my 7 month old will not sleep through the night HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Cassandra - posted on 03/12/2009

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is your baby on pablum? that helped my baby sleep all night... well she would wake up once to find her bottle

Nicole - posted on 03/11/2009

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Don't fret, lose your mind or wonder what is wrong..nothing is wrong. All children are different. No book, study or doctors orders are going to "always" be the answer. I am a mother of 4 children and only 1 of the 4 ever slept thru the night by 6 months. My youngest who just turned 2 still has many nights when he doesn't make it thru the night. It is almost like he calls me to make sure I am there, waits patiently for a diaper change, a sippy cup refill of water and a big hug from me and quietly goes back to sleep. Some nights, he needs a bit more so I bring him into bed with my husband and I and cuddle him close as he goes back to sleep. Its rough on us moms, yes, but it won't last forever so don't give up. My daughter never slept thru the night until age 1, my son who is now almost 4 didn't sleep thru the night until he was 16 months. Like I said, every child is different..take a "seize the moment approach" and cherish the time you have with him whether it is at 12am, 2, 4 or 5am. All too soon they grow up and those moments are gone. Take Care and God Bless!

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I did "controlled crying" with my now 25-month-old when she was a baby, starting at about 9 months. I basically followed the Ferber Method. It totally worked and I've had to do it over and over again whenever she gets thrown off schedule, whether from a time change, travel, etc. She is a perfectly normal, trusting, well adjusted, secure, confident and happy two-year-old.

Kate - posted on 03/12/2009

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Is he/she getting up to feed? If so give a bottle with water instead of formula...after a few nights it will click in that nighttime is for sleeping not eating and he'll stop waking up.

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Jacqueline - posted on 03/12/2009

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I also have a 7month old, what i do is i don't let him alot during the day. at 12:30pm he drinks his milk (warm) after he eats and then at around 12:50pm to 1pm i'm putting hom down for a nap. But i take him in the rocking chair and rock him until he falls asleep. once he's out i put soft music and he sleeps only for an hour to an hour in a half. and at about.  wake him up at around 2pm. don't let him sleep until 9:30pm i started again to put him down after a warm bath and a bottle of milk. until the next morning. he doesn't wake up until; 10am...try it. jackie

Jill - posted on 03/12/2009

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Have you tried the Zaky. Look it up. Excellent device for helping with sleep and security.

Meredith - posted on 03/12/2009

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Wow, I didn't understand such a simple question would start a psychological debate. Bonding issues are logical...but in the day time. Babies need to learn the night is for sleep. Someone suggested to me to try the bedtime routine. If the baby wakes up in the middle of the night, you go in every 10 minutes, reassure the baby, and leave again. Eventually the baby will go back to sleep. If you routinely go in, pick the baby up, rock and feed the baby, this will become routine! You'll figure it out and it will get better. All babies are different.

Tarisa - posted on 03/12/2009

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Most important is routine. I found that doing the same routine for bedtime every night seemed to trigger his mind after awhile that it was time to sleep. I started with bathtime, then PJ's, story time ..by the time it was time for sleep he was calm enough. Kids do well when they can predict what is going to happen. When he/she wakes up in the middle of the night, go in there and pat them on the back or bum whatever might soothe them, pick him/her up for a few short min to let them feel secure and put them back in their crib. When they are calm leave the room again. You might have to do this several times over a course of a few days but eventually you will see results. As always rule out anything medical.

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Night feedings- nutritionally, not needed after 6 months provided baby eats well during the day (The Breastfeeding Book, Dr. William Sears). If the first thing you do when your baby wakes at night is offer a meal, then you will reinforce that as the soothing method of drifting off again. I just weaned my third baby off of night feedings (enlisted my husband's help). I fed him a little less every night, and my husband rocked him back to sleep. Once baby was going a week of no midnight meals, we soothed him with pats on the back, humming, short cuddles. It took three weeks, but baby sleeps from 11 to 5:30.

Personality- My first sleep 12 hours a night from 6 weeks old. My 2nd I had to let him start cring it out around 7 months because he refused to lay down but would not fall asleep when held or rocked by us (but he kept it to 10 minutes or less every time). I never checked out as a parent, I never let him scream. He soon replaced the crying with humming himself to sleep (12 months of age). Pediatrician told us that some babies use crying as a release in order to fall asleep. 3 boys, 3 different personalities, 3 different ways of learning to sleep through the night.

Is your baby getting a 5 hour stretch at night/evening? That would be considered "sleeping through the night." If your baby falls asleep at 8 pm for 5 hours, you might consider going to bed at that time too.

I have noticed two things about the adult population in my area, with a few exceptions: they all sleep through the night and they all are potty trained. So, you can bet both will happen for you! ;)

Peta - posted on 03/12/2009

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Quoting Sara:

I forgot - another thing I started doing was feeding him more often during the day and making his last meal a little later and making sure it includes cereal. I thought he might just be growing and needing more food. Not sure if that was really it, but he did go back to sleeping thru.


i agree with sara on the last bottle my son sleep all nite from day one (i know unusual haha) but then when he got to about 6 mnths he started wakin up so my mum sugested putting a milk arrowroot biscuit (made soggy with hot water)in his last bottle and to my surprise he was sleeping all nite again

Elyse - posted on 03/12/2009

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I do not want to scare you, but my son has been having major sleep issues and I took him to the doctor and we were referred to a specialist and have found that he has sleep apnea. Poor thing was waking up as a safety mechanism for stopping breathing at night. I'm sooo glad I never just let him "cry it out"! Poor guy really needed me and something was really wrong. Granted, I don't jump at the very second he cries. I'll let him cry for 20 minutes or so, and then if he still hasn't fallen back asleep, I'll go in and check on him.

Tina - posted on 03/12/2009

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My baby is 2 months and is sleeping from 9p to 7a. I took one of his fitted sheets and sleeped with it for 2-3 nights. To get our smell on it! That sounds so funny. But it worked! They just want us around all the time! :)

Jenny - posted on 03/12/2009

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I still have some problem's with my 10 month old. Some night's she sleeps all night and some she wake's up a couple times. I normally give her nuk and rub her back as well as put on some music from her water mobil on the side of her crib. This normally works. I was also having problems with her waking up to eat and when I talked to my doctor about it she told me that I should give her a water bottle instead of a formula bottle. I tried it a couple times and she was a little upset with me but after she realized I was not going to feed her just because she got up in the middle of the night she started waking up less. I hope this helps, take care!

Teresa - posted on 03/12/2009

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Don't worry, it won't last forever. Is there a possibility that he's not getting enough deep sleep for his naps? Do you have a schedule for bedtime routine? You might also want to try The No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley. Very helpful and beneficial. My son is 17 mths and still wakes once a night maybe twice and when he's sick it's like every few hours. I tell myself, he's a toddler and when he's older he won't be doing it. Enjoy the cuddling now while it last.

Nichole - posted on 03/12/2009

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Holy Cow...lots of opinions!! Kinda makes it hard to know what the heck to do!!  You kinda have to find an "in between".  My son started waking up in the middle of the night for no particular reason.  I would get up as soon as he started crying..pick him up and go rock for about 20 minutes...he would go back to sleep..put him back in the crib and we would all sleep till morning.  Then I went away on a girls  trip for a week and left him home with Daddy..he didn't have me to get up with him and he is now sleeping thru the night again!  Now, sometimes he will wake up and cry a minute of two and go back to sleep.  I think that I didn't allow him enough time to try and fall back asleep himself before I went to get him.  And he for sure got used to me coming in everynight.  Once we broke the cycle...now he is sleeping thru again.  But at the same time....if he is still crying for more than 5-10 mintures, I still go in and check on him.  Maybe it's teeth, he's cold, his arm or leg is stuck in the crib slats, my son throws all his stuff out of the crib and will wake up "needing"  Mr Bear or his blankie.  My son is also a thrasher and ends up in really weird positions when he sleeps and sometimes gets himself sorta wedged into the corner and is not comfortable but he can't move...so he cries for help.  I also asked my pediatrician about him waking up all of the sudden and she also told me that some babies start having night terrors close to or around one year old.  And if that is the case...they need your comfort.  I guess I would just recomend letting the baby cry for a short amount of time...but also don't be afraid to go and make sure the baby is ok or comfort them if that's what they need!  

Stacy - posted on 03/12/2009

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my daughter , who is now 6 yrs old, did not sleep through the night until she was 4 1/2 yrs old. But, I learned, and I went through many a sleepless night for her, that she is a very sensative and strong willed person. She need extra comfort, but she also needed extra teaching. In other words she needed to know she was understood and safe. I see it much more clearly now that she is older. I am glad that I helped her through all of those nights. We are very close, despited my loss of sleep!! Believe me, I understand about loss of sleep!! Good luck!

Sara - posted on 03/12/2009

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dont feel bad my 11 month old still doesnt sleep the night...it will happen...eventually lol....my older son who is 27 months started sleeping the nights at 1 year old...good luck to you...

Lauren - posted on 03/12/2009

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hi i have twin boys my boys were great sleepers stept right through from 3 months.. i have heard of a semi hot water bottle in a pillow case and put under the sheeting of the cot dont forget babies still think of being in your tummy where its nice and warm. dont leave the hot water bottle in all night just enough for it to heat the bedding up.. then play soft music and see how that goes for you................ good luck...............

Samantha - posted on 03/12/2009

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My baby always slept through the night until he was about 6 months and then he started waking up for feedings. We figured it was just because he was growing so fast and we kept doing it. About 8 weeks later he was waking up six times a night and drinking about 18 oz. of formula. ( I wish so much that I could breast feed because I know it's so much better for babies but I have no choice because I had to have a surgery on my breasts 8 years ago before they figured out how to do it without distroying the tissue nessesary for breast feeding. So please don't judge me because of the formula. I REALLY have no other choice. ) Anyway, he was hardly eating during the day after a while. So someone suggested we stop feeding him at night time. I was worried but it turned out after the first night he didn't really need the food he just needed the comforting and ate like a champ the next day. My boy is really big so he could go 12 hours without eating and it won't hurt him. I have a friend with a tiny baby and for him it was dangerous and he lost too much weight so be careful and talk to your Dr if you're concerned. After that he only woke up 3 times a night. It's better but my problem is that once I wake up I can't go back to sleep. It's been two months since I've had more than 6 hours of sleep total and even that is only 2 hours at a time. The sleep deprivation is really taking it's toll on me. I feel like I'm not as good of a mom as I should be during the day because of it. This week I started trying the controled crying method and it's day five and he's still not sleeping through the night. His pattern was, a heavy meal, a bath, some soothing time, and to sleep by 9. Then up between 10 and 11, 12 and 1, 2 and 3, then up and fully awake between 5 and 6. Always the same.  Tonight he skipped the one between 12 and 1 and I got him to go back to sleep after 5. So I guess it's helping. I still can't sleep though. The crying only seems to make that aspect worse. I do feel like I'm letting him down if he cries more than 10 of 15 mins so sometimes I just go sit next to his bed and talk quietly to him but don't pick him up. He's cried up to an hour though and I give in and pick him up and rock him and he goes right to sleep. I have not tried the humidifier yet so I'll do that next. I don't know how to get him to sleep without rocking him though and that boy will stay up all night and sleep all day if I let him. I'm doing my best and just trying to get through it. I know he will grow out of it someday. But man it's hard!

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I believe that different tips work for different babies. My eldest wouldn't let me sleep at night too until I tried this: I used to let him 'nap' as much naturally in the day as he wanted. However, when 6pm rolled around, I would wake him gently and keep him awake till 10pm. Prepared his bath & last bottle at 9:30 and 9:50pm and he would sleep till 7am the next morning. Another thing, I would not wear perfume or talk on the telephone when giving him any bottle. Worked like a charm for me, give it a try.

Terry - posted on 03/12/2009

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maybe you should try feeding him/her some baby cereal with a bottle before you lay him/her down to sleep. It worked for me with my kids. They would sleep till at least 5:30 - 6:00 in the morning.

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I agree with Diana Rumsley.  When my kids were that young I had to force myself to just let them cry, especially since they weren't waking up because they were hungry.  It made for a few unbearable nights, but after a few days they realized mommy and daddy weren't coming and we never had that problem again.  And don't worry, they will still love you in the morning!

Sue - posted on 03/12/2009

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It's ok for your 7 month old to be still waking through the night, are you still feeding him when he does wake? If so, this is why he is waking. He's getting a cuddle, a feed and some company. he may still need to be feeding so I don't think you should stress too much, he is still very young.

Once you decide to stop the night feed and want him to sleep through, the only thing I found worked was control crying. It takes 3 nights and by the 4th they are generally sleeping through. Night 1, go in when they wake, tuck back in and leave, they will scream for up to an hour (my son did!).Night 2, don't go in at all when they wake, they will scream for 45 mins. Night 3, don't go in at all, they will scream for 30 mins. Night 4 they should sleep through. This worked for me and many mums I know. It is a VERY difficult 3 nights but you have to break their pattern and they need to learn to resettle themselves. Everyone wakes during the night but we know how to put ourselves back to sleep, your baby doesn't know how to do this yet so you need to train them. I did this with my son at 9 months. Good luck

Marcelee - posted on 03/11/2009

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Hi my first child didn't sleep through until 18mths and my second slept through from 10-16wks and then stopped (and she is an angel baby). She will be 1 in April and still wants to be feed at least once a night. Depends how long you are up for in the night and if it is too much of a hassle. All the best...........

Fatimah - posted on 03/11/2009

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If you could get yor baby on a routine and keep it, it helps so much? Try giving him a bath with J&J sleepy time then a bottle with some rice cereal then rock him/ her to sleep. Try it at the same time everynight and see... But some babies just win't sleep throughtout the night until they r older

Amanda - posted on 03/11/2009

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Just hang in there.. he eventually will. If you REALLY need a break, see if you can get a grandparent to watch the baby. Or tell your husband to!

Christle - posted on 03/11/2009

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Do you feed your baby oatmeal yet? I have 4 kids and I would feed them oatmeal before bed time and that kept their bellie's more full and satisfied and they started sleeping through the night for me without waking up. I would time it close to bed time though.

Becky - posted on 03/11/2009

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Get anything that Elizabeth Pantley writes about helping kids sleep. She saved my life when mine was about 9 mths. I got a book called "The No Cry Sleep Solution for Babies and Toddlers". My was sleeping through the night in less than a week. But you have to follow what she says exactly.

Michelle - posted on 03/11/2009

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I used to rub my babies' feet and legs til they drifted off, then their backs a little. Just made certain that they were completely relaxed when they finally fell asleep. Good Luck!

Carol - posted on 03/11/2009

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Hang in there, My boy (now 2 1/2) didn't sleep through till I went back to work (at 7mths) but still would wake for a bottle at around midnight which dad would do b4 coming to bed until he was 10mths. but now at 2 1/2yrs he sleeps 12hrs from 1930hrs til 730hrs (still a little early for dad but thats men for you!!!)

Andrea - posted on 03/11/2009

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I think routine is very important. Be consistent. My pediatrician gave me the best advice. He told me to never "rock" my son to sleep and then put him in his crib. He told me that kids put to sleep this way wake up and are unfamiliar with their surroundings and have trouble learning to self soothe. He recommended placing him in the crib when he was awake, but drowsy, that way he would be familiar with his environment and learn how to fall asleep himself. When they awaken later in the night, they will remember that they are safe in their crib and will fall back asleep on their own. We did this and my son has slept through the night since 2 1/2 months. Good luck!

Barbara - posted on 03/11/2009

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I agree, routine is KING! My son is autistic and didn't sleep through the night until he was 6 years old, so rest assured your little one won't be that bad! The best thing I could do was give him a feed and choose a nice restful piece of music or even run the vacuum around for a couple of minutes. If all else fails, take him out for a little walk around the block - I had a baby sling and it was a godsend while he was little.

Laura - posted on 03/11/2009

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My daughter didn't sleep through the night until she was a year old. Now she's almost 4 and I now have to get up with her at night to use the potty (to heavy of a sleeper to go on her own, just enought to call for me)



Some kids I just think aren't as good sleepers. My LO would wake up more out of habit to nurse and fall right back to sleep. No crying or fighting sleep. I just dealt with it until it passed. Seems so long ago. I don't think CIO is such a horrible thing but personally I couldn't do it. All things pass eventually.

Tania - posted on 03/11/2009

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my 20 month old still dont sleep through the night so if you hear of any ideas let me know as well xxx

Ghazala - posted on 03/11/2009

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Keep a separate room for your child where you take him/her only at night. Keep the lights off and try to give the same environment daily. Soon he will be condiotioned to the sleeping environment.

Sara - posted on 03/11/2009

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Hi, I have read a few books including "The no cry sleep Solution" (which I found not useful at all!). I have chosen not to use controlled crying/crying it out method, as I dont beleive it is good for my babies well being - he's crying for a reason. I did, however read a really useful book called "Save Our Sleep" by Tizzie Hall, which has been a god send. Right from day one I fed my son on a flexible feeding routine, ensuring that I started the first feed and last feed of the day at exactly the same time (despite what time he woke for a feed in the early hours of the morning). Eventually he began to stretch his feeds out, and from that point on if he woke early than his "best time", I would spend a little time re-settling him rather than to feed him (we used wrapping and a dummy), I found each night he woke later and later, and now sleeps 7pm to 7am with a roll over feed at 10.00pm at 5 months old. If you automatically feed your baby when he wakes in the middle of the night, he will become accustomed to getting a feed at that time every night, and so will keep waking for that feed until you can help him break that cycle - he may not even be hungry, and may be struggling to move through a light sleep cycle. If he is definitely hungry, after tring to re-settle a few times and it not working, I would definitely feed him and try again the next night, eventually when he is ready he will re-settle without a feed.  You haven't mentioned whether your baby is waking for a feed? I'm assuming that he is, but apologies if I'm rambling on about something that isn't relevant to you anyway! This method helped me and many other mums that I know, so I really believe that feeding baby on a routine helps them sleep through the night - I wasn't as strict as the book suggests, I adjusted feeds if he was hungrier on some days, I think the most important thing was making sure you kick start the day with his/her first feed at the same time every day. Hope I've helped you out a little, it must be so exhausting for you, it will get better.

Keyonna - posted on 03/11/2009

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Quoting Roula:

my 7 month old will not sleep through the night HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!




my 1 year old still want sleep all night

Melissa - posted on 03/11/2009

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If you are interested there is a book called "The No Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantley. It has lots of great ideas in helping your babies and toddlers learn to sleep through the night. It has a lot of very gentle and progressive ideas that don't involve the Cry It Out method. I think that with some kids there comes a time to do the CIO, but 7 months seems so little still.

Melissa - posted on 03/11/2009

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Very few babies sleep through the night, like parents want them too. I think that technically Doctors consider it "sleeping through the night", like 5-7 hours. Most of us would love for our kiddos to sleep a full 10-12 hours. Very few are that lucky!



My 19 month and my 3 year-old neither one make it a full night without waking up at least once. Just remember that they will sleep through the night someday. I don't think there are many teenagers waking up their parents to come in rock them to sleep. :)



I will say that a really consistent bedtime routine did help a lot for both my kids. Also keeping their rooms dark and cool. A white noise machine does wonders too. 



GOOD LUCK!!

Barb - posted on 03/11/2009

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CIO is a personal choice.  But I can honestly say I did it with all 3 of my daughters and they are very well rounded and happy girls.  And they still to this day are great sleepers and rarely get out of bed.  I believe they need to learn to self south and this helps them to do so.

Sara - posted on 03/11/2009

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Quoting Tamara:



Quoting Elizabeth:

I feel you. Been there, my eldest son slespt through the night at 3 months! However my younger son was 1 year old and still didn't sleep through the night. It did not help that his father would jump as soon as the baby cried. Speak to your doctor, he will advise you that, as hard as it may be, you have to let your baby cry and he will get used to sleeping through the night. Just make sure he is not hungry, clean diaper, and healthy. Other than that, we have to let them cry and know that they will not be picked up. That is all they want, to be picked up and cuddled, or bought to your bed. As long as the baby knows that someone will pick him up if he cries at night, he won't sleep through the night.
Good luck





With all due respect, babies cry because something is amiss.  It's their only way to communicate.  By leaving a baby to cry and not comforting him/her, you send the message that their needs are not important.






 






If you look over at http://www.kellymom.com/parenting/sleep/... you will see that it is not only NORMAL but biologically built in for children 2 and under to wake frequently in the night.  There's no need not to comfort and cuddle your child in the middle of the night.  Parenting doesn't stop just because its bedtime.





With all due respect to you Tamara, because I have talked with you on other threads and think you have a lot of good things to say, i don't think anybody is saying that if you chose to follow a method where you let your kid cry that you stop parenting at bedtime.  That's just not true.  My daughter self soothes at night, but if she's fussy, i go in and check on her.  I believe that the progressive waiting approach method worked for me and my baby, and it didn't include putting her to bed right at 7, closing the door and forgetting about her until the next morning while I ate bon-bons and caught up on my TV watching.  It's wrong to imply that I quit parenting she goes to sleep and I find it offensive as a mother that deeply loves my child.  What works for one person doesn't always work for someone else, bottom line.  I don't think anyone should do something they are not comfortable with.  But I do agree with you that waking is biologically normal for a child under 2, they have sleep cycles just like the rest of us do.  But i also think we can instill bad habits in ourselves and our children where when they wake a little in a sleep cycle and haven't been given the tools to learn to put themselves back to sleep, that's going to interrupt your sleep and theirs, and we all know how important sleep is for a child.  But, as i said, I have a lot of respect for the opinions you share on here, I just think you need to give some of us other moms a little more credit.  Just because we do it differently than you doesn't mean it's wrong and doesn't mean we aren't parents 24/7.  :)

Bev - posted on 03/11/2009

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My middle daughter on slept for 1 hour every 24 till she was about 6 months then bliss................ she slept for 3! this carried on till she started playschoool. We tried everything the doctor even wanted to prescribe sleeping medication but we refused. we finally found out she was lactose intolerant, and orange of any sort made her hyperactive. She was also on ventolin syrup which is know for making children hyperactive. Once we got these things sorted her sleep pattern slowly improved........... now we have difficulty in getting her out of bed lol. She is now and active healthy 24 year old.

Tanya - posted on 03/11/2009

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My son started sleeping through the night at 6 months, my daughter was 3 weeks old.  I think it just depends on the baby.  I used to give my son a little bit of pablum an hour before bed and if he woke during the night he would only get a bottle of water. I would still get up with him to rock him and cuddle but he would only get water at night. He soon figured out he would rather sleep than only get water....worked like a charm. It took about 2 weeks until he slept 12 hours through the night after that.  Good luck!

Petro - posted on 03/11/2009

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Wow - you've certainly received a huge number of replies - it must be difficult to decide which advice to follow. My daughter is 7 months old and has ben sleeping through from 8 weeks - by sleeping through I mean she sleeps from 20:30 through to 4:30 in the morning. I found that keeping a routine is very important - I try to put her to bed at the same time every night and also I found that giving her a bath about 20 minutes before bedtime relaxes her and she falls asleep faster. And if your baby wakes up during the night don't switch on the lights - use a nightlight or switch on the lights in an adjoining room iof necessary. Also it's important that you get some rest - if possible sleep when he sleeps even if it is during the day. Hope it helps

Tamara - posted on 03/11/2009

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Quoting Elizabeth:

I feel you. Been there, my eldest son slespt through the night at 3 months! However my younger son was 1 year old and still didn't sleep through the night. It did not help that his father would jump as soon as the baby cried. Speak to your doctor, he will advise you that, as hard as it may be, you have to let your baby cry and he will get used to sleeping through the night. Just make sure he is not hungry, clean diaper, and healthy. Other than that, we have to let them cry and know that they will not be picked up. That is all they want, to be picked up and cuddled, or bought to your bed. As long as the baby knows that someone will pick him up if he cries at night, he won't sleep through the night.
Good luck


With all due respect, babies cry because something is amiss.  It's their only way to communicate.  By leaving a baby to cry and not comforting him/her, you send the message that their needs are not important.



 



If you look over at http://www.kellymom.com/parenting/sleep/... you will see that it is not only NORMAL but biologically built in for children 2 and under to wake frequently in the night.  There's no need not to comfort and cuddle your child in the middle of the night.  Parenting doesn't stop just because its bedtime.

Elizabeth - posted on 03/11/2009

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I feel you. Been there, my eldest son slespt through the night at 3 months! However my younger son was 1 year old and still didn't sleep through the night. It did not help that his father would jump as soon as the baby cried. Speak to your doctor, he will advise you that, as hard as it may be, you have to let your baby cry and he will get used to sleeping through the night. Just make sure he is not hungry, clean diaper, and healthy. Other than that, we have to let them cry and know that they will not be picked up. That is all they want, to be picked up and cuddled, or bought to your bed. As long as the baby knows that someone will pick him up if he cries at night, he won't sleep through the night.

Good luck

Nicole - posted on 03/11/2009

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I know you you feel my son never selpt ! but there came a time where i had to just let him cry all night even though it was very hard to listen to them and you want to go comfert you cant . He is crying because he is waiting for you to come because its rutin for him now. that was the prob. with my son. so for three night i just let him cry threw the night i still did not get much sleep but it was worth it and now he sleeps all night!

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As a Grandmother I can tell you this for sure, he will not be 7 months for long. Let him know you are there, no matter what. Someday very soon he will not need you nearly as much. Enjoy him while he is little, even if it is in the middle of the night.

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The baby sleep solution : a proven program to teach your baby to sleep twelve hours a night / by Suzy Giordano with Lisa Abidin
I'm trying it right now with my 5 month old and if anything it has given me and her more understanding of each other. Routine, not Schedule....do you eat at certain times? Yes, so we should help teach our babies to eat on a routine and sleep on a routine.
By the way, I don't see how crying possibly teaches a baby to soothe themselves.....repetition is what teaches them.

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AMEN! Go with your gut, honey! Natural parenting didn't ever kill anybody and you are an amazing mommy with amazing capabilities! You do what is best for you and baby! and Holly is right-"this too shall pass^_^"

Holly - posted on 03/10/2009

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oh yes and medically speaking, for most dr's "sleeping through the night" is a FIVE hour stretch. thats it. so if you are getting that be happy;-)

as joy said there is a difference between fussing and screaming. i do not mind some complaining (fussing) but i cant see it beneficial to "screaming at the top of my lungs i am gonna throw up" scream.

I have to respectfully disagree with someone saying that by not letting them cry it out you are letting the tail wag the dog, because if you knew us you would know that is so not our case. our kiddos are well behaved and mannered, and we do run a pretty tight ship.

But in the end, whatever you do, do it because it works for your family, not because someone told you to do it. What works for Sara, bob, bill and missy might not always work for everyone.
And above all, remember that it isnt going to last forever!!!! They will grow up and most certainly sleep through the night, so while it is exhausting and frustrating at times, remember it will be done sooner than later!!

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I forgot - another thing I started doing was feeding him more often during the day and making his last meal a little later and making sure it includes cereal. I thought he might just be growing and needing more food. Not sure if that was really it, but he did go back to sleeping thru.

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