her individual attention in a quiet undisturbed atmosphere.



Another option would be to go for a drive. This worked well with 3 of my 4 kids - but as I mentioned one daughter got motion sick and driving (even at that age) was upsetting to her.



Go for a walk with her either in a stroller or a carrier; it's amazing how fresh air can be calming to babies (and people in general.)



For some babies "white noise" like a vacuum cleaner, soothes them, so that's another option.



The bottom line is that crying really is her only method of communicating. If you are distracted by computer, cell phone, or TV that can be an issue. Watching her body language will help you understand what is bothering her; it helps very much to know your baby's schedule and cues so you can meet her needs before she becomes frantic. If she is trying to "manipulate" you, it's only insomuch as she's trying to get her NEEDS MET, and I'm sure you would like to have a comfortable baby as well.



Good luck and know you are not alone.

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Jennifer - posted on 08/30/2012

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I came on this site b/c I was having a issue with my son throwing " tantrums". I'm so shocked by what I read that Julie wrote. First, I wanted to say I have found that putting him the stroller( even in the house) and pushing him around is a miracle worker. My son falls asleep within 3 mins tops. It seems to happen mostly for his afternoon nap and late night bottles. I realize that it's all led to fighting sleep or being so hungry and tired during the night that waking up for a feeding is not what he wants to do. His stomach is telling him to, but his eyes are closed. Plus, teething is coming strong. I hope this information is useful to anyone having the same problem. We can't be lazy moms. Our children depend on us for their needs. Strollers are amazing tools! As for Julie.....SHAME ON YOU FOR SAYING IT'S OKAY TO HIT A 6 month old innocence baby!!!!!!!. People like you that think that way don't derseve children. How dare you?? They don't even understand life yet, they are discovery it. You don't just show them violence and hitting is okay in this world. That's why kids grow up to be killers and on drugs. NO LOVE!!! I read so many things, and every smile and every kiss is how your baby develops emotions. Even screaming in a household can cause a baby to have NO EMOTIONS. Wake up Julie!! Disgusting!! TO all the good mothers out there, be patience and be strong. We have amazing child. Think about when your old, what do you have to look forward to? With your child you can look forward to them growing, achieving their goals, watching them get married, having grand babies and so much more. Good luck

Karin - posted on 02/15/2012

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I agree with Kate C. and Lyssa. Start bedtime ritual same time every night at least half an hour before the crabbiness begins. A vigorous toweling off acts as a mini-massage before you lotion your baby up. Then a story or two or light music or you singing or talking about the day you had together, should help. Doing the same things in the same order should bring more calmness to her and she can rely on it and know what's coming next. And if she continues the tantrums, just make sure she's safe and difficult as it sounds and is to do, you may just have to walk away for a bit so your baby can self-calm. Hope this helps. And remember to take care of you, too. Babies can pick up on our stress. Good luck!

Marleana - posted on 02/09/2012

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Have you checked with your pediatrician.? I have never heard of a "fit" to the extent in which you described. I have four of my own.. To me it sounds like something may be "wrong" that is not evident to us. I would check with the doc.

Colleen - posted on 01/29/2012

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No, depending on where you live, you can either get them made by Humphrey's or Hyland. They have since, (since the discontinue) brought them back out and with better bottles, and with better directions.. They discontinued them for a bit because there were some moms giving their baby too many tablets and overdosing their babies. 1-3 tabs is it. They couldn't be a choking hazard because they dissolve so quick. Anyway, you can find them at Walgreen's I know of for sure. Not all stores carry them because of the previous discontinue. I wish you luck, I totally understand your frustrations, I too am a first time mom. So when my daughter is all out of sorts, I still jump to conclusions that there is something really wrong that not even the doctors are catching, but then the very next day she's fine.

When she is throwing her "tantrum" and not allowing you to hold and comfort her, maybe try to sit her down on the floor and bring out toys she hasn't seen in a while? I did that too when mine was 6 months old. Rotating toys is so good for both parent and child I feel. It helped deflect my daughters attention onto her "new toys" and she would start playing instead of beating me. We would sit on the floor together and play. But if that doesn't even help, I would really believe and think it's teething. I would go get some teething tabs to keep on hand. I used to carry a bottle in my purse, 1 in her diaper bag, and 1 at home. Like I said before, I wish you luck in the future.

Karla - posted on 01/28/2012

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Tasha,

It's good to hear that she is doing better. One thing about getting a good child care/development book is that it gives you some clues as to what may be happening at certain ages.



As mentioned here by many moms, a baby at 6 months may be experiencing teething pain, growth spurt, or a mild fever etc. (And we all have our moody days, don't we?)



As Sue Kay mentioned, it could be very helpful for you to spend some time with other mothers and compare notes.



I am also so relieved to hear you wouldn't spank your 6 month old. (Even though it is possible, I have never, ever heard a reputable child psychologist recommend such action.)



There is no big book of life, and that is evident while raising kids, but there has been a lot of research and experiences that can aid us as we go.



All will be well. :-)

Tasha - posted on 01/28/2012

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I would never spank my baby. Now if she was 5 different story...I really think she was having a bad day the last couple of days.. today she was an angel we sang and played and she acted "normal " I'm a first time mom so when she doesn't act herself. I think something is up and when she kept going crazy I felt something was wrong..... It gets overwhelming when you try everything and nothing seems to work. So I like to read other posts and get some advice so I can get an alternative..







I thought they discontinued teething tablets because infants kept choking on them.









But yes I work full time. It's cool I can bring my daughter to work with me...I spend a lot of time at work. But I love my daughter and her personality and her laughs and giggles and her singing just everything

Jodi - posted on 01/28/2012

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I'm just really hoping I totally misunderstood what she was trying to say there......

Krista - posted on 01/28/2012

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Yeah, the rest of your comment was right on, Julie, but the bit about "you CAN spank a 6-month old"?



I'm feeling nauseous. I look at pictures of my little guy when he was 6 months old. Just a little roly-poly baby. Pure innocence, exploring the world, and with 100% trust in his mommy and daddy. To think of striking him? It's obscene.

Julie - posted on 01/28/2012

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Do you work?



Children can not verbalize all the frustrations built up inside of them ... so they use 'sign language' and act out their emotions.



Are you feeding her before she gets too hungry -



Are you putting her to bed for morning naps as well as afternoon naps and then having her in bed by 7 -



You CAN spank a 6 month old BUT more importantly are her needs being met or is she desperate to tell you otherwise?



Deter her from things by offering alternative toys, etc., when she is getting into things she should not. BABYPROOF your home - also.



The pretties can come back out when she is older and they are not in harm's way any longer



Offer her snacks throughout her day so she does not get to the point of desperation -

Sue - posted on 01/28/2012

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wow, so many thoughts.

Firstly your baby needs to be in a cot not a bed, that is so dangerous. If she fell off she could be really injured.

Second, no, you can't spank a 6 month old at all!

Thirdly, find yourself some peers with babies the same age, like a playgroup, so you can spend time with other mums, watching how they handle there children.

Fourth, Get some pediatric advice on babies.

This is not about your baby "getting her way" this is your baby "talking" to you, telling you something is wrong.

When she is having a "tantrum" she is asking you for attention. You need to model behaviour for her and encourage her to explore her environment in a safe nurturing way.

You can't love them too much at this stage.

Trust me the real tantrums dont start till their teens, even the "toddler tantrums" pale into insignificancenext to them.

I strongly urge you to get some baby care books.

And find a mother who seems to know what shes doing and spend some time with her.

Relax your ideas and love your baby as much as you can.

When she pulls her hair, show her how to pat her hair in a soothing tone.

Actually, having a calm manner goes a long way. Act like its all fine and it actually starts to calm down.

Right, a few more thoughts, she may be throwing the bottle because its not satisfying her, is she starting to sample solid foods?

Teething is a definate possibility, offer her rusks, chewy toys, cold soothers, baby teething gel.

She may need her routine adjusted, she may need more, or less sleep, her bath at a differant time, her nap time altered, here toys might need to be rotated.

Too little or too much stimulation? try various mobiles, music boxes, cuddly blankets at sleep time. She may still like to be swaddled to sleep.

Have you tried singing to her and reading her stories?, sitting on your lap.

Is she having time going for a daily walk in her pram?

Have you tried a sling to carry her around with you, your heartbeat soothing her?

Any way, I wish you well, its a tiring but worthwhile thing motherhood.;0)

Best wishes

Sue

Tasha - posted on 01/28/2012

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Laura everything you describe is what she does... Karl thank you that is very helpful.

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You definenately can not spoil a baby. My baby was in my arms 24/7. She slept with me, a held her all the time, nursered her, then would rock her to sleep and then hold her while she napped. I got her more clothes than 3 babies could wear and more toys then she needed. This is still the case in many areas. Even at almost 7 she will sometime sleep with mommy, has to many clothes and more toys than she needs. My daughter is one of the sweetest kids in the neighborhood. She is given limits and punishments now for fits but at 6 months old, all they want is love.

Amy - posted on 01/28/2012

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Wow, I'm trying not to judge but I feel really sorry for some of these kids! Like Laura keeps saying she's 6 months, not years! Time-outs aren't going to work our pediatrician didn't even reccommend to us to start using time-outs till our child was a year and half. Just out of curiosity after the 30 seconds you put them in the crib do you go back and explain why you put them there???



Babies have needs, and as a parent we have to figure out what it is they need. That's our job as parents. If she's crying is she over stimulated? Maybe she wants a new toy to play with? Is she crying because you took something away from her? They have no other way of communicating, as a mom I had to learn my childs different crys, I used my problems solving skills to figure out what it was my baby needed. If you take something away, yeah you may have to give her something else to play with.



As other moms have stated babies need to explore, they need to touch and feel things. Sometimes they're going to touch things that they aren't supposed to, that's when you have to baby proof. My kids now would used to hit the dog my husband and I had to catch them everytime and show them how to pet the dog nicely, now they don't hit the dog.



Research has actually shown that when a parent ignores the cries of their infant that child could potentially be more dependent and have more issues then a child/infant who is tended to in a timely manner.



The final thing I would like to say is if your baby is crying and your stress level is through the roof it's ok to put your baby down to go compose yourself for a few minutes. It may actually be beneficial in your situation because if you're stressed your daughter may be getting more worked up because you are.

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I agree with all those who've said you can't spoil an infant and with all the good tips they've been giving you.

I'd just like to add a few words of comfort...



Some kids (mine included) are just more headstrong than others. From the day she was born my daughter seemed to have higher needs than all the other babies on the ward combined with an incredible energy. If things weren't right for her we'd know about it.

But no matter how hard that first year was, I always said that being sensitive to your surroundings and being able to voice your emotions and not being easily put in your place are great qualities that will stand her in life. These are not things you want to 'train' out of her just to make your life easier.

A book that came recommended to me here on CoMs and has helped quite a bit was 'Raising your spirited child' by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka. It'll put things in perspective for you and will help you once you are moving out of the infant stage and into the joys of toddlerhood (it's a good book even if your kid doesn't fall into that category).



BTW: My daughter has always been in a rotten mood after waking up from her nap, kind of unfair but some babies just are like that.

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It's not a tantrum; she's letting you know you need to feed her, help her, put her to bed or that her gums/teeth hurt. You're SUPPOSED to give a baby what she wants at this age -- b/c all they want is a bottle, baby food, diaper change, or help for their hurting gums. If you know it's worst when she's sleepy, then don't let her get to that point. A great book to read is The Baby Whisperer. It may help you better understand your baby's needs. Be the mom she needs you to be and that you would like to have:-)

Merry - posted on 01/28/2012

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Mimi, don't you think time outs are ridiculous for an infant? I mean the baby is 6 months old.

Months!

Amie - posted on 01/28/2012

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Oh good grief, some of the other responses on here are horrid!

Babies cannot be spoiled. They can have their needs tended to, in a timely manner or not. They cannot, however, be spoiled. Taking care of a baby in a timely manner does not equal a spoiled child.



Ignoring a child to show her you don’t care is probably one of the coldest things I’ve read in a long time. Our children, especially our infants, need to know we care and are there to take care of them. As they get older, we teach them the skills they need to take care of themselves. An INFANT cannot do this, so do not ignore her.



It may take some time though. I’m sure you’re not the only mom to have to struggle through this. Watch for the signs (as others have mentioned) for her moods and her needs. That is the easiest way to get through this. It might take some time to understand them all or to even notice the nuances between her cries but you will get there.



Then if everything is taken care of (feed, diapers, burps, etc.) , she won’t calm when you hold or rock her and you are getting stressed. It is ok to put her down in a safe place and take a breather. As your anxiety leave notches up, so does hers. It might just take that minute or two to get your head back together so you can calm her.



It honestly sounds like she’s having a really rough go with the teething though and she might be going through a growth spurt as well. Weather it out and you’ll come out the other end fine, so will your daughter.



The shopping issue, that’s been explained but I wanted to add. Take your own toys, books and even snacks. Moms have big purses for a reason; we have so much crap to take with us everywhere. Then if she gets fussy, offer her something from your purse. Mine have a thing for my keys, so it might not even require the other things at times. It also helps to schedule around them when they’re young. A freshly woken up baby or toddler from their nap is much easier to handle during errand runs, than one who either misses or is getting close to their nap time. Meals are another consideration, try to avoid shopping near when your baby is used to eating. I always did my shopping and errands either first thing in the morning after breakfast or after lunch when they got up from their naps. If I was having a bad day, daddy kept the kids and I went alone. Never mind when they were all smaller, mine are now 2, 4, 7 and 11. There are still days I leave them with dad so I can shop alone. =) haha!

Mimi - posted on 01/28/2012

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Dear Tasha,

Wow, that is unusual. Just keep calm, and talk to the baby with loving words. You have a strong child and you need help from a good pediatrician. Find one now! Time outs might work, by putting her alone in the crib, with the sides up and when she calms down, go in and talk to her softly.

Colleen - posted on 01/28/2012

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I agree with Laura on that one! I had the exact same thing rolling through my brain as I was reading Cynthia's comment.. Eeek! it pains me to read some of these responses, she is only 6 months old, any doctor/pediatrician will tell you that YOU CANNOT SPOIL AN INFANT! When these babies cry, throw a tantrum, they really are trying to communicate the only way they know how.. and it's our jobs as their mother/parent, to figure out what it is they need. Teething is my best answer for this Momma's concern, I would suggest the Humphry's or Hyland's teething tablets, some places carry the strips, which when my 2 year old was 1, worked best.. but the teething tablets once I learned about them, the tantrums pretty much stopped. They are all natural and work so well.

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Holy F*** Cynthia

What on Gods green earth could make you say a thing like that!

Did you misread? It's a SIX MONTH OLD INFANT

Not a 6yr old child.



Great advise there, show your infant you don't care.

Guess what? That's called CHILD NEGLECT



And that's your second comment on here?

You've got a lot to learn

Merry - posted on 01/28/2012

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Well Kirsty,for your first comment on circle of moms that sure was a doozy.

BABIES CAN NOT BE SPOILED

CYNTHIA - posted on 01/28/2012

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dont do anything ! show her you dont care sometime it take a long time .try to block it out!

Colleen - posted on 01/28/2012

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sounds like a teething thing to me.. when mine was that young, she would do the exact same things when she was teething.. Plus, lack of sleep because of pain until I found out about the teething tablets to help her. The orajel made her blister. Lack of sleep in a baby will DEFINITELY make a baby uncontrollably cranky! My baby is now 2, and will still throw tantrums like that if she gets herself beyond tired.

Kaitlin - posted on 01/28/2012

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WHAT THE CRAP people. She's a baby. Not a child. You CAN NOT spoil a baby! She can NOT maniuplate you! She's only 6 months old! If she was 12 months old, this might be a little different. BUT REALLY.

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thats what u get for spoling a baby and then they turn into a spolit child!!!!!!!!!!!!

Karla - posted on 01/28/2012

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”All the tips as is in saying she will just wake up from a nap and throw fits and has a full belly."



This definitely sounds as though she is uncomfortable; my guess is that she either has a tummy ache, or she’s teething.



”sometimes it makes me sad because I feel she doesn't want to be bothered with me.”



I would encourage you to NOT take her behavior personally. At this age everything is a reaction. Everything she is doing is a reaction to her surroundings and body. She may be getting a little frustrated when she’s uncomfortable, but I am sure she is not capable of judging you or even realizing precisely what is bothering her.



“we took a nap together and she woke up, got right next to me and slapped my face but that was her way of waking me up”



Or it could have been just curiosity.



” Sometimes I think it's my fault she is soo used to her way since she was born. She got whatever whenever....she's a mommy and daddy's girl so she is spoiled and I do believe she is... I think she is used to mommy giving in all the time..."



For me spoiling is giving someone everything they want after they have thrown a fake fit to get it. At this age, your daughter is not capable of that kind of thought process; therefore she is not “spoiled.”

Babies react to their environment, and cry for what they want, but not in a manipulative way. Rather as a base reaction to discomfort. They do not understand paying for things at the store, or how to define their pain and discomfort; they just have an innate response of crying. It’s a survival skill that they are born with.



I think you should talk to her and explain things – I know that sounds ridiculous, but it’s the beginning of a better future. For instance at the store say, “Now we have to give this to the lady for a minute so mommy can pay for it, then you can have it back.” Granted at this age she probably won’t understand, but eventually she will. This will help her learn the process, and help her learn words (a life long endeavor) and your words my help sooth her even though she won’t understand them.



There is a transitional time from the point when all the baby’s wants are in fact what they need, to the point where what they want is not necessarily what they need, some of which are dangerous. One of my most useful tools is distraction. Since babies and small children do not understand why things are dangerous, or why we can’t or won’t buy them everything they want; it can be very useful to just distract them away from what they want. Get them interested in more acceptable activities. (Like bringing out toys they like, or reading or singing too them, going for a walk, etc.)



Good luck.

Merry - posted on 01/28/2012

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I think a sensory overload is possible.

My baby is about her age as I mentioned and she isn't spoiled, but I hold her almost all day, nurse her whenever she wants, sleep with her at night, I've never left her with a babysitter.

But this isn't spoiled.

This is a baby attached to mom.

My daughter hates being blocked in the living room, there's tons of toys and stuff for her to do but the second I block her in there she goes to the edge and screams! She doesn't stop until I pick her up.

This isn't spoiled.

This is a baby confused and upset by being separated from me for no reason she can comprehend.

It's not a fit. It's frustration and confusion. She doesn't know that it's dangerous how she eats everything, she doesn't know her track record for getting hurt in the kitchen is insane, she doesn't know I'm just trying to load the dishwasher without her getting into stuff"

So she screams!

And when I go back to her and hold and comfort her I'm not teaching her that screaming gets her 'her way' I'm teaching her that when she is confused and frustrated mommy is here to make it better.

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She might have sensory issues. My daughter is over sensitive to certain textures and smells and can not stand loud noises. Better to be over cautious then to let it go

Kate CP - posted on 01/28/2012

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Tasha, your 6 month old infant is NOT spoiled. SHE CAN NOT TALK YET. So she "throws a fit" to tell you she's upset.



Different kids need different things to comfort and soothe them. She may need something like a very soft blanket or stuffed animal that she can rub her face on. If she doesn't like being held (some kids just don't) then try singing to her or telling her a story in a very calm and quiet voice.



If she's teething the best thing for her are things to teeth on, not just orajel. I like frozen waffles for babies who are old enough (at six months she is) or some teething rings in different textures and toughness. Give her tummy time and let her explore a little.



What I and these other ladies are trying to tell you is something that is proved by science: SIX MONTH OLD BABIES ARE NOT CAPABLE OF BEING MANIPULATIVE.

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Or just give her a can of pineapple to play with (something you're going to buy) and get the checkout chick to scan it and give it back quickly.

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Take her own toys with you to the store, then it won't be a problem. What you are doing is the same as letting a 5 year old hold a lollipop all the way around the store and then taking it off her at the end. Seriously......what do you THINK is going to happen? Of course she was upset - she didn't understand why suddenly she wasn't allowed to have it any more, when 5 minutes before she was!!!

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She's 6 months old she's a bit young for learning to not get her way, they don't understand that for a while. All of those things sound like both my kids when they are teething, cranky no matter what you do.

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She gets plenty of sleep, sometimes I think it's her teeth because her second one is in....now what I mean by not getting her way. I went to the store one day and she reached for a toy on the shelf so I gave it to her not really thinking anything, so I grabbed her different toys besides that one.....I go to the counter to check out and I took it from her to pay and she was mad and threw a fit like a 5 yr old...I thought it was funny because I never seen her Do this.... So I hurried and gave her the toy and she was fine.....



All the tips as is in saying she will just wake up from a nap and throw fits and has a full belly. I've been trying to stay on the top of the oragel........ She doesn't take pacifiers.... Dry diaper....and obviously She doesn't want her bottle because She throws it at me.........I've done everything I could think of and I'm still thinking what's wrong....doesn't want to be held...sometimes it makes me sad because I feel she doesn't want to be bothered with me...... I will say she is very smart than what you think....we took a nap together and she woke up, got right next to me and slapped my face but that was her way of waking me up...



Sometimes I think it's my fault she is soo used to her way since she was born. She got whatever whenever....she's a mommy and daddy's girl so she is spoiled and I do believe she is... I think she is used to mommy giving in all the time...

Merry - posted on 01/27/2012

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Tasha, my daughter is just a month older then yours!

I'm wondering what you mean by 'doesn't get her way'

My daughter gets upset if I take her away from the kitchen garbage, or if I stop her from touching the toilet etc buts he never throws fits like this.

I'm going to guess your daughter is overtired. Does she sleep 11-13 hours a night? Does she take something like 3 one hour naps in the day?

Sleep is so vital to babies and if they don't get it it can stunt their mental and physical growth!

She most certainly can't manipulate you, she has needs and if she can't tell you what she needs she will cry scream bite pinch etc to try to get you to understand.

If you catch her before sheets down then she gets her needs met without having to go all out to get your attention.

Help her fall asleep before she is so tired, nurse her, rock her, feed her a bottle' whatever you do. Then just hold her until she is sleepy or asleep!

And some times babies just don't know what they want. How many times do we have to ask older kids what's wrong? And they don't even know! So babies especially need us to figure out what's wrong as they can't tell us even if they do know what is wrong!

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To add to Amie T's post, when my son pulled my hair (he used to LOVE to do that) or when he would hit or bite me I would say "OUCH!" frown at him and put him down, then cross my arms. He would cry and ask to be picked up again and when I picked him back up I would take his hand and lay it flat against my cheek and say "Nice Mommy!" then I would stroke his cheek and say "Nice Paul!" and smile at him. Lather, rinse, repeat. It takes several turns of this for it to sink in.

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Getting her way? She's 6 months old, not a toddler. What exactly does she want that you describe as having to give into? Could you be more specific?

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smart babies most certainly can manipulate you at a young age. babies aren't stupid, they are a lot smarter than people give them credit for!

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just walk away. make sure she's in a safe place and just walk away. if you continue giving in to her (she's obviously very smart and already learned how to manipulate you) she will just continue the bad behavior knowing that you will give her what she wants. walk away and wait until she calms down. don't baby talk her, talk to her like you would any other older child who is throwing a tantrum and tell her no. honestly, i have 2 nephews who were given everything they wanted and baby talked their entire lives, and now at 8 and 4, they still throw terrible tantrums and you can't understand a word they are saying!! you're daughter is obviously advanced, so treat her that way!! you won't regret it once she stops throwing the fits and you can see how smart she really is!

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