My 8 year old thinks that she needs a bra..... What to do?

Jessica - posted on 09/09/2009 ( 50 moms have responded )

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My 8 year old just started wearing deorderant, lets face it she is active and I think that she could use it. But when we went school shopping she says that she needed a bra.....What to do? My baby is getting older! She has what looks like to me is little bumps that pertrud from her shirt but nothing a shirt with a bra in it would be just fine....I do not want my baby to grow up so fast nor do I want her to have boods at 9 or 10!!! she is all excited about it, but I am not so sure....HELP WITH ANY THOUGHTS ON THIS WOULD BE APPRECIATED!!

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Ah, I remember those days. I couldn't wait to get a bra (from a family of large breasted women and I was never that lucky :P). I say let her get one. Just remember to talk positively about self esteem and that breasts don't make a person, what is on the inside does. Promoting a healthy body image is important, so sometimes getting a bra can help (I wanted boobs so bad and was ashamed that I didn't have any and my one sister hated her boobs because she thought they were too big and was embarrassed about her body). Our my mom talked to us about how we are all made different, but beautiful. She also let us pick out our own undergarments and so we became a bit more confident. This can be a great moment for you both. It can also help her grow into a confident woman. Good luck.

Vic - posted on 09/14/2009

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Yep I agree with alot of these mums : ) go the sports bra/ crop top type thing...

or My daughter has the singlets with the built in shelf bra thingy : )

Julia - posted on 09/11/2009

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I think girls have alot of peer pressure from friends at an earlier age these days. They do have bras for girls who are not yet developed. I think you should buy her one, she will indeed need one later in life and if she feels comfortable talking to you at such an early age about this, just think of the relationship you can have when she is a teenager. : )

Lindsay - posted on 09/10/2009

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I agree with these ladies. As much as we want our kids to stay little, it's better to do this when she's ready and not when Mom's ready! The sports bras are all she really needs for now and as they begin to grow, you can ease into a little more mature bra. Just make it comfortable for her so she will continue to feel open about about things in the future! Good luck!! =)

Patti - posted on 09/10/2009

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I have 15 year old and 18 year old girls.The little bumps are breast buds and they are often tender. If she feels uncomfortable or self conscious, get her a bra. A sports style is best.They come in lots of cool colors. Don't take dad along...make a girls day out thing. it is a rite of passage. Once we got a couple of bras my girls wore them sometimes and sometimes did not. it wasn't until 10 or 12 that it became necessary and a regular thing. She may decide that she hates it and give up the notion. Just don't start with the sexy underwires and thong undies!

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Mray D.R - posted on 09/03/2011

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Date: Sat, 28 May 2011 02:19:42 -0700


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Banish the Bra?

No longer just hidden under shirts, Victoria's Secret brought the bra out into the open, making it a real fashion statement.

But could a woman's bra actually be dangerous to her health?

"Our research has shown that the bras issue, we believe is the leading cause of breast cancer", said Sydney Ross Singer, who wrote a book about what he believes is a link between breast cancer and bras.Ther Know Laws Say Women Wear A Bra They Can Go Bralesss All The Time Women White To,.:?

"In fact to look at breast disease and ignore bras is like looking at foot disease and ignoring tight shoes," said Singer.

Singer's center conducted a study involving five thousand American bank in the 1960 American cancer smoking did course cancer. in they say seaming about bra wear at same time 1960 of the hipper monuments that way the hipper women when braless ,.? at that time four all women. bra give you haertacate backbone cancer. healther to go braless all the time,.they found out.

They looked at past behavior, including how tight the bras were and how long the women wore them. Here's what they found:

Women who wore a bra for 24 hours a day, had a 3 out of 4 chance of developing breast cancer.

If a bra is worn 12 hours a day, there was a 1 in 7 risk.

And women who didn't wear a bra had about the same rate of developing breast cancer as a man.

"So what's happening with the bra is that women are preventing the proper flushing of fluid and toxins out of their breasts," said Singer.

Singer claims a bra is too constricting, interfering with the body's lymphatic system.

This causes toxins to build up, eventually causing cancer.

"If you get rid of the bra, your breasts will finally be able to flush out the fluid," said Singer.

But mainstream medical doctors dismiss the study.

"There's no evidence in any of the world research data that I'm aware of that supports the fact that breast cancer risk is increased by wearing a bra or a bra that's too tight," said Dr. Ermilo Barrera of the American Cancer Society.

Dr. Barrera says women should get mammograms to reduce risk factors and not worry about their bras.

"Watch their weight, exercise, drink only in moderation and don't smoke," said Doctor Hussein.

Doctor Atif Hussein, Medical Director at the Memorial Cancer Institute calls the bra study interesting, but said, "it really is hard to tell you wearing the bra in itself was the contributing factor."

He says it's not the bra, but the risk factors of the women who wear them that is the deciding factor.

"Women who may be overweight tend to wear bras, therefore I would say the factors that contributed to those women wearing the bra contributed to their high risk rather than the bra itself," said Doctor Hussein. He said the issue should be studied more.

But despite criticism from the medical community, Singer is sticking to his mission saying, "there's absolutely nothing good about bras, it's completely a fashion accessory."

He is encouraging women to banish their bras for better health, saying, "We live in a culture where women feel insecure with a natural bust line, but if the price of fashion is disease, then you have to decide whether you want to participate in that or not."

Singer is now studying women who go bra-free to find out if they have lower rates of breast cancer.

Sorboni Banerjee, 7News.

(Copyright 2008 Sunbeam Television. All Rights Reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten, or redistributed.)

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Banish the Bra?
No longer just hidden under shirts, Victoria's Secret brought the bra out into the open, making it a real fashion statement.
But could a woman's bra actually be dangerous to her health?
"Our research has shown that the bras issue, we believe is the leading cause of breast cancer", said Sydney Ross Singer, who wrote a book about what he believes is a link between breast cancer and bras.
"In fact to look at breast disease and ignore bras is like looking at foot disease and ignoring tight shoes," said Singer.
Singer's center conducted a study involving five thousand American women, half had breast cancer.
They looked at past behavior, including how tight the bras were and how long the women wore them. Here's what they found:
Women who wore a bra for 24 hours a day, had a 3 out of 4 chance of developing breast cancer.
If a bra is worn 12 hours a day, there was a 1 in 7 risk.
And women who didn't wear a bra had about the same rate of developing breast cancer as a man.
"So what's happening with the bra is that women are preventing the proper flushing of fluid and toxins out of their breasts," said Singer.
Singer claims a bra is too constricting, interfering with the body's lymphatic system.
This causes toxins to build up, eventually causing cancer.
"If you get rid of the bra, your breasts will finally be able to flush out the fluid," said Singer.
But mainstream medical doctors dismiss the study.
"There's no evidence in any of the world research data that I'm aware of that supports the fact that breast cancer risk is increased by wearing a bra or a bra that's too tight," said Dr. Ermilo Barrera of the American Cancer Society.
Dr. Barrera says women should get mammograms to reduce risk factors and not worry about their bras.
"Watch their weight, exercise, drink only in moderation and don't smoke," said Doctor Hussein.
Doctor Atif Hussein, Medical Director at the Memorial Cancer Institute calls the bra study interesting, but said, "it really is hard to tell you wearing the bra in itself was the contributing factor."
He says it's not the bra, but the risk factors of the women who wear them that is the deciding factor.
"Women who may be overweight tend to wear bras, therefore I would say the factors that contributed to those women wearing the bra contributed to their high risk rather than the bra itself," said Doctor Hussein. He said the issue should be studied more.
But despite criticism from the medical community, Singer is sticking to his mission saying, "there's absolutely nothing good about bras, it's completely a fashion accessory."
He is encouraging women to banish their bras for better health, saying, "We live in a culture where women feel insecure with a natural bust line, but if the price of fashion is disease, then you have to decide whether you want to participate in that or not."
Singer is now studying women who go bra-free to find out if they have lower rates of breast cancer.
Sorboni Banerjee, 7News.
(Copyright 2008 Sunbeam Television. All Rights Reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten, or redistributed.)



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Mray D.R - posted on 09/03/2011

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Date: Sat, 28 May 2011 02:19:42 -0700


Special Report

Email this article to a friend Watch the video

Banish the Bra?

No longer just hidden under shirts, Victoria's Secret brought the bra out into the open, making it a real fashion statement.

But could a woman's bra actually be dangerous to her health?

"Our research has shown that the bras issue, we believe is the leading cause of breast cancer", said Sydney Ross Singer, who wrote a book about what he believes is a link between breast cancer and bras.Ther Know Laws Say Women Wear A Bra They Can Go Bralesss All The Time Women White To,.:?

"In fact to look at breast disease and ignore bras is like looking at foot disease and ignoring tight shoes," said Singer.

Singer's center conducted a study involving five thousand American bank in the 1960 American cancer smoking did course cancer. in they say seaming about bra wear at same time 1960 of the hipper monuments that way the hipper women when braless ,.? at that time four all women. bra give you haertacate backbone cancer. healther to go braless all the time,.they found out.

They looked at past behavior, including how tight the bras were and how long the women wore them. Here's what they found:

Women who wore a bra for 24 hours a day, had a 3 out of 4 chance of developing breast cancer.

If a bra is worn 12 hours a day, there was a 1 in 7 risk.

And women who didn't wear a bra had about the same rate of developing breast cancer as a man.

"So what's happening with the bra is that women are preventing the proper flushing of fluid and toxins out of their breasts," said Singer.

Singer claims a bra is too constricting, interfering with the body's lymphatic system.

This causes toxins to build up, eventually causing cancer.

"If you get rid of the bra, your breasts will finally be able to flush out the fluid," said Singer.

But mainstream medical doctors dismiss the study.

"There's no evidence in any of the world research data that I'm aware of that supports the fact that breast cancer risk is increased by wearing a bra or a bra that's too tight," said Dr. Ermilo Barrera of the American Cancer Society.

Dr. Barrera says women should get mammograms to reduce risk factors and not worry about their bras.

"Watch their weight, exercise, drink only in moderation and don't smoke," said Doctor Hussein.

Doctor Atif Hussein, Medical Director at the Memorial Cancer Institute calls the bra study interesting, but said, "it really is hard to tell you wearing the bra in itself was the contributing factor."

He says it's not the bra, but the risk factors of the women who wear them that is the deciding factor.

"Women who may be overweight tend to wear bras, therefore I would say the factors that contributed to those women wearing the bra contributed to their high risk rather than the bra itself," said Doctor Hussein. He said the issue should be studied more.

But despite criticism from the medical community, Singer is sticking to his mission saying, "there's absolutely nothing good about bras, it's completely a fashion accessory."

He is encouraging women to banish their bras for better health, saying, "We live in a culture where women feel insecure with a natural bust line, but if the price of fashion is disease, then you have to decide whether you want to participate in that or not."

Singer is now studying women who go bra-free to find out if they have lower rates of breast cancer.

Sorboni Banerjee, 7News.

(Copyright 2008 Sunbeam Television. All Rights Reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten, or redistributed.)

issue is all women should go braless all the time.


New England News Special Report Email this article to a friend Watch the video

Banish the Bra?
No longer just hidden under shirts, Victoria's Secret brought the bra out into the open, making it a real fashion statement.
But could a woman's bra actually be dangerous to her health?
"Our research has shown that the bras issue, we believe is the leading cause of breast cancer", said Sydney Ross Singer, who wrote a book about what he believes is a link between breast cancer and bras.
"In fact to look at breast disease and ignore bras is like looking at foot disease and ignoring tight shoes," said Singer.
Singer's center conducted a study involving five thousand American women, half had breast cancer.
They looked at past behavior, including how tight the bras were and how long the women wore them. Here's what they found:
Women who wore a bra for 24 hours a day, had a 3 out of 4 chance of developing breast cancer.
If a bra is worn 12 hours a day, there was a 1 in 7 risk.
And women who didn't wear a bra had about the same rate of developing breast cancer as a man.
"So what's happening with the bra is that women are preventing the proper flushing of fluid and toxins out of their breasts," said Singer.
Singer claims a bra is too constricting, interfering with the body's lymphatic system.
This causes toxins to build up, eventually causing cancer.
"If you get rid of the bra, your breasts will finally be able to flush out the fluid," said Singer.
But mainstream medical doctors dismiss the study.
"There's no evidence in any of the world research data that I'm aware of that supports the fact that breast cancer risk is increased by wearing a bra or a bra that's too tight," said Dr. Ermilo Barrera of the American Cancer Society.
Dr. Barrera says women should get mammograms to reduce risk factors and not worry about their bras.
"Watch their weight, exercise, drink only in moderation and don't smoke," said Doctor Hussein.
Doctor Atif Hussein, Medical Director at the Memorial Cancer Institute calls the bra study interesting, but said, "it really is hard to tell you wearing the bra in itself was the contributing factor."
He says it's not the bra, but the risk factors of the women who wear them that is the deciding factor.
"Women who may be overweight tend to wear bras, therefore I would say the factors that contributed to those women wearing the bra contributed to their high risk rather than the bra itself," said Doctor Hussein. He said the issue should be studied more.
But despite criticism from the medical community, Singer is sticking to his mission saying, "there's absolutely nothing good about bras, it's completely a fashion accessory."
He is encouraging women to banish their bras for better health, saying, "We live in a culture where women feel insecure with a natural bust line, but if the price of fashion is disease, then you have to decide whether you want to participate in that or not."
Singer is now studying women who go bra-free to find out if they have lower rates of breast cancer.
Sorboni Banerjee, 7News.
(Copyright 2008 Sunbeam Television. All Rights Reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten, or redistributed.)



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Tiana - posted on 09/21/2009

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My daughter went through this years ago they had under roos .. with the wonder woman and characters well now they still have little training bra type things buy those they are fine and she is going to grow up at the rate she is going to grow up you can't stop it just be supportive!

Samantha - posted on 09/21/2009

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If she has buds she's probably ready for a training bra, my daughter had to have something at the age of 8, we started with camisoles and worked our way up to nearly A bras for teens so she would be comfortable with what she was wearing. Her dad still isn't comfortable but that's dad's problem. She's modest and I really am proud of that, too many girls today try to dress trashy and in a suggestive manner. If she wants a bra difinitely buy her one, just make sure it fits properly so that she will wear one when she REALLY NEEDS IT. Good Luck.

Adella - posted on 09/21/2009

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They make small training bra's. You may not be in a hurry for her to grow up, but a bra will not hurt. My daughter was about the same age when we took a trip to Penny's and got her a bra. It didn't really serve any purpose except make her feel like a big girl. If anything it got her into the habit of wearing one.

Lisa - posted on 09/21/2009

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I can relate to how you feel about your baby 'growing up’… although my daughter is still only 4 years old, I marvel at every milestone she reaches and feel like she's growing up too fast for my own comfort (she's not even considered a toddler anymore, but it seems like just a week ago she was learning to walk).
But anyways, back to the subject at hand, I can also relate to your daughter, when I was about her age (I had absolutely nothing to put inside of a bra) all of my friends were in bras already, so I felt I should have one too. So, on a back to school shopping trip I told my Mom that I needed a bra, she laughed and said that I was too young and didn’t need one, yet... at the store (in front of her) I just pouted, but I still remember when we got home I cried myself to sleep. I ended up stealing a training bra the next week.
The important thing to know is to make them feel comfortable in what they consider their important milestones and making the milestones seem just as important to you as it is to them. Try a compromise and buy her a training bra, nothing fancy with lace or wiring or padding, just a basic bra with clasps.

Venessa - posted on 09/19/2009

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She is growing up and sees the little bumps herself and feels it is time. Make a day of it. buy those sports brawl for little girls and explain that the bras' come in stages. As she grows they will to. Share the time and milestone with her, she will be buying her own bra before you know it. Enjoy her now.

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I agree just buy her a training bra. If it boosts her confidence and makes her feel good about herself then let her wear one! It's just a natural process of growing up and she is looking to you for trust and guidance at this point so just smile and say ok which one would you like girlfriend. She is at the age now where you want to cement the bonding stage so she will always come to you for advice and guidance!

Allie - posted on 09/19/2009

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When I was 8, my mother noticed that I was coming to the point that I would need one in the next year or so, so she took me shoping for a training bra. I think hanes has them at walmart. Its like a tube top with straps. All you need is your daughters number (30,32,34) and that will help her know what it feels like having to wear one and get the idea of what she will be wearing in the future.

Christina - posted on 09/19/2009

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I THINK YOU SHOULD MAYBE GIVE HER A TRAINING BRA. IF SHE HAS "LITTLE BUMPS"..ITS TIME TO TEACH HER THE WAYS OF A YOUNG LADY...AND OF COURSE ITS SCARY AND NEW BUT SHE CAN'T BE A BABY FOREVER.

Kelly Steingraber - posted on 09/17/2009

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It was a hard thing for me, but when my daughter was 8 she wanted a bra too. She didn't need one, but I bought her one anyway.

Christy - posted on 09/16/2009

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My daughter got her first bra at 9, she had just the bumps. I didnt get my first bra till I was 12, but nobody had them back then, and nobody said anything about your "bumps" because they had them too. Not the girls just seem to develope early and so it becomes an embarrassing to be the only one without a bra. I am just all about what makes them comfortable. But I am fighting the shaving the leg thing now, shes in 6th grade and really wants to shave them but I am trying hard to wait until junior high for that. Maybe I am wrong.

Christina - posted on 09/16/2009

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NO MOTHER WANTS TOO SEE THERE BABY GROW UP,, BUT TRUTH IS YOU CANT HOLD BACK THE HANDS OF TIME IN OTHER WORDS YOU CAN NOT KEEP THEM FROM GROWING AND IF THERE IS KNOTS THERE ITS TIME FOR A TRAINING BRA....... YOU NO RESEARCH SAYS THE REASON WHY TODAYS KIDS DEVOLOP SO MUCH FASTER THAN WE DID ITS GOT ALOT TOO DO WITH EGGS,,,THATS RIGHT EGGS ALL THE STERIODS THEY GIVE CHICKENS ARE MAKING ARE BABIES DEVOLOPE FASTER THAN WE DID...

Paula - posted on 09/16/2009

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Jessica,
Perhaps peer pressure has something to do with your daughter's request for a bra. I strongly recommend that you teach her now that "just because everyone else is doing it do not make it the best choice for her". I suggest you have her wait until she develops breasts before buying her a bra. The do make undershirts for little girls that work much better. Wearing a bra gets old and tiresome after a while.
You might want to check with medical professionals about deodorants. Do read the labels on deodorants. Some of the chemicals in deordorants may have an adverse affects on young children.
Sometimes, moms just have to say "no" and teach their daughters to wait. Children do grow up much too fast. There is a book about this subject. All Grown Up and No Place to Go
I know first hand being a mom with girls gets more and more difficult as they get older. ( I have two precious daughters)
I will say a prayer for you and your daughter.
Paula

Kelly - posted on 09/14/2009

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she has breast buds and when they are protruding from her shirt she might get embarrassed. Just get her one of those little $3 daisy brand bras. they have a front enclosure so it is easy to use. you can even buy little pull on sports bras or half undershirts with kid designs if it makes you feel better.
If she feels she really needs one than take her shopping for a couple. make it a special time for the two of you. girls are maturing younger and younger with each generation due to numerous factors. I was 11 when I got my first bra and I had to buy it alone without my mom. Don't make her do that because it will only make her feel embarrassed and ashamed of her womanhood.

Melody - posted on 09/14/2009

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I don't feel it's too early. My eight year old has been wearing a bra for a year now. My oldest daughter wore her's at a early age. Had a friend who waited then couldn't get her daughter to wear one when she really need one. So I say if she wish to have one and you are ok with it go for.

Salenia - posted on 09/12/2009

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My oldest daughter wants to be like mommy and wear a bra. She started this around 5 years old. I bought her the sports bra type in a few color's and some cartoon ones. Unfortunatley, it's part of having girls.

Sherry - posted on 09/12/2009

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My daughter did the same thing when she was 9 yrs old. I bought her sports bras! She felt better and older and i felt like she wasn't growing up too fast!!

Bri - posted on 09/11/2009

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We got our daughter who is now 13 a crop top/wireless type bra and she has been wearing them since she was about six.

Heidi - posted on 09/11/2009

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I think with kids today we really need to be careful and choose our battles wisely. All a bra is another undergarment. Its just like wearing a built in tank without needing the built in!

Stefanie - posted on 09/11/2009

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Get her the bra. If she is developing then her breast buds (the proper term for developing nipples) will be sore rubbing against a shirt. If she is asking for one and is excited then I would take it as a bonding moment between you and her. If you don't she may not talk to you about such sensitive subjects in the future.

Jan - posted on 09/11/2009

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I started developing at 8. But didn't get a bra till I was 12 and then I stuffed sox into the cups! Now I'm in my 50s and can't wait to get the stupid bra off when I come home from work! If we could only tell these kids how uncomfortable they are! I don't see a problem with a training bra. Sometimes little girls' nipples do show through tight shirts so it could actually help her with modesty. But please, moms, draw the line at make-up and Brittany Spears clothes! Adolescent boys have a very hard time controlling their hormone rages!

Valerie - posted on 09/11/2009

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Start with camials with built in "bras" there are also little thin "training bras" but I not sure if you can get them small enough. These bras and tops do not come in cup sizes, just stretch material with elastic at the bottom.

Jessica - posted on 09/11/2009

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I remember when I was about that age. I didn't need one but my best friend did. So of course I had to have one. I wanted one that was as real as possible. I made my mom get me one that had the hooks in the back and everything. It was as small as they come. lol. I would get her a bra to help her celebrate growing up. It's a stage that we all go through. You never know how fast she will develop. If not anything you will get to spend some one on one time with her while checking them out in stores.

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i have two daughters, one needs a bra and the other one doesnt, my youngest at 11 was with us when we bought a new bra for my oldest daughter at 14. I spoke to the sales assistant who was very helpful and expertly steered my 11 year old toward something that was suitable for her. She now has a lovely training bra that neither accentuates nor diminishes her figure as it's more like a cropped top with a fastener at the back, she wears it when she feels like it as the novelty soon wore off. My advice to you is to use the sales assistant in the store, thats what they're there for ... good luck

Denise - posted on 09/11/2009

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my daughter was around 7 or 8 when she started wanting one.. i bought her those little training bra and panty sets that look kinda like tank tops.. and she was happy. she also got her bumps between 10 and 11. and started her period by the time she was 11. unfortunately it seem like they grow up faster now than when we were kids. like others have said though just share this with her.. it just a part of growing up.. and if she is already getting bumps her period probably wont be far behind i would even start talking to her about that to so she wont be afraid when it does start. hope this helps.. my daughter is 20 and grown and has a son now so been through all the puberty stuff. its hard watchin them grow up..

Tina - posted on 09/11/2009

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My daughter is 13 and I have also been through the same thing.You see kids now days get teased at school as soon as they start getting"little bumps". I think that it is silly,but that is society today. I am like you & don't want my children to grow up too fast. I made my daughter wait until she was about 91/2 before I gave in & got her training bras.(now she will be 13 on Monday and she is in a 34B!)She also had the big change when she was 11! You should decide by how your body progressed when you were younger.It's scary,but let's face it,There's NO stopping it!!!!! Good Luck!

Shelly - posted on 09/11/2009

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Hi,my daughter is also 8 and seems to be developing to early as well. I purchased her some undershirts with spaghetti straps and she seemed satisfied. As did I.
I developed early too, but did not get a bra til I was 10....hope that helps.

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I'm in the same sitution, but the difference is my daughter is 7. She has been wearing deorderant since she was 5, and know has some pertuding from her shirt. I just started taking things as they come my way. But they do grow up, and it seems faster then when we were their age. Good luck!

Hannia - posted on 09/11/2009

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My 9 yr old asked me for a bra and I said no, She kept asking and asking and I kept saying no. One weekend she came back from visiting my in laws and to my surprise, they bought her a bra. To my surprise...after all that asking and wanting a bra, she does not even wear it anymore. I think she just wanted to try and see what the thrill was all about. Lesson learned from now on. I won't be so quick to saying NO just because.....

Aramyde - posted on 09/11/2009

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My 'little' girl has not suggested a bra (yet!) but I can identify with the dread of her getting older! Good luck with it.

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I have 9 children 5 of them are girls. It seems unusual that she would want one. Maybe it is because of all the bra commercials on TV. You could suggest that it might be alright if she was to save up her money for one. I imagine it would soon be forgotten for something she want more than a bra.

Tracey - posted on 09/10/2009

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I didn't go through this because I have boys. I adopted a teenage girl way after the "bra" thingy. Anyway, I have a 6 year old niece who I just recently purchase "the kiddy sports bra" with the cartoon characters. Targets have a great selection for beginners. Not to grown-up. I must admit my niece was thrilled. Go for it, it's going to be Okay!!!!

Heather - posted on 09/10/2009

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Hi, My daughter is 8 also. She started showing through her shirts so we bought her sports bras. She loves them.

Shannon - posted on 09/10/2009

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I say get her one. But the kind that looks like a sports bra. You know the ones that look like a half t-shirts. But it's all up to you.

Good Luck!!!

Alene - posted on 09/10/2009

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My daughter is 10 and has been wearing a sports bra on and off for the past couple of years. This year she wanted to start wearing regular bras. I took her out and bought her two until she got used to wearing them, then I bought her a few more when I realized she was serious about it. I feel by allowing our "babies" to grow up when they're ready, (not when mommy's ready) without a big ordeal about it, gives them the confidence to be able to come to you again in the future for advice or help without fear. All of these moms had great advice for you to think about! Good luck to you!

Liz - posted on 09/10/2009

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my 5 year old has made due with swimsuit tops because dad just cannot handle the thought yet, seems to be a logical compromise between them....she wants to look like a mermaid.

Molly - posted on 09/10/2009

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If she's starting to get bumps, go ahead and get her a training bra. It will help her feel more comfortable in her shirts, and socially she may feel more accepted if she has a bra on.
Girls are maturing faster now a days than they did when we were kids, both physically and socially. As much as we want to keep them our little girls, sometimes it is ok to support their growth and maturity.
I will never forget, when I was in the 7th grade, I barely had bumps, so I didn't wear a bra. A boy came up behind me in class, ran his finger down my back and shouted, "She's not wearing a BRA!" I was mortified, and I went straight home and told my mom I wanted a bra. She never asked why, or tried to talk me out of it, she just took me out and helped me pick one. I really appreciated her support and willingness to accept that I was ready.
My now 13yo has been wearing a bra for about a year, and before that she wore a little tank top under all of her shirts. She just felt too exposed in just a shirt when she started to get bumps.
Good luck, and hang in there!

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I have a soon to be 7 yr old who wants to wear a bra just because she wants to not because she needs to. This is something her friend got her hooked on. Kids today like the idea of getting older. I say get her one or two of the halter bras and once she starts wearing one maybe it wont be such a big deal to her anymore.

Angie - posted on 09/09/2009

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My daughters asked for bras early too. I don't think it's a big deal, but I could be wrong.

Melissa - posted on 09/09/2009

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Go ahead and get her one : ) You said she's active, so maybe a sports type bra would do. I started developing around age 8, as did my oldest daughter. Even though it's a scary thought for us mommies...it's a self-confidence thing for them.

Carol - posted on 09/09/2009

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My neice is 3 and she's also asked her mum to wear a bra because she see's her older cousin's doing it and probably thinks its just cool! So her mom buys her those crop tops to wear and she wont dress without one! Its just part of growing up and what they observe others doing. I think as long as its not something outrageous that they asking for then just give it to them...

Rosalind - posted on 09/09/2009

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Buy her those little sports bras for little girls..my daughter is 10 and thinks she needs one too, so I bought her these and she is perfectly happy...

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Hi there,i understand as i have been there,is overwhelming for us mums,but they do have to grow up and we need to celebrate it with them,its a mile stone in her life go shopping with her and pick out a bra if it makes her more comfortable,she will remember that moment with you so make it special by going out for a hot chocolate after wards 2 show her that this next step in her life you are doing together..thats what i did any way,she felt special and not imbarresed..I wish you all the best of luck..:-)

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